Women Are Crazy, Men Are Stupid: The Simple Truth to a Complicated Relationship

by Howard J. Morris, Jenny Lee

Provides lighthearted insights into gender dynamics as presented by a pair of sitcom writers who explain that dysfunctional behavior is often due to interactions between men and women rather than their separate characteristics, in a guide that shares playful and real-world advice.

Genres: Relationships, Nonfiction, Humor, Self Help, Audiobook, Psychology, Marriage

256 pages, Hardcover

First published August 31, 2009

Reviews

[Abeer Alamri · Rating 1 out of 5]

الكوميديا في الكتاب + اختلاف العادات عنا جعلته مملا وغير مفيد بالنسبه لنا في نظري، عادة اتصفح الكتب قبل ما اشتريها وهذا الكتاب تصفحته بس ما اعرف كيف اشتريته؟ بديت اقراه بجديه بس لما وصلت للنص صرت اتصفحه بسرعه واشوف العناوين اللي تهمني

[Howard J. · Rating 5 out of 5]

Okay, I'm biased because I wrote it. Actually, co-wrote it with my crazy partner in crime and in life, Jenny Lee. But you're going to love it. The New York Times loved it. But I'm more interested in hearing from you. Do you agree at least with one of these statements? I'm dying to hear what you think. And I'll answer any questions at stupidhoward@gmail.com. Hope to hear from you!

Howard J. Morris

[Natalia L · Rating 4 out of 5]

Some combination of the cover and the title made this book leap out at me from where it was nestled upon the shelf. I picked it up and proceeded to ignore my friends in favour of reading the first 100 pages or so.

Written by two comedy writers who just so happen to be a couple, this book made me laugh out loud. In the bookstore. (Come to think of it, maybe it was my friends who ignored me...)

Will this book solve all--or any--problems between a couple? No. It assumes both people in the relationship are reasonably mature, loving individuals, who want to make their partner happy, and make a pretty good relationship better. Clearly--and unfortunately--this isn't always the case. The book doesn't give real advice or solve complicated issues... And it doesn't claim to. Don't take this book too seriously and you'll enjoy it all the more.

With anecdotes, great lines, and a he-said/she-said format, this book is fun and quick to read. It's also a self-described "nudge" to understand each other better, and sometimes that's all we need--a nudge in the right direction. Especially if that nudge makes you laugh out loud.

[Mel · Rating 2 out of 5]

It started out well enough; witty, funny, but then yes Jenny is CRAZY! If women around the world act like her, and I were a man, I'd become a monk. Then the book started to have too many "political montages" that really put a damper on what the book was supposedly about. Beside that though, it was okay. They're crazy and stoopid (not a typo), work well together.

[Sarah · Rating 4 out of 5]

Read this book in a single night while lying in bed. It's so funny...I love the relationship between the two authors (who are a couple). I truly related to this book in a big way...it made me feel like I'm not the only one going through the same stuff in relationships. The best part though was that they didn't suggest any major changes be made by men or women just that they try to learn to understand each other, listen to each other and care for each others' needs as much as possible.

[Kelsey Baguinat · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book is hilarious. It's not so much a relationship advice book as just a "let's accept each other for what we are: stupid and crazy" kind of book. Which is true. Women are crazy and men are stupid. I thoroughly enjoyed all the little stories they told to illustrate this fact, and I definitely related to most, if not all, of them.

[Hasan Khaled · Rating 1 out of 5]

الكتاب وجدته مملاً جداً لا أدري ما السبب هل هي الترجمة السيئة له أم عدم خوضي تجربة مع الجنس الأخر "المجنون" كما يقول الكاتب !

[Marwa Alraeesi · Rating 3 out of 5]

فكرة الكتاب ليست جديدة وهي الاختلاف بين المرأة والرجل .. ولكن اعجبنتني فكرة قراءة المشكلة ورأي الرجل والمرأة كلا حسب وجهة نظره .. كتاب مسلي لكن لا تتوقع أن تجد حلا للإختلافات

[Mohammed omran · Rating 1 out of 5]

ليس انت الكل
وليس الكل انت
الكاتبين جابو اتنين متجوزين حاله فرديه وعملوا تعميم
ان البنات مجانين
والرجال اغبياء
نجمه علشان الترجمه
وقرصه ودن لهوارد
يتنيل علي عينه مفيش حد يقدر يوصف عقل الست ازاي بيفكر حتي الستات نفسهم

[Bridget · Rating 5 out of 5]

Men and women have different ideas about how to express their love. When you're a little girl, your parents tell you that when a boy hits you or pulls your hair, it's because they like you. That should have been my first clue that maybe they had a different interpretation of how to show they care. I've always found the human mind fascinating and so I had to read this book. Once you realize that the people in your life have a different perspective, it's a lot easier to accept them for who they are.

It was so funny, I literally spit my drink all over the living room. I was cracking up so loud that my Aunt in California heard me (I live in Kentucky). That's a bit of an exaggeration but I think it helps get the point across that this book was hilarious!

[Jennifer · Rating 2 out of 5]

Not nearly as funny as it should be, given that the authors both write sitcoms for their day jobs. The title pretty much sums up the thrust of the book, wherein Howard by and large acknowledges that women act the way they do because men drive them to it (um, duh), then advocates mutual understanding as a path to eternal bliss (um, double duh). One wonders how men might feel about Howard claiming fault on behalf of the entire gender, but since men rarely read this kind of relationship self help tripe, we'll probably never know.

[Kate · Rating 2 out of 5]

Don't know if I'll finish this one. Their humor just doesn't do it for me - just a little smirk here and there, no laughing out loud. Mostly it's just a he said/she said look at all their fights and problems. I kind of don't care about them anymore.

[Zainah Aljishi · Rating 3 out of 5]

لم أستفيد كثيرا من قرائتي للكتاب عدا أنه ينقل اختلافات المرأه والرجل وتفكيرهما لأرض الواقع من خلال مواقف الزوجين عندما بدأت قرائته احسست بالملل لكن بعد ذلك وجدته ممتعا وواقعيا ومضحكا جدا ً ،،الكتاب مسلي لا يعرض حلول لكن يخفف من حدة المشاكل بين المرأه والرجل بعرضها بطرريقه مضحكه

[Isfp · Rating 3 out of 5]

قرأت هذا الكتاب للمرة الثانية بعد أربع سنوات من القراءة الأولى، نظرتي له اختلفت ولم أعد أرى نفسي أشبه جيني المرأة المجنونة !

[Reem khalid · Rating 2 out of 5]

لم يقدم لي اي استفادة

[uthaila ALHashmi · Rating 2 out of 5]

ملخص الكتاب:
هذا الكتاب يستكشف العلاقات بين الرجال والنساء بطريقة مرحة وعميقة في آن واحد. يتناول تساؤلات مثل لماذا يبدو الرجال غبيين عندما يتعلق الأمر بالنساء، ولماذا يبدو النساء مجنونات عندما يتعلق الأمر بالرجال. يستند الكتاب إلى رؤية بسيطة وعميقة في نفس الوقت، ويقدم حلاً واقعيًا للمشكلات المزمنة في العلاقات الإنسانية.

أهداف الكتاب:
١-توضيح الاختلافات بين الرجال والنساء في العلاقات الإنسانية.
٢-تقديم رؤية بسيطة وعميقة للتحديات التي تواجه الأزواج.
٣-توجيه رسالة للقراء حول كيفية التعامل مع العلاقات بشكل أفضل.
٤-تشجيع الفهم والتسامح بين الجنسين.
٥-تقديم حلاً واقعيًا للمشكلات المزمنة في العلاقات الإنسانية.


“تعلم أن تفهم وتحترم الاختلافات بين الناس.”
في العالم المعاصر، نتعامل مع أشخاص من خلفيات متنوعة وثقافات مختلفة. يجب أن نكون مستعدين للتعلم والتفاهم والتسامح. الاختلافات في الرأي والعادات والقيم ليست سلبية، بل هي فرصة للتعلم والنمو. بالتفاهم والصبر، يمكننا بناء علاقات صحية ومستدامة مع الآخرين.

[Kat · Rating 2 out of 5]

Didn't love it, didn't hate it, didn't really like it either. Disappointed

The cover of the book caught my eye long time ago, I believe it was the first book I ever added to my "to read" list here on Goodreads so I was very happy to see that months later my library had a copy of it. The title is hilarious and I'm pretty sure most people feel that it's true in a humorous way. However, I found that the title was the best thing about this book. It's just so good that really, the book would have to be amazing for it to do it justice, and amazing it is not. I had it at home for 9 weeks and only got halfway through the book before I had to return it. It just didn't keep my interest. It wasn't horrible, it was pretty easy to read and had some funny parts but I would look at it on my night stand and think "nah, I'd rather watch TV", which is not normally the case. Maybe it was because I found their stories unrelateable most of the time or because I thought the guy was especially stupid in his relationships and thoughts concerning women and the lady was especially crazy in those areas. She seems like one of those women that most of us (women) hate because they make us all seem completely unreasonable. To be fair, I think women can be unreasonable at times and we can't help it, we are a bit crazy, but this lady is a bit out there. And this guy is stupid, I mean he talks about a relationship in which he told the girl that the way her family communicated & solved problems made no sense. You never say that to people, whether you're dating them or are friends with them or just met them or are their therapist or bikini waxer, unless there's abuse involved, the way that a family does something, no matter how different from your family, is the perfect way. Of course you think it's crazy and stupid, that's not the point.

All in all, I think that if I was on a bus or a plane or on vacation and this was the only book I had to read, I would get through it and it wouldn't be too much of a pain but it was not a page turner. It wasn't nearly as funny as I was hoping it would be. I didn't like the format (he writes a chapter and she responds). I didn't like the authors, I didn't dislike them either but I don't want to be their friend.

[Talia · Rating 4 out of 5]

I first saw this book in the library where I was working at the time. I saw the title, stopped, then nodded sagely and murmured to myself, “Yes. How true.” This book, a play on the “Men Are from Mars” school of thought, is full of stories and anecdotes that reinforce the idea that women are psychos and that men are morons. Anyone who has ever dealt with a member of the opposite sex can attest to that. The book is made up of various situations from both the male (Howard) and female (Jenny) point of view. The fun part is being able to relate to the stories and see yourself in them, like gossiping with friends.

I chose to listen to this book on CD; a huge gamble since non-fiction books don’t really translate well to audio, but this one, thanks to its heavy-anecdotal format, worked quite well. I wasn’t a fan of the lady reader, I thought she misinterpreted portions of Jenny’s writing, but that’s a small issue with the format, not the work itself. I was cracking up while listening to this. Nothing beats flying down the freeway, doing 70mph while cackling like a madwoman! While I really enjoyed listening to this, my only beef is that there is no scientific or attempt at research in the book, it’s purely memiorish. And while neither author claims to be a topical expert on gender relationships (but they are great writers!), the librarian in me clucks her tongue and wonders why no one did any research before writing. But that’s a teeny gripe. Overall, a very entertaining and fun read/listen. And you might just learn something about yourself in the process.

[Gavin · Rating 3 out of 5]

This was an interesting premise. Basically each chapter is written by the guy and the wife responds. They do a fairly decent job, but some events they write on did make me roll my eyes. Certainly I need to be careful in criticizing because I certainly have been guilty of some actions or remarks that would make others roll their eyes.

Anyway, empathy is always a good trait, and a good point is made that in a recreation of The Dating Game the woman is probably the more observant and has details filed away that the guy completely missed when discussed. Nevertheless, I state here and now, but if I only got 1.5 out of 10 correct and was then given the answers I would study them carefully in order to never make that mistake again. Howard, our male author got called out later about Jenny's favorite singer. And this seemingly in the middle of writing this book? Please...

Yet, I am definitely self-absorbed and always interested in my current mania of history or biography and have to remind myself to focus in order to be a good spouse. So, I did note a few suggestions for doing just that.

[Sheli Ellsworth · Rating 4 out of 5]

This relationship read is witty, insightful read set in Hollywood urban culture. If a little neurosis goes a long way this couple will get a round-trip ticket to Alpha Centari. Any guy calls the love of their life crazy as a shithouse rat might want to consider a gun permit. An excellent bachelor party gift for anyone that is probably headed for divorce court anyway. Howard and Jenny bravely delve into many relationship pitfalls such as empathy (how to get it and why you would want it), why men make women crazy- a historical perspective, how to deal with the crazy, the stupid defense. The culturally dependent will annoy some and fascinate others. A must for guys. Memoir style, funny, plenty of adult language to keep guys interested. Contemporary culture references that will interest brides. Sports analogies.

[Chris Kuehnlenz · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book made me laugh.There's a lot of good insight on how we men can't empathize, or see things from a woman's point of view. It also shares the truth that all women are crazy, but there are varying degrees of craziness depending on how stupid we men are.Disclaimer: These writers are coming from broken marriages, and share that their past mistakes have helped them in their new relationship with eachother. I don't think that they are saying you have to go through a divorce to understand the opposite sex, but it could be interpreted that way. This book gives no Biblical insight or discussion on marriage/dating.

[Lisa · Rating 3 out of 5]

I usually avoid these kinds of 'battle of the sexes' books. I take recommendations of them by friends with trepidation. I actually didn't mind this book so much and I think it was because it was written by primarily a guy but interjected by his girlfriend, both of whom are comedic screenplay writers in Hollywood. It had me grinning and giggling. It was also very balanced and didn't suggest one sex was better than the other. So, it wasn't too bad. I might consider reading other books this friend happens to recommend.

[James Biser · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book was more entertainment than psychological advice for men and women in relationships. Howard Morris and Jenny Lee are hilarious!
This is a great read because of the humor, but there is also great insight for members of the opposite sex. It is excellent how each chapter is written by a member from a different gender from the same relationship.
The final comment by the authors makes it clear that the crazy and stupid are perfect compliments to each other. A woman's insanity is pointless without the imbecility of a man.

[Arwa · Rating 1 out of 5]

كتاب تافه جداً الحمدلله مو انا اللي شريته

قريت حوالي ٤٠ صفحة وتصفحت الباقي عالسريع ولا زالت الافكار تنعاد

يتكلم عن اختلافات المرأة والرجل

تكرار عنوان الكتاب ٧٣٦٣٨ مره والافكار تنعاد وغصب المرأة مجنونة والرجل غبي وسبب طلاق الزوجين هو عدم فهم الرجل للمرأة، طيب كثير نساء مايفهمون ازواجهم او بشكل عام بثرين و عندهم مشاكل نفسيه وعقد والعكس!

خلافاتهم ومشاكلهم تاااافهه جداً ( تحبني والا ماتحبني، وش بتسوي اذا مت؟ تشوف اختي اجمل مني؟ اي وحده من صديقاتي اجمل؟ هل انا سمينه؟)

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[Lynn · Rating 4 out of 5]

This is a funny, entertaining look into the differences between men and women and our different communication styles. If more couples read this book relationships would benefit from increased understanding of the opposite sex. Unfortunately, I doubt that men would take the time to read something like this.

[Victoria · Rating 1 out of 5]

It had a few moments of brilliance, and a few passages were laugh-out-loud funny, but for the most part the meat of the book is summed up in the title. Don't read it expecting it to change your world or how you view relationships; but for a light, entertaining read with some sprinklings of smart thrown in, this certainly does the trick.

[Katherine · Rating 3 out of 5]

Fair warning: moments of crassness and TMI. On the other hand, this book contains the best description of what I usually mean when I say I want more romance! In general, I felt this was awfully biased towards "just do everything to make your woman happy!" without much effort required on the woman's part. But it does have moments of exceptional description that had me saying, "Yes! Exactly!"

[Nan Clegg · Rating 3 out of 5]

The most wonderful non-self-help book I've ever read about relationships. You can appreciate the crazy that is packed between the covers without feeling a bit guilty about the crazy you may in your own life.

[Leslie · Rating 4 out of 5]

I found this book both an entertainingly laugh out loud funny tale and a very insightful look into the differences and interactions between men and women. I think everyone should read it in order to gain a better understanding and love of his/her partner in life.

[Amy Denim · Rating 4 out of 5]

Ok, Jenny really is crazy. Howard is stupid, but Jenny is freakin' nutso. See the flowers chapter. I laughed, I shared funny bits with my family. I didn't cry, although some of Howard's stupid moments almost made me want to.