Many people from all walks of life, even after their many accomplishments and experiences, are often plagued by feelings of dissatisfaction and deep questioning. These feelings may lead them to wonder if the life they are living is the life they were meant to lead.
Living On Purpose is the guidebook these people have been waiting for. This book shows readers how to feel more connected to the people around them and how to be truly satisfied by the life they’re leading. It will help them get past the pervasive feelings of lack and dissatisfaction by explaining how to fill the hole that can’t be achieved by more money, more status, or the next big thing.
Written by transformational leadership coach Amy Wong, this book will help shift readers to a mindset of possibility and freedom. Seamlessly merging her personal and professional experience with aspects of social neuroscience, Amy brings intellectual rigor and profound insight to the map of five choices that will lead the reader solidly back to themselves.
Have you ever felt like a fraud? Like everyone around you has life all figured out—except for you? Or are you carrying a deep dark secret and think you’re the only one struggling with buried shame?
In her book, Living On Purpose, Amy Eliza Wong offers invaluable tools to help us transform our lives into a conscious life on PURPOSE. She guides us in shifting from merely existing to THRIVING. But, maybe most valuable of all in my opinion, Amy shares openly and vulnerably some of the struggles she’s been through and how she’s grown from them. She’s not afraid to lay bare her own deep dark secrets, proving to the rest of us that were are NOT alone, and that we, too, can create fertile ground for our best lives from the manure we may despise.
I highly recommend this book! It will inspire and motivate you to stretch your comfort zone—or live on the “edge of transformation,” as Amy would say. Pick up your copy today!
I read an advanced copy of this book thanks to #NetGalley. I was very excited and had high hopes for this book, but it fell a little flat for me.
While the book uses a different approach, it still covers the same topics as every other personal development book; it might change the wording and the presentation but it’s the same. Also, I found the writer to be very repetitive which I personally don’t like.
Amy Wong nailed it! I love her willingness to share her lovely details propelling her into growth and adventure. This book is great for leadership foundation as it addresses self-doubt and questioning. We could all use a dose of this genuine truth.
Overall I enjoyed reading this book. It caused me to do some deeper personal reflection so I think that's a sign that it was impactful for me. I try to approach new (to me) ideas with openness, and while not all of this resonated with me, that doesn't mean it won't be useful to others. I'm not a very spiritual person, and I don't believe that coincidences are actually a sign from the universe, or that everything happens for a reason. However, one of the ideas in the book is that you can learn and grow from unfortunate events if you recalibrate your frame of mind, which is useful no matter what you believe about why a certain event happens. I felt lighter after considering some of the ideas in this book, in particular the part about getting rid of the word "should" because there is no way your life "should" be or should not be.
A major theme of this book is dealing with imposter syndrome and how reframing your mind can help you overcome it. I was hoping there would be more discussion about how external factors contribute to imposter syndrome, and how to separate what you can control (intrinsic factors) from what you can't control (extrinsic factors).
The primary target demographic for this book is white, highly driven, upper-middle-class women. Some of the examples involve a lot of privilege, such as being able take a 3 month maternity leave, having a partner who makes enough money that you can choose to not work or to completely change careers, having a stable family situation, and just in general not having your state of being defined within the context of systemic discrimination and racism.
The part of the book that was most impactful to me was at the end, and it's the idea that once you know that you are whole and complete, your actions don't need to be about proving yourself and your worth, so you can focus on helping and being more compassionate toward others. The world would be a better place if we could all live by this.
I loved this book. While not exactly at a crossroads in my career, I am starting to think about what next as my sons will be gone in about three years. I am privileged because that inflection point will afford me alot more freedom about what I do, where I live and how. As a planner -literally someone with a masters degree in city planning- normally I'd set a big vision and stage things for how to get there. And that vision would include a handful of 'shoulds.' The five tenets in Living On Purpose, especially 'feel it out, don't figure it out,' helped me immediately change my ways. I've just started to follow my nose more often and watch the flow, feel out what works for me, get ideas, invite more blue sky and 'why not' musings. Instead of staging everything, I am basically just noticing what aspects I'd like to have going forward -like cutting out pieces for making a collage rather than charting a plan. Also, I recently started dating after a divorce and the book helps there too. For example, instead of thinking 'this guy doesn't even live here so even though he's so great, this will never work,' or doubting my gut with thoughts like, 'this guy checks all the boxes so why don't I like him?' I just lean towards what feels good and see what happens. It's much more fun! I highly recommend the book if you're thinking about how to live in more flow with who you are and centering yourself in a life of purpose.
“Living on Purpose” is a light read which focuses on the themes of self-discovery and self-improvement through a transformational journey. The audiobook is well narrated and articulated and helps reinforce the messages that the author is conveying through the transformational stories from her own life.
Having read / listened to similar content, I found the material to be more adequate for people who are well into their transformation journey, not for those who are only at the beginning of this exercise. While the audiobook has a lot of personal examples, I felt that it misses the structure required to undergo the exercises mentioned through the work for a beginner.
Special thanks to NetGalley, Greenleaf Audiobooks, BrainTrust Ink, and the editorial team for giving me the opportunity to review the ARC in audiobook format and to you, my reader, for taking the time to read this honest personal book review.
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So many ideas presented in this book deeply resonated with me. I loved Amy's ability to tell her story with humor and compassion. She provided a tremendous amount of insight into the concept of "not enough." And also, I love eliminating the word should from my vocabulary. Game changer. Highly recommend.
This book is full of inspiration! Many, many, wonderful tips and tools are given to help us readers thrive vs survive! I couldn’t put it down. So impressed!
I had more than a few aha moments while reading this book, and found myself constantly pausing to absorb ideas or jot things down. There were a few parts that didn’t resonate as much, but overall I really appreciated the Living on Purpose approach.
As a very spatially-minded person, I especially liked the “map” diagram at the beginning of the book, which outlined the 5-choice approach! Very cool idea to lay it out visually like that.
Here’s my quick recap of those 5 steps and what clicked or didn’t for me:
1. Feel it out, don’t figure it out. I Feel like I already Figured this one out (heh see what I did there?) after having kids! But still appreciated the reminder to follow inspiration and honor sluggishness.
2. Choose to know there’s no way things - or you - SHOULD be. Needed this one! I found it so helpful to notice areas where I am “shoulding” myself. I also loved the message that we’re all already right where we need to be - it didn’t leave me feeling like I need to make a list of to-do’s, as can be the case with some books in the self-help category.
3. Choose to know it’s always working out for you. Ehhh this one bugged me a bit. Yes, there is duality in everything, yes we learn from hard times. But some parts of this section smelled a lot like toxic positivity. The author talks about using our shitty times as manure - not just our past shit (that I can get down with), but our present-day shit, which we can choose to believe will all work out to our benefit in the end. I do tend to be an optimist, but instead of doing mental gymnastics to avoid bad feelings, maybe we can just accept that it takes some garbage a while to compost? Or in the wise words of OutKast: Lean a lil bit closer, see that roses really smell like poo-ooh-ooh.
4. Choose to know you are whole and complete. I LOVED this section. It talks about how we establish inner opposition that we carry with us, and likens it to walking around wearing a VR headset that distorts our perception. The author also includes lists of behaviors and feelings to help identify when you might be operating from a place of fear, and how we can tap into feelings of spaciousness and energy to identify when we’re rooted in love and wholeness. I felt so much energy and clarity from reading this section!
5. Knowing vs believing your worth. Belief inherently holds the possibility that its opposite is also true - belief is unknowable. Consequently, when we don’t fully KNOW, or feel in our bones, that we are worthy and complete and good enough, we are always and will always be looking for proof (both for and against our belief). Which leads to the eternal quest for more. I found this section really insightful also.
And lastly but not leastly, my two favorite quotes from the book (and I wrote down many, many more than this):
“Living on purpose is not about finding a continuous state of knowing and staying there. It’s about a life practice where you choose to care about how you feel, appreciate when you’re clear and grounded in unconditional wholeness, and choose to come back to it when you catch that you’re not.”
“YOU ARE ALEADY THAT WHICH YOU SEEK.”
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I was surprised by how much I loved this book. It’s perfect if you’re in a transition (new parent, new job, etc.) or considering a life change, but it is also great reading for anyone who has experience imposter syndrome (so… everyone!) and self-help skeptics. Amy’s logical approach blends science and psychology to help you make sense of the feelings you’re ignoring and then them into useful information to make your life a bit more on purpose.
If you choose to read this book, get ready for it to change your life! Since reading Always On Purpose, I have looked a life with a new lens. As soon as I finished this book, I felt a shift. In this book, Amy presents questions that I had never asked myself before. After taking Amy’s advice in the book I asked myself those questions and it unlocked something deep inside of me that has changed the way I think, act and navigate throughout this world. I highly recommend this book if you’re searching for answers but don’t know what questions to ask. This book will forever change your life just like it did mine.
Amy Eliza Wong’s new book is titled Living on Purpose: Five Deliberate Choices to Realize Fulfillment and Joy. In it she details a genuine, compassionate, authentic life philosophy that feels hard-won, and not like the cheap rhetoric that can often outline books of this nature. Wong is cheerful but never cloying, succinct but never at the expense of providing rich and evocative detail. She’s a true writer as much as an apt communicator of her philosophy, and that’s another part of why I found Living on Purpose so enjoyable. You feel taken care of, literarily as an experience, and ideologically as something to lean on when the going gets tough. “I am not a licensed therapist. I am not a scientist. I am a transformational coach who cares deeply about people and the quality of life they create for themselves,” Wong writes with an apparent humility. “For as long as I can remember, I’ve been devoted to exploring these questions: Why are we here? How do we make sense of all this? What does it mean to thrive? I provide frameworks and specific mindsets that help one out of self-imposed limitation and into the practice of living on purpose—into a life of joy, inner calm, and freedom.”
She adds, “Regardless of how far along you are in your life or how much you’ve already accomplished, chances are you contend with this oppositional force on occasion. You might describe this inner struggle as a subtle feeling of not being enough—not good enough, not competent enough, or not accomplished enough, yet. Maybe someday, but not yet. Maybe you’re tired of not being able to put a finger on why you’re not as fulfilled as you could or should be. Your life might look pretty good on paper, but you continue to look to the external world to fill a void.” From these fairly simple tenets, on their faces - that is, Wong is able to construct an elaborate, dynamic set of ideological meditations with sharp narrative focus. Books that focus on life advice often can, tragically and ironically so, feel like filler. They can be oxymorons to the stated intent, being another aspect of the aforementioned ‘external world’ filling your ‘void’ but not helping you to understand it. “How we develop and the kind of person we develop into is a result of those seemingly trivial (and sometimes not-so-trivial) moments when our safety is perceptually or overtly threatened,” Wong writes. "Again, how we interpret those moments stems from a primary biological directive to belong; the resulting decisions we make about ourselves and the world in order to belong dictate the reality we live in. With this underlying dynamic being a part of our human operating system, how then do any of us grow beyond the limitations that our fear creates?”
Wong poses some heady questions, but then goes the extra mile by not being afraid to answer them. Even if it means sometimes admitting she doesn’t have the entirety of the right answer. That takes guts, but simultaneously reaffirms the strong sense of her validity. I’d highly recommend the book to anyone looking for that little something extra, that sense of articulation exceeding their mind’s grasp. Believe me, the read may help and is definitely worth it.
Thank you for the uplifting, spirited direction you have offered, Amy.
Living on Purpose helps identify focus and direction toward a more meaningful life. I believe most people have yet to find purpose or continue to search for more depths of purpose. Though not all people will take the time to focus, gain their consciousness, and discover their belonging, any semblance or beacon of light to help others will always add value to a person's experience.
Purpose and actions are dependent on each other. Living through another person's experience does help build a relationship to realize what is achievable. With Amy's personal experiences and those who have received her guidance, she helps bring more light to a person's darkness. The weights of clouds and burdens of guilt become nothing when people find purpose. Amy includes perspectives, practices, and questions for the reader to answer.
Though not all people can experience such a fruitful upbringing or a good relationship with a spouse, any movements or steps to realize purpose help a person overcome some suffering. I hope people will read this book to achieve what Amy hopes for.
I love how this book has such simple ways to make huge impacts as it has for my life. By simply FEELING into the moment through all the ways Amy shares about in how to do so--your life can magically unfold.
Amy shares her heart and story authentically in a way that allows access to taking the leap towards a life that's on purpose.
As a business leader and entrepreneur who achieves a lot, I wonder if I'm on a path that best expresses and utilizes my fullest potential. The book's message helped me put my son back in school after homeschooling for two years since the pandemic, get over my mom guilt, and realize my passion was in songwriting.
This move allowed me to integrate singing and creativity into my energy coaching work and programs that helped us with a super successful launch of a new membership program. Thank you Amy for your inspiring work!!!
This is no doubt one of the best self help books ever written.. Miss Wong has created a practical guidebook into living a life that that is meaningful and fulfilling. This is done by realizing that we already have within us the potential to create the life we want. We only have to recognize and accept it. By accepting and developing what is already within us, we don't have to go searching elsewhere for answers and make things more difficult..
This was the best self-help book that I have read in so long. I loved Amy's logical and mathematical approach to changing habits and identifying those lies that we believed as young kids,
I am finally figuring out the crazy things my brain say to myself and getting to the root of it.
Thank you so much to Amy and Netgalley for my advanced readers copy. This is one fantastic book. Well done.
While it was an interesting read, there wasn't an "aha" moment for me. However, I can see this book being beneficial and life-changing for others. It was dragged out and a lot of it read like a memoir, but I get why. Eliza Wong brought in a lot of real-world examples to help you see why and how her suggestions are beneficial. She also makes it relatable and inspiring.
"Choosing to know your worth as a human being-just as you are right now-converts praise and criticism from evidence to information. When that shift happens you stop measuring yourself against other people and circumstances. You stop competing and comparing..." What I got out of this: follow your heart, don't try and figure it out, stop the "should," accept yourself as you are, and stop proving yourself and just be.
The book had me hooked at the beginning and lost me toward the middle. There is valuable information and inspiration I just felt the book is too long. I also feel that it neglects to acknowledge the place of privledge that is afforded to Some and lacks any mention of trauma. “Choose that everything is working for you” in my opinion the “everything happens for a reason ” mentality is oversimplified and problematic. Some of this reminds me of the toxic positivity culture “be intolerant of feeling crappy”. Nope all emotions are necessary and valid. I think this may hold Value for some, just not my cup of tea.
I currently find myself at a crossroads in my life, deeply immersed in a period of profound self-reflection. It's become apparent that I've encountered a career plateau, having held the same position for an extended duration with no discernible path towards advancement, even after completing my advanced degree. Amid these professional challenges, I am actively embarked on a journey to extract valuable lessons and foster personal growth, aiming to infuse new vitality into my career. This is precisely why I turned to this book.
This book has rekindled the flame of my sense of purpose. I have made a deliberate choice to eliminate the word "should" from my lexicon, recognizing that life doesn't always adhere to preconceived expectations. Shifting my thought patterns towards a positive outlook on the reality I aspire to create and actively propelling myself in that direction has proven to be an empowering and profoundly motivating endeavor.
I wholeheartedly endorse this book! It possesses the remarkable ability to inspire and energize you to boldly venture beyond your comfort zone and embrace transformation. The invaluable insights I've gleaned from this book underscore the importance of following your heart, accepting yourself as you are, and liberating yourself from the constant need for validation.
Thank you for the uplifting, spirited direction you have offered, Amy.
Living on Purpose helps identify focus and direction toward a more meaningful life. I believe most people have yet to find purpose or continue to search for more depths of purpose. Though not all people will take the time to focus, gain their consciousness, and discover their belonging, any semblance or beacon of light to help others will always add value to a person's experience.
Purpose and actions are dependent on each other. Living through another person's experience does help build a relationship to realize what is achievable. With Amy's personal experiences and those who have received her guidance, she helps bring more light to a person's darkness. The weights of clouds and burdens of guilt become nothing when people find purpose. Amy includes perspectives, practices, and questions for the reader to answer.
Though not all people can experience such a fruitful upbringing or a good relationship with a spouse, any movements or steps to realize purpose help a person overcome some suffering. I hope people will read this book to achieve what Amy hopes for.
"To live always on purpose requires you to take full responsibility for your life and, through your powers of knowing what you want to feel, compost the shit of life into the manure that allows beauty to blossom all over the place." Enough said?!
As a person full of self-doubt and anxiety throughout my life, but also being a person that has achieved and is a success in the cliche definitions of these words, this book seemed to be written specifically for me! And apparently many others as I'm not alone, which in itself was refreshing to know.
This book just felt different and Amy Wong did an outstanding job of taking a different approach in suggestions on how to tackle the difficulties of life. The book is very well written such that it feels as if you are in a seminar with the author, and is extremely methodical in its presentation. The read felt authentic, genuine, and kind.
"Be intolerant of feeling crappy." - Just another parting example from the book to wet the palate!
I imagine that Living On Purpose is the culmination of thousands of meaningful conversations that Amy has had with her clients. She's seen - time and again - the power of getting intentional with our lives, and she encourages us to do the same.
"We're flipping the switch from autopilot now, moving from the default setting of should and into an intentional and deliberate way of navigating through life. Choice is key; it is the pivotal action step required for claiming the life you were born to live."
But, in this book, she takes us a step further. She gives us concrete actions we can take to claim that life we want to live. Like only the most skilled of coaches, for every question she asks, she helps you answer it. For every question she poses, it leads you to ask yourself an ever-deeper question.
All of this knowledge culminates in something like a compass, helping you navigate your way forward.
I recently finished this wonderful book, and I found it most logical, soothing, refreshing, and uplifting. I loved her format and logic for finding flow in one's life and accessing tools to change the narrative of one's past life that doesn't resonate anymore. Ms. Wong reminded me of the wonderful practice of daily meditation and what a simple, useful, and wonderful daily practice it is to implement in one's life. I truly appreciated her growth mindset and her compassion and empathy as we're all on this journey for happiness and true fulfillment. Thanks for this amazing contribution - I plan to give this book out liberally to my dear and close friends as precious gifts. :)
I read this book because it showed up in my weekly business book recommendations. I had different expectations than what I encountered. I was pleased with what I read. The book encourages readers to look at purpose from a very different point of view. It helps one see things from how happiness feels instead of from how they think happiness should be, and decide their purpose from that "feel" angle.
I really enjoyed the book. It had lots of great points and research references. Although it might sound more new age-ish, it makes lots of sense.
I enjoyed my time and thought it was a thought provoking book - I also read it at a time I am more receptive to the ideas posed. I didn't find the examples to be particularly relatable , and there was a lot I had heard before, but it had impactful moments and some relevant themes. Overall I would recommend if interested in a self help book and in the mood for some personal reflection. I read this as an ARC on netgalley in exchange for an honest review.
I enjoyed reading this book. I think the five deliberate choices it mentions are very healing and mind-opening. I am excited to move forward with the new knowledge this book endowed upon me. My biggest qualm with "Living On Purpose" was that I felt like it was repetitive to the point I would go days without picking it up. I thought it could have left out parts resulting in getting to the point quicker.
Written by a very excited and fulfilled personal coach regurgitating a whole lot of standard issue personal growth stuff that's geared towards upwardly mobile middle class white or white passing people. This would be very toxic for someone to read if there weren't able to quit a job to pursue a "passion" due to the normal circumstances/responsibilities. Could not enjoy this book even a little.
ARC from publisher via NetGalley, but the opinions are my own.
Parts of this book resonated, while others didn't. But that is the purpose of a book that is written to help the reader dive into their deeper feelings. One thing that I firmly believe is the dangers of the word should. "You should do that." "You should do that." I never listen to them or say them. Who am I to tell anyone what they should or shouldn't do? A well-written book with a lot of interesting points. .
This book is a game-changer and exactly what I needed to hear. I’m over the “I’ll be happy when syndrome”, this book solidified it for me. The author highlights the psychology behind our thought patterns and gives you tangible actions to help you hone in on your values, shift your perspectives, and challenge your subconscious beliefs. I highly recommend it to anyone who wants to live their best life!