This has taken me so long to read, but mostly because other things have gotten in the way. Really, it is the sort of short book that should take an afternoon, well, or a life time. This is a bloody great book.
Stigma is an odd idea. You know, Jesus had stigmata – the marks of his death, and therefore resurrection, branded on his body. They were there for all to see. And this is part of the point of the stigmatised. They have a mark that marks them out from those around them – the normals – and this mark is both an identity badge and also a source of shame and difference.
What is most striking about this idea is that a spoiled identity – one that is open to be stigmatised – isn’t only a physically obvious mark. It can also be a characteristic such as being homosexual – much more in Goffman’s time or in Russia or Uganda today say. But it isn’t enough to hide such an identity. Take a prostitute as an example – clearly there are places where a prostitute would much prefer not being known as a prostitute. The standard joke comes to mind of the stripper seeing her uncle or father in the brothel she works in and of her then having to hide. How we love ironic inversions. But prostitutes will hardly get enough work to make a living if they don’t let some people, possible clients, know they are prostitutes. Disclosure and the subsequent risks involved are available to all potentially stigmatised people, but such are virtually inevitable.
This is the book where Goffman came up with the idea of ‘passing’, I believe. Passing is when you share a stigma, but it is not so obvious on you that people might not remain unaware of it. Light skinned Aboriginals in Australia, for example, who, in fact, are often criticised for identifying with Aboriginals at all once their secret is out. “He’s whiter than I am….” Here the insult is felt by the normals who recognise in the Aboriginal still prepared to identify with the stigmatised minority as a rejection of the normals they so easily could assimilate into.
And then how and when should one ‘disclose’ their belonging to a stigmatised group if one can pass? The more interesting problem is around how ‘normal’ you will ever be allowed to be if you don't pass. There is a lovely scene in East of Eden where the cuckolded brother is recovering from his wife leaving him (not just a broken heart, but I've a feeling she stabbed him too) with his two sons and suddenly he realises that his Chinese servant has stopped talking with a Chinaman accent. The Chinese guy says he generally has to talk like that because that is what is expected of him and people literally couldn’t understand him if he didn’t ‘tark rike ris’.
Goffman has such a good eye. I guess the cliché is that he is ‘unflinching’ – and I really will give him that. His final point is that there are no real normals. We are all potentially discreditable. You know, one fart away from a spoiled identity. And if not now, we all hope to grow old enough for this to become virtually a matter of course. And we are not as innocent as we make out. Normals play act mocking the stereotypes of the stigmatised and the stigmatised do the same in mocking normals. The point being that to be able to play act the other means a kind of knowledge of the other – one which might have otherwise lead to empathy.
But, we are no better than we are. What is interesting here is the relationship between the individual and society. There is a sense where we desperately want to believe that the world is made up of individuals – but a quick glance at how we treat those with a stigma puts paid to that. We group people and force them to conform to our idea of how they should behave. Stopping them constantly from truly belonging outside of our definition of what is and is not right for them. They are not individuals; they are representatives of their group, of their kind.
This is such a good book and such a quick read – it is only about 140 pages. But it contains so much, particularly little quotes and footnotes along the way where the stigmatised discuss their strategies and their fears. Honestly, a wonderful read.
Just one thing before I finish - I have an intellectually disabled sister. Her disability is quite obvious, although, perhaps made more so in my mind as it has been a source of shame for much of my life. Anyway, I take her out sometimes and she often says that children have done something - made a rude face or tried to hit her. I generally tell her not to be so stupid and we continue on our way. So, of course, this quote Goffman finds along the way from someone with a stigma stopped me.
"One day I suddenly realised that I had become so self-conscious and afraid of all strange children that, like animals, they knew I was afraid, so that even the mildest and most amiable of them were automatically prompted to derision by my own shrinking and dread."
Here are some quotes.
Society establishes the means of categorizing persons and the complement of attributes felt to be ordinary and natural for members of each of these categories. Social settings establish the categories of persons to be encountered there. The routines of social intercourse in establishing settings allow us to deal with anticipated others without special attention or thought. Page 2
We lean on these anticipations that we have, transforming them into normative expectations, into righteously presented demands. Page 2
A stigma, then, is really a special kind of relationship between attribute and stereotype… page 3
By definition, of course, we believe the person with a stigma is not quite human. Page 5
We tend to impute a wide range of imperfections on the basis of the original one, and at the same time to impute some desirable, but undesired attributes, often of a supernatural cast, such as ‘sixth sense,’ or ‘understanding’. Page 5
Where such repair is possible, what often results is not the acquisition of fully normal status, but a transformation of self from someone with a particular blemish into someone with a record of having corrected a particular blemish. Page 9
Ex-mental patients, for example, are sometimes afraid to engage in sharp interchanges with spouse or employer because of what a show of emotion might be taken as a sign of. Page 15
One day I suddenly realised that I had become so self-conscious and afraid of all strange children that, like animals, they knew I was afraid, so that even the mildest and most amiable of them were automatically prompted to derision by my own shrinking and dread. Page 17
The term ‘category’ is perfectly abstract and can be applied to any aggregate, in this case persons with a particular stigma. Page 23
Since it is through our sense of sight that stigma of others most frequently becomes evident, the term visibility is perhaps not too misleading. Actually, the more general term, ‘perceptibility’ would be more accurate, and ‘evidentness’ more accurate still. Page 48
The area of stigma management, then, might be seen as something that pertains mainly to public life, to contact between strangers or mere acquaintances, to one end of a continuum whose other pole is intimacy. Page 51
Thus, whether we interact with strangers or intimates, we will find that the finger tips of society have reached bluntly into the contact, even here putting us in our place. Page 53
By personal identity, I have in mind only the first two ideas—positive marks or identity pegs, and the unique combination of life history items that come to be attached to the individual with the help of these pegs for his identity. Page 57
Whenever an occupation carries with it a change in name, recorded or not, one can be sure that an important breach is involved between the individual and his old world. Page 58
While the biography has been used by social scientist, especially in the form of a career life history, little attention has been given to the general properties of the concept, except in noting that biographies are very subject to retrospective construction. Page 62
Although there is ample fictional, and even some case history, material on prostitutes, there is very little material of any kind on pimps. Page 79
This partitioning of the individual’s world into forbidden, civil, and back places establishes the going price for revealing or concealing and the significance of being known about or not known about, whatever his choice of information strategies. Page 82
A final possibility must now be considered, one that allows the individual to forego all the others. He can voluntarily disclose himself, thereby radically transforming his situation from that of an individual with information to manage to that of an individual with uneasy social situations to manage, from that of a discreditably person to that of a discredited one. Page 100
There is also ‘disclosure etiquette,’ a formula whereby the individual admits his failing in a matter of fact way, supporting the assumption that those present are above such concerns while preventing them from trapping themselves into showing they are not. Page 101
Whether closely allied with his own kind or not, the stigmatized individual may exhibit identity ambivalence when he obtains a close sight of his own kind behaving in a stereotyped way, flamboyantly or pitifully acting out the negative attributes imputed to them. The sight may repel him, since after all he supports the norms of the wider society, but his social and psychological identification with these offenders holds him to what repels him, transforming repulsion into shame, and then transforming ashamedness itself into something of which he is ashamed. Pages 107-8
He is likely to be warned against ‘minstrelization’ whereby the stigmatized person ingratiatingly acts out before normal the full dance of bad qualities imputed to his kind, thereby consolidating a life situation into a clownish role. Page 110
This something else is groups, in the broad sense of like-situated individuals, and this is only to be expected, since what an individual is, or could be, derives from the place of his kind in the social structure. Page 112
The individual’s real group, then, is the aggregate of person who are likely to have to suffer the same deprivations as he suffers because of having the same stigma; his real ‘group,’ in fact, is the category which can serve as his discrediting. Page 113
The character these spokesmen allow the individual is generated by the relation he has to those of his own kind. If he turns to his group, he is loyal and authentic; if he turns away, he is craven and a fool. Here, surely, is a clear illustration of a basic sociological theme: the nature of an individual, as he himself and we impute it to him, is generated by the nature of his group affiliations. Page 113
By hard work and persistent self-training he should fulfil ordinary standards as fully as he can, stopping short only when the issue of normalification arises; that is, where his efforts might give the impression that he is trying to deny his differentness. Page 115
And because normals have their troubles, too, the stigmatized individual should not feel bitter, resentful, or self-pitying. A cheerful, outgoing manner should be cultivated. Page 116
In these circumstances the stigmatized individual may, for example, attempt to ‘break the ice,’ explicitly referring to his failing in a way that shows he is detached, able to take his condition in his stride. In addition to matter-of-factness, levity is also recommended. Page 116
Innumerable times I have seen the fear and bewilderment in people’s eyes vanish as I have stretched out my hand for help, and I have felt life and warmth stream from the helping hands I have taken. We are not always aware of the help we may give by accepting aid, that in this way we may establish a foothold for contact. Page 118
The line inspired by normals, then, obliges the stigmatized individual to protect normals in various ways. Page 119
He will then attempt to participate in areas of contact which others feel are not his proper place … “I tried a joke, the usual thing about getting a haircut once every three months even if I didn’t need it. It was a mistake. The silence told me that I wasn’t a man who should make jokes, not even good ones.” Pages 119-20
When a stigmatized person employs this stance of good adjustment he is often said to have a strong character or a deep philosophy of life, perhaps because in the back of our minds we normals want to find an explanation of his willingness and ability to act this way. Page 121
The general formula is apparent. The stigmatized individual is asked to act so as to imply neither that his burden is heavy nor that bearing it has made him different from us; at the same time he must keep himself at that remove from us which ensures our painlessly being able to confirm this belief about him. Page 122
And in truth he will have accepted a self for himself; but this self is, as it necessarily must be, a resident alien, a voice of the group that speaks for and through him. Page 123
The special situation of the stigmatized is that society tells him he is a member of the wider group, which means he is a normal human being, but that he is also ‘different’ in some degree, and that it would be foolish to deny this difference. Page 123
This report argues differently. The most fortunate of normals is likely to have his half-hidden failing. Page 127
The fully and visibly stigmatized, in turn, must suffer the special indignity of knowing that they wear their situation on their sleeve, that almost anyone will be able to see into the heart of their predicament. Page 127
It is a question of the individuals condition, not his will; it is a question of conformance, not compliance. Page 128
For example, in an important sense there is only one complete unblemished male in America: a young, married, white, urban, northern, heterosexual Protestant father of college education, fully employed, of good complexion, weight, and height, and a recent record in sports. Page 128
One can therefore suspect that the role of normal and the role of stigmatized are parts of the same complex, cuts from the same standard cloth. Page 130
Questions about how I lost my leg used to annoy me, so I developed a stock answer that kept these people from asking further: “I borrowed some money from a loan company and they are holding my leg for security!” Page 136
The normal and the stigmatized are not persons but rather perspectives. Page 138
But in addition, social deviants often feel that they are not merely equal to but better than normals. Page 145