7 Forms of Respect: A Guide to Transforming Your Communication and Relationships at Work

by Julie Pham

We grew up thinking you should treat others how you’d want to be treated. But what if the Golden Rule isn't always right? In this practical guide for any team leader and team player in the American workplace, Dr. Julie Pham helps you navigate the ambiguity of what it means to respect others. She offers thought-provoking questions and exercises that will transform your communication and relationships with the people you work with in lasting and surprising ways.

162 pages, Kindle Edition

Published April 15, 2022

Reviews

[Simon Tan · Rating 5 out of 5]

Very short and easily digestible, but the value of what's contained within is invaluable for anyone wanting to improve their relationships at work (or with family)! Makes you reflect on all the times you may have felt 'disrespected' - realizing that everyone has different, dynamic definitions of 'respect' and that you can't please everyone all the time. This is a great conversation starter for teams, even a potentially highly effective team-building exercise. While the book does lean into selling the author's workshops a bit, it is revelatory all on its own and well worth your time.

[Lourdes Tsukada · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is the 2nd book I've read by author Julie Pham. I enjoyed the exercises w/in the book. After reading the book, I made a discovery I was not expecting myself!! The assumptions I made with people! I never asked myself what the other person's perception or the hows they received from my actions! As an example. I always bring or buy presents. I was brought up you always bring a present when you are invited to their home(s) for lunch or dinner. I also think of my close friends when I travel and bring a little present for them. I NEVER asked my friend if they enjoyed receiving presents!! When I asked the question, my friend answered they do not like to receive presents! I then asked why they never mentioned this to me. Their reply is "I know it makes you happy".

It's an easy read and the exercises are definitely a must-do. There are many traits one can learn from this book! I definitely recommend this book!

[Brittany Danyelle · Rating 5 out of 5]

I've been a fan of Dr. Julie's work for years and watched the development of her 7 Forms of Respect™ come to fruition. Who knew that one could take all of those years of research and development and pack it into such a useful tool like this book. The 7 Forms of Respect will truly help you to better navigate your relationships (and not just at work!) through communication. I want to hand out this book to everyone I meet!

[Paige · Rating 4 out of 5]

Digestible framework!

[Brian · Rating 5 out of 5]

Insightful

I loved the breakdown of the forms of respect. The examples for each type really illuminated how people value the different forms and it held you gain a new perspective

[Alexandra Steele · Rating 5 out of 5]

A fantastic resource for improving communication, compassion and workplace culture. A must read for every working professional.

[Martina Nemčić · Rating 5 out of 5]

In her book "7 Forms of Respect" Julie says: "When people hear my story, they are more likely to remember why I care." This thought took me back to one evening in her apartment, and made me admire her even more for always staying true to herself.

A few years ago, Julie invited me to a dinner party at her apartment, where she attentively listened not only to my story but also to the stories of six other remarkable women. Among them were tech veterans, philanthropists, entrepreneurs, accomplished lawyers and travelers. Despite the diversity, we all bonded over Julie's delicious cooking and her knack for creating an atmosphere of curiosity and respect. I remember feeling nervous before the dinner about sharing among such accomplished women. However, they never made me feel inadequate. Instead, I felt embraced and respected, even when I struggled to find the right words to express my thoughts.

"7 Forms of Respect" is a transformative guide for enhancing communication and relationships at work. I often find myself returning to these pages, and would recommend the book to anyone who works with people with diverse backgrounds and wants to understand better how to show them respect.

It made me a better colleague, manager and a friend. Thank you, Julie!