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Gringos in Paradise: An American Couple Builds Their Retirement Dream House in a Seaside Village in Mexico

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A Year in Provence meets Mr. Blandings Builds His Dream House in this lively and entertaining account of a couple's year building their dream house in Mexico.

In 2004, Barry Golson wrote an award-winning article for AARP magazine about Mexican hot spots for retirees longing for a lifestyle they couldn't afford in the United States. A year later, he and his wife Thia were taking part in the growing trend of retiring abroad. They sold their Manhattan apartment, packed up their SUV, and moved to one of those idyllic hot spots, the surfing and fishing village of Sayulita on Mexico's Pacific coast.

With humor and charm, Golson details the year he and his wife spent settling into their new life and planning and building their dream home. Sayulita -- population 1,500, not including stray dogs or pelicans -- is a never-dull mixture of traditional Mexican customs and new, gringo-influenced change. Before long, the Golsons had been absorbed into the rhythms and routines of village they adopted a pair of iguanas named Iggy Pop and Iggy Mom, got sick and got cured by a doctor who charged them sixteen dollars a visit, made lasting friends with Mexicans and fellow expatriates, and discovered the skill and artistry of local craftsmen.

But their daily lives were mostly dedicated to the difficult yet satisfying process of building their house. It took them almost six months to begin building -- nothing is simple (or speedy) in Mexico -- and incredibly, they completed construction in another six. They engaged a Mexican architect, builder, and landscape designer who not only built their home but also changed their lives; encountered uproariously odd bureaucracy; and ultimately experienced a lifetime's worth of education about the challenges and advantages of living in Mexico.

The Golsons lived (and are still living) the dream of many -- not only of going off to a tropical paradise but also of building something beautiful, becoming a part of a new world, making lasting friends, and transforming their lives. As much about family and friendship as about house-building, Gringos in Paradise is an immensely readable and illuminating book about finding a personal paradise and making it a home.

312 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 2006

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106 reviews26 followers
April 12, 2011
In a few weeks I'm going on a vacation to Sayulita, one of the few coastal areas in Mexico that has managed to avoid turning into a giant American shopping mall and amusement park. My parents asked where I was going, and they were both so excited-- they'd just read this book, called Gringos in Paradise, about an American couple who retired there. So I picked it up.

I really enjoyed Gringos In Paradise. The author and his wife reminded me so much of my parents-- hardworking liberal New Yorkers with a contemplative look at the world around them. I loved the way the writer blended his own journey with Mexican history, and discussed the cultural experience for him and his wife in a completely non-condescending way. It would be so easy for this to turn into a "aww, look at these people and how they live!" kind of story and it absolutely wasn't. Golson and his wife moved to this area to immerse themselves and not expect this culture to bend to them. I felt it really had a good tone-- it's easy for that kind of thing to sound condescending ("oh look at these cute Mexican people and their charming way of life") but it really wasn't. It walked a fine line contrasting the two ways of life in a way that demonstrated how challenging it was for them to move there, but with the utmost respect for where they had moved.

I will admit though that I got 2/3 of the way through and stopped. I still have it and may finish before it's due back at the library. But at that point, I felt I was no longer learning about the town and the culture and the history, instead it devolved into hearing about the inevitable drama that always comes with home-building and renovations. It felt like listening to my parents talk about getting their Miami Beach apartment renovated which, you know, is interesting when it's YOUR parents, less interesting when it's the plot of a book.
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2,151 reviews5 followers
May 18, 2009
Gringos in Paradise is a humorous account of the year (2005) Barry and Thia Golson, traded in their New York City lifestyle, by selling their apartment in the city, packing up their SUV and moved to a surfing and fishing village on Mexico's Pacific coast. After a real estate broker showed the couple some properties, they bought a hilltop plot of land in Sayulita, on impulse. The couple did not even receive a deed to the property, just a promise that that the land was theirs and everything would be fine.

The couple spent time learning the culture and about how things were done (or were not done in Mexico). Through laughter and some tears for the couple, the outcome was a beautiful 5,000 square foot seaside home, where property taxes are $24.00 a year.

An entertaining memoir of sorts about a couple who decided to reinvent their lives, gives daring baby boomers, who are not afraid to start anew something to think about. If the idea of moving to another country to stretch your retirement dollars a bit further does not sound too kooky for you, you might find this book not only humorous, but informative as well.
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December 22, 2023
I'm not even 1/3 through this and it might end up a DNF, which means Did Not Finish. I own it so I'll leave it on my nightstand and see if I want to go back to it.
8 reviews
November 18, 2007
What a fun read! The story of the author & his wife's first year retired in Mexico and the house they decided to have built. Decidely light-hearted in tone, this book opens a window into rural Mexico and the local way-of-life that many of us idealize and romanticize, but rarely truly understand...and shows the reality, but still in a very positive and upbeat manner.

Able to take a variety of new experiences completely in stride - or frankly confessing when they couldn't - reading of Barry & Thia's life as part of the local expat community not only entertains, but also provides the reader with a lot of information to digest should the reader ever think of retiring abroad.

Barry's style of writing is also very welcoming, leaving the reader feeling like an extended family member reading the latest letter from the "gringos relatives in Sayulita."
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71 reviews
May 9, 2017
I've been to Sayulita , in the late 90's when it still felt like a village and was not totally " discovered" by white expats. It's a beautiful, soulful little town.
Now that I am of a certain age, and one of my close friends has retired outside Lake Chapala, I was drawn to this book. Golson is an entertaining writer. It's the closest thing to having that experience, and is a practical guide as well as a muse, answering questions of "how did you handle..such and such" and " what if.." In fact there is even a section in the back of FAQs, Golson being an experienced travel and retirement writer. Though I would not have the same set of issues as this couple, I enjoyed being along for their journey, and I hope Mr Golson writes a sequel/ follow up , if he still continues to live in Sayulita.
41 reviews1 follower
June 3, 2009
Story of a semi-retired couple building their dream house outside Puerto Vallarta, interspersed with interesting insights into Mexican culture, attitudes, language, history, etc. Although although some parts dragged on a bit, by the time I'd gotten 2/3 through, I couldn't put it down, wanting to see how their house-building adventure turned out. It made me want to *visit* Mexico again, although not *live* there!
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April 30, 2009
Interesting book about a couple whose retirement funding wasn't going to take them far in NYC, so they decide to move to Mexico and live in a small resort community. They learn some about cultural competencies and how to get in the flow of a different culture while still remaining consuming Americans. If you're going to move to Mexico, read this. It was a nice spring break read.
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6,462 reviews336 followers
July 25, 2009
Ah! A happy moving and starting over story. Too often these stories end with the movees moving home and starting over again. The Golsons try retirement in Mexico and end up with many new friends, a palatial home, and a relaxed new life in a small Mexican village. Even the home building went smoothly. Astonishing.
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21 reviews11 followers
May 10, 2008
Entertaining, engaging tale of American couple retiring to small Mexican town of Sayulita and building a house. Very much about how not to be an ugly American and open your mind to new cultures. Also an appreciation of Mexican culture and people.
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January 8, 2012
This is a nicely written memoir of a well-off American couple who retire and move to Mexico. Wasting little time, they skillfully climb the ex-pat social ladder. Connections intact, they exploit cheap local labor to erect an extravagant trophy home, crying poor-mouth along the way.
2 reviews5 followers
January 2, 2013
Interesting view into life of a small Mexican town through the eyes of an American transplant. I loved it because Jeff and In rented this house with my parents and threes kids last winter. Fun to know all the stories behind the house, art and neighbors.
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1,163 reviews23 followers
February 25, 2009
Building a house is never easy, especially in paradise...but the descriptions of Mexico were great. The healthcare system is especially interesting.
Should you read this book? Como no?
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Author 2 books13 followers
June 7, 2019
Americans seem to have forgotten that the gates between the United States and Mexico open in both directions—Americans heading South of the Border in search of a better quality of life pass people coming in in search of the very same thing.

I bought Barry Golson's Gringos In Paradise because the sub-title—An American Couple Builds Their Retirement Dream House in a Seaside Village in Mexico—hit me at a time I was building my "beach house in a cow pasture" in rural South Carolina. Not long after breaking ground, I was hit by The Great Recession and anything related to house building all of a sudden went FUBAR (which, for the uninitiated, means Messed Up Beyond All Recognition. I was curious how their experience in Mexico compared to mine in Jonesville. Because if things didn't go well in Jonesville, I'd be sneaking out in the middle of night.

This is not a DIY book although it does provide valuable insight into unique issues of home construction in a foreign land. Beyond that, I greatly enjoyed the how the Mexican people were described: their emphasis on family and friends, their odd perspective regarding punctuality, their wide, nearly bi-polar swings between laid back and violently passionate.

Too, the author did a nice job describing the handsome terrain and easy climate and the Mexican difference between corruption and "augmentation". All experienced while going through the Rube Goldberg-like hoops and ladders of getting a house on its feet.

The Golsons, in Mexico, had building codes while, in Jonesville, my builder never mentioned them. We both had house plans that began as rough sketches—theirs scratched in the dirt, mine on the back of a manila envelope. And both evolved to professionally rendered plans due to not trusting sketches and the SKETCHERS at all. Lastly, in the end, neither their plan nor ours synced up with budgets and deadlines.

So we had that in common while also sharing the unsteadiness of acclimating to new cultures. In my case, the rural South was unlike any place I'd ever been. It nearly drove me mad. I ended up in a $200 kiddie pool listening to Led Zeppelin all summer. And when I came out I'd written the novel Blue Rubber Pool.

Not wanting to give too much away I'll just say that building a house is a totally crazy adventure whether the accents are Spanish or Southern.

Take this one or your vacation to Cancun or Acapulco or Cancun just in case for even a second you toy with the notion of moving there.

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505 reviews14 followers
September 5, 2017
Fun read about an American couple building a mansion in Mexico. Interesting delve into the people, culture, and customs of Sayulita (and Mexico in general). I like the list of required reading in the appendix. Tension builds through the narrative as the house is not yet complete just weeks and then days before the whole family is due to arrive for Thanksgiving. Easy, humorous read.
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July 13, 2022
Very relatable to anyone buying property in Mexico.

As a new homeowner (not resident) in Sayulita, Barry Golson has given an accurate account of real life in this rustic seaside village in Mexico. I particularly liked his explanation of current anomalies as they relate to the history of Mexico.

I’ve walked past this house many times. No that I’ve read this book, I can’t wait to look at it with the knowledge of what Barry and Thia went through to create it.

David B
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493 reviews116 followers
July 13, 2013
When Mr. Golson,a baby boomer writer/journalist visited expat retirement communities in Mexico while researching a story for the AARP magazine, he fell in love with a village on the Pacific Coast. He and his wife decided to sell or store most of their belongings and move to Sayulita, Mexico. This book tells of his first year there, as they designed and built a house, all with Mexican workers. He has a very evident love for the Mexican people and comes across as a likeable guy whom the locals, both Mexican and expat, quickly embrace as one of their own. Through his encounters, the reader gets to know many of the quirky inhabitants of the town. Some are Mexicans, some Americans who moved there years ago. They all make for a winsome community. He seemed to have a real understanding of and genuine admiration for Mexican culture. Ever since the Great Recession, quite a number of Americans have moved to countries where the cost of living is lower than in the States; it is something I have considered myself. So, this book was a fun read, but also a bit of vicarious "what if" reading. Would I be so bold as to move into an entirely different culture? It's fun to ponder! At the end of the book, he gives helpful websites, books, and info to help someone considering such a move. I would never try to build a house in a foreign country; shoot, I wouldn't try to build one here. But the building process allows the reader to get to know the Mexican workers and get an insight into their lives, and that is very interesting. I was especially interested in the medical system in Mexico. As soon as he and his wife (who drove from New York City to the Pacific Coast of Mexico) arrived, he hurt his ankle and had to use crutches for six weeks. He tells of his experiences with the health care system, and they are actually quite enviable. The Mexican government (according to the author) funds the education for prospective doctors, in exchange for which they must work in small villages just after graduation. The government turns out a LOT of doctors, so every small town is covered. The government also controls prices, so you have blanket coverage at very low costs to the patient. Judging by his experience, the doctors actually spend time with the patient and are very caring. Yes, it lacks some sophistication: he was provided with crutches that were far too small, with the gentle admonishment that he should return them for someone else to use after he no longer needed them. It seemed that what was lacking in high-tech modernity was made up for by human concern.
At any rate, this was a lighthearted, easy read, but with interesting cultural comparisons underlying the text.
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294 reviews
December 13, 2012
Barry Golson is a semi-retired writer who, due to changes in his life takes the plunge and moves to a small town in Mexico on the Pacific coast. He and his wife bought property there on a bit of a whim, but then came back and designed their own home on a different lot of land and made it work.

The book is as much self-help as it is travel. The book details the Golson's year plus trip of self-discovery as they find a new plot of land in town, design their "dream home" and get it built all in a culture very different from the one they know in the USA.

The book is informative and could almost be used as a "how to" book for those seeking to become expats in another country, but at the same time keeps you engaged and rooting for the couples' success. The Golsons grow both individually and as a couple in their new home and Barry Golson isn't afraid to share their problems and successes with the readers.

The book is made much better by a series of candid photos of the Golsons and their house and new community. If you liked Under the Tuscan Sun, then consider this Under the Aztec Sun-god. This book would make an excellent movie too with a completely different setting and look into a different culture. If you enjoy travel books and books about Mexican culture then add this to your shelf.
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1,025 reviews38 followers
June 10, 2016
This is a great book for hubby & I, as we have loved visiting Puerto Vallarta yearly for the past 20 years, as of 2016. We have often fantasized about retiring there. Author Barry Golson & his wife also love vacationing in the area enough that they purchase property in the Pacific coastal village of Sayulita & move to Mexico! The book humorously described their moving there & the trials of building their dream house, which is a real stunner. The book makes me want to move there, too--but not to build a house! Mr. Golson lists several websites, and a reading list of books on the history of Mexico. I don't know how helpful any of this still is, since the book was written in 2004, but I enjoyed this semi-retired writer's look at what "semi-retirement" meant for he & his wife as they navigated through their first year as gringos residing in Mexico.
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1,796 reviews23 followers
December 26, 2014
This one took me a while because there is so much information in this book. I wouldn't say that it was too much. I wouldn't say that I was bored or frustrated by the details. There were times when I was overwhelmed, so I couldn't sit for hours at a time and read it. However, the setting and characters were fabulous. I really fell in love with several of them and learned quite a bit along the way about Mexico and retirement in general.

I'm not sure that I would call it a must read for anyone. But if you enjoy reading slowly through a memoir, pick this one up. I think you will be enjoy spending time with these people.
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255 reviews5 followers
June 7, 2014
Anyone who enjoys Prairie Home Companion will appreciate Mr. Golson's account as exquisitely culturally sensitive. Other people might be a little uncomfortable with all of the Explaining About How Mexicans Are, especially given the backdrop of huge disparity between how the Golsons and their workers can afford to live. But I read the whole thing and that's thanks to Golson's goofy, self-deprecating humor and the rich cast of characters, including the attractive "surf god" son's romantic drama, the silly expat friends, and the tension between the flamboyant architect and terse, precise contractor.
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107 reviews10 followers
July 29, 2011
Liked the subject matter, but am driven CRAZY by errors in researching a book. Early on in the book the author states that Nayarit has "the only tropical jungle south of the US, and before the rain forests of Central and South America." Uh, WRONG. How 'bout the Lacandon? Ever heard of it? Guess not. I know it's just a mistake, but your book is ABOUT MEXICO. After that gaffe, it was difficult for me to believe anything he wrote, and it actually bothered me enough that I had to complain about it here. I know. I should get out more!
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September 20, 2009
This is a lovely story of a Manhattan-based couple who decide to retire and build their dream house in a sleepy village in Mexico. The author's grandparents had actually lived in Mexico until the Pancho Villa revolution and his love for the country is obvious. I appreciated his respect for the Mexican people and their way of life--it gave him an added appreciation for them and an understanding of certain aspects of their culture that would probably have driven other "gringos" nuts!
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1,872 reviews1 follower
January 31, 2016
Barry and Thia Golson's life changes when he is forced out of the job he's had for many years. These baby boomers leave their condo in Conneticut for Mexico. Their belongings are in 30 garbage bags in the back of a used SUV. Book includes some history of Mexico, humor, tales of new friendships, a new culture, the ups and downs of building a house and more. Barry Golson does a great job of making this an interesting and delightful read.
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43 reviews4 followers
September 7, 2009
Great book about the practicalities of moving to and building a house on the coast in Mexico.
As I get nearer to retirement I find myself searching out more and more of these kinds of books.
The author is a very humane person who writes charmingly of his discoveries of the Mexican people and the gringos who preceded him to the "paradise" of a small town north of Puerto Vallarta.
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Author 8 books1 follower
February 25, 2010
This was a great book. Scott and I really enjoyed it. This memoir is through the voice of Barry Golson. He and his wife moved from the United States down to Sayulita, Mexico and went on to build their own home. Scott and I really identified with the story because we have spent time in Sayulita and knew of many places he talked about.
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18 reviews
July 30, 2011
This is a very entertaining book about building a home in the small Mexican village of Sayulita. I really enjoyed reading it, however, it is obvious to me that the couple didn't do the research they needed to do before attempting such an endeavor. Sayulita is a great village; best to rent for a good time first to find out it it fits you.
107 reviews
April 14, 2012
This book describes the planning and building of a retirement home in Sayulita, Mexico. Terry and I stayed at this home in January of 2012 with Liz, Jeff, Frank, Rosie and Oscar. It was wonderful to be in the home that the Golsons lovingly and meticulously designed and still cherish. A great and personal read!
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7 reviews
March 21, 2008
This book was invaluable in helping me learn about the relaxed culture and way of life in Mexico. It really inspired me to travel to Mexico and enabled me to enjoy my travel there through an understanding I would otherwise not have experienced.
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