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10 õnneliku ema harjumust.
Tänapäeva naistelt eeldatakse, et nad suudavad kõike ja korraga: olla head emad ja abikaasad, näha välja täiuslikud, teha karjääri ning kanda enda õlul ka kodust majapidamist. Surve, mida naised selle ebarealistliku malli järgi elada püüdes tunnevad, ületab inimvõimetepiirid. Naised üritavad anda endast parima, kuid sellest pole iial küll.
Aastakümneid lastearsti ja nõustajana töötanud nelja lapse ema Meg Meeker teab, kuidas täiuslikkusenõude järgi elada püüdvad emad end lõpuni ära kurnavad, nii emotsionaalselt, psüühiliselt, füüsiliselt kui vaimselt. Nad tunnevad end üksiku ja õnnetuna, ärevalt, depressioonis ning endaga lakkamatult rahulolematuna.
See raamat annab Teile nõu, kuidas leida aega üksi olemiseks, kuidas jagada end töö ja kodu vahel, kuidas vähem muretseda. Dr. Meeker on kokku võtnud kümme kõige positiivsemat igapäevast harjumust, mis aitab emadel tupikust ja depressioonist välja tulla ning elada tervet, õnnelikku, rahuldustpakkuvat elu. Elu ilma süümepiinade, kurnatuse ja tüdimuseta.
Aastakümneid lastearsti ja nõustajana töötanud nelja lapse ema Meg Meeker teab, kuidas täiuslikkusenõude järgi elada püüdvad emad end lõpuni ära kurnavad, nii emotsionaalselt, psüühiliselt, füüsiliselt kui vaimselt. Nad tunnevad end üksiku ja õnnetuna, ärevalt, depressioonis ning endaga lakkamatult rahulolematuna.
See raamat annab Teile nõu, kuidas leida aega üksi olemiseks, kuidas jagada end töö ja kodu vahel, kuidas vähem muretseda. Dr. Meeker on kokku võtnud kümme kõige positiivsemat igapäevast harjumust, mis aitab emadel tupikust ja depressioonist välja tulla ning elada tervet, õnnelikku, rahuldustpakkuvat elu. Elu ilma süümepiinade, kurnatuse ja tüdimuseta.
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Published January 1, 2012
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October 1, 2013
This book is written by a pediatrician, but it's really about how we women can make our own lives better. The author has a warm, friendly voice and her writing includes many anecdotes to illustrate the topics of each of the 10 "Habits."
I think there was a lot of good advice in this book, but I admit that some chapters held my attention more than others. Some of the chapters felt like she was talking directly to me, but others sections felt curiously flat. I guess that it's normal for a self-help book to identify with some chapters more than others.
The sections on envy, solitude and hope all spoke to me and made me see things from a different perspective. I thought the religion and spirituality section was a little vague, but that's one area of my life where I don't feel lacking. (At least there's one!) All in all, I think this book is a good read with a lot to offer.
PS. One nitpicky thing: a lot of her anecdotes are about personal friends and acquaintances. It's clear that these women belong to the upper-middle and upper classes. Sometimes I questioned whether this book was directed at a wide audience (or at me). One woman who reduced her working hours to spend more time with her daughter had to move out of a 5,600 sq. ft. house she could no longer afford. It gave me a pang to think she "downsized" into a house that was probably still double the size of mine!
I think there was a lot of good advice in this book, but I admit that some chapters held my attention more than others. Some of the chapters felt like she was talking directly to me, but others sections felt curiously flat. I guess that it's normal for a self-help book to identify with some chapters more than others.
The sections on envy, solitude and hope all spoke to me and made me see things from a different perspective. I thought the religion and spirituality section was a little vague, but that's one area of my life where I don't feel lacking. (At least there's one!) All in all, I think this book is a good read with a lot to offer.
PS. One nitpicky thing: a lot of her anecdotes are about personal friends and acquaintances. It's clear that these women belong to the upper-middle and upper classes. Sometimes I questioned whether this book was directed at a wide audience (or at me). One woman who reduced her working hours to spend more time with her daughter had to move out of a 5,600 sq. ft. house she could no longer afford. It gave me a pang to think she "downsized" into a house that was probably still double the size of mine!
November 8, 2012
Overall, this is a relatively helpful advice book, written in an engaging conversational style. However, I think the author dropped the ball in a few places, specifically in regard to faith (chapter 3) and our reasons, as mothers, for having children (purely selfish motives). She also makes, in my opinion, too many blanket-statements that stem from her own life and experiences. There are many gems in this book, but unfortunately one has to wade through not a few vague explanations that try - but fail - to plumb the depths of authentic truth. My advice: read with care, and don't take everything directly to heart.
June 25, 2024
DNF. Once again, I'm disappointed in Read Aloud Revival's non-fiction pick for mamas. I got through chapter 2 and decided this book is definitely not worth my time. When the author talks about "their God" or, "whatever you might believe in," but then includes a whole habit devoted to faith, I know it's not someone I need to be reading. Listen, I highly respect Meg Meeker and her expertise on child development. But this book was full of fluff and not the voice I need for motherhood.
February 29, 2012
I do not usually read self-help books, so perhaps I'm just not the intended audience for this sort of book. Also, most of the advice is geared towards working mothers.
I was intrigued when in the introduction I read "the very best we can do at any moment is to realize that, as moms, we are needed now and if we are meant to use other gifts to help others we will be afforded the opportunity when the time comes." The resonated with me as a full-time mother until I realized that the author (has 4 grown children) seems to have worked full-time as a pediatrician while raising her children. I have not lived her life, obviously, but I can't imagine what 'gifts' she was not using , but she basically lost any credibility with me in terms of her ability to speak to my life and choices.
I was intrigued when in the introduction I read "the very best we can do at any moment is to realize that, as moms, we are needed now and if we are meant to use other gifts to help others we will be afforded the opportunity when the time comes." The resonated with me as a full-time mother until I realized that the author (has 4 grown children) seems to have worked full-time as a pediatrician while raising her children. I have not lived her life, obviously, but I can't imagine what 'gifts' she was not using , but she basically lost any credibility with me in terms of her ability to speak to my life and choices.
January 16, 2012
My favorite self-help book for mothers by far. I think her suggestions are much more profound and deep than the typical "wear make-up" and "do something for you" suggestions from other authors. Her 10 habits are more about finding personal satisfaction IN motherhood, not IN SPITE of motherhood. MUCH less superficial and more spiritual, emotional, and mental. I must say, however, that although I agreed with each of her 10 habits and liked what she had to say, it started to feel long-winded by then end. Maybe I was just burned out after the first five or so. I'm not sure. I just know that the first habit was so amazing to me, but by the 10th I was skimming a little. Perhaps I should have read a chaper per month so that I could spend some time thinking about each one???
February 6, 2012
Maybe the problem is that I'm a dad, not a mom. I found this book to lack structure and organization, and to merely be full of feel-good stories from the author's personal life. 3 hours into it I still had no idea what the 10 habits were. I have never pretended to understand women, but this has made me feel as though perhaps I REALLY don't understand women, unless women are also finding problems with this book. Not that the book is bad, per se, it just didn't deliver for me what I thought it would based on the title. If it were titled "A bunch of random warm and fluffy stories from a female pediatrician talking about motherhood" then my expectations would have been met perfectly. But hey, I'm a guy, maybe I'm totally missing something.
January 10, 2013
This is an excerpt of my review, the whole of which can be found at http://thisfelicitouslife.wordpress.com.
At first glance, this book seems a lot like the advice you might get in parenting magazines or the What To Expect books. Most of the books and articles I’ve read like this are long on general platitudes and short on practical advice.
Dr. Meeker’s book offers more than platitudes and laundry detergent recipes. She suggests some new attitudes and ways to prioritize that don’t add to my to-do list but do help me be more at peace with life and with mothering in particular. The most groundbreaking concept for me is in her chapter entitled “Find Ways to Live Simply”:
We live with an overriding sense that we have ultimate control over who our kids become when they are adults. We therefore believe that every decision we make can potentially alter the outcome of their lives. And this is an enormous burden to carry. . . . Parents are the primary influence in a child’s life concerning character development, but . . . even our influence is very limited. . . . Kids are who they are. . . .
Inward simplicity as mothers begins with this very release. Our children are fully different creature than we are, and we are in their lives for a time in order to nurture them, love them, and nudge them in certain directions. We simply must accept that they are loaned to us for a time and then they are released into adulthood.
How very freeing!
At first glance, this book seems a lot like the advice you might get in parenting magazines or the What To Expect books. Most of the books and articles I’ve read like this are long on general platitudes and short on practical advice.
Dr. Meeker’s book offers more than platitudes and laundry detergent recipes. She suggests some new attitudes and ways to prioritize that don’t add to my to-do list but do help me be more at peace with life and with mothering in particular. The most groundbreaking concept for me is in her chapter entitled “Find Ways to Live Simply”:
We live with an overriding sense that we have ultimate control over who our kids become when they are adults. We therefore believe that every decision we make can potentially alter the outcome of their lives. And this is an enormous burden to carry. . . . Parents are the primary influence in a child’s life concerning character development, but . . . even our influence is very limited. . . . Kids are who they are. . . .
Inward simplicity as mothers begins with this very release. Our children are fully different creature than we are, and we are in their lives for a time in order to nurture them, love them, and nudge them in certain directions. We simply must accept that they are loaned to us for a time and then they are released into adulthood.
How very freeing!
June 12, 2024
This was a solid read parenting book. Definitely written for working mom and not one homeschooling 6 children. But, like with all things, take what is good and leave the rest.
My favorite habits are “Say No to Competition “ and “Giving and Receiving Love in Healthy Ways” but there were good things in each chapter.
In the chapter on a healthy relationship with money (I don’t bring in any income), I still found wisdom there. Teens gauged their mother’s success most clearly by the amount of time their mother’s spent talking and doing things with them.
Love - when we expect our kids to be less than perfect and er are prepared to love them that way, our parents ring rises to a whole new level. We become better at parenting tiny because we are cleaner at loving.
** When we expect others to love us and they don’t, we blames them (lower your expectations), then we can hold on to whatever illusions we had about love… we prevent ourselves from seeing that being loved is not really what we thought it was going to be **
My favorite habits are “Say No to Competition “ and “Giving and Receiving Love in Healthy Ways” but there were good things in each chapter.
In the chapter on a healthy relationship with money (I don’t bring in any income), I still found wisdom there. Teens gauged their mother’s success most clearly by the amount of time their mother’s spent talking and doing things with them.
Love - when we expect our kids to be less than perfect and er are prepared to love them that way, our parents ring rises to a whole new level. We become better at parenting tiny because we are cleaner at loving.
** When we expect others to love us and they don’t, we blames them (lower your expectations), then we can hold on to whatever illusions we had about love… we prevent ourselves from seeing that being loved is not really what we thought it was going to be **
April 18, 2025
This book caused me to ponder the important things in my life and consider what habits would improve my joy and ability to love my family better. I was challenged in my thinking. I think my favorite habit was #10- making the decision to have HOPE.
So many habits come from a decision to change one’s thinking .
So many habits come from a decision to change one’s thinking .
May 8, 2024
Nice mix of the theoretical, practical advice, and inspiring personal stories. I found it encouraging.
February 11, 2025
3.5 stars. It took me a few chapters to really start connecting with.. I enjoyed the chapters for habits 4, 5, and 6!
April 12, 2011
I really liked this book. The author does such a good job laying out realistic and helpful principles to help mothers be happier in a non-condescending way. the suggestions she makes aren't the generic "take care of yourself" type suggestions often found in these kinds of books. she's down to earth and easy to relate to. she says it as it is and doesn't try to fluff up how tiring and sometimes discouraging mothering can be but also really emphasizes the positives as well. she speaks from experience as a mother as well as a pediatrician and she also shares experiences of friends and patients which demonstrate the principles in easy-to-implement manner. i love that she really tackles modern-mothering issues like comparing ourselves to others, materialism and thinking that if we're skinny/wealthy/successful enough then we'll find joy in motherhood. she says something along the lines of "we don't need another diet, we need solitude." she really challenges the the american belief that woman must perform 100% in every avenue of life. her writing helped me evaluate my priorities and let go of things that don't matter. her book relates to mothers in every situation - single, married, working, at home, etc. i really recommend it to all the mothers out there. happy mothering!
October 3, 2018
I LOVE this book. So much insight into the inner-workings of a mother. From jealousy to hope, I found so many relatable lessons. I feel motivated to move onward and upward with my life.
Also, in response to other reviews. Many found the author out of touch with how things really are. Whether it be from a financial standpoint or age. While it is impossible for the author to speak of our specific circumstances (she can’t reach through the book and talk to you), I found her anecdotes helpful and inspiring. There was something to learn from every story.
Meeker wrote about things she knew. She wrote from her own life, Meeker spoke her truth and she didn’t try to step into another’s shoes and assume she understood. I find that respectful of other women rather than “out of touch”. Meeker knows where she stands as a woman and I think we should respect her for wanting to uplift others. Now, if the downsizing anecdote annoys you, I think you should re-read the jealousy section again. ;)
I would begin this book with an open outlook; a willingness to change. No one is judging you for wanting to be happier or to bring clarity to motherhood. We are all seeking for happier lives. Let’s take Meeker’s advice and lift one another up.
Also, in response to other reviews. Many found the author out of touch with how things really are. Whether it be from a financial standpoint or age. While it is impossible for the author to speak of our specific circumstances (she can’t reach through the book and talk to you), I found her anecdotes helpful and inspiring. There was something to learn from every story.
Meeker wrote about things she knew. She wrote from her own life, Meeker spoke her truth and she didn’t try to step into another’s shoes and assume she understood. I find that respectful of other women rather than “out of touch”. Meeker knows where she stands as a woman and I think we should respect her for wanting to uplift others. Now, if the downsizing anecdote annoys you, I think you should re-read the jealousy section again. ;)
I would begin this book with an open outlook; a willingness to change. No one is judging you for wanting to be happier or to bring clarity to motherhood. We are all seeking for happier lives. Let’s take Meeker’s advice and lift one another up.
January 29, 2019
This book was life changing for me.
It was hard to get into it reading hard copy but listening to the audiobook on Hoopla was quick and engaging.
I love the way Meeker makes all mothers feel loved and connected. I kept thinking "Ah, really? Me too!" It was great to feel like part of a great group of women doing an important work.
Loved every chapter. Favorites: Overcoming Fear, Stop Competition, Focus on Hope.
I finished this book feeling empowered, understood, and motivated to be the best mother for my children. Thank you, Meg Meeker!
This is a book I will return to again and again!
It was hard to get into it reading hard copy but listening to the audiobook on Hoopla was quick and engaging.
I love the way Meeker makes all mothers feel loved and connected. I kept thinking "Ah, really? Me too!" It was great to feel like part of a great group of women doing an important work.
Loved every chapter. Favorites: Overcoming Fear, Stop Competition, Focus on Hope.
I finished this book feeling empowered, understood, and motivated to be the best mother for my children. Thank you, Meg Meeker!
This is a book I will return to again and again!
September 20, 2013
I enjoyed a lot of the personal stories in this book and it made me think about things, so I might have given it a little higher rating than it deserves. This book should have been about half the length that it was. A few of the chapters just felt flat and I found myself skimming through them, but some of the others really spoke to me and made me think. It is a great reminder of what is important.
July 14, 2011
Couldn't get through it. The 10 habits she has are great and pointiant, but no new ideas for an LDS mother.
January 24, 2019
Dr. Meeker is long-winded but thorough. The first half of each chapter is enough to discuss one habit and comfort readers about their parenting.
From the first, I know she gets it. Habit 1: Understand Your Value as a Mother is the most important part of the book. If you can only read or listen to some, read the introduction and the first chapter. Dr. Meeker suggests Mom relax; you are enough, as a person and a mother, for your kids. You don’t need to be thinner, richer, more organized, etc. What kids want most is you, your attention, and your time.
Thank you, Dr. Meeker. This is the best, most understanding thing I’ve read about mothering in 18 years of parenting. Now I’d like to flash through your other books, particularly the one about boys.
"…mostly, we worry about what we can do for our own kids in order to make their lives better. We do this because we really want to be good at mothering. We want to get it right…” (introduction, page xi)
From the first, I know she gets it. Habit 1: Understand Your Value as a Mother is the most important part of the book. If you can only read or listen to some, read the introduction and the first chapter. Dr. Meeker suggests Mom relax; you are enough, as a person and a mother, for your kids. You don’t need to be thinner, richer, more organized, etc. What kids want most is you, your attention, and your time.
Thank you, Dr. Meeker. This is the best, most understanding thing I’ve read about mothering in 18 years of parenting. Now I’d like to flash through your other books, particularly the one about boys.
March 4, 2021
Read with my sister for our book club. Heard Dr. Meg speak. On a podcast and wanted to read more as it was a great podcast. Some of these habits already had well established but still great to remind and hear good stories. Others were so good to read about fear, simplicity, loving and hope. I think the title can misleading in that life doesn’t just get happy go lucky if you do all ten but you have deeper happiness that helps to move forward and continue on and find joy during the hard. Good discussion.
August 28, 2019
I really benefit from Dr. Meg Meeker's much experience as a parent and pediatrician, and her ten habits were laden with real-people examples and how to apply them in your life. (I love her podcast too.) After all her care of children, she has discovered that the best way to help them thrive is for their parents to be happy and invested, and so her words are to mothers to reach for greater purpose in our lives and mothering. I highly recommend for all mothers I know.
March 6, 2021
Finished this book in my sister book club with Molly. A great read: wonderful stories of moms , topics of fear, control , rest (as in quiet), getting and giving love in heathy ways. Felt like I knew and hit a lot of things in this book already in my mothering gig. Did still wondering by why am I not always happy then. I feel like I have good patterns and foundation like she talks about ...but it might be not turn on the joyfully bubbly switch in mothering.
The section on expectations and anger was worth reading the whole book for.
The section on expectations and anger was worth reading the whole book for.
August 29, 2022
Gave up on this one halfway through. It might be alright if you're trying to ground yourself but mostly it is common sense, like "have good friends" and "take a break from your kids sometimes." It assumed a lot of privilege on the part of the listener and had a strongly Christian bend to it. I was hoping for something a little more practical that could help in the day-to-day operations of being a mother.
February 13, 2018
Excellent reminders for busy and stressed mothers.
I love Dr. Meeker’s books, and this one is no exception. Her advice is practical and the stories she tells of her patients and their mothers are engaging and inspiring.
I love Dr. Meeker’s books, and this one is no exception. Her advice is practical and the stories she tells of her patients and their mothers are engaging and inspiring.
September 1, 2018
I wish I read this book as a young mother, but I definitely profited by reading it even now. There is so much truth in what Meeker says and much to ponder as well as discuss with friends. (I listened to this book for free using the library app.)
February 26, 2021
This book has changed my outlook on so many things. Can't recommend reading it (and rereading it) enough
January 8, 2025
Loved it! I cried many times, feeling seen and validated. I want to buy a hard copy to mark it up. So uplifting.
April 2, 2023
I only read this book because a friend suggested we both read it and talk about it. Otherwise, I would have never started or would have abandoned it early on. And even then, I listened at double speed & skipped through a lot of some chapters. I just felt like her suggestions either didn't apply to me or they were too vague or not new to me. Because I was trying to get something helpful out of it, and something to discuss with my friend, I did write down a few thoughts I had while listening to it that were good reminders to me. But overall, I really didn't think this book was that well done and I don't recommend it. There are so many other helpful and inspiring books out there for mothers.
January 2, 2021
Buku ini adalah karya Meg Meeker dan diterjemahkan kepada Bahasa Melayu di bawah terbitan @bukupts
Tidak dinafikan, ramai di antara followers saya yang belum berkahwin dan juga belum dikurniakan rezeki anak. Berdasarkan bedah buku dan juga ulasan ringkas berkaitan beberapa tabiat pilihan yang sy buat di story, sy akan ulaskan pula serba sedikit 👇
💃Buku ini sangat sesuai dibaca dalam pelbagai peringkat umur kerana ianya bukanlah semata-mata memfokuskan peranan sebagai seorang ibu sahaja bahkan juga sebagai seorang individu yang banyak khilafnya dalam menjalani kehidupan seharian.
💃Jika di dalam bab ini mengupaskan isu persaingan dan cemburu, sebenarnya kita sebagai seorang ibu mahupun bukan seorang ibu, persaingan dan perasaan itu memang wujud dalam diri secara semulajadi dan di dalam buku ini ada menerangkan bagaimana ingin mengatasi dan mengawalnya bahkan juga mengapa individu itu ada sikap ini
💃Jika tadi, kita bercakap mengenai persaigan dan cemburu, point yang ini pula menitikberatkan perasaan takut seperti takut kehilangan, takut di pulau oleh rakan² yg belum berkahwin kerana memiliki tanggungjawab selepas ada anak, takut mencuba perkara baru dll. Buku ini akan mengajar kita bagaimana ingin mengatasi perasaan itu.
💃 Kesimpulan dari keseluruhan bab, apa yg boleh sy katakan setiap point yang diterangkan penulis sedikit sebanyak akan memberi impak kepada pembaca dan tersedar dari kesilapan mereka tidak kira samada sebagai seorang ibu ataupun tidak. Jadilah seorang wanita yang memiliki harga diri yang tinggi dan tahu menilai diri sendiri bahkan juga memiliki sifat bersyukur utk setiap kekurangan walhal kelebihan itu sudah pastinya menjadi titik keutamaan kita.
Tidak dinafikan, ramai di antara followers saya yang belum berkahwin dan juga belum dikurniakan rezeki anak. Berdasarkan bedah buku dan juga ulasan ringkas berkaitan beberapa tabiat pilihan yang sy buat di story, sy akan ulaskan pula serba sedikit 👇
💃Buku ini sangat sesuai dibaca dalam pelbagai peringkat umur kerana ianya bukanlah semata-mata memfokuskan peranan sebagai seorang ibu sahaja bahkan juga sebagai seorang individu yang banyak khilafnya dalam menjalani kehidupan seharian.
💃Jika di dalam bab ini mengupaskan isu persaingan dan cemburu, sebenarnya kita sebagai seorang ibu mahupun bukan seorang ibu, persaingan dan perasaan itu memang wujud dalam diri secara semulajadi dan di dalam buku ini ada menerangkan bagaimana ingin mengatasi dan mengawalnya bahkan juga mengapa individu itu ada sikap ini
💃Jika tadi, kita bercakap mengenai persaigan dan cemburu, point yang ini pula menitikberatkan perasaan takut seperti takut kehilangan, takut di pulau oleh rakan² yg belum berkahwin kerana memiliki tanggungjawab selepas ada anak, takut mencuba perkara baru dll. Buku ini akan mengajar kita bagaimana ingin mengatasi perasaan itu.
💃 Kesimpulan dari keseluruhan bab, apa yg boleh sy katakan setiap point yang diterangkan penulis sedikit sebanyak akan memberi impak kepada pembaca dan tersedar dari kesilapan mereka tidak kira samada sebagai seorang ibu ataupun tidak. Jadilah seorang wanita yang memiliki harga diri yang tinggi dan tahu menilai diri sendiri bahkan juga memiliki sifat bersyukur utk setiap kekurangan walhal kelebihan itu sudah pastinya menjadi titik keutamaan kita.
January 29, 2021
Buku ni sedikit sebanyak membantu saya menguruskan emosi pada hari ini walaupun semasa menulis ulasan ni saya masih lagi mengalirkan air mata. Antara isi penting yang saya suka dalam buku ini ialah;
- Menerima diri seadanya sebagai seorang ibu. kelebihan atau kekurangan.
- Usah membandingkan diri dan bersaing dengan ibu lain.
- Adakan masa bersendirian bagi mengecaj semula kekuatan fizikal, mental dan emosi.
- Hiduplah secara bersederhana.
- Beri dan terimalah kasih sayang secara sihat. Kasih sayang bukan apabila kita mampu memberikan segala harta benda dunia kepada anak-anak.
💭 Poin yang saya gunakan untuk mengurus emosi saya sekarang ialah "mempunyai harapan". Harapan saya, agar Kate berada di tempat yang lebih baik dan sekurang-kurangnya kesakitannya telah berakhir. Satu lagi poin ialah "menerima diri seadanya". Saya rasa bersalah kerana tidak mampu menghantar Kate ke klinik kerana kekangan tertentu. Jadi, saya perlu memaafkan diri, menerima kekurangan dan ketidakupayaan ini dan meneruskan kehidupan dengan gembira. Tak sangka boleh gunakan poin-poin ini kepada anak kucing ya. Alhamdulillah 🥰 moga yang bakal mendapatkan buku ni di masa hadapan, mendapat manfaat yang sama.
❤️ Major love to @cazaazmy @bukupts for sending me this review copy. Its available in major bookstores or you can also buy it from the comfort of your home by visiting their website. and don't forget to watch my review video of this book!
- Menerima diri seadanya sebagai seorang ibu. kelebihan atau kekurangan.
- Usah membandingkan diri dan bersaing dengan ibu lain.
- Adakan masa bersendirian bagi mengecaj semula kekuatan fizikal, mental dan emosi.
- Hiduplah secara bersederhana.
- Beri dan terimalah kasih sayang secara sihat. Kasih sayang bukan apabila kita mampu memberikan segala harta benda dunia kepada anak-anak.
💭 Poin yang saya gunakan untuk mengurus emosi saya sekarang ialah "mempunyai harapan". Harapan saya, agar Kate berada di tempat yang lebih baik dan sekurang-kurangnya kesakitannya telah berakhir. Satu lagi poin ialah "menerima diri seadanya". Saya rasa bersalah kerana tidak mampu menghantar Kate ke klinik kerana kekangan tertentu. Jadi, saya perlu memaafkan diri, menerima kekurangan dan ketidakupayaan ini dan meneruskan kehidupan dengan gembira. Tak sangka boleh gunakan poin-poin ini kepada anak kucing ya. Alhamdulillah 🥰 moga yang bakal mendapatkan buku ni di masa hadapan, mendapat manfaat yang sama.
❤️ Major love to @cazaazmy @bukupts for sending me this review copy. Its available in major bookstores or you can also buy it from the comfort of your home by visiting their website. and don't forget to watch my review video of this book!
October 7, 2014
Bluntly, if I did not have to read this book for my book club, I would have stopped after the first chapter.
The author seems very nice and is quite likely a decent pediatrician. But she simply cannot write. Her erratic writing and lack of form drove me batty. Time and time again she would have a section heading that had little to do with the section contents. Or give examples that didn't match her point. On top of this, the book just did not flow organically. It felt more like she had a bunch of stories she wanted to tell and tried to fit a message around them.
Oh, and most of her stories seemed geared toward an upper-middle class audience. It was very off-putting.
I don't want to suggest that she didn't make any good points at all. She did. She should have had chapter 8, "Find Ways to Live Simply" up front and center, along with "Make Time for Solitude". Ditch at least 3 or 4 of the other habits, maybe focusing on just 5. (Oh, and why wasn't "Get Enough Sleep" one of her main habits?) But what she writes is mostly common sense. If she's trying to sell common sense as novel, she needs very specific steps in which to achieve it.
The author seems very nice and is quite likely a decent pediatrician. But she simply cannot write. Her erratic writing and lack of form drove me batty. Time and time again she would have a section heading that had little to do with the section contents. Or give examples that didn't match her point. On top of this, the book just did not flow organically. It felt more like she had a bunch of stories she wanted to tell and tried to fit a message around them.
Oh, and most of her stories seemed geared toward an upper-middle class audience. It was very off-putting.
I don't want to suggest that she didn't make any good points at all. She did. She should have had chapter 8, "Find Ways to Live Simply" up front and center, along with "Make Time for Solitude". Ditch at least 3 or 4 of the other habits, maybe focusing on just 5. (Oh, and why wasn't "Get Enough Sleep" one of her main habits?) But what she writes is mostly common sense. If she's trying to sell common sense as novel, she needs very specific steps in which to achieve it.
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July 5, 2011
I think Dr. Meeker has hit the nail on the head approaching her audience right where they are. This generation is very involved with self and she has done a good job focussing on just that angle. I think her number 7(Give and Get Love in Healthy Ways) should be number 1. One thing that is missing is any reflection on the skills or attitudes that young mothers might be able to pick up from their moms. Dr. Meeker's dedication of this book is to her mom but there is no more attention given to that rich resource that many young mothers could tap. But, then if they did that they might not need this book at all. However having said that, I do feel that Dr. Meeker has, maybe, found the key to getting and keeping the attention of this current crop of moms.
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