Michael J. Murray’s powerful memoir chronicles his difficult battle to conquer his undiagnosed pain. Murray confides his emotional torment and near collapse as numerous doctors—most of whom don’t actually take the time to truly listen to their desperate patient—promise relief but only deliver ineffective treatments, contradicting diagnoses, and often dispassionate care. In the end, Murray’s chance discovery in a book on back pain leads to a dawning awareness of the emotional root of his near-constant agony. As he digs deeper into this line of medicine and therapy that connects the mind and body, he uncovers how significant moments from his past manifest as physical and emotional pains in his present.
Murray’s recounting of his journey is honest and vulnerable, and anyone who is suffering from chronic physical or emotion pain or knows someone on this difficult path will appreciate what he learned about
• the deep connection between mind and body
• the inspiring, innovative methods that can cure physical and emotional pain
• how to heal our inner selves to heal physical pain
This eye-opening memoir is an excellent guide for anyone who wants to truly feel better and enjoy a heightened sense of well-being . . . beginning right now.
This is the story of one privileged man’s experience learning to live with physical and emotional pain. I found most of this memoir frustrating to read. The author eventually becomes much more self-aware and aware of how his actions affect others, but he made the stylistic choice to tell his story as he experienced it. This means that for much of the book, he tells his story with a seeming lack of awareness and self-indulgence.
I think the author’s storytelling style may make this book more relatable for those with backgrounds similar to his who might have difficulty understanding how childhood experiences and emotional difficulties could be causing their pain. Those of us who have experienced more severe challenges with fewer privileges and resources may find the author’s repeated whining about things like not being able to go skiing triggering. While unpleasant, it was actually an interesting experience for me to watch myself being triggered by the author’s narrative. After all, pain is pain, and trauma is a personal experience. It’s impossible to judge another person’s suffering, and I do believe the author suffered.
Fortunately, in the latter part of the book, Murray makes considerable progress in his healing journey, and that was interesting to read about. If you don’t have much experience with mind-body medicine, trauma therapies, mindfulness, yoga, and Buddhism, then you may learn something of value here. I particularly liked the author’s description of his experience with yin yoga. Also, I recommend many of the same books and resources that the author recommends.
If the book had included less of the early part of Murray’s journey and more content like the last couple of chapters, I would have rated it higher.
The book includes some swearing but is otherwise appropriate for a wide audience.
I was provided an ARC through NetGalley that I volunteered to review.
Michael Murray's 'My Pain-Body Solution' is an excellent book. I had no idea what the book would be about and the term 'Pain-Body' was also new to me. I am grateful to the publishers for sending this my way as I also got personally helped while reading the book.
I have had pain in my body that I could not pin point to any actual cause or source and the pain keeps moving all over the place. This book helped me identify with my symptoms (both physical and emotional) to get a complete picture of the pain.
The book is divided into 3 sections and the first talks about the physical pain that the author had to go through and the multiple doctor visits and diagnoses which all proved useless. The second section talks about TMS and the various mind-body techniques that helped the author in realizing that the pain may not be due to a physical abnormality, but something mental. The third section talks about the healing that the author achieved by bringing in awareness and purpose in his life. The really good thing about this book is that it shows how the author was able to identify simple (and even silly) emotional issues that were actually triggering serious physical pain in his body. This insight was very helpful in my self diagnosis as well.
I also learnt the possibility of being too hard on oneself not just physically, but emotionally as well which can cause bodily pain. A nice revelation.
This book was a great surprise. Quite a journey the author had through dozen of doctors and procedures to find out that was an emotional problem.. I enjoyed the reading. I found a bit repetitive though. I confess I skipped some pages. 😅
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There are parts of this book that are beautiful and eye-opening. Other parts of it are less relatable. The beautiful and eye-opening parts include the over-arching idea that most doctors treat a specialized part of the body, without integrating that part into the whole, and seeing how it relates to the rest of the body. This is an ‘ah-ha’ moment, because our entire body is interconnected, and treating each part as if it stands alone, harms the patient; also, it may cause the patient lose trust in a doctor who can’t see an illness as part of a bigger picture.
This author retired in his late 40’s after selling a multi-million dollar business. This affords him access to doctor appointments across the country, which most people will never be able to do. In that sense, these sections of the book are less relatable to the bulk of the reading audience. He shares tales of heading out to Wyoming and Alaska and other places for back-country ski adventures lasting several weeks long. Again, most readers will be unable to relate to flitting around from adventure to adventure and never going to work. Aside from this, the nuggets of good information are worth suffering through the hard-to-relate-to parts.
Here are a couple of worthwhile nuggets to give readers an idea of what is contained within:
“Technology is great if it gives the doctor an advantage when treating the patient. However, this has resulted in an overdependence on technology and an underutilization of many other tools that help establish an understanding of the patient as a whole, such as the role emotions play in illness, injury, and disease.”
And: “So, when the whole human system is sensitive from anxiety or stress, for example, inputs (or thought viruses) can be interpreted by the brain as dangerous and create pain. In these instances, chances are you won’t realize that your brain has interpreted this impulse as dangerous; you just know that it hurts.”
These two quotes from the book can give readers a hint of the insights that Murray discovers after a long battle with chronic pain and visits with multiple doctors all over the country. He finally finds a doctor who actually listens; once this happens, his healing begins.
Michael Murray’s ‘solution’ takes the reader across an icy landscape of relentless pain that reveals itself as with-holding emotions, or denying the ‘pain body’, as coined by Eckart Tolle. As he learns, he guides the reader through truth that although we humans cannot avoid pain, living in bodies, we can deny and increase our emotional distress and our physical pain. The good news is there is a way we can handle and heal this ‘second arrow’ of added pain and suffering. Mr. Murray’s abiding desire to ‘solve’ his pain problem and bring it to others, is nicely crafted into a memoir that bravely goes through much discomfort by confessing his blind spots, his remorse in hurting his loved ones, and his willingness to learn, be honest, and make amends -- all essential to healing -- as wholeness. It is a rather ‘typical’ sports-family-career minded account which may not be as accessible to many readers of a different generation or sub-culture, but I scanned the miles of skiing-hiking and at times too detailed events, to garner the common stumbling blocks we humans often face. Naturally, we stumble in coming to terms with our inevitable conditioning and ignorance, from which we can gain insight, compassion, and deeper connections to life. His learning and sharing some of the places where he learned deeper listening to his body and feelings and to explore willingly, expands the value of a personal account in giving these others due credit and providing readers with tremendous resources without having to replicate his long search (such as, Kripalu, yoga, meditation, Buddhist wisdom, Tension Myositis Syndrome). I will offer this book to many men I know that may relate to Mr. Murray’s experience and solving, through a relatable life story. I hope many readers will carry Mr. Murray’s insight that it is sane, imperative, and necessary to feel and respond emotionally in appropriate and healthy ways. May we all continue to open our hearts to the suffering of life and to offer our self and others more compassion. In this, we may become more whole as a country and as a species.
Note: I offered to review this book for the publisher.
I read a review on Amazon that summed up my thoughts on this book pretty well, and I thought I was the only one.
He details his experiences feeling pain, that moves around and how he had his hip replaced, but he still had pain issues. And then he has a lightbulb moment, that his emotions are connected to his body to his pain.
And how he saw so many specialists in a short period of time. All of which told him he needed surgery, until he came across the idea of TMS, and in 2 years he considers himself on the road to health and healing. I have chronic joint pain, with bone on bone, and I don’t have the luxury of fiddling around with mental health professionals for 2 years, while I can’t really maintain any quality of life, like walking my dogs. Not skiing in Jackson Hole, Wyoming, or body surfing in NH, or biking would be horrible things to lose, but he could still do them, and function normally.
His wife had to be a saint, for the way he describes the way he took his pain and frustration out on her. I also loved his description of how he started taking yoga, and the emotions that were released when he did it, or how arthritis wasn’t really responsible for his pain.
My questions are would he have felt yoga to be so profound for him, if he couldn’t bend his knees to get in those positions? Or if his ball joint in his hip had collapsed from avascular necrosis, would he still have been as fond of skiing? And if he hadn’t had the luxury of retiring at 44, would his issues be the same as someone without his financial resources?
I’m a firm believer that our thoughts can impact our pain level, but experience says there is a point of no return where your thoughts can’t fix your body.
2.5 stars rounded up to 3 because while the execution is rough the concept is interesting Michael J. Murray suffered severe pain. In hopes of finding healing, he underwent several surgeries. But the pain lingered. He desperately reached for a book on back pain which led him to explore the connection between the physical body and the mind and emotions. In this book, the author describes his pain and treatments. He also outlines his therapy sessions and the lessons he learned from spiritual teachers about mindfulness and emotional awareness. The story is long-winded and describes numerous ski and hiking adventures. The author also talks quite a bit about his early retirement and wealth, which brought about pain but also gave him the resources to seek treatment. While reading this story, I did take time to examine my pain-body experience. There's definitely value in seeking the emotional root and body connection to pain and other physical sensations. But not all pain has a body or emotion root. The resource section at the end is also helpful for readers who want to explore and learn more.
Based upon the title and description, I suspected this book would have something to do with the work of Dr. Sarno. I was intrigued, and immediately requested access to the ARC via NetGalley and Greenleaf Book Group. Although this is a firsthand account of debilitating pain, the focus is truly on the hard work and victory of self-healing. Branching out from Dr. Sarno’s work, Mr. Murray overcomes insufferable pain and anxiety through the work of calming his own nervous system. This book was truly a joy for me to read, as I’m on a similar journey. I found it hard to relate only in that the author is clear about how well-off he is financially. “Self”-healing actually requires quite an enormous sum of money, and very few would be able to access the advisors who assisted Mr. Murray. I’ll chalk that up to envy on my part, since it’s clear that this extremely difficult emotional and spiritual work can only be done by oneself, regardless of who you can afford to guide you. Overall, I found the book inspirational, and am thrilled for Mr. Murray.
For anyone dealing with chronic pain or with an interest in the mind-body connection, this book is a must read. Michael Murray, an avid outdoorsman, takes us on his journey of seeking answers to years of living with chronic pain. This is a book about healing a pain syndrome called Tension Myositis Syndrome or TMS. Murray discovered that unresolved emotional experiences were the source of his pain. Throughout the book he covers all the insights, tools and knowledge he gained from the many books and people he consulted. The back of the book contains this extensive list of resources. Read this book with an open mind. I believe his story will play a role in changing how we view the mind-body connection and this syndrome. Thank you to NetGalley, Greenleaf Book Group and the author for the ARC.
My Pain-Body Solution by Michael J. Murray Murray's journey through his pain to finding the helps he needed, depicted the frustration many experience with non-scan-able afflictions. The endless doctor appointments he endured to come away with nothing more than further questions, conflicting diagnoses, more surgeries and yet, the pain continued. He was lucky to have family support through this troubled time in his life. So glad for the experiences he shared after arriving at his turning point!
I appreciated the opportunity to read and review this work, provided by the author, his publisher and Netgalley.
This book covers four years of the authors life - from extreme pain to healing. Pain becomes more of an issue as we age and so much of the time we just want to take a pill. Michael wants to find the cause of his pain and make it go away. So there are lots of doctors appointments that can be confusing and discouraging. What makes this story special is that there is a healing journey discovered that anyone can try to follow. There is work involved but the end result was pain in control. Everyone is in pain or knows of friends and/or loved ones in pain. This might just be a book that can you or those you love could you as a path out of pain.
This book is about Michael Murray’s journey of learning to deal with his physical pain. I am a psychotherapist and have always believed that suppressed emotions, trauma, anxiety, etc. contribute to physical pain. And, after reading this book there’s no doubt about this connection. In fact, I learned that there is now a diagnosis for this mind/body connection. It’s called Tension Myositis Syndrome (TMS). I recommend this book to anyone dealing with chronic pain, no matter if they have a diagnosis for the cause of the pain or not.
I expected to read a novel about a man dealing with chronic, debilitating pain and how his determination allowed him to live in spite of his pain. What I found instead was a man dealing with debilitating pain, inexcusable advice from physicians, and insight into the mind-body connection and how western medicine has not accepted this idea. Michael Murray was one of the lucky few, who through advice from his friends learned his mind could be his body's worst enemy.
This book was given to me as part of a Goodreads giveaway. However, what a book! It's a memoir written by an author who has been through a great deal. The author provides an insightful, well-written, and honest account of their hardships, and Michael's writing deeply conveys and connects to the audience who has encountered similar difficulties.
While aspects of this memoir were touching, I found the writing clumsy and very repetitive. I may attempt to read it again. Sometimes I find a book can hit me differently, based on timing when I read it.
Disclaimer: I was given a free digital version of this book by Netgalley in exchange for a fair and honest review.
The way the author told his story is very relatable and easy to follow. The one thing that put a bad taste in my mouth about his experience is the privileged attitude throughout the book in regards to his family, healthcare and extra curricular activities.
I currently work in healthcare and agree there's a need for better education for patients as well as advocation for the proper course of treatment. So many times doctors are quick to treat the symptoms without taking the time to understand the underlying root cause for the ailments.
In the end I'm glad that Michael is bringing awareness to mental health and also how one's behaviors effect those around you as well. I also am glad that he got the treatment he needed and is on the road to recovery.
I received an advance review copy for free from GoodReads, and I am leaving this review voluntarily.
I tried to give my full attention to this book, I gave it 100 pages. I just could not relate to someone in so much pain, yet jet setting all over the country for physical sport activities. Thank Goodreads for my kindle copy.
This was not what I expected. I have pain from an unknown source as well. I believe that your mind can cause such problems. I was really looking for some kind of map to help me find my way out.
Thanks to the publisher for an ARC! I would not normally grab a book like this. I do believe it is one you would read as part of a healing journey or one you would reach for as you are researching people experiencing similar pain and frustrations. However, I still found a lot of value in this book. I myself believe in medicine and science. I am a type 1 diabetic surviving only because of science and the power of medicine (insulin), and I am grateful for that! I am never going to believe I can cure my disease myself with some oils or cinnamon or dynamic stretching. That being said, I also believe in the power of thought, mental health, and the effect our foods and environment have on us. For example, when my endocrinologist saw my cholesterol creeping up, her first idea was medication (I am very healthy and active and eat well already while keeping my blood sugar in check, so medication was her go-to). I said-no, let me see what I can do. I did a ton of reading and research and decided to build myself up to do intermittent fasting, and at my next appointment, the doctor forgot I even had a cholesterol issue and commented on how my numbers were fine (I was a little annoyed because I was quite proud that I brought those numbers down!). So, I really liked this author's journey of going from doctor to doctor and surgeries he discovered he may not have needed because he was not looking at the bigger picture of his life and emotions and mental health. It really makes me think about pain and alternatives that people do not consider. The author does share that sometimes you need the medical intervention; sometimes you need the surgery or the medication. But sometimes you need to look into other things that may be causing the health issues. There is not always a quick (and often temporary) fix. I am impressed that he was able to stand back and realize that and take control of his health in other ways. Some people look at it as being silly, but he has seen and felt the difference and understands the connections. It is a good book to let people open their minds to possibilities and understand connections. I think this book will sit with the books of the authors he researched and sought out as a resource/reference for other people dealing with pain. Very interesting even if you are not experiencing what this author experienced and a quick read. FYI contains profanity
I received this book from Goodreads. This man shares his experiences with pain and looking for answers from many Drs. and seeks help and relief. I really felt his frustration in seeking help and answers. I have been there also seeking answers and having no solution from the medical field. At times I felt sad to read his story and then joy when he began to feel better. His story showed me to never give up!
I had a hard time getting through this book and would have dnf’d if I weren’t obligated to give a review. While I can definitely commiserate with the author’s pain I could barely stand listening to him constantly complaining about. I know, it’s to be expected right? It is, after all, a book about pain but I’ve lived this with my husband and it really does get old…listening to someone constantly complain about how much pain they are in.
I was expecting this book to be more about how to control pain and not what it is, a man’s memoir about his pain with a small part in the end about how he learned to control it.
It has some good information in it, but is not for everyone. He goes to a lot of doctors, that tell him different things. I'm glad he didn't give up, just take what they said and leave it at that. I've been through many doctors and tests myself for pain. It's hard. Just getting a doctor to believe a chronically pained person is hard in itself. It is extremely expensive and unfortunately there's not a lot of us that can go to these lengths. Thanks to author Michael Murray for putting his experience out there for us. You are not alone. None of us are.
I was given a copy of this book for an honest review. Thanks for the opportunity to read this book.
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