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The Worst Girl Gang Ever: A Survival Guide for Navigating Miscarriage and Pregnancy Loss

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‘Bex and Laura really have pieced together the parachute we all need to help us land safely after falling into the world of loss and fertility struggles.’ Elle Wright, author of A Bump In The Road A practical and emotional self-help guide for anyone affected by miscarriage and pregnancy loss, from the co-hosts of the successful podcast, The Worst Girl Gang Ever . Following pregnancy loss, it can feel like you’ve forgotten how to speak and need to learn a new language. You can tell your story to a room full of people but if no-one speaks this new language, they won’t understand. They will try but ultimately, they won’t fully grasp what you are saying. This is us. This is our new language. It is a language built from pain, and it is a language we need to teach others. Welcome to our gang. We are so, so sorry that you’ve found yourself here. It’s the gang you’d never chose to join but it is also a community chock-a-block full of kind, supportive, warrior women just like you. We are here to tell you that you are entitled to grieve, and that your grief is not disproportionate to your loss. We are here to open up the dialogue around miscarriage, so we don’t perpetuate the shame, judgement and isolation so many of us feel following pregnancy loss. We are here to equip you with knowledge, tools and guidance to support and help you in whatever way you need. Let’s get talking. Let’s get sharing. Let’s start empowering and supporting one another. No more shame, no more taboo, no more silence.

304 pages, Hardcover

Published November 1, 2022

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159 reviews1 follower
February 8, 2023
If you’re going through hell, this won’t make it better - but I will make you feel seen and understood.

I wish I didn’t have to recommend this book. Honestly I do. But it is bloody fantastic and perfectly sweary. This is a must read for anyone going through miscarriage and baby loss, or has before. It’s also brilliant, beyond brilliant for anyone supporting someone or just interested in something that is all too common. Please read this book.
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228 reviews1 follower
May 2, 2024
not me airing on goodreads that i’ve had a miscarriage for the sake of my reading goal
i am so bad for downplaying my miscarriage even though it was one of the worst things to ever happen to me so this was definitely a must read for me, it has really helped me and i’m glad i got through it and i didn’t cry (yes i did). it made me realise that there were a lot of things i am doing and choices i am making that are because i lost a baby and i didn’t even know it, i’m surprised so much of this book resonated with me.
249 reviews
November 24, 2022
Again, I feel like this should be a compulsory read. All these should be taught at ex ed. way to help smash the taboos around grief, child death and miscarriage! Be warned, if you are part of the gang be prepared to sob, it really hits home at times
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743 reviews4 followers
August 7, 2022
There are no words that can explain this book…. It was just what I needed 💔
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37 reviews24 followers
July 28, 2025
This book articulates the emotions of enduring pregnancy loss to a T. It is raw, relatable, and validating. I am so glad that I read this book.
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311 reviews5 followers
January 8, 2025
”There is me, pre-miscarriage and there is me, now. I am not the same person.”

I lost count on how many times I started crying whilst listening to this book. I felt so seen and understood. I loved that it’s about stories of parents who have all encountered baby loss, and my heart ached for each of them. I loved how it felt like such a big, warm hug from strangers who truly understood how I felt. I loved how there were exercises and tips on how to strengthen your bond with your partner after this difficult time.

There was a particular story that didn’t quite sit well with me and made me a bit uncomfortable- a medical termination of pregnancy that occured on the third trimester. Apart from that, it was a near perfect book.

4.5 ⭐️
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69 reviews
October 23, 2022
Does what it says on the cover - this is, first and foremost, a survival guide. Nobody (I hope) will be able to relate to every chapter and every story, but at the same time it didn’t feel like this book was trying to be too many things to too many people - it felt just right. Thank you Bex and Laura for all the work you’ve done in this space over the last 3 years. Your book felt like a big hug when I needed the pick-me-up, and I will definitely be recommending it to others.
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373 reviews2 followers
November 24, 2023
I recently connected with the wife of Richard’s climbing partners, Michelle, when we discovered that we both suffered recent loss. She recommended this book to me as one that helped her immensely on her journey. While the book echoed some of my recent thoughts and validated my tempestuous feelings, I don’t think this is exactly the book for me. I did enjoy reading the stories of the brave, brave couples who shared their experiences in the book.

Here are some of my favorite quotes:

“When you slipped away, a piece of my heart shouted, ‘Stop! Wait! I’m coming with you…’”

“The world hasn’t changed. But your world has. And that is challenging to process because you are thinking, ‘This is the worst thing that has ever, ever happened to me and the world hasn’t even noticed!”

“The hardest part of miscarriage for me is the fact that I feel left behind in my sadness […] I understand that people move on, I get it. But for me, it’s slow and it’s painful and I just want everyone to understand that when I’m down. It’s still because my baby died and that is legitimate and fine and valid and normal. Because there is no expiration date on grief.”

“It’s so painful to watch your dreams play out in the lives of others.”

“this is grief after baby loss. It’s a grief for future hopes and dreams that you never had the chance to make.”

“We create a space in our hearts, minds, families and households for this little life before he or she is conceived, so when we see that positive result on a pregnancy test, the reality of what we’ve imagined before just falls into place. Everything we have imagined for such a long time becomes our reality.”

“Soul
Who visited so briefly,
My heart beat beside you
And we were one.
Now… now my body is alone, and weeps.”

“We might feel that society has written off our baby because he or she was an early loss, and this might make us feel like our grief and devastation is disproportionate to our experience and that our baby wasn’t valid. Isolation comes from feeling that we have no platform from which to speak our experiences as we feel them. No understanding audience to share them with. No space in which to openly grieve.”

“Tell your beautiful, brave body it’s OK to let go now.’
From that moment, I was able to reframe the entire experience. My body hadn’t let me down – in fact, my body was so desperate to be a mummy that she just held on.”

“It’s hard to explain to people how you feel when you get pregnant after a loss. Of course, you feel grateful that you’re even pregnant, but the trauma and fear are overwhelming, and the terror of not bringing another child home is often too much to bear.”

“For so many of us, the fear of the positive pregnancy test is huge. In fact, the fear and apprehension surrounding ‘trying again’ after loss is huge. Who knew that trying for a baby in the future might potentially involve trauma and anxiety rather than desire and passion? Who knew that periods would be triggering; that sex would be pressured; that our behaviour would become obsessive, erratic, emotional? This crock of shit is what TTC (trying to conceive) after loss looks like for so many of us. A frightening void of uncertainty.”
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November 29, 2024
Seems wrong to rate this. It’s good and I would recommend it for anyone who needs it. It’s like talking to a friend who has been through this and is not afraid to be honest, or over share, or swear, or say the blunt thing, while also surprisingly making you laugh once in a while.
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7 reviews
November 18, 2024
Honestly this book is amazing and I cannot thank the authors enough for producing it! Of course, I wish this was never recommended but it is certainly helpful for anyone navigating pregnancy loss- at a time where you can feel really lonely - this book is an absolute must.
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47 reviews
July 28, 2025
Well, I guess I’m hard-launching my miscarriages on GoodReads. This book is incredibly helpful and empowering. And if you’ve ever had the unfortunate experience of miscarriage or been close to someone who has, I highly recommend this book.

From validation and commiseration to new ideas on how to cope and just survive, this book hits the spot. With my first miscarriage, I kept the conversation to close friends and family. With the second, I opted to tell everyone that dared to look in my direction. I needed/need people to know that I am not okay. And once I opened up on this particularly heavy topic, I found more and more people who had gone through the same thing (and more) and came out the other side to give me hope for the future.

That’s what this book does. There’s solid information mixed with stories of women and families who have gone through the same experience and we’re all part of the worst girl gang together.
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11 reviews1 follower
December 29, 2024
I don't think this is my type of writing style. It sometimes read like a fb comment thread. Things were often repeated.
I did appreciate all the real stories and there is definitely some worthy content.
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166 reviews
March 29, 2025
I feel seen. A really relatable book that will make you feel like the authors really do "got you." Some differences in experience and content for USA readers give its authors are from the UK but overall, comforting to have your thoughts and feelings validated.
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43 reviews3 followers
August 4, 2023
I found myself highlighting several sections of this book, very affirming to many of the feelings I’ve been having. Relevant to many different situations including people with living children which I really appreciated. Favorite miscarriage book I’ve read so far.
12 reviews
October 17, 2025
The Worst Girl Gang Ever but the most supportive. I found this book at the ideal time and forever grateful for Bex and Laura for creating this book, and being able to help so many through such sad and heartbreaking times.
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99 reviews
April 3, 2025
I wish I didn't have to read this but it is so brutally honest that life can be so shit sometimes and that all of your feelings are valid.
I laughed, cried and nodded in agreement many times. For anyone who has had a miscarriage I think this is a great tool to navigate through those dark times.
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109 reviews
April 7, 2025
I didn't read it so much as pick at it like a shit meal deal sandwich i did not want. But I still got the nutrients I needed. What a fucking refreshing read man.
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20 reviews
September 18, 2024
This helped me so much with thoughts and feelings I couldn’t quite put into words or convey to others. I helped lift me out of darkness and share with supporters what this, the worst girl gang ever, feels like. Thank you
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248 reviews8 followers
June 17, 2025
‘Being alone can be lonely. But feeling alone when surrounded by others is perhaps the most isolating of all experiences’


This book helped me feel so validated at a time when I truly needed it. I especially loved the ball in the box theory to grief and pain. I also felt the ‘how are you…really’ concept to ring true for me. It could be a super powerful tool to help people open up in any situation. Having a son named Lucas, Lucas’s story had me SOBBING
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14 reviews
October 14, 2023
A book I wish I never had to find, but I'm so thankful that I did. Highly recommend to anyone dealing with miscarriage/pregnancy loss, or anyone trying to support a loved one going through it.
Profile Image for Hannah.
250 reviews1 follower
September 10, 2024
5 🌟 and honestly a book everyone should read once in their lives.

We are taught too much that everything about starting a family is easy... that isn't the case for lots of people.

This book doesn't make the shit storm that we are going through any better, but it does make us feel seen and heard.

I'm defo going to listen to some of the podcast episodes now.

Book 2 of the holiday 🏝
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82 reviews
January 11, 2024
TWGGE saved me and they have saved so many others. I have the honour of calling Bex and Laura my friends and this book is purely, unapologetically them.
1,064 reviews40 followers
July 6, 2022
Thanks to NetGalley and HQ for the advanced copy of this title in return for an honest review.

I am lucky that I have never experienced a miscarriage first hand, but I do know several friends and relatives who sadly have.

As someone reading this as an outsider, I was worried it would all be filled with scary stories, putting me off the very idea of pregnancy for fear of loss. But it didn’t. It doesn’t sugar coat things, it calls a spade a space, but it’s done in a positive, constructive way.

Due to a neurological condition, I have recently concluded I will probably be unable to physically bear a child or safely raise one, and whilst I fully acknowledge that is not the same thing as losing a baby you’re already expecting or already have, I do feel a kinship to the descriptions of grief and loss, as I’ve had to learn to accept that I may not get the family I’ve always dreamed of, and that can be hard to explain to someone.

I liked the personal stories. It could have so easily turned into a medical book full of scientific facts that overwhelm, but by balancing it with real-life experiences, it makes it a more human and relatable book.

I think it was important to show the father’s side as well as the mother’s. Everyone focussed on the woman who is pregnant because she’s the one who has Physio’s lost the baby, but the dads (or same-sex partner) have still lost their child, but they so often get pushed aside like their grief isn’t as important.

As bizarre as it sounds, it isn’t an overly sad book - or it wasn’t for me. Yes I admit there were a few times I had to have a break as I was getting too emotional to continue, but there’s also such hope in the stories.

There are a number of activities you can do that, for obvious reasons, k did not do, but they’re clearly explained and I imagine would be of great help for some.

I do think that no matter your gender, relationship status or views on parenthood, this book should be read. Whilst expecting parents may not want to see it in the maternity wards, it might be good to have it accessible in medical places for those “just in case” moments that we all hope will never happen.

Overall I would describe the book as a friend, as a shoulder to cry on, and as a lifeline.
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211 reviews2 followers
June 27, 2022
I was familiar with TWGGE and intrigued by the idea of their book. It's written in their usual style; open, blunt and feeling. It's a heavy topic, there's no denying that but is spoken about so sensitively and candidly, to begin the process of normalising the grief and other feeling around baby loss at all stages. There are personal stories, ideas and helpful hints/exercises throughout, all with the caveat of 'if it feels right for you'... It's not a 'how to' but rather a 'You could try'...

Having personal experience of this, I was slightly weary about it and actually mostly I found this book useful with regards to talking to others who have gone through or are going through a loss. Yes the book enabled me to reflect and definitely helped me to validate/accept some feelings that I haven't been able to, but ultimately it is a wonderful guide for navigating all routes into motherhood and how to sail those stormy seas with your loved ones. I think you have nto be in the right place to read this if you're in the midst of loss yourself however I certainly think it's a brilliant book to read to support your loved ones through baby loss.
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14 reviews
November 16, 2025
4 stars because the author comes across as a genuinely warm, compassionate person doing incredible work for this community.

I was recommended this book for obvious reasons - though it’s sadly not a “gang” anyone wants to belong to. There are some incredibly strong individuals who share their stories throughout, and I truly appreciated hearing their experiences. I found the story from the African woman particularly eye-opening, especially in showing the impact of cultural differences during times like these.

However, the writing style wasn’t quite my cup of tea, and the book didn’t align with my own coping mechanism. I tend to find comfort in a mix of personal stories alongside facts, statistics, and context. While 1 in 4 pregnancies end in loss, the book focuses heavily on recurrent losses - a situation faced by around 1% of women - which made it feel more frightening and less representative. At times, it also felt repetitive.

I would have loved a chapter from a medical professional to provide factual grounding, or a section dedicated to positive stories and hopeful outcomes. Even the chapter on trying again wasn’t quite what I was looking for. A better balance between information and uplifting experiences would have helped me more.

For me personally, this wasn’t the most supportive resource - but I fully acknowledge that it may be incredibly helpful and validating for many other women.
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19 reviews
December 30, 2025
Leaving this review specifically for those who have joined “The Worst Girl Gang Ever” because this book has made a large impact on my experience with miscarriage…

This is the best book I’ve found during my miscarriage journey with my twin girls. It creates space for real conversations and reminds you that it’s okay to talk about miscarriage, even when you’re going through absolute hell and don’t have the right words. Reading it felt incredibly validating and comforting. So many of my feelings and reactions showed up, proving we’re not alone.

If you’re part of the “Worst Girl Gang Ever,” please read this book. We’re often expected to grieve quietly, move on quickly, or not talk about it at all, and this book pushes back on that in the best way. It says out loud the things so many of us are thinking but don’t always feel allowed to say. The women in this space are some of the strongest, kindest, most supportive people I’ve ever met, and I’m genuinely grateful for every woman who’s walked through this with me and understands without explanation. This book is changing the conversation around miscarriage in a real way and helping so many of us feel seen and understood. Break the silence if needed and grieve the way you need to. There’s no right way to handle this, but there’s comfort in knowing you’re not alone. 💞🪽
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75 reviews17 followers
February 20, 2023
A comforting book for anyone who has experienced baby loss. It’s filled with practical steps and tools to turn to during the clutches of grief, but is most suited to those not in the darkest throws of raw emotion. I turned to this book after a resurgence of grief following a period when I felt like I was getting properly back on my feet, only to be knocked right back down. This book has helped me embrace that rather than try to fight it; I feel less like I’m drowning. I’m still in the storm and being pummelled by waves, but someone has thrown a ring buoy around me. The medical glossary at the end of the book was also very enlightening.

This is also ideal reading for anyone close to a couple or individual experiencing baby loss, providing crucial tips for supporting the partner as well as the mother - and not just in the immediate weeks. It really gives a sense of what the experience is like for those who have never had to live through its horrors.

I didn’t click with the tone of the writing at times and there were several typos throughout the book that indicated a neglected editing job, which is reflected in my star rating. Hopefully, these will be fixed if the book is published as a paperback at a later date.

Overall, I would highly recommend.
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575 reviews18 followers
July 24, 2025
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I feel seen!!!

The Worst Girl Gang Ever is raw, honest, heartbreaking, and somehow still full of hope. This book put into words so many of the feelings I’ve struggled to express—and it did it with compassion, humor, and unwavering truth.

Reading this felt like sitting down with someone who gets it. The shared experiences, the pain, the isolation, and ultimately the connection—it’s all here. I laughed, cried, nodded along, and kept thinking, “Yes. This. Exactly.”

This book is more than a memoir—it’s a lifeline for anyone who’s ever walked through the pain of baby loss and felt alone. I’m so grateful it exists. If you’ve been through it, you’ll feel seen too.
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