Let The Women Be Women: God's Design for Womanhood and Marriage

by Chris Mueller

In Proverbs 31:30, the author states that "a woman who fears Yahweh, she shall be praised." In our current times that is a challenging goal for young Christian women to achieve. The good news is that, in the book of Titus, God provides us with direct instruction on how to achieve that goal. There, the apostle Paul reveals God's clear design for how young women are to walk worthy of Jesus Christ. In every generation, Christian men and women desperately need a biblical foundation on the roles which God designed, yet few churches give it. This book and its partner, Let the Men Be Men, are therefore all the more valuable to meet that need.

Genres: Marriage, Nonfiction, Christian, Theology

208 pages, Paperback

Published March 15, 2022

Reviews

[Haley Annabelle · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is one of my favorite books I've read this year. Mueller does an amazing job at laying out what the Bible says about biblical womanhood. There was no fluffiness, no beating around the bush, just plain, hard facts. Even though I've heard most of the content taught before, I was convicted in every chapter. I love that he addressed both married women and single women. I was encouraged on a lot of things to work on now before I am married, Lord-willing, someday soon.
I highly recommend this for all women to read and also think it would be beneficial for men to read, to know what a godly woman is.

[J.S. Beville · Rating 5 out of 5]

I strongly recommend this book to all Christian women of 16yrs or higher. Whether you are a young single adult or a widow this book is a wonderful, scriptually based view of our unique role as women!!

[Autumn · Rating 5 out of 5]

Best book I’ve read on being a woman.

[Celina Hidalgo · Rating 5 out of 5]

⭐5.5!
I rarely take the time to write reviews. But this book was *amazing*! I have had my fair share of books that cover the topic of relationships, and this one has been the best so far (and it doesn't just cover that topic).

Who I recommend it for:
I especially recommend this book for any woman *prior* to them entering a relationship. It is also great for anyone in a position to give advice to any woman who desires to do so Biblically (parents, disciplers, teachers, friends, etc), as well as recently married women, and women of any stage in life who've recently become saved. (Men who want to get married can read it too)

About the book (why ⭐5.5!):
The book covers Bible passages that describe the qualities of a godly woman. Each chapter takes one of those qualities and exegetes what that individual quality means. It then describes what that practically looks like and moves into application to either/both married women and singles. I have found this book to be the most Biblically thorough on this topic.

Special notation (if you are literally still not sold):
Chapter 8 was 🔥. I have heard *many* well meaning Christians from even Biblically solid backgrounds give advice that was based on beliefs that did not align with what this chapter covered in Titus.

[Emily · Rating 2 out of 5]

Unfortunately this became a DNF for me. The wording continued to be extra biblical, adding authoritative roles that scripture doesn’t, making a lot of assumptions, and being derogatory toward friendships and relationships outside the marriage relationship. There were some biblical points made but it was more opinion of the author than scripture references and a lot of adding to the burden of being a female Christian. I didn’t benefit from it. The wording was sloppy and it seemed like no one edited this book at all. I gave it almost half before throwing in the towel.

[Jessica Reeser · Rating 5 out of 5]

I reccomend all my Christian friends - both married and single - read this for encouragement on being a godly wife and mother

[Suzanne Roq · Rating 4 out of 5]

I always struggle with this sort of book bc it can be a delicate balance between too patriarchal & too feminist. I have a hard time with glossing over relationship problems in favor of making a point. Often, advice to wives of abusive or dismissive husbands is lacking. This book did finally address those issues in the final chapter, albeit briefly. Overall, I found it to be theologically solid with sound, though difficult, biblical advice on womanhood and marriage. I think this book would best fit unmarried women or young/newly married women.
Best quote:
*To say, think, or even feel that submission makes women inferior would be to say that Jesus is inferior to the Father- and that is heresy. p33

[Hannah Carr · Rating 5 out of 5]

I would give this 100 stars if I could! This book was honestly so life-changing for me to read. I loved how practical and to-the-point it was. The author did a great job at sharing biblical wisdom and truths that are sometimes hard to confront in an encouraging and functional way. I plan to recommend this book to every Christian sister I can, and I know I’ll end up re-reading it several times. This is a great read if you’re a mom, married, or single. I seriously cannot recommend this book enough.

[Amie Mallory · Rating 5 out of 5]

One of the best books I’ve ever read on biblical womanhood.

[erin reeves · Rating 4 out of 5]

This was an AMAZING book! Convicted and challenged every chapter but that’s what I needed!!!! Such an amazing book filled with solid theology and reflects back to the Bible for me every bit of knowledge spoken!!!!

[Kim · Rating 1 out of 5]

So two men, The Apostle Paul and author Chris Mueller, are telling women and girls what their role is? See, this is the problem…

[Holly · Rating 3 out of 5]

I think this was well-intended but it fell flat. There was a lot of sloppy language that made room for error. Would not recommend.

[Dianne · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book speaks to young women. Alongside of a mature believer, I believe this could be a good discipleship tool. The author does well to explain the context and meaning of the Scriptures.

I appreciate that the author did a very fine job of explaining the scriptures, sharing the meaning and context, and providing the interpretations. All of which were helpful, and convicting and teaching, as Scripture is to the believer.

When it came to application, it was almost like I was sitting in a coffee shop with the author as he gave examples of how to live out these biblical principles. The tone was conversational and kindly helpful. He was faithful to continually point to Christ as the source of any strength to live out these truths, and stressed the importance of the role of the Holy Spirit in our lives.

As a married woman of more than 30 years, with mostly-grown children, I needed to fight the temptation to pout about how much this books points out what I did so poorly in the early years of my marriage and parenting journey. Yet by the kindness of the Spirit, I was brought to humility and recognized such truth and wisdom in this book about that which I still have to learn.

[Madelyn Istrate · Rating 3 out of 5]

I want to start by saying I benefitted greatly from this book, even though I only gave it three stars. My reasoning for this rating is as follows:

-The writing was poor. I had to keep reminding myself that the author was a pastor, which doesn’t automatically make one a good writer and the book was based off of a series he taught. (i.e. the material was not originally designed to be a book.) I found it hard to follow at times and rather choppy. I am grateful I pressed on though, as there was good content even when presented poorly.
-The author often veered from biblical truth to his opinions without clear distinctions, for a new/immature believer this could be confusing which is why I would be careful to whom I recommend it. With a prayerful and discerning heart, I do think there is lots of good to gain from reading.

I am grateful for the time Mueller put into writing this book and the obvious care he has for biblical accuracy and practicing holiness.

[Naomi · Rating 3 out of 5]

I appreciate this book as a layout of Titus 2's vision for a woman's character. However, I could tell that this guy is a pastor and not an author. A little more care should have been taken in converting the teaching material into a book. Also, there were hooks at the beginning of many of the chapters that were intended to be humorous (and again, sounded like something at the beginning of a sermon), but just came off as cheesy and didn't support the purpose of the chapter. He made some assumptions from Bible passages that felt rushed and dogmatic. The small group of young women I co-lead went through it together, and it was a good starting point for discussions, but we made some adjustments and clarifications. I can imagine it might be a less helpful experience without a context for discussion.
Study scripture and compare all other books to it.

[Kara Kuehl · Rating 5 out of 5]

I really enjoyed this book! It covered everything perfectly. I will admit, I was hesitant because the author is male, but he did a very good job!

I was appreciative that he addressed both single and married women. This isn’t a book solely for married women. He expertly gave biblical advice for single women as they either prepare for marriage or even celibacy.

Notable Quotes:
“It was the kindness of God that sent Christ to save us. When Christians display that same type of kindness, it reveals Christ to those who desperately need Him.”

[Briana · Rating 5 out of 5]

A helpful dive into God’s design for Biblical womanhood and marriage studying characteristics from Titus 2:4-5. The author has a counter-cultural yet Biblical take that women are created to be wives, mothers, and homemakers. Godly women are to be Biblical, disciplers, lovers of their husband, lovers of children, sensible, pure, diligent homemakers, kind, and submissive to authority/own husbands. The author speaks to both single and married women which is helpful as there are different things to consider in different life seasons.

[Aubrey Michaels · Rating 3 out of 5]

This book deals with lots of tough questions which I really appreciated. The author used the Bible as his resource instead of his own opinion which I really liked. The book was good, and left me with a lot to think about. I don’t know if I agree with everything, but it definitely gets me thinking and desiring to seek out what the Bible says about the role of the woman…which is the author’s purpose.

[Jaci · Rating 5 out of 5]

Best book I have ever read on what it means to be a godly woman! It’s crazy that this book was originally a sermon series back in 1985 and yet is still applicable. This just shows it’s truly what the Bible says and not influenced by culture, as it should be. Would recommend to anyone and want to use with girls I disciple.

[Lisa · Rating 3 out of 5]

This book had a lot of good information but I found the writing to be very dry. It was like reading a users manual. There were good take aways but I wish it was more enjoyable to read. I found myself just pushing through.

[JaanaRose Sharp · Rating 5 out of 5]

Very practical. Follows the Titus 2 passage and breaks down each character quality to give details and application for everyday life.

[Catherine Lorenz · Rating 1 out of 5]

more like let the women hate themselves

[Kathleen Lee]

Excellent

[Liliana Ruth · Rating 5 out of 5]

I have loved learning more about God’s beautiful design for women BIBLICALLY!💕

[Holly McPherson · Rating 5 out of 5]

Reread with Maggie as she was transitioning from a high schooler to a college student. :) This is a book that exhorts and encourages readers to be women who follow, obey, and honor God in their decisions. One of my favorites.

[Mary Judson · Rating 4 out of 5]

8.8.25 my heart was softer to the teachings in this book the second time reading it. Helpful and practical ways to pursue godliness as a young woman.