The Echo Within is a short book about discerning your personal calling by listening to and responding to messages that are encoded into your being. I first read this book four years ago, and decided to re-read it this year because my personal circumstances have significantly changed. I wanted to get some fresh insights in hopes of refining my understanding of my own calling as I contemplate the future direction and focus of my life. Although I am officially “retired” and done with “going to work,” I am by no means done living. My understood calling is “Enabling Others,” but I’m always on the lookout for new arenas and ways in which to do that.
Benson breaks the book down into ten chapters, each with a one-word title. They are Listening, Waking, Hearing, Being, Looking, Waiting, Living, Knowing, Choosing, and Dreaming. Reading the book again, I found it to be even more relevant to my own needs and interests than when I first read it. I do a lot of highlighting and underlining when I read a book I own, and discovered even more useful ideas to mark up in my copy the second time through.
An interesting suggestion in The Echo Within is to “connect the dots” in your life to see how the linkages between people, places, jobs, and events form discernable patterns over time, which when viewed retrospectively depict the flow of your entire life. He also speaks of being “born again” (not religiously) each time your life goes off in a new direction. He asks the reader to identify people who spoke essential messages into your life that triggered new phases of development or even led you to new careers or locations during your life journey. Looking back over one’s entire life, it becomes possible to pick out the key roles, experiences, triumphs, and disappointments that made you into the person you are today.
There is also a spiritual side to the book. Benson quoted a speaker at a retreat he once attended who said, “The plan is for you to become the person God intended. However,” he said with a twinkle in his eye, “the details are up to you.” This markedly differs from some religious leaders who insist that every moment of your life is specifically scripted and controlled by the Deity. Benson advises, “Watch yourself closely to see what you love and what you do not. You look for signs of your own wonder. You look for the things that make your spirit quicken and your pulse race.”
In the Being chapter, Benson asked a question that really resonated with me: “How many of us end up doing work that does not suit us, in environments that do not nurture us, around people with whom we are not comfortable, doing things we do not believe in.” When I look back upon my own years in the workplace, that question hit me right between the eyes. Life is like an ocean wave, and I’ve had many deep troughs between the exciting crests.
In the Looking chapter, he asks, “To whom am I being given for this season of my life, for this stretch of my days? And who is being given to me?” He added, “To be called is to be sent. And we are being sent to someone as much as we are being sent by Someone. To be called is to keep looking for those to whom we are being given.”
Many of the chapters in the book begin with a quote from Thomas Merton. The Waiting chapter begins with this quote from Merton: “A man knows when he has found his vocation when he stops thinking about how to live and begins to live….” Benson writes, “...people work for a while, and then something happens. There is a moment of clarity for them, and they suddenly see what they are on the planet to do, and they go and do it.”
In the Living chapter, Benson builds upon this point, stating “Living is very often what happens when we think we have God’s plan for our lives all mapped out. The choices we make, the curves we are thrown, the chances we take, the hunches we follow are all part of our mysterious journey in the direction of who we were whispered into being to become.”
As the book nears its end, in the Choosing chapter, Benson mentions that new people can come alongside us in our journey. “We discover we are surrounded by new faces; we discover we have been given to some new people, or at least people who are new to us.” He goes on to say that “...calling is not always only about who we are or what we do. It is not always strictly about our work. Sometimes it is about who is beside us. And who we are beside.”
The final chapter, Dreaming, starts with another Merton quote: “The things that we love tell us what we are.” Benson then reprises one of the main messages in the book: “What better place to hide the mystery of who we are to become than within our own selves?” He continues: “Sometimes we are nudged a bit at a time in the direction of our dreams even though it is not clear to us for years and years. Guess Who is doing the nudging?”
The final words in this powerful little book are, “Our journeys begin with a whisper, a word spoken by the One Who has spoken and is still speaking all things into being. We live in the hope of discovering and articulating and reflecting the incarnate word that echoes within. And in the hope of becoming the someone we were spoken into being to be.”
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