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When It Comes For Me
In captivating and compelling story-like writing, Hanća navigates through life of postpartum and the madness of motherhood, parenthood, marriage, culture and community, self-identity, a deeper dive into love, faith, and family. There is an in-depth and insightful view of her life, in hopes to help readers empathize this sense of misunderstanding, anger, frustration, healing, and growth as she has explored through these different stages and chapters.
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Published June 21, 2022
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July 24, 2022
Oh I do love Hanca and her writing.
I was so fortunate to read her first poetry collection before it came out and I fell in love with her writing and her bravery within her words.
This book is no different. She writes about motherhood, marraige, her culture, intrusive thoughts and anxiety. So much of this I could relate to.
I love that she writes long poems, and included pieces of prose and diary entries within the collection. It felt like I was reading a story of a few years of Hanca's life in a beautiful, poetic way.
The collection opens with words I didn't know, so I had to google things. This immediately welcomed me into a world that wasn't my own, and put me as the vulnerable reader, which was super empowering to Hanca and her world. I love being put in my place when I'm reading and Honca did just that, while still being warm and kind and welcoming and loving.
Soon enough, she discusses the harsh realities of motherhood, which I really appreciate as a mother who has found this journey harder than I imagined. Honca makes me feel like I have a real friend within the pages.
The poems that I find are the most beautiful and poetic are the ones about Bosnia, her homeland. She uses tons of imagery and metaphors that just reel you in and make you feel like you're there. One thing I would love to see more, is these metaphors and imagery carrying into other poems. There are a lot of poems that are written in anger and rage, and rightly so, and I wish the soft, poetic language was carried over into these poems. Instead, there's a lot of the word "crap" or "freaking" which took me out of the poems a little, because it was quite a bit contrast to the other beautiful language in the poem. I think the anger and frustration would still be super transparent even if the language was a little softer here; in fact, it might be even more hard-hitting.
So that's really my only critique - that some of the poems just didn't have the same soft, quality language that some of the other poems had. I know that Honca can do it because we see it in so many of the poems, but at times, it didn't feel consistent.
That being said, there are so many elements of this collection that I highlighted. My favourite poems included: "the days and weeks leading up to my being married", "it was a blur, those nine months", "stop telling mothers 'it's all worth it'", "read me", "mountains and oceans to you", "i try not to think about it", "motherhood is easily the hardest thing you'll ever do", and "i don't think about it".
Can't wait to read what Honca delivers next! <3
I was so fortunate to read her first poetry collection before it came out and I fell in love with her writing and her bravery within her words.
This book is no different. She writes about motherhood, marraige, her culture, intrusive thoughts and anxiety. So much of this I could relate to.
I love that she writes long poems, and included pieces of prose and diary entries within the collection. It felt like I was reading a story of a few years of Hanca's life in a beautiful, poetic way.
The collection opens with words I didn't know, so I had to google things. This immediately welcomed me into a world that wasn't my own, and put me as the vulnerable reader, which was super empowering to Hanca and her world. I love being put in my place when I'm reading and Honca did just that, while still being warm and kind and welcoming and loving.
Soon enough, she discusses the harsh realities of motherhood, which I really appreciate as a mother who has found this journey harder than I imagined. Honca makes me feel like I have a real friend within the pages.
The poems that I find are the most beautiful and poetic are the ones about Bosnia, her homeland. She uses tons of imagery and metaphors that just reel you in and make you feel like you're there. One thing I would love to see more, is these metaphors and imagery carrying into other poems. There are a lot of poems that are written in anger and rage, and rightly so, and I wish the soft, poetic language was carried over into these poems. Instead, there's a lot of the word "crap" or "freaking" which took me out of the poems a little, because it was quite a bit contrast to the other beautiful language in the poem. I think the anger and frustration would still be super transparent even if the language was a little softer here; in fact, it might be even more hard-hitting.
So that's really my only critique - that some of the poems just didn't have the same soft, quality language that some of the other poems had. I know that Honca can do it because we see it in so many of the poems, but at times, it didn't feel consistent.
That being said, there are so many elements of this collection that I highlighted. My favourite poems included: "the days and weeks leading up to my being married", "it was a blur, those nine months", "stop telling mothers 'it's all worth it'", "read me", "mountains and oceans to you", "i try not to think about it", "motherhood is easily the hardest thing you'll ever do", and "i don't think about it".
Can't wait to read what Honca delivers next! <3
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