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The Truth About Love: How to really fall in love with your life and everyone in it
We are trained from the youngest of ages to imagine that love is a force outside ourselves, that if you keep swiping one day your prince will come, that love is something you have to look for, you have to work for, you have to diet for.
The truth is love is an inside job.
We are creators of love not discoverers of love, and until we realize that love that comes out of us, rather than to us, we’ll never really get it or feel it.
Conor Creighton learned this the hard way with a string of tumultuous relationships in his past. That was until, through meditation, he woke up to the powerful force that is self-love and watched his relationships and whole world transform around him.
Now Conor wants everyone to wake up to the truth about love. In this modern manifesto and spiritual guide to relationships he makes a daring call to action, showing how to change yourself and the world around you through the courageous act of opening your heart.
The truth is love is an inside job.
We are creators of love not discoverers of love, and until we realize that love that comes out of us, rather than to us, we’ll never really get it or feel it.
Conor Creighton learned this the hard way with a string of tumultuous relationships in his past. That was until, through meditation, he woke up to the powerful force that is self-love and watched his relationships and whole world transform around him.
Now Conor wants everyone to wake up to the truth about love. In this modern manifesto and spiritual guide to relationships he makes a daring call to action, showing how to change yourself and the world around you through the courageous act of opening your heart.
- GenresNonfiction
240 pages, Hardcover
Published July 20, 2022
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About the author
Conor Creighton
4 books19 followersI was born in Ireland and now live in a small village towards the south of Berlin called Rixdorf.
I worked as a war correspondent reporting on Afghanistan and Kosovo. As an artist with my very own show at the Schwules Museum and now a writer.
But I've also worked as a barman, a painter, a pizza chef, a trawlerman, a brickie, a chippie, a sparky, an art dealer, a drug dealer, a teacher, a fruit picker, a dish washer, a carnival ghost, Martin Amis' babysitter, an ambassador to the world's newest country, a delivery man in a long white van and a star of Polish television.
And from this the stories sometimes bleed.
I worked as a war correspondent reporting on Afghanistan and Kosovo. As an artist with my very own show at the Schwules Museum and now a writer.
But I've also worked as a barman, a painter, a pizza chef, a trawlerman, a brickie, a chippie, a sparky, an art dealer, a drug dealer, a teacher, a fruit picker, a dish washer, a carnival ghost, Martin Amis' babysitter, an ambassador to the world's newest country, a delivery man in a long white van and a star of Polish television.
And from this the stories sometimes bleed.
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May 13, 2022
I never really read books like this but wow it really has opened my mind and helped my understanding of how to love myself and everyone around me
January 12, 2023
I can't quite put my finger on why but I just didn't fully connect with that book. It's full of down to earth wisdom, it's easy to follow, it's honest and heartfelt and yet I didn't respond to it as much as I thought I would. But I appreciate the message behind it, I applaud Creighton's honesty and I will re-read in the future. Maybe I'm not quite ready for its message yet.
July 20, 2022
Pretty much going to turn around and read this again. And then I might write a proper review for this. And buy several copies of it from my local bookshop. And give it to friends.
This is like the 2022 edition of the song “I’d like to teach the world to sing/ In perfect harmony” in book form. (Which I suspect the author is too young to remember i.e. before it became a Coke ad!)
I found this on Borrowbox, completely by chance. I completely agree with Conor Creighton when he says in the book (I’m paraphrasing) that it was karma. Especially when I looked up when it was published and Goodreads says it’ll be in 18 days time. So ... how did it turn up on Borrowbox? Ok, Universe, you have my attention!
While I’m giving this 5 stars that’s not to say it’s perfect - some of it is more self-indulgent memoir or self-deprecating pseudo-hubris - it’s to say that doesn’t matter, just read it! Be open to it. It has given me hope just as I’d started to become bitterly cynical about the effects of capitalism and greed on post-pandemic society globally and it has reminded me of my last therapist and all the lessons I refused to learn from him in my pre-pandemic funk.
Oh and the reader, Conor MacNeill, is perfect. Perfect accent (NI), perfect inflections, pauses, sighs, chuckles (slightly dodgy pronunciations of hegemony and irreparable, but sure, who cares really?) This wasn’t so much read as emoted. (Hope that’s a word!) I’ll be looking for books read by him in the future.
This is like the 2022 edition of the song “I’d like to teach the world to sing/ In perfect harmony” in book form. (Which I suspect the author is too young to remember i.e. before it became a Coke ad!)
I found this on Borrowbox, completely by chance. I completely agree with Conor Creighton when he says in the book (I’m paraphrasing) that it was karma. Especially when I looked up when it was published and Goodreads says it’ll be in 18 days time. So ... how did it turn up on Borrowbox? Ok, Universe, you have my attention!
While I’m giving this 5 stars that’s not to say it’s perfect - some of it is more self-indulgent memoir or self-deprecating pseudo-hubris - it’s to say that doesn’t matter, just read it! Be open to it. It has given me hope just as I’d started to become bitterly cynical about the effects of capitalism and greed on post-pandemic society globally and it has reminded me of my last therapist and all the lessons I refused to learn from him in my pre-pandemic funk.
Oh and the reader, Conor MacNeill, is perfect. Perfect accent (NI), perfect inflections, pauses, sighs, chuckles (slightly dodgy pronunciations of hegemony and irreparable, but sure, who cares really?) This wasn’t so much read as emoted. (Hope that’s a word!) I’ll be looking for books read by him in the future.
March 5, 2024
Nice to read a more spiritual / self reflective book for a change. Used to read more non fiction when I got into reading & forgot how much I enjoy it, especially being forced to be introspective. Can’t say I found anything hugely ground breaking or profound but definitely makes you think. I really enjoyed the suggestion that you should think of the things that cause you shame and then the consequences of these, as a way to identify the things you’re missing out on by not loving yourself. I also loved the analogy “you can’t get angry at rescue dogs for their bad behaviour when you remember where they’ve come from” for understanding your own / others’ actions in terms of past trauma/experiences. Kept pausing the audiobook to reflect, and in this sense it probably would have been better as a physical book, but it was very soothing (partially bcos of the Irish accent I imagine) to listen to.
March 6, 2023
A beautiful look at love & self love. For anyone ready to delve into spiritual practices but feeling nervous, this is a solid amalgamation of a lot of Buddhist teachings and the ideas of great spiritual leaders.
Creighton has a likeable, honest and relatable way of talking about it that feels like it'd resonate with most.
It's a pleasure to read from the soul of someone who's doing the work to prioritise good.
Creighton has a likeable, honest and relatable way of talking about it that feels like it'd resonate with most.
It's a pleasure to read from the soul of someone who's doing the work to prioritise good.
July 20, 2022
Yes, as per my review of the audiobook my link text I turned around and bought a physical copy and re-read it, and recommended it widely.
And I know this won't be the last time I read it. I'll be coming back to it repeatedly. The truths it contains need to become tattooed on my heart and brain.
And I know this won't be the last time I read it. I'll be coming back to it repeatedly. The truths it contains need to become tattooed on my heart and brain.
June 15, 2022
Warm, uplifting, wise book, i was sorry when i finished it.
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March 31, 2024This book fundamentally relies on two things: spirituality and generalisation. Unfortunately, they do not do it any favours.
It's my fault, really. I bought The Truth About Love on a whim, and I must have missed the part of the blurb that explains that this is first and foremost a spiritual book. I was trying to motivate myself to read more non fiction, and since I have a tendency to gravitate toward heavy themes when I do, I intentionally chose this book, knowing it would be on the lighter side. That part, at least, turned out to be true. Other than that, I expected discussions of different aspects of love and assumed they would strongly rely on anecdotes from the author's life. What I got instead is a discussion of the concept of love as a whole. Different chapters do highlight slightly different aspects of it, but because they are all based on the author's perception of spirituality (which is not a bad one, just not one that I share), they are ultimately very repetitive. Anecdotes are sprinkled in frequently, but they are so short that they do not contribute much. The one thing I really enjoyed is the author's style -- the quick pacing, the light-heartedness, the easy, entertaining way with words. And ultimately, this is why I will withhold a rating: The book is well-written. I am just not the target audience for it.
It's my fault, really. I bought The Truth About Love on a whim, and I must have missed the part of the blurb that explains that this is first and foremost a spiritual book. I was trying to motivate myself to read more non fiction, and since I have a tendency to gravitate toward heavy themes when I do, I intentionally chose this book, knowing it would be on the lighter side. That part, at least, turned out to be true. Other than that, I expected discussions of different aspects of love and assumed they would strongly rely on anecdotes from the author's life. What I got instead is a discussion of the concept of love as a whole. Different chapters do highlight slightly different aspects of it, but because they are all based on the author's perception of spirituality (which is not a bad one, just not one that I share), they are ultimately very repetitive. Anecdotes are sprinkled in frequently, but they are so short that they do not contribute much. The one thing I really enjoyed is the author's style -- the quick pacing, the light-heartedness, the easy, entertaining way with words. And ultimately, this is why I will withhold a rating: The book is well-written. I am just not the target audience for it.
November 13, 2022
We are trained from the youngest of ages to imagine that love is a force outside ourselves, that if you keep swiping one day your prince will come, that love is something you have to look for, you have to work for, you have to diet for.
The truth is love is an inside job.
We are creators of love not discoverers of love, and until we realize that love that comes out of us, rather than to us, we'll never really get it or feel it.
Conor Creighton learned this the hard way with a string of tumultuous relationships in his past. That was until, through meditation, he woke up to the powerful force that is self-love and watched his relationships and whole world transform around him.
Now Conor wants everyone to wake up to the truth about love. In this modern manifesto and spiritual guide to relationships he makes a daring call to action, showing how to change yourself and the world around you through the courageous act of opening your heart.
This was an engaging and inspiring read. Conor takes us through many examples and reasons as to why we cannot truly be our best and love others in our best way until we allow ourselves to love ourselves also. #conorcreighton#thetruthaboutlove #goodreads #thestorygraph#litsy #tea_sipping_bookworm #selfhelp#bookqueen #bookstagram
The truth is love is an inside job.
We are creators of love not discoverers of love, and until we realize that love that comes out of us, rather than to us, we'll never really get it or feel it.
Conor Creighton learned this the hard way with a string of tumultuous relationships in his past. That was until, through meditation, he woke up to the powerful force that is self-love and watched his relationships and whole world transform around him.
Now Conor wants everyone to wake up to the truth about love. In this modern manifesto and spiritual guide to relationships he makes a daring call to action, showing how to change yourself and the world around you through the courageous act of opening your heart.
This was an engaging and inspiring read. Conor takes us through many examples and reasons as to why we cannot truly be our best and love others in our best way until we allow ourselves to love ourselves also. #conorcreighton#thetruthaboutlove #goodreads #thestorygraph#litsy #tea_sipping_bookworm #selfhelp#bookqueen #bookstagram
August 7, 2022
As someone who has meditated for the last 30 odd years, there was nothing new in this book. I too learned meditation from the Buddists on the Roman Road in London and practise it every day. What I object to in this book is the use of filthy language. I would have given in more stars if it had been written in pure English without the bad language. I really don't know why young Irish people today have to resort to this type of foul language in order to sell a book.
December 25, 2023
A lovely view of love & the journey to self-love with beautiful references to the Buddhas work throughout.
It took me longer to get to finish, but I feel that with these types of books, it's a journey you embark on & only when you're ready to progress is when you read through.
Highly recommend if your open minded & on a journey to self-love ❤️
It took me longer to get to finish, but I feel that with these types of books, it's a journey you embark on & only when you're ready to progress is when you read through.
Highly recommend if your open minded & on a journey to self-love ❤️
May 14, 2024
Really nice + digestible + accessible, easy read, flows.
Will say it is a little repetitive, could have been a good bit smaller but definitely a relaxing and reassuring book for an anxious mind!
I would recommend this mainly for single people who are dating and have only just dipped their toe in the realm of spirituality etc.
Will say it is a little repetitive, could have been a good bit smaller but definitely a relaxing and reassuring book for an anxious mind!
I would recommend this mainly for single people who are dating and have only just dipped their toe in the realm of spirituality etc.
January 2, 2023
This is a great book that imparts wisdom in a very relatable way and is helping me to understand my relationship with myself and how that affects my relationships with others.
January 9, 2023
First spiritual book that actually made me feel a sense of peace.
January 13, 2023
Great insight on self love & how reflecting inwards helps us & all those around us whom we care for & love
January 26, 2023
Like spending time with a great friend and a good cup of tea. Filled with good advice, challenging prompts, and insights on this journey of life.
March 3, 2023
Uplifting, heart warming book with powerful lessons for a better world.
‘amore per sempre o finché dura’
‘amore per sempre o finché dura’
December 21, 2023
A beautiful, honest, insightful and regularly humorous discussion of love in all its forms.
December 30, 2023
Eye opening and very different to the other books I read this year
March 6, 2023
honestly? I loved this book. Hit on points of capitalism and society that most self-help books I read do not. It touched on philosophies as well, which I appreciated. After looking it up, I was surprised that this was not a bestseller. I also loved how you could hear Conor’s accent through his writing.
October 6, 2024
Felt like a warm, comforting hug.
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