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The Easy Peasy Way to Quit Porn
full reading of easypeasymethod.org, enabling you to painlessly quit porn immediately, without willpower or any sense of deprivation or sacrifice. a link to the mp3 is located on the website.
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March 15, 2022
Though I appreciate the effort, this book is pretty useless. It basically copy/pastes all the ideas from Allen Carr's book about quitting smoking, but it's slimmed down and therefor gives too little time to undo the supposed brainwashing. So it's less effective in my experience. Besides that, I have similar criticism about this book as about Allen Carr's book: it only tries to help you rid yourself of a symptom of a problem, not the problem itself.
What's very dangerous about books like that of Allen Carr, and this book perhaps even more so, is that the writer assigns himself something of an authority position, of supposed superior knowledge and an imagined ability to teach others. But sadly, that position is not based on anything but a very subjective own experience in which the methods described in this book seemingly applied. They seem entirely unaware of the possibility that placebo, for instance, is in fact the sole reason their method worked in the first place. There is literally no scientific basis for any of what this book claims, which is the danger of basing your entire proposed method of quitting on another book, which also had no scientific basis.
Now I'll happily admit that I managed to quit smoking with Allen Carr's book (after several attempts with his book), but I believe the risk is that once you've used that trick, it's less likely to work again to the same extent. Because this book is, with all due respect, a cheap rip-off from that other book, the effects for me personally were that I started overthinking my porn use even more, and that it only became more problematic as a result of this book, not less so. Besides that, there is of course a significant difference between smoking and watching porn to orgasm. While porn, like smoking, doesn't occur in nature, orgasming obviously does, and almost everyone in existence is evidence of that. Many psychologists in fact agree that watching porn is not an addiction, it's not problematic, it's just excessive use which is problematic. If you find yourself suffering from erectile disfunction, many psychologists would agree that's more likely because you judge your own porn use / masturbation rather than your (supposed) addiction to it.
With all that said, and a lot more scientifically based resources investigated since reading this book, I would have to conclude that this book, sadly, has less than zero value. It is in fact likely to increase your problems or your unhealthy views on your own sexuality. Now that doesn't mean you might not be suffering from issues on this subject. You may judge yourself unfairly and have problems as a result of it, or for instance you may excessively use porn and make it into a problem. Of course you may also find yourself disagreeing with the specific types of porn you are viewing.
All of that is certainly a great reason to get help and work on your issues. However I would strongly suggest finding help from a trained and certified professional, or if you'd prefer a cheaper, more accessible and perhaps more anonymous alternative, as I generally would prefer, you may want to check out scientifically proven books about for instance ACT (acceptance and commitment therapy) or modern CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy). You won't just be able to improve your relationship with porn and masturbation, but many other psychology related topics besides.
What's very dangerous about books like that of Allen Carr, and this book perhaps even more so, is that the writer assigns himself something of an authority position, of supposed superior knowledge and an imagined ability to teach others. But sadly, that position is not based on anything but a very subjective own experience in which the methods described in this book seemingly applied. They seem entirely unaware of the possibility that placebo, for instance, is in fact the sole reason their method worked in the first place. There is literally no scientific basis for any of what this book claims, which is the danger of basing your entire proposed method of quitting on another book, which also had no scientific basis.
Now I'll happily admit that I managed to quit smoking with Allen Carr's book (after several attempts with his book), but I believe the risk is that once you've used that trick, it's less likely to work again to the same extent. Because this book is, with all due respect, a cheap rip-off from that other book, the effects for me personally were that I started overthinking my porn use even more, and that it only became more problematic as a result of this book, not less so. Besides that, there is of course a significant difference between smoking and watching porn to orgasm. While porn, like smoking, doesn't occur in nature, orgasming obviously does, and almost everyone in existence is evidence of that. Many psychologists in fact agree that watching porn is not an addiction, it's not problematic, it's just excessive use which is problematic. If you find yourself suffering from erectile disfunction, many psychologists would agree that's more likely because you judge your own porn use / masturbation rather than your (supposed) addiction to it.
With all that said, and a lot more scientifically based resources investigated since reading this book, I would have to conclude that this book, sadly, has less than zero value. It is in fact likely to increase your problems or your unhealthy views on your own sexuality. Now that doesn't mean you might not be suffering from issues on this subject. You may judge yourself unfairly and have problems as a result of it, or for instance you may excessively use porn and make it into a problem. Of course you may also find yourself disagreeing with the specific types of porn you are viewing.
All of that is certainly a great reason to get help and work on your issues. However I would strongly suggest finding help from a trained and certified professional, or if you'd prefer a cheaper, more accessible and perhaps more anonymous alternative, as I generally would prefer, you may want to check out scientifically proven books about for instance ACT (acceptance and commitment therapy) or modern CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy). You won't just be able to improve your relationship with porn and masturbation, but many other psychology related topics besides.
August 4, 2021
It's a marvelous book. It made me understand that when I view pornography it isn't simply a bad habit it's an addiction. There was never a point in my life where I told myself "I must continue watching pornography." I see pornography now as something I don't need instead of something desirable I have to try to avoid. I would highly recommend it to anyone!
October 29, 2022
"Wash your penis, but no more." -Dr. Jordan Peterson.
stop whacking it all the time
stop whacking it all the time
September 7, 2021
I’ve ready over 10 books on sexual addiction so far, this is the worst book I’ve ever read. The way in which it’s written makes it unbearable to read, the author then has the audacity to say don’t skip any chapters, when every chapter you read is just the same thing. being repeated to you. His under the assumption that people will not remember anything from the book. His right about that part because it’s just too painful to read. Also the author bases everything from his personal experiences and assumes everyone is like him, most of the book is about the reason why you watch porn is because of the “withdrawal pangs” towards the end of the book he gives a solution. JUST TELL YOURSELF THAT YOUR GOING TO QUIT. Are you serious? You make someone read nearly 90 pages of garbage and end it with no actual solution. Please save yourself from the pain, don’t read this book.
I’ve read books that are actually good, I recommend reading “Power over pornography, by Brian Brandenburg.
I’ve read books that are actually good, I recommend reading “Power over pornography, by Brian Brandenburg.
February 16, 2021
There's a certain brainwashing that makes the frequent consumer of porn justify its use. This book takes the veil off that illusion and helps people come to grips with what is most likely the reality of their situation: which is, "porn isn't a bad habit; it's an addiction." The dispelling of the myths surrounding porn alone makes this a book worth reading. But it goes on to add practical strategies for you to purge this addiction from your mind and body by reframing the recovery process in a way where you don't feel like you're sacrificing anything, or giving up something meaningful. Rather, you're letting go of something that's been problematic and holding you back from enjoying a meaningful relationship with yourself and others.
May 1, 2022
I AM A NON-USER. I AM NOT A COOMER!
This book is really amazing in exposing porn as the true addiction it is. I fully recommend this to people who wants to beat this addiction problem. 100%!
This book is really amazing in exposing porn as the true addiction it is. I fully recommend this to people who wants to beat this addiction problem. 100%!
December 30, 2021
The title of the book might make u not want to read it because of how hopeless u feel u currently are and might make u feel dumb too, but please give it a try if u have this addiction, even I was skeptical but it somehow worked for me.
Edit/update: the method failed after 4 months for me, as the author warns u previously, if you relapse (especially multiple times) the method doesn't really work, i have since then quit trying to apply this method as re-reading it and making detailed notes was getting me nowhere and instead more frustrated.
I don't blame the book entirely for what happened with me but I do feel that people with strong addictions and bad traumas (most addicts have some form of childhood trauma, that is what I am looking at next as something which might help me) will relapse some time and then the book fails to do anything and u even end up feeling worse as the book somewhat makes u believe that this is the only way to quit porn, it's not really imposed but there is a certain gut feeling you get.
It's worth a try still I guess but if u fail and relapse I'd look elsewhere, than trying to force it more and more.
Edit/update: the method failed after 4 months for me, as the author warns u previously, if you relapse (especially multiple times) the method doesn't really work, i have since then quit trying to apply this method as re-reading it and making detailed notes was getting me nowhere and instead more frustrated.
I don't blame the book entirely for what happened with me but I do feel that people with strong addictions and bad traumas (most addicts have some form of childhood trauma, that is what I am looking at next as something which might help me) will relapse some time and then the book fails to do anything and u even end up feeling worse as the book somewhat makes u believe that this is the only way to quit porn, it's not really imposed but there is a certain gut feeling you get.
It's worth a try still I guess but if u fail and relapse I'd look elsewhere, than trying to force it more and more.
This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.
May 4, 2025
أعتقد أنه طرح مقبول للغاية ويتقاطع مع أطر التعافي التي يطرحها فريق واعي في كثير من المبادئ، ولو تمّ دمج الطريقتين أرى أنه سيساهم في رفع نسب النجاح في التعافي من إدمان الإباحية خاصةً ضمن الإطار الديني والروحي الأكبر.
اللهمّ ثبتنا على هذا الثغر واكتب لنا القبول وعافنا واعف عنّا
شعبان 1446
اللهمّ ثبتنا على هذا الثغر واكتب لنا القبول وعافنا واعف عنّا
شعبان 1446
May 13, 2021
This book is a must if you want to quit porn as this will give you the right mindset to quit porn.
Before you start your no PMO journey please read this entire book first and then start
Before you start your no PMO journey please read this entire book first and then start
December 18, 2021
I believe there are some topics this book left out and could be added in future editions, like how porns affects LGBTQIA+ community specifically could have its own chapter, also how hook up apps like tinder or grindr use the same dopamine hunting mechanisms found in porn to make you hooked and naturalize cheating. Nonetheless, all in all this book was really important for me because it opened my eyes to see the porn trap before I let it ruin my life (I didn't even consider it a problem before reading the book, let alone recognizing myself as an porn addicted) and making my life better. Probably I'm gonna have to reread it at some point so I don't forget anything nor doubt my choice to quit porn once and for all, but this book is just amazing. Amazing how knowledge can set us free.
March 2, 2021
I’m so happy to be done with porn. I would definitely recommend this method to anyone wanting to leave the chains of any addiction they want to move past (alcohol, nicotine, weed, caffeine, sugar, etc). And porn is addictive no matter how casual one’s use - it has a special way of messing with your innate drive to procreate.
It’s really mostly about a positive mindset as opposed to creating a “deficit” through using willpower. Nobody wants to do what they don’t want to do, so recognize that you really don’t want that dopamine crutch in your life and are truly better off without it.
It’s really mostly about a positive mindset as opposed to creating a “deficit” through using willpower. Nobody wants to do what they don’t want to do, so recognize that you really don’t want that dopamine crutch in your life and are truly better off without it.
May 16, 2025
علي عكس كل كتابات مناقشه مشكلة الاباحية وطرق علاجها. وضح الكاتب مشكلة طرق العلاقة التي ترتكز علي قوة الإرادة للتعافي او التخفيف التدريجي, وطرح فكره جديده هي محاولة توعية المستخدم ب اصل الادمان (كما يجب تسميته بدل مسمي العادة السرية "الكاتب") الا وهو غسيل الدماغ (الوحش الكبير) او وهم الاحتياج للإباحية(الوحش الصغير) وارتكز علي توضيح منافع الإباحية اللي لا يوجد منها اي نفع واضرار الإباحية (ضرر جسمي ونفسي واجتماعي).
ومن اهم الافكار اللتي يطرحها الكاتب علي عكس علي برامج التعافي هي اعتبار المستخدم متعافي من لحظة اتخاذ قرار التوقف عن الممارسة وعدم انتظار فترة ال ٢١ او ال ٣٠ او ال ٥٠ او ال ٩٠ يوم وهي صراحة من افضل الافكار في الكتاب.
ومن اهم الافكار اللتي يطرحها الكاتب علي عكس علي برامج التعافي هي اعتبار المستخدم متعافي من لحظة اتخاذ قرار التوقف عن الممارسة وعدم انتظار فترة ال ٢١ او ال ٣٠ او ال ٥٠ او ال ٩٠ يوم وهي صراحة من افضل الافكار في الكتاب.
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June 18, 2021Ill update this review after some time to see if Easypeasy does work
January 9, 2023
I've seen this e-book mentioned often on the internet, and my curiosity got the better of me namely because of two things; I never heard about a "hackbook" and wanted to read one to learn about it, but also because there are countless of places on the web explaining the negative effects associated with porn, however it still seems this way of 'bad mouthing' doesn't really help it's cause and this epidemic is ever spreading (see the rise of Onlyfans and similar services promoted on social media today).
I am gonna give a warning here; personally I think the best way to know about this book is by experiencing it. It's free on their website, so the only value you have to trade is your time. Spoiling the innerworks and condensing it doesn't do the book justice, and if you really want to quit a bad habit (whether it be porn, or anything else) I think you should read it before finishing this review. So go read it if you want to!
With that out of the way, let's get into the meat of this topic. The EasyPeasy Way To Quit Porn is a hackbook written by a semi-anonymous writer. "A hackbook" I hear you say? The writer names his book this way because it is based on another book written by Alan Carr, called "The Easyway to quit smoking", basically transforming most of the writing to fit the narrative of porn addiction instead of smoking addiction. However the method really stays the same for the most part.
The book isn't here to scare you into quitting porn (no, you won't grow hair on your knuckles or go blind), but it is here to explain the societal brainwashing around the subject. Porn is used in everything, whether it be advertising, entertainment, or even education, and with a huge industry like this, you want to ensure your users believe in your product; that it brings more value to the user in general, and gives you a (pretty much) free relaxant for most stressors in your life.
The book goes ahead and pulls the rug right beneath this false belief. Porn doesn't alleviate problems, it creates problems and hides behind a curtain of fake medical studies, sense of value and maybe even the worst of all, the societal belief that it's 'normal'.
Just like most drugs, porn is a hyperstimulus humans weren't supposed to achieve by nature. Getting to see whatever you want, whenever you want at the simple press of a button. More and more evidence is being uprooted around this issue, and my belief is it won't be long until we see "anti-smoking"-like restrictions and appeals being used against this.
Where this book differs in most methods, is that it doesn't rely on "willpower", but it aims to teach you about this brainwashing so you get to escape this habit for the most normal reason of all; because you don't like it, because there is no value in this act.
I like this approach; quitting a nasty addiction like porn or smoking can be achieved through willpower, but it has a huge fallacy: you will never feel free from it, and every day will feel like a battle. When you see no value in doing this addiction, what leaves you to keep doing it anyway (other than physical withdrawals for a few weeks at best, which are easily overcome when you know that it only destroys you, as the author puts it "drinking bleach is not an addiction").
I refrain to give it 5 stars for the simple reason that I feel like the book sometimes maybe drags a point on a bit too much, and that the writing sometimes is a bit too preachy.
Like I've said, I condensed this book to the extreme, as there is much more discussed in this book. I feel the best way to explore this book is by reading it yourself, or maybe listen to the audio book on YouTube.
I am gonna give a warning here; personally I think the best way to know about this book is by experiencing it. It's free on their website, so the only value you have to trade is your time. Spoiling the innerworks and condensing it doesn't do the book justice, and if you really want to quit a bad habit (whether it be porn, or anything else) I think you should read it before finishing this review. So go read it if you want to!
With that out of the way, let's get into the meat of this topic. The EasyPeasy Way To Quit Porn is a hackbook written by a semi-anonymous writer. "A hackbook" I hear you say? The writer names his book this way because it is based on another book written by Alan Carr, called "The Easyway to quit smoking", basically transforming most of the writing to fit the narrative of porn addiction instead of smoking addiction. However the method really stays the same for the most part.
The book isn't here to scare you into quitting porn (no, you won't grow hair on your knuckles or go blind), but it is here to explain the societal brainwashing around the subject. Porn is used in everything, whether it be advertising, entertainment, or even education, and with a huge industry like this, you want to ensure your users believe in your product; that it brings more value to the user in general, and gives you a (pretty much) free relaxant for most stressors in your life.
The book goes ahead and pulls the rug right beneath this false belief. Porn doesn't alleviate problems, it creates problems and hides behind a curtain of fake medical studies, sense of value and maybe even the worst of all, the societal belief that it's 'normal'.
Just like most drugs, porn is a hyperstimulus humans weren't supposed to achieve by nature. Getting to see whatever you want, whenever you want at the simple press of a button. More and more evidence is being uprooted around this issue, and my belief is it won't be long until we see "anti-smoking"-like restrictions and appeals being used against this.
Where this book differs in most methods, is that it doesn't rely on "willpower", but it aims to teach you about this brainwashing so you get to escape this habit for the most normal reason of all; because you don't like it, because there is no value in this act.
I like this approach; quitting a nasty addiction like porn or smoking can be achieved through willpower, but it has a huge fallacy: you will never feel free from it, and every day will feel like a battle. When you see no value in doing this addiction, what leaves you to keep doing it anyway (other than physical withdrawals for a few weeks at best, which are easily overcome when you know that it only destroys you, as the author puts it "drinking bleach is not an addiction").
I refrain to give it 5 stars for the simple reason that I feel like the book sometimes maybe drags a point on a bit too much, and that the writing sometimes is a bit too preachy.
Like I've said, I condensed this book to the extreme, as there is much more discussed in this book. I feel the best way to explore this book is by reading it yourself, or maybe listen to the audio book on YouTube.
This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.
July 18, 2021
El libro cumple con lo que promete, ya que el método es bastante claro y ataca directamente a la raíz del problema a la mente.
No intenta enseñarte como bloquear el buscador, no intenta asustarte sobre todo lo malo que va a ser tu vida si sigues con esos vicios. Sino que destroza cada uno de los argumentos que has aprendido por otros y tu mente utiliza contra ti y en contra de tu voluntad para hacerte perder tu tiempo.
Te quita todos y cada uno de esos falsos pensamientos, y te deja ver la verdad, de que no tienes nada que perder si deja tus vicios y tienes todo para ganar, como el lo menciona una Apuesta de Pascal.
No hay nada que perder puedes vivir tu vida libre de toda esclavitud mental, y cada vez que eso se te atraviese por la mente, piensa Gracias a Dios Que Soy libre
No intenta enseñarte como bloquear el buscador, no intenta asustarte sobre todo lo malo que va a ser tu vida si sigues con esos vicios. Sino que destroza cada uno de los argumentos que has aprendido por otros y tu mente utiliza contra ti y en contra de tu voluntad para hacerte perder tu tiempo.
Te quita todos y cada uno de esos falsos pensamientos, y te deja ver la verdad, de que no tienes nada que perder si deja tus vicios y tienes todo para ganar, como el lo menciona una Apuesta de Pascal.
No hay nada que perder puedes vivir tu vida libre de toda esclavitud mental, y cada vez que eso se te atraviese por la mente, piensa Gracias a Dios Que Soy libre
August 14, 2021
The book is okish, I love how it suggests change of mindset instead of willingness. But I don't like lot of the blaming there like porn industry being some evil entity and wanting government to enforce stuff on porn industry. No, just no.
January 18, 2021
Phenomenal. Anyone who tries using the "willpower method" should read this book, it is based on Allen Carr's series on beating other forms of addiction. Cannot recommend this book enough.
July 2, 2023
It's not a literally piece of art but has insights that can be helpful in the ongoing battle against porn. If you are therapist or a consumer of porn you should read it.
November 1, 2025
The method is about eliminating and breaking all the beliefs held by users about any positive outcome that might come up to one's mind when thinking about using porn regularly, then making a final hard-core decision from the bottom of one's soul to not ever access any filth website or indulge in any pornographic material ever - wether on social media, porn websites, reading magazines...etc.
The author spends a huge part at the beginning of the book repeating the same points over and over, which I found amazing. He made sure to get it into the readers mind that any thought of wanting to use again Stems from the "BRAINWASHING", thinking that coming back to the addiction and feeding the little monster would have any benefit. while, in fact, using will only be a temporary relief of the intense withdrawal symptoms that will eventually hit again after a couple days of relapsing. And each time you relapse the withdrawals will get more and more intense, so the best time to get rid of that filth is always NOW.
Read the book. Eliminate the brainwashing. make the final decision to quit for eternity, and make it from the bottom of your testicles, not just as vague words - you must believe that you're gonna quit forever for the placebo to work and for you to quit without experiencing any major withdrawal.
God bless you Hackauthor if you're reading this, you contributed into changing my life <3
The author spends a huge part at the beginning of the book repeating the same points over and over, which I found amazing. He made sure to get it into the readers mind that any thought of wanting to use again Stems from the "BRAINWASHING", thinking that coming back to the addiction and feeding the little monster would have any benefit. while, in fact, using will only be a temporary relief of the intense withdrawal symptoms that will eventually hit again after a couple days of relapsing. And each time you relapse the withdrawals will get more and more intense, so the best time to get rid of that filth is always NOW.
Read the book. Eliminate the brainwashing. make the final decision to quit for eternity, and make it from the bottom of your testicles, not just as vague words - you must believe that you're gonna quit forever for the placebo to work and for you to quit without experiencing any major withdrawal.
God bless you Hackauthor if you're reading this, you contributed into changing my life <3
July 9, 2025
I think this is a pretty good book surprisingly with good information in it. For people that regularly consume pornography, I would recommend this as a helpful read along with 'Your Brain on Porn' by Gary Wilson. I find that the two readings seem to compliment each other: on one hand, Gary Wilson's book provides solid science on the damaging effects of pornography, while Hackauthors provides the following methodology. Knowing the science from Wilson's book makes this book's statements a lot more believable as without it, this guy just seems to be talking out his ass, as how a lot of 'self-developpment' gurus do online, talking about studies, here and there without referencing them, or by asserting his opinions confidently as if they are facts to be taken for granted. In any case, the case for both books complete each other, science backed up by method, and method backed up by science.
In reaction to a certain stimuli, certain behaviours in our body will naturally be provoked. We have deeply embedded instincts to certain things in our environment like salivating upon seeing food, or flinching when hearing loud sounds. However, our instincts seem to have no bounds, we've found that even when creating completely exaggerated versions of such stimuli, that appeal to our instincts while no longer providing the originally desired outcome from the reaction, we will prefer to turn to such exaggerated stimuli. This concept is labelled, supernormal stimuli, a stimuli that "hijacks [our] animal instincts beyond their evolutionary purposes" (p9, McMillen). That is to say we all still have vestiges of instincts that have evolved for us to survive in the wild despite being in completely different environments. These instincts are taken advantage often in food for example, as we opt for delicious, refined food which has become more appealing than nutritious food, and more relevant would be pornography. Our brains while watching pornography believe that we're having sex, giving ourselves the same flood of chemicals we would normally have during the act as it believes that we're engaging ourselves in a normally rare act. But we aren't! And yet our instincts have no limit, we will instinctually prefer these supernormal stimuli over the real thing, making it especially dangerous when things are readily available.
That's where the trouble of pornography really starts, a supernormal stimuli that is too readily available, often present in the medias, and portable within our phones. To overcome this, we often think about resorting to our willpower. We tell ourselves, "no, I won't watch pornography anymore because of [damage to relationships, self-induced ED, etc.]" and this method is extremely difficult to make successful. It implies two important things: 1) that if you hold out for long enough, the desires to watch pornography will efface themselves eventually and 2) that you are sacrificing pornography for the greater good, that is to say, giving up something good in exchange for better. This method is often doomed to fail because your instincts are a lot stronger than you think they and they do not fatigue, your willpower is often turned to stone thinking about the unending road in front of you of having to constantly combat this urge that doesn't seem to be weakening. It becomes doubly impossible when you discover that porn use is linked heavily to stress relief, you use it to destress, and yet the path to giving up pornography is filled with stress, reinforcing the desire to resort to pornography. Willpower is a finite resource and eventually you WILL cede.
This author's is slightly different but it has an interesting change. It firstly reframes your mind's perspective on pornography in general, breaks down common excuses of users that explain their subtly hides their lack of commitment to giving up, and then provides tips on how to follow his method. Apparently he heavily samples on Allen Carr's book on quitting smoking so that might be an interesting read too.
Do you actually enjoy watching pornography? Do you? Well, according to the author, you THINK you enjoy pornography, but that's not really the case. You enjoy pornography as much as a heroin addict enjoys heroin after withdrawals. Or a binge eater stress eating to relieve themselves. You might be able to go days or weeks without pornography, but eventually, you will watch some and tell yourself, WOW I love it! I just can't resist it! To the author, you're addicted and have come up with a series of lies to excuse your addiction.
In order to quit pornography, it's important to reconsider, are you actually sacrificing something by giving up porn? That would imply that it is a real joy in the first place, and it's not, it's a demon that's dug a hole in you and then promised to fill it back up. Imagine this, if your parents were originally slapping you 10 times a day and then reduced it to 1 time a day, are they actually doing something good? Obviously not! Pornography is like that, it has CREATED an itch inside you that needs to be fulfilled, like drinking a poison that is also a temporary antidote to itself, you're still drinking poison! Is that logical? It's important to reconsider pornography not as a tool that relieves stress as any stress it does relieve, is self-created, therefore pornography OVERALL causes stress.
To succeed this method, it's essential to undo what he designates as "brainwashing". We've been taught by society that porn is harmless, and perhaps even helpful as it may be educational and teach us about sex. Is that even true? Not really, porn is a fantasy with little connection to real sex. The book isn't super convincing on this point imo so I would leave the sciency part to the other book I was referring to.
The book starts debunking really popular coping methods for people trying to wean off pornography such as people that only look at softcore pornography, or take just a glance, casual users etc., saying that all these methods are ineffective because it implicitly reinforces your "need" to see pornography, it feeds the addiction as you learn that you can't be independent.
The last important point I think is learning to avoid the mental trap that is, that quitting pornography is difficult. Hence the title, the easy peasy method. Why? Because you unknowingly create stress for yourself, and what do addicts do when feeling stressed? It simply feeds into it more. It's essential that you actively reflect on your desire and tell yourself that pornography is simply an addictive poison that provides no real benefit. You will be faced with urges to watch pornography but it doesn't mean that you must act on these urges. Simply take note of these passing desires and stay in control with yourself, there is no battle to be had, continue looking forward, and tell yourself what a joy it is to no longer poison yourself. It's simply illogical to continue consuming pornography in the same way you wouldn't drink bleach, hit your head on a wall or kick bricks.
In the end, it comes down to these main tips:
1. There is nothing to give up! There is no genuine pleasure from pornography, simply an illusion like "banging your head against a wall to get pleasure when you stop".
2. Don't try not to think about porn or worry that you're thinking about it constantly, simply think "YIPPEEE! I'M NOT A PORN USER!"
3. No substitues, don't stress yourself and be on edge around pornography, just keep living normally but without it.
4. Any moment is the good moment to start.
Anyways, that's the whole book. Whereas willpower only method takes away stimuli which leads to a fading desire, easypeasy method takes away the desire which leads to naturally wanting to get off stimuli. Yet, it doesn't scare you into not doing it anymore such as demonstrating the harmful effects on it (which in turn stresses you out more), it simply shows that it isn't logical to watch pornography.
He refers to two main systems that keep you hooked, a big monster, and a little monster. The big monster is your brainwashed desire, you've tricked yourself into thinking you like pornography, which the book seeks to get rid of. The little monster is the literal developped neural pathways that your brain has developped over the years. The author acknowledges that the book doesn't provide many tools for combatting this as it implies that once the big monster is rid of, eventually so does the little. Is this the case for everyone? Probably not, so that is the current flaw with this. How do you let these neural pathways fade? He says that they fade with time, as you learn not to use them anymore (such as taking peeks, softcore etc.), but for some people, this may be more difficult.
Anyways, that's the whole method. The book sometimes feels like a masculinzed version of habit formation and all that, and as well, mindfulness as he mentions how positive affirmations are really important. The idea is packaged well and I think it's worth a shot for anyone having a hard time. My main criticisms of the book are brief: ignoring the repetitive writing, the book can read hypocritically at times, in that it occasionally calls users pathetic, which it also mentions not to do. Though I get it, it's like when you feel compassion so much, you want to help somebody so much and yet sometimes people seem helpless, and so your compassion turns into frustration.
Ok yeah that's all, thx for reading.
In reaction to a certain stimuli, certain behaviours in our body will naturally be provoked. We have deeply embedded instincts to certain things in our environment like salivating upon seeing food, or flinching when hearing loud sounds. However, our instincts seem to have no bounds, we've found that even when creating completely exaggerated versions of such stimuli, that appeal to our instincts while no longer providing the originally desired outcome from the reaction, we will prefer to turn to such exaggerated stimuli. This concept is labelled, supernormal stimuli, a stimuli that "hijacks [our] animal instincts beyond their evolutionary purposes" (p9, McMillen). That is to say we all still have vestiges of instincts that have evolved for us to survive in the wild despite being in completely different environments. These instincts are taken advantage often in food for example, as we opt for delicious, refined food which has become more appealing than nutritious food, and more relevant would be pornography. Our brains while watching pornography believe that we're having sex, giving ourselves the same flood of chemicals we would normally have during the act as it believes that we're engaging ourselves in a normally rare act. But we aren't! And yet our instincts have no limit, we will instinctually prefer these supernormal stimuli over the real thing, making it especially dangerous when things are readily available.
That's where the trouble of pornography really starts, a supernormal stimuli that is too readily available, often present in the medias, and portable within our phones. To overcome this, we often think about resorting to our willpower. We tell ourselves, "no, I won't watch pornography anymore because of [damage to relationships, self-induced ED, etc.]" and this method is extremely difficult to make successful. It implies two important things: 1) that if you hold out for long enough, the desires to watch pornography will efface themselves eventually and 2) that you are sacrificing pornography for the greater good, that is to say, giving up something good in exchange for better. This method is often doomed to fail because your instincts are a lot stronger than you think they and they do not fatigue, your willpower is often turned to stone thinking about the unending road in front of you of having to constantly combat this urge that doesn't seem to be weakening. It becomes doubly impossible when you discover that porn use is linked heavily to stress relief, you use it to destress, and yet the path to giving up pornography is filled with stress, reinforcing the desire to resort to pornography. Willpower is a finite resource and eventually you WILL cede.
This author's is slightly different but it has an interesting change. It firstly reframes your mind's perspective on pornography in general, breaks down common excuses of users that explain their subtly hides their lack of commitment to giving up, and then provides tips on how to follow his method. Apparently he heavily samples on Allen Carr's book on quitting smoking so that might be an interesting read too.
Do you actually enjoy watching pornography? Do you? Well, according to the author, you THINK you enjoy pornography, but that's not really the case. You enjoy pornography as much as a heroin addict enjoys heroin after withdrawals. Or a binge eater stress eating to relieve themselves. You might be able to go days or weeks without pornography, but eventually, you will watch some and tell yourself, WOW I love it! I just can't resist it! To the author, you're addicted and have come up with a series of lies to excuse your addiction.
Porn addicts no more choose to watch porn than alcoholics choose to become alcoholics, than heroin addicts choose to become heroin addicts... Occassionally I choose to go to the cinema, but I certainly didn't choose to spend my whole life in [there]... at what stage did you decide that you needed porn, that you needed it permanently in your life...?
In order to quit pornography, it's important to reconsider, are you actually sacrificing something by giving up porn? That would imply that it is a real joy in the first place, and it's not, it's a demon that's dug a hole in you and then promised to fill it back up. Imagine this, if your parents were originally slapping you 10 times a day and then reduced it to 1 time a day, are they actually doing something good? Obviously not! Pornography is like that, it has CREATED an itch inside you that needs to be fulfilled, like drinking a poison that is also a temporary antidote to itself, you're still drinking poison! Is that logical? It's important to reconsider pornography not as a tool that relieves stress as any stress it does relieve, is self-created, therefore pornography OVERALL causes stress.
To succeed this method, it's essential to undo what he designates as "brainwashing". We've been taught by society that porn is harmless, and perhaps even helpful as it may be educational and teach us about sex. Is that even true? Not really, porn is a fantasy with little connection to real sex. The book isn't super convincing on this point imo so I would leave the sciency part to the other book I was referring to.
The book starts debunking really popular coping methods for people trying to wean off pornography such as people that only look at softcore pornography, or take just a glance, casual users etc., saying that all these methods are ineffective because it implicitly reinforces your "need" to see pornography, it feeds the addiction as you learn that you can't be independent.
The last important point I think is learning to avoid the mental trap that is, that quitting pornography is difficult. Hence the title, the easy peasy method. Why? Because you unknowingly create stress for yourself, and what do addicts do when feeling stressed? It simply feeds into it more. It's essential that you actively reflect on your desire and tell yourself that pornography is simply an addictive poison that provides no real benefit. You will be faced with urges to watch pornography but it doesn't mean that you must act on these urges. Simply take note of these passing desires and stay in control with yourself, there is no battle to be had, continue looking forward, and tell yourself what a joy it is to no longer poison yourself. It's simply illogical to continue consuming pornography in the same way you wouldn't drink bleach, hit your head on a wall or kick bricks.
In the end, it comes down to these main tips:
1. There is nothing to give up! There is no genuine pleasure from pornography, simply an illusion like "banging your head against a wall to get pleasure when you stop".
2. Don't try not to think about porn or worry that you're thinking about it constantly, simply think "YIPPEEE! I'M NOT A PORN USER!"
3. No substitues, don't stress yourself and be on edge around pornography, just keep living normally but without it.
4. Any moment is the good moment to start.
Anyways, that's the whole book. Whereas willpower only method takes away stimuli which leads to a fading desire, easypeasy method takes away the desire which leads to naturally wanting to get off stimuli. Yet, it doesn't scare you into not doing it anymore such as demonstrating the harmful effects on it (which in turn stresses you out more), it simply shows that it isn't logical to watch pornography.
He refers to two main systems that keep you hooked, a big monster, and a little monster. The big monster is your brainwashed desire, you've tricked yourself into thinking you like pornography, which the book seeks to get rid of. The little monster is the literal developped neural pathways that your brain has developped over the years. The author acknowledges that the book doesn't provide many tools for combatting this as it implies that once the big monster is rid of, eventually so does the little. Is this the case for everyone? Probably not, so that is the current flaw with this. How do you let these neural pathways fade? He says that they fade with time, as you learn not to use them anymore (such as taking peeks, softcore etc.), but for some people, this may be more difficult.
Anyways, that's the whole method. The book sometimes feels like a masculinzed version of habit formation and all that, and as well, mindfulness as he mentions how positive affirmations are really important. The idea is packaged well and I think it's worth a shot for anyone having a hard time. My main criticisms of the book are brief: ignoring the repetitive writing, the book can read hypocritically at times, in that it occasionally calls users pathetic, which it also mentions not to do. Though I get it, it's like when you feel compassion so much, you want to help somebody so much and yet sometimes people seem helpless, and so your compassion turns into frustration.
Ok yeah that's all, thx for reading.
August 15, 2023
Noticeably flawed. Nevertheless I feel it's an acceptable enough starting point for kicking a pornography addiction.
Messy writing. Sometimes the mess is big enough to inadvertently give seemingly contradicting information. The writing frequently repeats itself, which is probably by design to reinforce points the author wants to make. But it's hard to tell if repetitive writing is an intentional tactic for reader retention, or messy writing.
Content focuses on the emotional addictions of pornography over the physical addictions, and seeks to remedy the emotional addictions of pornography. Therefore expect very little, if any, scientific approaches to quitting pornography addictions in favor of preaching from personal experiences to motivate the reader into quitting. Easy Peasy shall only be as effective as the faith you put into the information being true in the absence of hard evidence.
Since the effectiveness of Easy Peasy depends on your faith, having preconceptions may help your understanding of the material, such as, One: Even in modern civilization, there are bad actors that seek to turn people into nothing more than a compliant slave for the bad actor's gain at the people's expense. And Two: The pornography industry is one such bad actor.
Unfortunately, there is one lesson that I feel is critically important which Easy Peasy implies, but denies the existence of anyway, so that Easy Peasy might accuse other quitting methods of that which Easy Peasy is guilty of doing, albeit in a slightly different way. The lesson is without moving to someplace that is utterly empty of superfluous sexuality, there is no way to be truly free of falling into the traps of said superfluity. There is only quitting at best. But coping with the risk of a relapse is always present in a hypersexualized society, no matter the quitting method. What Easy Peasy accuses is certain other methods of feeling incomplete. Because when they succeed, they still leave the quitter with thoughts of risking relapse, which the quitter copes with by fear. But Easy Peasy also leaves the quitter with thoughts of risking relapse. The difference is Easy Peasy wants the quitter to cope with risking relapse by motivation. Nevertheless there is still a coping. And not the true perfection of wholly freeing oneself from the cycle of self abuse by supernormal stimulation.
Could this illusion of freedom implicitly promised by Easy Peasy be one reason for why people with previous success in Easy Peasy, but then fail Easy Peasy, find it increasingly harder to get back into Easy Peasy? It's a shame if so, because I do not feel the hypocritical conclusion of Easy Peasy automatically negates the advice before the conclusion.
Messy writing. Sometimes the mess is big enough to inadvertently give seemingly contradicting information. The writing frequently repeats itself, which is probably by design to reinforce points the author wants to make. But it's hard to tell if repetitive writing is an intentional tactic for reader retention, or messy writing.
Content focuses on the emotional addictions of pornography over the physical addictions, and seeks to remedy the emotional addictions of pornography. Therefore expect very little, if any, scientific approaches to quitting pornography addictions in favor of preaching from personal experiences to motivate the reader into quitting. Easy Peasy shall only be as effective as the faith you put into the information being true in the absence of hard evidence.
Since the effectiveness of Easy Peasy depends on your faith, having preconceptions may help your understanding of the material, such as, One: Even in modern civilization, there are bad actors that seek to turn people into nothing more than a compliant slave for the bad actor's gain at the people's expense. And Two: The pornography industry is one such bad actor.
Unfortunately, there is one lesson that I feel is critically important which Easy Peasy implies, but denies the existence of anyway, so that Easy Peasy might accuse other quitting methods of that which Easy Peasy is guilty of doing, albeit in a slightly different way. The lesson is without moving to someplace that is utterly empty of superfluous sexuality, there is no way to be truly free of falling into the traps of said superfluity. There is only quitting at best. But coping with the risk of a relapse is always present in a hypersexualized society, no matter the quitting method. What Easy Peasy accuses is certain other methods of feeling incomplete. Because when they succeed, they still leave the quitter with thoughts of risking relapse, which the quitter copes with by fear. But Easy Peasy also leaves the quitter with thoughts of risking relapse. The difference is Easy Peasy wants the quitter to cope with risking relapse by motivation. Nevertheless there is still a coping. And not the true perfection of wholly freeing oneself from the cycle of self abuse by supernormal stimulation.
Could this illusion of freedom implicitly promised by Easy Peasy be one reason for why people with previous success in Easy Peasy, but then fail Easy Peasy, find it increasingly harder to get back into Easy Peasy? It's a shame if so, because I do not feel the hypocritical conclusion of Easy Peasy automatically negates the advice before the conclusion.
September 18, 2023
My Reading Journey Of this Book:
I listened to the audiobook version of this book by Fraser Patterson on youtube throughout the span of about 2 weeks. It was 5 hrs 30mins long so I had to watch it in short intervals XD. So over that span of 2 weeks, I watched it while having dinner, while having lunch, while taking the train to school and while taking the train back home.
What I loved about this book:
THERES SO MUCH TO LIKE ABOUT THIS BOOK! The Hackauthor gives so many amazing analogies and completely removed my brainwashing and desire to pmo. There are so many amazing sentences and paragraphs in this book that helped erase the misconceptions of pmo that were once in mind.
How did this book influence me:
THE EASY PEASY METHOD FREED ME FROM PMO!! For years I've been trying to find a solution to free myself from this poison, but to little avail other than that one other success I had a few months back. I was almost convinced that I would be chained to this poison for life! However, this book saved me and freed me from the chains of the trap of pmo. Thanks to this book, Ive felt freedom that Ive never felt before, I feel 10x happier on a daily basis and my heart feels at peace.
My final rating of this book:
8.7/10
This book was a bit boring to listen to, but the more and more listened to it, the more I realised the power that layed dormant inside of me - the power to free myself with my own will. This is the only resource I could find that could help free me from this addiction. Using willpower did not help as the cycle would keep repeating itself. THANK YOU ONCE AGAIN TO THE PEOPLE WHO MADE THIS BOOK <3.
I listened to the audiobook version of this book by Fraser Patterson on youtube throughout the span of about 2 weeks. It was 5 hrs 30mins long so I had to watch it in short intervals XD. So over that span of 2 weeks, I watched it while having dinner, while having lunch, while taking the train to school and while taking the train back home.
What I loved about this book:
THERES SO MUCH TO LIKE ABOUT THIS BOOK! The Hackauthor gives so many amazing analogies and completely removed my brainwashing and desire to pmo. There are so many amazing sentences and paragraphs in this book that helped erase the misconceptions of pmo that were once in mind.
How did this book influence me:
THE EASY PEASY METHOD FREED ME FROM PMO!! For years I've been trying to find a solution to free myself from this poison, but to little avail other than that one other success I had a few months back. I was almost convinced that I would be chained to this poison for life! However, this book saved me and freed me from the chains of the trap of pmo. Thanks to this book, Ive felt freedom that Ive never felt before, I feel 10x happier on a daily basis and my heart feels at peace.
My final rating of this book:
8.7/10
This book was a bit boring to listen to, but the more and more listened to it, the more I realised the power that layed dormant inside of me - the power to free myself with my own will. This is the only resource I could find that could help free me from this addiction. Using willpower did not help as the cycle would keep repeating itself. THANK YOU ONCE AGAIN TO THE PEOPLE WHO MADE THIS BOOK <3.
February 13, 2021
Best porn addiction literature I've ever read
August 19, 2021
انصح به كل اب وام ومربي كالمدرس وشيخ المسجد ،لتفهم طريقة عمل اعظم خطر علي شبابنا في مقتبل اعمارهم ، لتفهم طريقة تفكيرهم وكيفية مساعدتهم بطريقة صحيحة علي اسس علمية
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May 16, 2025
I'm 24 years old, have a decent amount of sexual experience, and still considered myself addicted when I read it.
I believe this book can help you, but if you succeed it'll be in spite of reading it, not because of it. There are more than enough blokes out there who read this book cover to cover, wrote long posts about it, and still relapse constantly, which by the author's logic makes this method just as useless and weak as the ones he refers to as "Willpower method" or "Traditional methods." I can assure you, his method is in no way better than the rest.
The author makes loads of assumptions about you and your mindset, and I didn’t relate to a single thing. I'm not sure who he's writing for, but when I go through thousands of posts from people struggling like I was, I see signs that are immediately familiar. So it's really not hard to make something your audience can relate to. Again, not sure what world he lives in, but I think everyone trying to quit already knows how destructive porn is, that it’s addictive, that there’s nothing to gain from watching it, and so on. But 85% of the book is spent trying to "fix" these things. What are you even trying to fix? If people didn’t already know this, they wouldn’t be reading your book, idiot, they’d still be out there looking for more porn. How hard is that to understand? Better to release your book as a 10-page article than a 120-page pile of fluff.
The author keeps using extremely uncommon words where there are hundreds of simple, familiar ones. My guess is he's not a native English speaker but obsessed with showing off his vocabulary. Turns out, nobody in English-speaking countries talks like that, and I had to waste time just trying to understand what he was saying. A book like this is supposed to be as easy to read as possible. I can't imagine how hard it would be for a non-native guy to go through it.
Lastly, I think the author has some weird obsession with crap like semen retention and mostly sounds like a MGTOW guy. He wants to trick you into thinking sexual intimacy doesn’t matter and men will be fine without it. Maybe, if you're a divorced dad of three with child support, 50 years old, and testosterone lower than my grandma, But that’s not the case for most people reading this book. So stop pushing your stupid beliefs and do what you promised, which you never actually delivered.
I can see why no publisher wanted to pay him or back this as official work. He’s just not good at making his point land.
Despite all that, I give 3 stars for the effort he clearly put in and his intentions, which seem genuine except for the MGTOW stuff. It’s worth reading, but don’t spend more than a day on it. And if you finish it and feel like you gained nothing, don’t be surprised. That’s just how it is. Being an author clearly isn’t his strong suit.
I believe this book can help you, but if you succeed it'll be in spite of reading it, not because of it. There are more than enough blokes out there who read this book cover to cover, wrote long posts about it, and still relapse constantly, which by the author's logic makes this method just as useless and weak as the ones he refers to as "Willpower method" or "Traditional methods." I can assure you, his method is in no way better than the rest.
The author makes loads of assumptions about you and your mindset, and I didn’t relate to a single thing. I'm not sure who he's writing for, but when I go through thousands of posts from people struggling like I was, I see signs that are immediately familiar. So it's really not hard to make something your audience can relate to. Again, not sure what world he lives in, but I think everyone trying to quit already knows how destructive porn is, that it’s addictive, that there’s nothing to gain from watching it, and so on. But 85% of the book is spent trying to "fix" these things. What are you even trying to fix? If people didn’t already know this, they wouldn’t be reading your book, idiot, they’d still be out there looking for more porn. How hard is that to understand? Better to release your book as a 10-page article than a 120-page pile of fluff.
The author keeps using extremely uncommon words where there are hundreds of simple, familiar ones. My guess is he's not a native English speaker but obsessed with showing off his vocabulary. Turns out, nobody in English-speaking countries talks like that, and I had to waste time just trying to understand what he was saying. A book like this is supposed to be as easy to read as possible. I can't imagine how hard it would be for a non-native guy to go through it.
Lastly, I think the author has some weird obsession with crap like semen retention and mostly sounds like a MGTOW guy. He wants to trick you into thinking sexual intimacy doesn’t matter and men will be fine without it. Maybe, if you're a divorced dad of three with child support, 50 years old, and testosterone lower than my grandma, But that’s not the case for most people reading this book. So stop pushing your stupid beliefs and do what you promised, which you never actually delivered.
I can see why no publisher wanted to pay him or back this as official work. He’s just not good at making his point land.
Despite all that, I give 3 stars for the effort he clearly put in and his intentions, which seem genuine except for the MGTOW stuff. It’s worth reading, but don’t spend more than a day on it. And if you finish it and feel like you gained nothing, don’t be surprised. That’s just how it is. Being an author clearly isn’t his strong suit.
March 11, 2024
Disadvantages of this book:
it points out the problems of pornography usage. But doesn't tell anything new to a person who already know that porn is addictive and harmful (like me, who have tried dozen of different programs available offline/online).
I'm always skeptical towards theories which promise you that starting or giving up some lifestyle change will be easy.
It discredits willpower method but fails to give an alternative. All this book says to you is: "just quit, cause it's good. Don't just give up, cause there's nothing good to give up." Book criticizes counting on willpower, but "just quitting" is just the same - you need willpower for it. Considering that book admits that porn is a very powerful drug. yet, it says that only fear keeps us from quitting.
Another bizarre or different aspect of easy-peasy theory is that , since it's considered easy-peasy, unlike other programs I've dealt with , leaves you completely alone. No accountability partner or whoever involved; I believe that on one page it even encourages to not co-operate with anyone, since it makes things complicated. Sorry, but half of the book tells you that porn is a powerful drug and then they come up with the idea that you need no help from others (which is step no 1 for overcoming any addiction; tell someone). The over-confidence of this book amazes me.
As a recovering addict of course it pisses me off when someone says it's easy :) Think of a heroin addict or alcoholic ---- would anyone dare to say the same to them? : "Just quit, you punk, it's easy!"
Advantages of this book:
I like the chapter: Advantages of being a porn user (empty pages) :)
I can also say that same doesn't go for this book. It really lists all the disadvantages of this plague what we call porn. And that part is completely true. Same for different type of porn users. I recommend it for people who haven't tried anything else yet. It might work. Knowledge of PMO cycle and all other main functions like monster equivalence are useful whoever is thinking of quitting (or becoming a non-user, like this book suggests).
"Don't fight it, just do it" sounds just too bizarre to be true.
it points out the problems of pornography usage. But doesn't tell anything new to a person who already know that porn is addictive and harmful (like me, who have tried dozen of different programs available offline/online).
I'm always skeptical towards theories which promise you that starting or giving up some lifestyle change will be easy.
It discredits willpower method but fails to give an alternative. All this book says to you is: "just quit, cause it's good. Don't just give up, cause there's nothing good to give up." Book criticizes counting on willpower, but "just quitting" is just the same - you need willpower for it. Considering that book admits that porn is a very powerful drug. yet, it says that only fear keeps us from quitting.
Another bizarre or different aspect of easy-peasy theory is that , since it's considered easy-peasy, unlike other programs I've dealt with , leaves you completely alone. No accountability partner or whoever involved; I believe that on one page it even encourages to not co-operate with anyone, since it makes things complicated. Sorry, but half of the book tells you that porn is a powerful drug and then they come up with the idea that you need no help from others (which is step no 1 for overcoming any addiction; tell someone). The over-confidence of this book amazes me.
As a recovering addict of course it pisses me off when someone says it's easy :) Think of a heroin addict or alcoholic ---- would anyone dare to say the same to them? : "Just quit, you punk, it's easy!"
Advantages of this book:
I like the chapter: Advantages of being a porn user (empty pages) :)
I can also say that same doesn't go for this book. It really lists all the disadvantages of this plague what we call porn. And that part is completely true. Same for different type of porn users. I recommend it for people who haven't tried anything else yet. It might work. Knowledge of PMO cycle and all other main functions like monster equivalence are useful whoever is thinking of quitting (or becoming a non-user, like this book suggests).
"Don't fight it, just do it" sounds just too bizarre to be true.
September 6, 2023
Easy Peasy, is rhetoric over reason. It's a book to help desperate people drop their bad habits, people who don't mind being told white lie after white lie as long as it gets the job done. The book doesn't care about why addiction occurs, which is a necessary question to ask in order to get nearer to the root cause of addiction as a disease. It only cares about the how of breaking an addiction. It found a method that maybe works somewhat well, and cultishly hypes its effectiveness beyond reason in order to leverage the placebo effects of doing so.
Chapter 13 claims that there is no such thing as addictive personalities, which, just to put it another way, is like saying, "every person on Earth has the exact same predisposition to addiction." The author claims this despite each person's unique differences in genes, inherited traits, childhood upbringing, life experiences, biological makeup, nutritional status, etc. When the author delves into areas of difficulty such as this, he tends to dispense with nuance, and hand-waves away any potential counter arguments as "brainwashing." Which, for this reader, calls to mind the old quote that says, "Accuse the other side of that which you are secretly guilty." This is a book that repeats the same key points dozens (if not hundreds) of times, and leans pretty heavily on 'search your feelings; you know it to be true.' It deals in black and white, refusing to give the devil his due. It even makes a joke out of it, as seen in the emptiness of Chapter 10. And so I ask, who is the one doing the brainwashing here?
If this book succeeds, it is on some sort of esoteric, almost hypnotic basis, planting puritanical seeds in the reader's unconscious mind through repetition and feigned certainty. Considering the irrational nature of humans, I don't have any particular problem with eschewing logic and reason, except when you claim that it's the *shadowy perpetrators over there* that are doing it, and not little old me.
Chapter 13 claims that there is no such thing as addictive personalities, which, just to put it another way, is like saying, "every person on Earth has the exact same predisposition to addiction." The author claims this despite each person's unique differences in genes, inherited traits, childhood upbringing, life experiences, biological makeup, nutritional status, etc. When the author delves into areas of difficulty such as this, he tends to dispense with nuance, and hand-waves away any potential counter arguments as "brainwashing." Which, for this reader, calls to mind the old quote that says, "Accuse the other side of that which you are secretly guilty." This is a book that repeats the same key points dozens (if not hundreds) of times, and leans pretty heavily on 'search your feelings; you know it to be true.' It deals in black and white, refusing to give the devil his due. It even makes a joke out of it, as seen in the emptiness of Chapter 10. And so I ask, who is the one doing the brainwashing here?
If this book succeeds, it is on some sort of esoteric, almost hypnotic basis, planting puritanical seeds in the reader's unconscious mind through repetition and feigned certainty. Considering the irrational nature of humans, I don't have any particular problem with eschewing logic and reason, except when you claim that it's the *shadowy perpetrators over there* that are doing it, and not little old me.
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September 2, 2023Ok so I read the EasyPeasy v2 audiobook. It's an adaptation of the ideas behind Allen Carr's Easy Method to quit smoking (and other undesirable addictions), so I read it. I have no idea how similar it is to Carr's original books in terms of actual prose.
I was intrigued by the rhetorical style of the book (This is pretty much why I got interested in the book in the first place (also, to understand what a friend of mine was going through)).
He keeps assuring the reader that you can read the book and choose to not quit, and you will have lost nothing.
Like the Supernaturally Convincing AI telling you that you can always choose to ignore his arguments.
At one point, he approvingly cites Pascal's wager, saying his book is like that: a gamble of nothing against something!
But this is all chapter 1 stuff.
In the end, it turns out the key to beating your addiction is realizing that you didn't enjoy the thing you were doing, anyway; you just confused a negative-emotion-based compulsion for a positive-emotion-based desire.
Which I can't relate to at all, in any of my activities in life. Not even my drug habits.
This does raise the possibility that he's referring to a real mechanism of Addiction, that he dismantles using tactical CBT, to which I am simply not very susceptible.
So I guess if that applies to you, this book would really help you.
I was intrigued by the rhetorical style of the book (This is pretty much why I got interested in the book in the first place (also, to understand what a friend of mine was going through)).
He keeps assuring the reader that you can read the book and choose to not quit, and you will have lost nothing.
Like the Supernaturally Convincing AI telling you that you can always choose to ignore his arguments.
At one point, he approvingly cites Pascal's wager, saying his book is like that: a gamble of nothing against something!
But this is all chapter 1 stuff.
In the end, it turns out the key to beating your addiction is realizing that you didn't enjoy the thing you were doing, anyway; you just confused a negative-emotion-based compulsion for a positive-emotion-based desire.
Which I can't relate to at all, in any of my activities in life. Not even my drug habits.
This does raise the possibility that he's referring to a real mechanism of Addiction, that he dismantles using tactical CBT, to which I am simply not very susceptible.
So I guess if that applies to you, this book would really help you.
November 4, 2025
Firstly, this book could’ve been at least 40% shorter, the amount of times the book repeats the same points over and over again is exhausting, I found myself skipping paragraphs at times and not missing anything.
Secondly I hate the decisive tone of the book, the “I know the answer and you don’t”, the “it’s black and white and I know it”. The book starts by talking about this method that def works 100% of the time and at the end it’s just “quit but try harder”. I understand there’s some wisdom to that but the tone came out wrong.
Now to be honest the positives were many, revealing how porn is an addiction, how the withdrawal in between is caused by the porn itself and how toning it down won’t work were new to me.
Lastly I don’t like how the book overlooks the fact that masturbation is actually good for preventing cancer amongst other things. You can’t omit facts to push a point. That’s not honest.
Good read. Good knowledge. You can skip 40-45% of this book without missing anything.
Secondly I hate the decisive tone of the book, the “I know the answer and you don’t”, the “it’s black and white and I know it”. The book starts by talking about this method that def works 100% of the time and at the end it’s just “quit but try harder”. I understand there’s some wisdom to that but the tone came out wrong.
Now to be honest the positives were many, revealing how porn is an addiction, how the withdrawal in between is caused by the porn itself and how toning it down won’t work were new to me.
Lastly I don’t like how the book overlooks the fact that masturbation is actually good for preventing cancer amongst other things. You can’t omit facts to push a point. That’s not honest.
Good read. Good knowledge. You can skip 40-45% of this book without missing anything.
July 16, 2023
Based on Adam Carr’s works (and a tribute to them), the Easy Peasy method was a very interesting read, even as an ex-user. Firstly, the book uses very direct terms, such as the “Porn-Masturbation-Orgasmer” to describe those who use porn to masturbate until orgasm. Next, it details example after example dispelling the “reasons” users have of why they can’t or shouldn’t quit. They also talk a lot about the brain science that keeps users stuck. Finally, they detail a very straightforward way of quitting that all ex-users of any addiction can agree with: stop using, squash any desires to use as they pop up, and never use again.
The message is essentially stop using but explained in a very convincing way. I’d recommend reading to any Porn-Masturbation-Orgasmer out there.
The message is essentially stop using but explained in a very convincing way. I’d recommend reading to any Porn-Masturbation-Orgasmer out there.
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