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BEQOMING: Everything You Didn't Know You Wanted
BEQOMING (noun | verb): devotion to the process of becoming who you are designed to be by radically embracing your greatest challenges as curriculum and savoring the full spectrum of life
When Benjamin, a no-nonsense businessman, and Azrya, a free-spirited artist, fall madly in love, they birth a vision for a committed partnership capable of elevating humanity. But in order to become the heart-centered impact leaders they aspire to be, they must face off with the deepest unconscious fears threatening their mission and union.
A unique hybrid of personal development, spiritual memoir, and erotic nonfiction, BEQOMING is an intimate and uncensored exploration of psychedelics, sex, power, and purpose. Join Azrya and Benjamin Bequer as they navigate the light and shadow sides of their own BEQOMING and deliver potent wisdom and tangible strategies for your own activation.
Warning: This book may inspire you to face off with your darkest subconscious shadows, claim your Truest Truth, and embody the greatness you're here to share with the world. Side effects may include becoming radically unfuckwithable.
When Benjamin, a no-nonsense businessman, and Azrya, a free-spirited artist, fall madly in love, they birth a vision for a committed partnership capable of elevating humanity. But in order to become the heart-centered impact leaders they aspire to be, they must face off with the deepest unconscious fears threatening their mission and union.
A unique hybrid of personal development, spiritual memoir, and erotic nonfiction, BEQOMING is an intimate and uncensored exploration of psychedelics, sex, power, and purpose. Join Azrya and Benjamin Bequer as they navigate the light and shadow sides of their own BEQOMING and deliver potent wisdom and tangible strategies for your own activation.
Warning: This book may inspire you to face off with your darkest subconscious shadows, claim your Truest Truth, and embody the greatness you're here to share with the world. Side effects may include becoming radically unfuckwithable.
307 pages, Kindle Edition
Published February 22, 2022
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March 1, 2022
This is the best book I’ve ever read ….disclaimer => my wife and I wrote it….but it’s f’m good
August 30, 2024
This book came to me at the right time when I was on crossroads between doing what my heart desire or doing what I’ve always done. The choice between passion or money, hard and easy, fear and safety.
I’m not quite sure how to describe this book. I feel like you’re opinion of this book might be influenced by how far down you are in your Beqoming and if you are open minded enough. Some might call this book woo-woo, I will call it Life Changing.
Authors share they story of Beqoming and it very honest and raw. They talk about sex, traumas, ayahuasca and challenges they faced on their way to Beqoming who they were meant to be.
I would advice leaving judgment behind when readying this book for ultimate benefits.
Each chapter ends with a list of questions related to that chapter. The question are deep and gets right to the root of a problem.
These questions has helped me choose the right path for me in this time of my life and is something I will be using every time I’m faced with a difficult decisions and staying true to myself.
I’m not quite sure how to describe this book. I feel like you’re opinion of this book might be influenced by how far down you are in your Beqoming and if you are open minded enough. Some might call this book woo-woo, I will call it Life Changing.
Authors share they story of Beqoming and it very honest and raw. They talk about sex, traumas, ayahuasca and challenges they faced on their way to Beqoming who they were meant to be.
I would advice leaving judgment behind when readying this book for ultimate benefits.
Each chapter ends with a list of questions related to that chapter. The question are deep and gets right to the root of a problem.
These questions has helped me choose the right path for me in this time of my life and is something I will be using every time I’m faced with a difficult decisions and staying true to myself.
February 23, 2022
This book is absolutely ‘unfuckablewith’!
I cried, I laughed and fell deeply in love with the wisdom this gem of a book shared.
These two authors will blow your socks off with their love story and an operating system, that will radically embrace your deepest fears and your greatest challenges.
A phenomenal read!!!
I cried, I laughed and fell deeply in love with the wisdom this gem of a book shared.
These two authors will blow your socks off with their love story and an operating system, that will radically embrace your deepest fears and your greatest challenges.
A phenomenal read!!!
November 17, 2022
I wanted to like this book more but it felt like it fell short of really driving home it’s potential for being truly transformative. The authors style of semi-autobiographical writing, retelling of their spiritual journey does a great job grounding the concepts of commitment to their truth in reality. It just feels like it lacks the punch and force to really reach and inspire a larger audience towards personal transformation because it fails to answer the glaring question of “so what?!!”.
For those lost in the daily grind, personal transformation feels out of reach and only accessible to those privileged enough with the resources to fly off to retreat centers, work with plant medicines, shamans and life coaches. For the average person that is just out of reach so all that is left is the table scraps of hearing about the good fortune of those who are able to. I imagine this leaves some readers with the feeling of “must be nice” rather than laying out a clear path that others can follow.
For those lost in the daily grind, personal transformation feels out of reach and only accessible to those privileged enough with the resources to fly off to retreat centers, work with plant medicines, shamans and life coaches. For the average person that is just out of reach so all that is left is the table scraps of hearing about the good fortune of those who are able to. I imagine this leaves some readers with the feeling of “must be nice” rather than laying out a clear path that others can follow.
March 8, 2022
Inspirational, thought provoking, soul baring, funny and deeply emotional. Azrya and Benjamin take us on a journey of their love story that will make you laugh, cry and question the social norms. Definitely worth a read. I opted for the audiobook version so I can listen to the authors themselves as well as the amazing interviews with some of the key characters in the book.
September 15, 2023
The male reader sounds like a surfer dude making it almost impossible to tolerate. This is the first book I might ask for a refund from Audible from. :(
Also, the 4 hours of interviews at the end, who cares? Why did we need that?
This book is not at all what I thought it would be. Disappointed.
Also, the 4 hours of interviews at the end, who cares? Why did we need that?
This book is not at all what I thought it would be. Disappointed.
May 28, 2024
Tone:
I'm all for spiritual books, but the tone and word choice of this one felt far too religious and “Holier than thou” to me. It was similar to how in many Christian books you can find the author saying "God" and "Jesus" every 2 sentences.
The word choice and way of speaking felt unnecessarily grandiose. It gave me a sense of "Who even talks like that in their day to day life?".
Nothing against the authors (they seem great), but a lot of the book felt very formal, and rehearsed, business like even. Like it was dressed up to look/sound better than it actually was (not that it was bad to begin with or anything).
The content itself was pretty raw and free flowing, but the delivery felt very much like I was listening to some religious text. Like listening to a preacher preach (which I don't care for).
Very structured, rigid, calculated. The kind of speech you hear from someone who is indoctrinated.
Overall the book offers great value to MANY and Azrya has a very pleasant voice to listen too. The tone just wasn't for me, but the lessons, self awareness (one of my favorite aspects of the book), self reflection, raw nature, are all there.
Ending:
Its comical how much of a double standard is present with the fact that the Ex-wife laughed as they recounted the story of her punching her former husband in the face JUST because she was bitter and jealous after he told her he was dating someone else. And it had been OVER A YEAR AFTER they had been broken up.
I can only imagine all the hate and outrage the husband would have received if he was the one to physically abuse his wife just because he was unable to control his emotions long after the relationship had ended (it probably wouldn't even be put in the book to begin with considering the editors, publishers, and authors would know how negatively people would react).
Never mind the fact if he was also the one laughing about having punched his ex wife in the face as he retold the story to his current wife and everyone reading the book.
Aside from that, it was really nice to see that there was a lot of maturity and self awareness present throughout much of this book.
It's not often I read of others recounting their lives and sharing how they underwent "This 🫲🏾__________ 🫱🏾 (i.e the amount presented in the book)" much self reflection coupled with the awareness to know that they might not know how things will pane out, but to speak what they feel is true and to trust in the journey regardless.
I love how both the husband and wife were able to happily make/remain friends with the ex-wife Grisel. That was by far one of the best things to read as faaaaar too often you only ever hear about the scornful and tumultuous divorces that end in both parties despising one another and countless years of friendship thrown down the drain overnight.
Of course it's great for the kids, but more than that it's nice and in my eyes should be much more common for two grown adults to be able to get back to a place a friendship. Especially when you consider not only the kind of commitment they made in the first place (to get married, to have kids etc.) but also when you factor in all the time and experiences spent together. That should always count for something!
I'm all for spiritual books, but the tone and word choice of this one felt far too religious and “Holier than thou” to me. It was similar to how in many Christian books you can find the author saying "God" and "Jesus" every 2 sentences.
The word choice and way of speaking felt unnecessarily grandiose. It gave me a sense of "Who even talks like that in their day to day life?".
Nothing against the authors (they seem great), but a lot of the book felt very formal, and rehearsed, business like even. Like it was dressed up to look/sound better than it actually was (not that it was bad to begin with or anything).
The content itself was pretty raw and free flowing, but the delivery felt very much like I was listening to some religious text. Like listening to a preacher preach (which I don't care for).
Very structured, rigid, calculated. The kind of speech you hear from someone who is indoctrinated.
Overall the book offers great value to MANY and Azrya has a very pleasant voice to listen too. The tone just wasn't for me, but the lessons, self awareness (one of my favorite aspects of the book), self reflection, raw nature, are all there.
Ending:
Its comical how much of a double standard is present with the fact that the Ex-wife laughed as they recounted the story of her punching her former husband in the face JUST because she was bitter and jealous after he told her he was dating someone else. And it had been OVER A YEAR AFTER they had been broken up.
I can only imagine all the hate and outrage the husband would have received if he was the one to physically abuse his wife just because he was unable to control his emotions long after the relationship had ended (it probably wouldn't even be put in the book to begin with considering the editors, publishers, and authors would know how negatively people would react).
Never mind the fact if he was also the one laughing about having punched his ex wife in the face as he retold the story to his current wife and everyone reading the book.
Aside from that, it was really nice to see that there was a lot of maturity and self awareness present throughout much of this book.
It's not often I read of others recounting their lives and sharing how they underwent "This 🫲🏾__________ 🫱🏾 (i.e the amount presented in the book)" much self reflection coupled with the awareness to know that they might not know how things will pane out, but to speak what they feel is true and to trust in the journey regardless.
I love how both the husband and wife were able to happily make/remain friends with the ex-wife Grisel. That was by far one of the best things to read as faaaaar too often you only ever hear about the scornful and tumultuous divorces that end in both parties despising one another and countless years of friendship thrown down the drain overnight.
Of course it's great for the kids, but more than that it's nice and in my eyes should be much more common for two grown adults to be able to get back to a place a friendship. Especially when you consider not only the kind of commitment they made in the first place (to get married, to have kids etc.) but also when you factor in all the time and experiences spent together. That should always count for something!
February 15, 2024
BEQOMING (noun | verb): devotion to the process of becoming who you are designed to be by radically embracing your greatest challenges as curriculum and savoring the full spectrum of life.
Saunder and I read this book together. It took us months to finish it because we would stop and discuss EVERYTHING! This book was triggering for us, healing and SO expansive. We finished this on valentines and it was such a perfect ending to the timeline we read the book and how much it helped us grow together. Highly recommend!
“The more you are willing to break open, the more whole you BEQOMe. The more powerfully you learn to create whatever you want, the more you value the simplest of things. The more you face your own shadow, the more you begin to live in the light. The more willing you are to let that which no longer serves you die, the more alive you BEQOMe. And the more you are able to dissolve the veil of what you think you want, the more you can begin to receive everything you didn’t know you wanted.”
Saunder and I read this book together. It took us months to finish it because we would stop and discuss EVERYTHING! This book was triggering for us, healing and SO expansive. We finished this on valentines and it was such a perfect ending to the timeline we read the book and how much it helped us grow together. Highly recommend!
“The more you are willing to break open, the more whole you BEQOMe. The more powerfully you learn to create whatever you want, the more you value the simplest of things. The more you face your own shadow, the more you begin to live in the light. The more willing you are to let that which no longer serves you die, the more alive you BEQOMe. And the more you are able to dissolve the veil of what you think you want, the more you can begin to receive everything you didn’t know you wanted.”
February 27, 2022
Sensational!
This book has moved me in so many ways!
I have had a tendency to suppress some of my past despite having had some incredible, sometimes what some would call perhaps not socially acceptable experiences. And that is despite having loved some of these so much.
I went through a rebirth 30 years ago which has led me to where I am today having peeled away so many layers of trauma.
But I know that there's something stopping me from taking this huge leap, particularly since having children. Like a wilderness ready to blossom in an all well too groomed garden!
I have found so much acceptance, magic and clarity through reading such pure, transparent and unapologetic story telling. It has touched my heart like having felt a nurturing soul letting me know that now is the time and that all will be ok. That I'm not alone. That I'm understood. And ready to be heard.
Thank you from all my being xxx
This book has moved me in so many ways!
I have had a tendency to suppress some of my past despite having had some incredible, sometimes what some would call perhaps not socially acceptable experiences. And that is despite having loved some of these so much.
I went through a rebirth 30 years ago which has led me to where I am today having peeled away so many layers of trauma.
But I know that there's something stopping me from taking this huge leap, particularly since having children. Like a wilderness ready to blossom in an all well too groomed garden!
I have found so much acceptance, magic and clarity through reading such pure, transparent and unapologetic story telling. It has touched my heart like having felt a nurturing soul letting me know that now is the time and that all will be ok. That I'm not alone. That I'm understood. And ready to be heard.
Thank you from all my being xxx
June 5, 2022
Job well done. Its hard to strip naked in front of people on Pages that will exist maybe beyond your life and I think both writers have done that very well.
I dont know either of them personally but after reading the book I feel like they let me into their world a little bit and I love the honest, no BS approach they take on writing.
Plant medicine in the way they practice it has never been in my life and is not for me still, but this book was very interesting to read anyhow and I feel wiser knowing healing plants are out there and can help expand our universe if we handle them well.
I would have loved to read more about their wisdom of manifestation and money topics but I understand that you cant put it all in one book.
The book left me inspired and gave me some new perspectives and ideas for my own life.
Thank you Azrya and Benjamin for sharing your wisdom with us... its 5 stars from me because you delivered what you promised.
I dont know either of them personally but after reading the book I feel like they let me into their world a little bit and I love the honest, no BS approach they take on writing.
Plant medicine in the way they practice it has never been in my life and is not for me still, but this book was very interesting to read anyhow and I feel wiser knowing healing plants are out there and can help expand our universe if we handle them well.
I would have loved to read more about their wisdom of manifestation and money topics but I understand that you cant put it all in one book.
The book left me inspired and gave me some new perspectives and ideas for my own life.
Thank you Azrya and Benjamin for sharing your wisdom with us... its 5 stars from me because you delivered what you promised.
January 17, 2023
Intense, transformational book that will bring you on a journey as far as you’re willing to listen, and allow your truth to rise and be challenged by life. This book is more than a journey of a quantum, star-crossed couple that manifested each other. It’s a gateway for the reader to explore their own material, ask themselves some deep questions and have some folks share their journey with you.
This book is anything but a one and done. You will want to work with it. Prepare to be triggered in the beet way possible. This book has the potential be be am incredible catalyst to assist you in creating a vehicle for change in your actual Real Life, Actually…
Be Bold - get this book. Share it, but only with those that are really, really ready. As few will are prepared to make these sorts of changes and let their past die.
The audiobook is excellent, the bonus content super rad. Haven’t dove into the book owner access granted to their website resources.
This book is anything but a one and done. You will want to work with it. Prepare to be triggered in the beet way possible. This book has the potential be be am incredible catalyst to assist you in creating a vehicle for change in your actual Real Life, Actually…
Be Bold - get this book. Share it, but only with those that are really, really ready. As few will are prepared to make these sorts of changes and let their past die.
The audiobook is excellent, the bonus content super rad. Haven’t dove into the book owner access granted to their website resources.
January 25, 2024
Enjoyed the format; a transformational journey to finding oneself through love told from both sides. It paints a crisp picture of what that adventure looks like. Some good nuggets of wisdom in it (nothing new but worded in a way that hits home). Also like that the authors recognize it’s a long, messy, difficult journey and they paint that well.
The challenge with all these self help books is that they are quickly forgotten. Wisdom is earned through experience not learned in books. There are reflection questions at the end of each chapter, however, knowing doesn’t mean understanding. I’ve found over the years these questions to be of little help.
In summary it’s an inspiring story with a some valuable insights but it’s not necessarily actionable when it comes to changing oneself. The magic of this book is probably in the words themselves.
The challenge with all these self help books is that they are quickly forgotten. Wisdom is earned through experience not learned in books. There are reflection questions at the end of each chapter, however, knowing doesn’t mean understanding. I’ve found over the years these questions to be of little help.
In summary it’s an inspiring story with a some valuable insights but it’s not necessarily actionable when it comes to changing oneself. The magic of this book is probably in the words themselves.
December 29, 2022
Everything from the way this book presented itself into my life to how Bee and Azrya told their stories was absolutely incredible. When you consider yourself spiritual, you learn the “basics” of what that means to you. However, Benjamin and Azrya remind you of what your spiritual journey can look and feel like in all aspects of your life. Single, in your career, in a partnership, in a separation or breakup, when everything falling apart and when everything’s coming together. This is also the perfect read for anyone looking to have a book on spirituality that won’t turn into a snooze fest because of how serious they are writing the context. Highly recommend!!
March 26, 2025
Deeply authentic 5 stars for that!
4.5 Stars overall.
The book came to me at the right time, I was at a major crossroads in 2022.
Processing and contemplating a lot about my relationship, and healing wounds of the past.
The book moves between funny, wild, enlightening, and deep introspection. Always deeply authentic, which I enjoyed most.
If you are questioning your life, -choices, relationships, ... at in a transition phase (like the authors were), this is a fantastic read!
Those whom the book speaks to love it! I recommended it to 5-6 friends, 2 resonated with the message, got it and loved it. The others never picked it up. Trust your intuition.
4.5 Stars overall.
The book came to me at the right time, I was at a major crossroads in 2022.
Processing and contemplating a lot about my relationship, and healing wounds of the past.
The book moves between funny, wild, enlightening, and deep introspection. Always deeply authentic, which I enjoyed most.
If you are questioning your life, -choices, relationships, ... at in a transition phase (like the authors were), this is a fantastic read!
Those whom the book speaks to love it! I recommended it to 5-6 friends, 2 resonated with the message, got it and loved it. The others never picked it up. Trust your intuition.
April 9, 2022
3.5 stars rounded up to 4. It was good and the raw honesty was beautiful and there’s always something to learn from listening to someone else’s story. The book offers great invitations of work you can ask yourself if you are willing to put in the work to grow. It definitely makes me curious about the retreats Benjamin and Azrya offer.
I listened to the audiobook but think it would have been more enjoyable reading the paperback format as the narration was a little irritating to me personally.
I listened to the audiobook but think it would have been more enjoyable reading the paperback format as the narration was a little irritating to me personally.
March 8, 2022
What an amazing and inspirational book. These two authors leave nothing behind in sharing their life changing journey. The book has everything you can ask for, mystery, inspiration, medicine, sex, and most importantly LOVE. I think most people are on a journey to tap into the God Frequency, which some of us have had a glimpse of once or twice in our lives. Ben and Az tapped into an endless source and they are sharing their path in a beautiful and honest way.
December 17, 2022
I loved the journal prompts and personal insights but some of it did feel very out of reach in terms of throwing money at the journey through traveling, retreats and other constant big cost things. It would be nice to also have some alternatives represented for those who are not in a financial position to attain those. Overall I think its a worthy read for sure and I appreciate the brutal honesties and deep insights.
March 9, 2022
Azrya and Bee take you on a journey with their story, their fears, their Love. This book opened my heart to new frequencies and deeper courage. Get ready to soak in radical truth and vulnerability shares oozing with wisdom and codes. I feel so inspired to take full responsibility of my choices and my life after reading this. Empowered to live with Love and embody my truest truth.
March 9, 2023
wise, sexy, soul purposeful
The book is one that I couldn’t stop reading and finished in a few days. Inspires to live one’s soul purpose, not cut corners (casual sex and other not fully inspired and soul-guided actions), invites self-trust and acceptance of self and others in our lives fully, describes sex scenes and love, is a sexy read.
The book is one that I couldn’t stop reading and finished in a few days. Inspires to live one’s soul purpose, not cut corners (casual sex and other not fully inspired and soul-guided actions), invites self-trust and acceptance of self and others in our lives fully, describes sex scenes and love, is a sexy read.
September 8, 2023
I thoroughly enjoyed this book. I listened to the Audible version of it. Having been following Benjamin and Azrya for a while now, I loved hearing even more depth to the stories they share so openly and appreciate their vulnerability and courage. A best friend and I agreed that meeting a man who had read this book and taken something from it would make them instantly more appealing to date.
August 26, 2024
The language of the book was a little too "woke" and new age for my preference, however, there were a lot of shadows the book exposed within myself that I will be working on. I have gratitude for how the couple were able to authentically share their experiences and felt a deep resonance with some of their struggles.
June 21, 2023
What makes this book special is the music behind the content. I liked Ben and Azrya as human beings, and enjoyed the Audible. Whether or not you're willing to try psychedelics (as they recommend) to help with your inner journey is up to you.
May 22, 2022
Life changing!!!!!
September 4, 2022
Wow amazing book very mind opening
November 24, 2022
loved it! honest, open.. thanks for sharing with an open heart and wide courage!
November 27, 2022
When you’re ready to read this, it will present itself to you.
April 5, 2023
This book was not my cup of tea at all.
March 14, 2025
Loved their honesty and openness. I enjoyed reading about how fearlessly they went forward in relationship with everyone in their lives.
August 17, 2022
this book is not for everyone, specially if you are skeptical or not interested in spirituality or personal growth.
that said, i’m a firm believer that certain books come into your life when are much needed, like little pieces of light to point you in the right track.
BEQOMING is one of those books, for those who started this journey a while ago, and those who are starting it as my partner, is such a great guidance and like an old and dearest friend who is not afraid to look at you in the eyes and tell you the truth from a heart base position, not a criticizing one.
the narrative of Azrya and Bee is raw, and indeed some people would think they’re sharing too much, but honesty can be uncomfortable for some who are still stuck in old beliefs and traditions. i found myself laughing in some parts at how it feels like my relationship is mirrored in their words, me the spiritual crazy one, my partner more into the physical.
the invitations at the end of each chapter are quite on point, helping you to go deeper and connect even more not only read and let go as we usually do with certain books.
the guidance this book as a tool is providing is something that will stick with you on your own process.
that said, i’m a firm believer that certain books come into your life when are much needed, like little pieces of light to point you in the right track.
BEQOMING is one of those books, for those who started this journey a while ago, and those who are starting it as my partner, is such a great guidance and like an old and dearest friend who is not afraid to look at you in the eyes and tell you the truth from a heart base position, not a criticizing one.
the narrative of Azrya and Bee is raw, and indeed some people would think they’re sharing too much, but honesty can be uncomfortable for some who are still stuck in old beliefs and traditions. i found myself laughing in some parts at how it feels like my relationship is mirrored in their words, me the spiritual crazy one, my partner more into the physical.
the invitations at the end of each chapter are quite on point, helping you to go deeper and connect even more not only read and let go as we usually do with certain books.
the guidance this book as a tool is providing is something that will stick with you on your own process.
May 12, 2023
This book was not at all what I expected. This book gave me major cult vibes. Not really what I was into and not really what I was expecting from what they say about it. I was expecting a little more self help and less cult. Personally the writing made sense. Scenes are well written you know who your reading about at all time. Just not the book for me. Also can not buy this book in stores it’s print to order. So a little harder to get the book. Also If this book was up my ally I wish they had room for comments. They ask me questions and when they ask I would have liked to write in my answers.
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