This must be one of the most important books I've read not just this year, but during my almost 25 years of existence.
I am so tired of "self help", books and speeches from big, powerful people who pretend that it's all about being nice and show sympathy, when it's inevitable for them to have only been using those strategies to get them where they are. I am a positive, optimistic person who likes to see the good in people - one thing I do despise, though, is people who portray themselves as angels when they've gotten a good dose of help from being strategic and other powerful people.
It makes people remain helpless, soft and to not look out for themselves. I've been thinking of what I believe is to be an important message from this book: If you don't go after power, others will. And it's important that "good" people - whatever that is - claims power. Or else there's only the "bad guys" - whatever that is, too" - who will be in power and rule others.
I've tried for many years other to be "overly kind", and that has resulted in bad results both professionally and psychologically, resentment and really didn't make anything good out of it except temporarily relief for both parties.
I had never heard of this book or the author. I stumbled upon this book on a trip to Edinburgh in a pretty much empty street when I saw the cover in a little book store. I was automatically drawn to it as I've, as mentioned, been thinking from other perspectives regarding social interactions and things related to this book. An example is that one of the goals for 2022 is to be wary of gaslighting, as this is not an uncommon event to happen for a lot people who takes feedback, thinks a lot about others and wishes for a world where everyone are kind to each other.
I think it's especially important for us who have been under this mental umbrella, being shielded from the hard - not the reality of it - but the truth, who have held back the power we have within us to actually contribute to a more resilient, fair and kind world to read this.
The research is also very good, and I appreciate someone telling the hard truth. This author seems to truly have wanted to deliver truth and helpful advice, rather than being liked (which, if you have read the book, will get the non-irony of that). I have studied by annotated, highlighted and rewritten sentences from the book. I have already recommended books about power to my female friends who have been taken advantage of and experienced things no people on this planet deserve to encounter. This book might be the most helpful one yet of those.
I now have a dream to enter a class of Pfeffer one day. This book has not only helped me as a person, but to my dream of one day becoming a leader and aim towards a common mission with fellow resilient, talented and people who loves other people. I'm soon about to take some leardship courses as part of my studies, and now I'm kind of scared of new reading material that will only have the fancy, "being looked at as moral" type of readings.
NB! If anyone are interested in discussing the topics of this book, I am looking for like minded people who are intrigued by these kind of subjects.
Wishing you who have felt you've held yourself back to the comfort of others, a powerful year ⭐️