I picked this up on a whim via the library "Audiobooks Available Now" selection. I was in the mood for something quick and funny, maybe a bit lighter than my usual fare of "Socially Sad Nonfiction", or more recently, "Socially Sad Sci-Fi". And... it was? I mean, topic notwithstanding, this is INTENDED to be a humorous book, a lighter way for people to gain a bit of understanding regarding the unrelenting racist shit that non-white people are forced to deal with on a day to day basis. A collection of anecdotes that white people can read or listen to and think "That's kinda funny, but dang, for real? It's like that? ALL THE TIME? I should do better."
And yes, you should. We all should.
This book is not intended to teach anyone anything about how to actually BE better (except for the ever-necessary DON'T TOUCH BLACK PEOPLE'S HAIR 101 course), or how to be more aware of our own biases or racist kneejerk tendencies or shitty stereotypes etc, so we can practice not letting them out at unsuspecting (but nonetheless wary) people just minding their business.
But I struggled with it. Kind of a lot, which was really surprising to me. I didn't actually expect anything super deep or analytical, and it's pretty clear from the outset what this would be. But I just couldn't really connect with this.
Maybe it was the delivery. I borrowed the audiobook, which is dually read by Amber Ruffin and her older sister Lacey Lamar, and I kind of would have expected a more conversational, maybe even podcasty reading. But the word that comes to mind when I think about what it was actually like for me is "manic".
For context, I usually listen to audiobooks around 1.7x speed. (It used to be 2x, but I think the scale changed at some point.) For me, this is a normal conversational talking speed that I might use with friends who know me. Maybe a little bit fast, but not chipmunk on speed fast. But THIS audiobook felt like Walter White had left his stash out for the chipmunks and they went to town. It felt SO FAST!
So I slowed it down to 1.25x, which took it to the point where I'm usually comfortable... but even then I had trouble following it because the DELIVERY of the lines/text was just... hard to follow for me. It felt like trying to follow the conversations happening in a room full of 12 year olds at a sleepover who are hopped up on Dr. Pepper and pizza. There wasn't enough delineation between Amber and Lacey, who are sisters, and to make things even more confusing, they'd tell each others' stories sometimes, their own at other times, completely other people's stories at still other times (but still read them in first person - "I got pulled over for doing 90 mph in a 45 zone" etc)... There was a lot of banter and giggling and stuff, and it was so hard for me to track what was going on.
Eventually I just stopped trying. These stories are pretty universal anyway (unfortunately), and it didn't really feel CRITICAL to know whether it was Lacey's story or Amber's. Or a different family member's. Or someone else's. Things went a little smoother after that, but I did end up borrowing the ebook from the library as well, because the audiobook borrow didn't come with the much-referenced PDF accompanying document. I want to see funny pictures and cute nieces and nephews if they are offered, dang it!
So, a couple notes on the ebook as well. The method of differentiating between Lacey and Amber in the TEXT is using different fonts. I guess I can sort of understand this because I know how abysmally annoying it is to have to intro every line of a banter-heavy dialogue (which this book most definitely is) with the speaker.
But there are also 3rd-font notes and asides, not tied to either of them... In the audio, obviously, one of them would read it, but there's not really any differentiation of these "narrative voiced" sections from their own voices. (This feels super confusing to explain.) Basically, my issue here is that depending on how you consume this book, you get a VASTLY different experience of it, and I feel like the audio actually suffers from the authors reading it.
I also really didn't like the over the top "announcer voice" that the category for the racist record about to be relayed (aka section or chapter heading) was read in. It got very old, very fast.
I didn't actually dislike this book as much as I feel like this review makes it seem like I did. I think had some different choices been made about how to deliver the content via the different mediums, it would have been more enjoyable for me. I like Amber Ruffin, and enjoy her commentary and perspective on her show, and so I was expecting to like this a lot more than I did.
For the record, I have not read the first book - it wasn't available, but this one was. I probably will still read that one one day, but I won't do the audio most likely.
Anyway, if you are in the mood for a collection of humorous (even in a SERIOUSLY??! kind of way) anecdotes about racism, this should work for you. But I would recommend reading it with your eyeballs. :)