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Relationship Reset: How to break the cycle of conflict and create secure and lasting love
Why do we fight most with those we love best?
Australian relationship therapist Lissy Abrahams has spent years exploring this question, both in her treatment room helping clients and through extensive research.
She knows that long-term conflict leaves us drained, anxious and worried for the emotional wellbeing of our families, but says it is neither intractable nor inevitable. Conflict is caused by unconscious patterns of thinking and behaviour - unresolved feelings of fear, instability or pain - which can be consciously rewired for a healthier, happier relationship.
Lissy has seen firsthand how even small changes can help people reduce conflict and reconnect with their partners, improving their quality of life.
In Relationship Reset, Lissy provides practical, evidence-based tools to help you:
- understand how childhood experiences affect adult relationships
- identify your blind spots, defence mechanisms and triggers - and recognise them in others
- become aware of patterns in conflict, and learn new ways to respond to distress
- communicate clearly and openly with your partner, without judgment
- develop a more trusting, intimate and stable relationship.
Filled with insightful research, case studies and exercises, Relationship Reset will help you rewrite the stories underlying your emotional life, and build a secure and loving union.
Praise for Relationship Reset:
'A work of brilliance and empathy, this beautifully-written masterpiece offers much hope.' - Professor Brett Kahr
'A brilliant read for all who want to understand relationship challenges' - Dr Jodie Lowinger, author of The Mind Strength Method
'Drawing on her considerable wealth of experience, Lissy skilfully unlocks the mysteries of relationships and the many hidden ways in which they can unravel.' - Dr Jacqui Winship, clinical psychologist and co-author of The Talking Cure
Australian relationship therapist Lissy Abrahams has spent years exploring this question, both in her treatment room helping clients and through extensive research.
She knows that long-term conflict leaves us drained, anxious and worried for the emotional wellbeing of our families, but says it is neither intractable nor inevitable. Conflict is caused by unconscious patterns of thinking and behaviour - unresolved feelings of fear, instability or pain - which can be consciously rewired for a healthier, happier relationship.
Lissy has seen firsthand how even small changes can help people reduce conflict and reconnect with their partners, improving their quality of life.
In Relationship Reset, Lissy provides practical, evidence-based tools to help you:
- understand how childhood experiences affect adult relationships
- identify your blind spots, defence mechanisms and triggers - and recognise them in others
- become aware of patterns in conflict, and learn new ways to respond to distress
- communicate clearly and openly with your partner, without judgment
- develop a more trusting, intimate and stable relationship.
Filled with insightful research, case studies and exercises, Relationship Reset will help you rewrite the stories underlying your emotional life, and build a secure and loving union.
Praise for Relationship Reset:
'A work of brilliance and empathy, this beautifully-written masterpiece offers much hope.' - Professor Brett Kahr
'A brilliant read for all who want to understand relationship challenges' - Dr Jodie Lowinger, author of The Mind Strength Method
'Drawing on her considerable wealth of experience, Lissy skilfully unlocks the mysteries of relationships and the many hidden ways in which they can unravel.' - Dr Jacqui Winship, clinical psychologist and co-author of The Talking Cure
320 pages, Paperback
Published July 26, 2022
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September 6, 2023
As a Relationship Therapist, I found so many areas in this book that are problematic and could very easily cause more conflict in a relationship. I would not recommend this book at all. I would suggest sticking to quality and reliable information like the Gottmans or Sue Johnson.
May 15, 2023
Was not a book that I read for personal reasons but was interesting to learn about the effects parents have on children for my line of work 😊
February 12, 2025
Wonderful book. Very helpful for understanding the psychology of conflict in relationships.
June 12, 2024
3.5-4/5 stars⭐️
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