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Đến Ngày Gặp Anh
Đến ngày gặp anh là câu chuyện tình với đủ các cung bậc hỉ nộ ái ố của một chàng trai trong hành trình chông gai đi tìm định mệnh của đời mình, từ mối tình đầu khi còn là sinh viên, trang web hẹn hò đầu tiên đến quãng ngày chung sống dưới một mái nhà với người mà cậu yêu.
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First published April 29, 2020
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January 22, 2023
Ryousuke Nanasaki’s manga is based on his original, memoir-in-essays reflecting on his experiences as a gay man in Japan. Originally serialized weekly via Bunshun online, the manga adaptation follows the author from childhood, documenting his awareness that he was somehow “different” in his tastes and desires - something he later connects to a series of painful, fruitless crushes on other boys. Ryousuke grows up and moves from his hometown to Tokyo where he discovers a whole community of men who share his desires, and slowly moves towards a realisation that he’s gay, eventually “marrying” his male partner and becoming a prominent activist in the queer community.
The manga’s illustrated by Yoshi Tsukizuki who has a background in the Boy’s Love (BL) subgenre. It’s an interesting choice firmly locating the story in the BL universe. For anyone unfamiliar with BL, it’s predominantly aimed at female audiences, often perceived as a form of fantasy through which women in a patriarchal society can imagine themselves taking on roles in which they are no longer subordinate. But it also has a growing queer following and, recently, pieces like this one have added to increasing numbers of BL manga openly exploring queer themes. Traditional BL often dodge or deny that characters are actually queer - and can be surprisingly homophobic, as well as frequently featuring rape or coercive relationships. So, the emphasis here on Japan’s queer community and storylines that, for example, detail the problems arising from Ryosuke’s involvement with an emotionally abusive partner make for an interesting counter to many, mainstream BL representations.
It's an often-moving, heartfelt piece but positioning and structuring it as a BL-style manga means that it’s also quite pared-down – a lot of the source material’s apparently been edited out. So that some of the issues raised around stereotyping, gender and the broader social, political, and cultural context, are presented in fairly simplistic terms or glossed over altogether. Although there are a number of useful background notes included. Translated by Amber Tamosaitis.
The manga’s illustrated by Yoshi Tsukizuki who has a background in the Boy’s Love (BL) subgenre. It’s an interesting choice firmly locating the story in the BL universe. For anyone unfamiliar with BL, it’s predominantly aimed at female audiences, often perceived as a form of fantasy through which women in a patriarchal society can imagine themselves taking on roles in which they are no longer subordinate. But it also has a growing queer following and, recently, pieces like this one have added to increasing numbers of BL manga openly exploring queer themes. Traditional BL often dodge or deny that characters are actually queer - and can be surprisingly homophobic, as well as frequently featuring rape or coercive relationships. So, the emphasis here on Japan’s queer community and storylines that, for example, detail the problems arising from Ryosuke’s involvement with an emotionally abusive partner make for an interesting counter to many, mainstream BL representations.
It's an often-moving, heartfelt piece but positioning and structuring it as a BL-style manga means that it’s also quite pared-down – a lot of the source material’s apparently been edited out. So that some of the issues raised around stereotyping, gender and the broader social, political, and cultural context, are presented in fairly simplistic terms or glossed over altogether. Although there are a number of useful background notes included. Translated by Amber Tamosaitis.
December 2, 2023
"Tôi cứ nghĩ sẽ chẳng ai hiểu được nỗi lòng này. Cứ tưởng rằng một khi thổ lộ tôi sẽ bị người khác cự tuyệt, ghét bỏ. [...] Khi ấy tôi mới biết rằng ngưng lừa dối chính mình, được người khác thấu hiểu cho con người thật của mình mới nhẹ lòng đến nhường nào."
Thật ra cuốn manga này được sáng tác dựa theo cuốn tự truyện Until I Meet My Husband của tác giả Ryousuke Nanasaki. Đến Ngày Gặp Anh là một câu chuyện của Ryousuke Nanasaki, về cách anh ấy gặp được người chồng hiện tại của mình. Không những thế, đây còn là một câu chuyện để ta học cách cởi mở và chấp nhận con người thật của mình.
Ryousuke vốn dĩ đã nhận thức được bản thân anh ấy "khác biệt" với các bạn nam khác từ khi còn nhỏ, Ryousuke có những sở thích và cử chỉ nhẹ nhàng - dần dần anh ấy cũng biết bản thân thích con trai - và anh ấy nhận ra bản thân là gay. Chẳng tránh được những hành vi kỳ thị và bắt nạt từ mọi người và họ gọi Ryousuke là "thằng bóng"; khiến Ryousuke tự ti che giấu con người thật của anh ấy với gia đình và những người xung quanh.
Đến Ngày Gặp Anh còn là những ký ức ngọt ngào, xấu hổ, tức giận, đau thương của một con người trước những lần "cảm nắng", mối tình đầu. Một hành trình vốn không phải dễ dàng để Ryousuke tìm kiếm điều anh ấy thực sự muốn. Mình hoàn toàn đồng cảm với những gì Ryousuke đã trải qua, cuộc sống đôi khi có những trăn trở khó mà có thể đương đầu, đặc biệt là với cộng đồng LGBT+.
Đến kết mình hoàn toàn hài lòng với cuốn manga này, khi nhận ra đây Vốn-là-một-câu-chuyện-có-thật thì mình hoàn toàn cảm động. Phần ngoại truyện cũng đáng yêu phết (´-ω-`). Rõ ràng với phần minh họa của họa sĩ Yoshi Tsukizuki à thứ quan trọng không kém - nét vẽ thể hiện cảm xúc của nhân vật và cũng tạo nên sự gợi cảm, e dè về những "tìm hiểu". Mình đọc bản Việt của nhà URANIX giấy sờ dày thích thật sự.
"Nhìn lại cuộc đời mình từ trước đến nay, quãng thời gian khắc nghiệt nhất với tôi chính là lúc tôi mang trong mình suy nghĩ tự ghét bỏ bản thân. Hy vọng rằng kể cả khi không ai hiểu cho bạn, bạn cũng vẫn đứng về phía bản thân mình. Mong bạn hãy tin tưởng rằng hạnh phúc sẽ đến bên bạn vào một ngày nào đó."
October 2, 2022
Knowing that this manga is based on actual occurrences makes my heart so happy. Since the characters are based on real people, I can't really comment on character design here, but I can speak about the art style. It was clear and simple to follow, which is something I really enjoy in manga. The narrative has a nice ending and is realistically sweet. Since the timelines can be a little confused, there could have been a few more chapters and side stories included in the manga if the tempo had been a little slower. However, aside from that, it was quite charming and realistic.
December 29, 2024
TW// homophobia, mentions of cheating, bullying, mention of divorce, alcohol abuse
Until I Meet My Husband is a really sweet memoir in manga format that explores Ryousuke’s life as he figures out his identity and struggles through relationships while trying to find his true love.
The way that this memoir was translated into a manga format worked really well. The story was easy to follow, the pacing was wonderful, and it felt like such a heartfelt manga. I also loved the artwork and the beautiful drawings really added to the beauty of this manga.
The only problem I had with this book was how it brushed over Ryousuke’s first sexual experience and why that experience was problematic. However, I know that having that experiene in this manga and letting people see that they may have been taken advantage of, too, may help a lot of people cope with their own trauma.
I honestly think this is going to be a new comfort read of mine. It was so wonderful yet emotional at the same time. I’ll definitely be rereading this one again sometime in the future.
Until I Meet My Husband is a really sweet memoir in manga format that explores Ryousuke’s life as he figures out his identity and struggles through relationships while trying to find his true love.
The way that this memoir was translated into a manga format worked really well. The story was easy to follow, the pacing was wonderful, and it felt like such a heartfelt manga. I also loved the artwork and the beautiful drawings really added to the beauty of this manga.
The only problem I had with this book was how it brushed over Ryousuke’s first sexual experience and why that experience was problematic. However, I know that having that experiene in this manga and letting people see that they may have been taken advantage of, too, may help a lot of people cope with their own trauma.
I honestly think this is going to be a new comfort read of mine. It was so wonderful yet emotional at the same time. I’ll definitely be rereading this one again sometime in the future.
June 25, 2021
Manga adaptation of Ryosuke Nanasaki's essay about his experiences as a gay Japan citizen and the different events in his life that led him to find his true vocation as a lgbt activist, and he and his husband being the first gay couple to marry in Japan.
It's a bittersweet read as any memoir of a LGBT+ person, specially when they live in a conservative country whose rights for non-heterosexual/non-cis person are unknown, and where the very traditional society deems such topics taboo or are frown upon. So this journey portrays instances of homophobia, mental illness, and risky sexual behavior. Though according to the diligent people who translated this notated that the manga glossed over many things mentioned in the original essay. Which makes me curious to read it. I hope it gets either an official or unofficial translation in the future also. Lastly the art by Yoshi Tsukizuki was top notch.
For me, it was a very emotional read and very relatable in some parts that i wish where the happiest ones instead of...them :') haha...anyways I liked it a lot and it was a good reminder that i should seek more lgbt/geicomi mangas.
It's a bittersweet read as any memoir of a LGBT+ person, specially when they live in a conservative country whose rights for non-heterosexual/non-cis person are unknown, and where the very traditional society deems such topics taboo or are frown upon. So this journey portrays instances of homophobia, mental illness, and risky sexual behavior. Though according to the diligent people who translated this notated that the manga glossed over many things mentioned in the original essay. Which makes me curious to read it. I hope it gets either an official or unofficial translation in the future also. Lastly the art by Yoshi Tsukizuki was top notch.
For me, it was a very emotional read and very relatable in some parts that i wish where the happiest ones instead of...them :') haha...anyways I liked it a lot and it was a good reminder that i should seek more lgbt/geicomi mangas.
November 11, 2025
This is the manga adaptation of the book Until I Meet My Husband. The narrative leaves out many important details, such as toxic relationships and unwise choices, which can overshadow the personal growth and self-acceptance of Ryousuke Nanasaki. He is a gay activist and one of the key figures in Japan's first religiously recognized same-sex marriage, which is the central theme of the book.
Nonetheless, I commend the bravery of Mr. Ryousuke Nanasaki and his husband. In a world where gay individuals still face discrimination and violence, particularly in a conservative society like Japan, it requires immense courage to advocate for the legal recognition of their marriage.
According to my Google search "In January of 2025 the government decided to recognize same-sex partners under 24 laws and ordinances including the spousal violence prevention law and the land and building leases law. Meanwhile, the government maintains the position that same-sex partners are not covered by 120 laws and ordinances, including those related to taxes and social security."
Source: Japan Times, Same-sex partners recognized under more laws in Japan, 01.10.2025.
Nonetheless, I commend the bravery of Mr. Ryousuke Nanasaki and his husband. In a world where gay individuals still face discrimination and violence, particularly in a conservative society like Japan, it requires immense courage to advocate for the legal recognition of their marriage.
According to my Google search "In January of 2025 the government decided to recognize same-sex partners under 24 laws and ordinances including the spousal violence prevention law and the land and building leases law. Meanwhile, the government maintains the position that same-sex partners are not covered by 120 laws and ordinances, including those related to taxes and social security."
Source: Japan Times, Same-sex partners recognized under more laws in Japan, 01.10.2025.
April 10, 2023
This autobiographical manga is based on a collection of essays written by Ryouske Nanasaki. Due to the nature of its source material, the story, as presented, feels very disjointed and many of the more important life events felt either rushed or glossed over.
⚠️ slight spoilers ahead ⚠️
This was especially the case for the relationship between Ryousuke and his eventual husband. They met through a hookup app, had what appeared to be great sex, went their separate ways, had relationships with other people, only to eventually start dating years later. If I'm understanding side story 2 correctly, they continued to meet up from time to time, so that was how they were able to stay in touch.
Now, that's all good and fine, but we are never given anything deep or emotional about their relationship; just an illustrated timeline. I'm still not clear as to why Ryousuke wanted to marry his eventual husband other than that he proposed and Ryousuke was ready to settle down. Not that there's anything wrong with that... I just didn't feel the same level of love that I felt when reading about his earlier relationships, romantic or otherwise.
Having said all that, I still enjoyed this manga and knowing that these were all actual events that took place in Ryousuke's life added a lot of emotional weight to them. I actually teared up on more than one occasion, and that's actually saying something. 3 stars
⚠️ slight spoilers ahead ⚠️
This was especially the case for the relationship between Ryousuke and his eventual husband. They met through a hookup app, had what appeared to be great sex, went their separate ways, had relationships with other people, only to eventually start dating years later. If I'm understanding side story 2 correctly, they continued to meet up from time to time, so that was how they were able to stay in touch.
Now, that's all good and fine, but we are never given anything deep or emotional about their relationship; just an illustrated timeline. I'm still not clear as to why Ryousuke wanted to marry his eventual husband other than that he proposed and Ryousuke was ready to settle down. Not that there's anything wrong with that... I just didn't feel the same level of love that I felt when reading about his earlier relationships, romantic or otherwise.
Having said all that, I still enjoyed this manga and knowing that these were all actual events that took place in Ryousuke's life added a lot of emotional weight to them. I actually teared up on more than one occasion, and that's actually saying something. 3 stars
September 19, 2020
Well it seems folks that the onions joined in when the wedding scene appeared, this is in the eyes of a young man named Ryousuke Nanasaki. This is actually my first shounen ai manga that's based on a true story and it just felt natural to see on a real life person's viewpoint from how they grew up to on their wedding day. It really shows this well in the manga and my hat goes off to Tsukizuki Yoshi who illustrated this like she did the art good lol!
Definitely give this a read if you wanna see a touch of reality in the Yaoi manga world.
Definitely give this a read if you wanna see a touch of reality in the Yaoi manga world.
March 15, 2024
I'm sobbing. I connected with Ryousuke so deeply. My story is so similar down to our mothers reactions to coming out to the toxic first relationship. Beautiful story.
June 23, 2022
I AM CRYING! Sad, angry tears at first but happy
happy
tears at the end.
This was such a simultaneously warm and confronting read. This visually gorgeous and emotionally gripping manga memoir tells us of Ryousuke Nanasaki's painful journey towards accepting his sexuality and self-love in a massively queerphobic society; from dealing with unrequited love while closeted, facing comments such as "...it can't be cured?" to eventually throwing caution to the wind, accepting who he is and finding a soulmate in his now husband.
I wish them the best! And thank you, thank you Ryousuke Nanasaki for telling the world of your journey.
This is the manga adaptation of his original essay novel, please consider reading it too. An English version of it is as linked: Until I Meet My Husband
This was such a simultaneously warm and confronting read. This visually gorgeous and emotionally gripping manga memoir tells us of Ryousuke Nanasaki's painful journey towards accepting his sexuality and self-love in a massively queerphobic society; from dealing with unrequited love while closeted, facing comments such as "...it can't be cured?" to eventually throwing caution to the wind, accepting who he is and finding a soulmate in his now husband.
I wish them the best! And thank you, thank you Ryousuke Nanasaki for telling the world of your journey.
This is the manga adaptation of his original essay novel, please consider reading it too. An English version of it is as linked: Until I Meet My Husband
January 21, 2023
Another ground-breaking true story.
This is the second queer memoir that I have read in my life. I'm literally sobbing here.
Thank you, Ryousuke Nanasaki, for being brave towards your life's journey, no matter the sticks and boulders that hinder you from doing so. Thank you for coming out and writing this powerful essay. And, thank you for being so loud with your geniune feelings. I learned a lot.
Thank you, Yoshi Tsuzuki, for adapting this essay into a beautiful manga!!! I swear, the art is so gorgeous. I'll read your other books as well!
This is the second queer memoir that I have read in my life. I'm literally sobbing here.
Thank you, Ryousuke Nanasaki, for being brave towards your life's journey, no matter the sticks and boulders that hinder you from doing so. Thank you for coming out and writing this powerful essay. And, thank you for being so loud with your geniune feelings. I learned a lot.
Thank you, Yoshi Tsuzuki, for adapting this essay into a beautiful manga!!! I swear, the art is so gorgeous. I'll read your other books as well!
October 23, 2024
I need an adaptation with 5 episodes 20 minutes each. That would be perfect! And I feel I would love the adaptation more because the manga is really too short for any character or emotional development.
I just realised after reading the manga that it is a memoir. But yes, please let me have the adaptation some day 🥲😭
I just realised after reading the manga that it is a memoir. But yes, please let me have the adaptation some day 🥲😭
July 12, 2022
An emotional and cute true story about a man who struggles to accept his homosexuality and his desire to find true love 💕
March 21, 2023
5☆ Review:
“𝑰 𝒂𝒍𝒘𝒂𝒚𝒔 𝒃𝒆𝒍𝒊𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒅 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒃𝒆𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒃𝒐𝒓𝒏 𝒈𝒂𝒚…𝒘𝒂𝒔 𝒔𝒐𝒎𝒆 𝒔𝒐𝒓𝒕 𝒐𝒇 𝒑𝒖𝒏𝒊𝒔𝒉𝒎𝒆𝒏𝒕.”
I need everyone to drop whatever they’re doing and read this. This story was so good.
I realized while reading that this had not been the first time I’d read it. But, having the officially translated copy in my hands made me appreciate it even more. I couldn’t put it down and finished it in one sitting. I might have to buy the novel and read it as well.
I hope these two continue to live their happily ever after together.
“𝑷𝒆𝒐𝒑𝒍𝒆 𝒐𝒇 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒔𝒂𝒎𝒆 𝒈𝒆𝒏𝒅𝒆𝒓 𝒘𝒂𝒏𝒕𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒕𝒐 𝒈𝒆𝒕 𝒎𝒂𝒓𝒓𝒊𝒆𝒅 𝒊𝒔𝒏’𝒕 𝒔𝒆𝒍𝒇𝒊𝒔𝒉. 𝑾𝒆 𝒔𝒉𝒐𝒖𝒍𝒅 𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒄𝒉𝒐𝒊𝒄𝒆…𝒋𝒖𝒔𝒕 𝒍𝒊𝒌𝒆 𝒔𝒐 𝒎𝒂𝒏𝒚 𝒔𝒕𝒓𝒂𝒊𝒈𝒉𝒕 𝒄𝒐𝒖𝒑𝒍𝒆𝒔 𝒅𝒐.”
“𝑰 𝒂𝒍𝒘𝒂𝒚𝒔 𝒃𝒆𝒍𝒊𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒅 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒃𝒆𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒃𝒐𝒓𝒏 𝒈𝒂𝒚…𝒘𝒂𝒔 𝒔𝒐𝒎𝒆 𝒔𝒐𝒓𝒕 𝒐𝒇 𝒑𝒖𝒏𝒊𝒔𝒉𝒎𝒆𝒏𝒕.”
I need everyone to drop whatever they’re doing and read this. This story was so good.
I realized while reading that this had not been the first time I’d read it. But, having the officially translated copy in my hands made me appreciate it even more. I couldn’t put it down and finished it in one sitting. I might have to buy the novel and read it as well.
I hope these two continue to live their happily ever after together.
“𝑷𝒆𝒐𝒑𝒍𝒆 𝒐𝒇 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒔𝒂𝒎𝒆 𝒈𝒆𝒏𝒅𝒆𝒓 𝒘𝒂𝒏𝒕𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒕𝒐 𝒈𝒆𝒕 𝒎𝒂𝒓𝒓𝒊𝒆𝒅 𝒊𝒔𝒏’𝒕 𝒔𝒆𝒍𝒇𝒊𝒔𝒉. 𝑾𝒆 𝒔𝒉𝒐𝒖𝒍𝒅 𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒄𝒉𝒐𝒊𝒄𝒆…𝒋𝒖𝒔𝒕 𝒍𝒊𝒌𝒆 𝒔𝒐 𝒎𝒂𝒏𝒚 𝒔𝒕𝒓𝒂𝒊𝒈𝒉𝒕 𝒄𝒐𝒖𝒑𝒍𝒆𝒔 𝒅𝒐.”
April 15, 2023
It’s probably cause I’m sleep deprived but I’m sobbing my eyes out over this
September 14, 2022
"Even if no one understands you, you have to be your own ally."
There were so many emotional parts in this manga, but that bit made me cry the hardest (also i read that page at least 30 times since Sunday...).
This was so good and also I need to look into the mangaka's work because their style is fantastic.
There were so many emotional parts in this manga, but that bit made me cry the hardest (also i read that page at least 30 times since Sunday...).
This was so good and also I need to look into the mangaka's work because their style is fantastic.
July 2, 2022
July 1, 2022 note
After finishing the Until I Meet My Husband novel, I actually liked the manga adaptation even less. As I'd thought, the different format left out an absolute ton of details and a lot of the story's heart. If you're considering this story, I'd highly, HIGHLY recommend that you read the novel instead - or at least before trying the manga. It's a much better experience.
June 30, 2022 Review
In case anyone else was deeply confused and thought the translator might've made an error in the opening pages - no, Ryousuke (the author) did indeed marry another Ryousuke! (Beyond the wedding introduction, we don't meet the husband until the final chapters, so I remained confused for a while.)
3 stars for this being an important, honest, impactful, (true!) story.
But...it's not a very good manga.
I've already bought the novel, so I'm definitely going to read that and see if it comes across better in its original format. I'm hopeful, as long as the translation is good. But it just didn't convert very well to this style. The narrative is so, so choppy, with huge time skips that cut out a lot of important development - including between the two Ryousukes!
Cramming ~30 years into a single volume of manga was a tall order, I suppose, and it shows. It all feels pretty rushed - more like a sketchy summary of Big Events than a story you can really dig into and connect with. At least that's my experience; there are a ton of 5 star reviews on here that don't seem to agree.
The chapters break down like this:
* Ryousuke's childhood through elementary/middle school, with massive amounts of bullying from his classmates, and tons of internalized fear/self-hatred as he wonders why everyone sees him as a "girly-boy" who's Not Normal. The best scene in here is an achingly soft childhood Christmas where he asks Santa for a cute, "girly" present - which his sister receives. Tiny Ryousuke, afraid of making his mother upset, pretends to like the extremely disappointing set of walkie-talkies he gets instead. Later, after years of intense loneliness and isolation at school, he develops his first unrequited crush on the first boy who befriends him - and struggles a lot with wishing he'd been born a girl, so they could have a chance of dating.
* This theme continues in high school; while Ryousuke now has a big network of both male and female friends, he's not out to any of them, and he falls in love with another straight friend, who jokes that they could date if Ryousuke had been a girl. This is where one of the major narrative gaps happens - Ryousuke is so vibrant and confident and outgoing and popular at this point, despite being closeted. It's a really jarring transition between chapters, with no indication of how his social network expanded so much. (From this point on, Ryousuke has tons of friends, all of whom are actually pretty great and open-minded.)
* Hase, this second unrequited love, lives with Ryousuke for a while even after Ryousuke relocates to Tokyo to try to move on with his life and connect with other gay people. They share a one bedroom flat and a bed. If this hadn't been a true story, Hase would honestly have felt like the primary romantic interest, because he gets the majority of the emotional scenes. It's clear how much Ryousuke loves him, and how devastated he is by Hase's oblivious straightness. Ryousuke also has a tendency to get really angry and jealous about his crushes' girlfriends, which Hase & Crush 1 seem to just roll with, even when he's calling the girls names and accusing them of being cheaters. (From the narrative, it's unclear if that's true or if it's just part of Ryousuke's jealous attempts to break them up.) Another abrupt transition here where Hase moves out (it'd only been a temporary arrangement while he found his own place in Tokyo) and I guess the friendship ends, too? He disappears from the story from there.
* (Note: Before Hase moves in, new college student Ryousuke has sex for the first time with a much older gay man (intentionally shown to be very plain and kind of schlubby) he met on a dating site, who teaches him how things work - when Ryousuke was initially just hoping to meet another gay person to talk and to figure out if there's a way to stop being gay. This scene was also kind of glossed over.)
* Ryousuke does meet enough gay people by this point to understand that the community is a lot bigger than he'd assumed as a lonely kid, and to accept that he is definitely gay, and that's never going to change. In the wake of his heartbreak over Hase, he also comes out to his (female) friends, who wholeheartedly accept him (one of them eventually starts up an LGBTQA+ wedding business with him). He starts to fully live his life as a gay man, although it takes a while for him to start up a real relationship - with a guy named Takuma, with whom he has a non-official wedding ceremony after they've been together for two years.
* Unfortunately, Takuma is very insecure - constantly afraid Ryousuke will cheat on him or leave him, like his dad did when he was a kid - and is very deeply closeted. Their "wedding" only included Ryousuke's friends, and when Takuma's friends find out that he has a boyfriend, things don't go nearly as well as they did for Ryousuke. Takuma's story is honestly so awful, and I can't help thinking about how devastating it would be for him to see himself on the page...did Ryousuke ask him? Does anyone in his life accept him now, or is he continuing to live a closeted life with a wife he doesn't love, and possibly even kids?
* A few years pass, during which Ryousuke meets his future husband (in a one night grindr-style hookup), and then eventually reconnects with him and begins dating, after they break up with their respective not-great other boyfriends (not really described, mostly left off the page). Ryousuke 2 points out to Ryousuke 1 that he shouldn't just be Trying To Get Married, when he's not really into the guy he's with; he should fall in love with someone first, and decide he wants to spend the rest of their lives together. Then a few pages later, Ryousuke 2 is that person for him, and they're in a relationship and engaged and then married. (Religiously, with an official legal partnership that differs from the marriage license they weren't able to receive at that time.)
This was another disappointing area, because...there's very little relationship development between the two Ryousukes. We see a few cute glimpses, but it's all kind of idealized (he's the best sex I've ever had! the only man who ever supported my dreams and my business! a perfect organized human being who can fix all the mess in my house and my life!). Maybe that's all true, and I'm very happy to see real life heartache result in a real life happy ending. But I just didn't get as 5-star overwhelmed as the rest of the people leaving reviews. Everything felt really thin and rushed.
There's a bonus chapter with Ryousuke coming out to his mother, which didn't go so well...she didn't understand him, asked if it was something that could be "cured," and told him to never tell his father, who'd disown him. Ironically, when Ryousuke gets married 7 years later, his father just laughs and doesn't seem to care at all. Did he change over the years, or was his mother the less tolerant one all along?
This could've hooked in with that beautifully sad Christmas story from the beginning, forming an incredibly powerful overarching narrative about Ryousuke's search for acceptance - both internal and external - but everything's pretty fragmented, and the reader has to do pretty much all of the heavy lifting. I do wonder if that's different in the novel, which presumably goes into more detail in a lot of the areas that were skimmed over here.
Ryousuke notes, at the end, that he was satisfied with this manga adaptation, though.
I have a lot of thoughts on this, too. It's definitely true that the vast majority of BL lives in a rosier sort of alternate society, where struggles with sexuality and internalized & societal homophobia aren't as prevalent or as gritty and traumatizing. There are exceptions, of course - I always point to the Our Dreams at Dusk: Shimanami Tasogare, Vol. 1 series as one of the most beautifully told realistic depictions of queer society in manga - including characters who cover many areas of the LGBTQA+ spectrum. That's not technically BL, I guess, since it doesn't have an endgame romance, but Asumiko Nakamura has some pretty fantastic manga in that vein, too. (Thinking particularly of the Classmates series and Maiden Railways.)
It also makes me think about an article I read just this morning, by the creator of I Think Our Son Is Gay, Vol. 1. Okura, who came out to his own mother over the course of writing and publishing that intensely adorable and hugely uplifting manga, said: "I hope to capture the fun, bright side of gay people, not just their hard, dark struggles. My message is that being gay doesn’t mean endless days of gloom and doom."
Those sweet, rosy stories are important, too. And collapsing all of BL as separate from actual gay people's experience is just...false. It's erasing the creators who are LGBTQA+ themselves - which is probably a lot more common than people think - as well as all the queer readers who need these kinds of normalizing stories in their lives. True stories are a very, very important way to discover that you're not alone, and that there is light at the end of very dark days. But fiction does that, too, and both paths are valid and so incredibly important.
I can see this story being incredibly important and meaningful for a lot of people, and I'm glad it's published in Japan and available in English, too. I hope I'll enjoy the novel a bit more than the manga.
After finishing the Until I Meet My Husband novel, I actually liked the manga adaptation even less. As I'd thought, the different format left out an absolute ton of details and a lot of the story's heart. If you're considering this story, I'd highly, HIGHLY recommend that you read the novel instead - or at least before trying the manga. It's a much better experience.
June 30, 2022 Review
In case anyone else was deeply confused and thought the translator might've made an error in the opening pages - no, Ryousuke (the author) did indeed marry another Ryousuke! (Beyond the wedding introduction, we don't meet the husband until the final chapters, so I remained confused for a while.)
3 stars for this being an important, honest, impactful, (true!) story.
But...it's not a very good manga.
I've already bought the novel, so I'm definitely going to read that and see if it comes across better in its original format. I'm hopeful, as long as the translation is good. But it just didn't convert very well to this style. The narrative is so, so choppy, with huge time skips that cut out a lot of important development - including between the two Ryousukes!
Cramming ~30 years into a single volume of manga was a tall order, I suppose, and it shows. It all feels pretty rushed - more like a sketchy summary of Big Events than a story you can really dig into and connect with. At least that's my experience; there are a ton of 5 star reviews on here that don't seem to agree.
The chapters break down like this:
* Ryousuke's childhood through elementary/middle school, with massive amounts of bullying from his classmates, and tons of internalized fear/self-hatred as he wonders why everyone sees him as a "girly-boy" who's Not Normal. The best scene in here is an achingly soft childhood Christmas where he asks Santa for a cute, "girly" present - which his sister receives. Tiny Ryousuke, afraid of making his mother upset, pretends to like the extremely disappointing set of walkie-talkies he gets instead. Later, after years of intense loneliness and isolation at school, he develops his first unrequited crush on the first boy who befriends him - and struggles a lot with wishing he'd been born a girl, so they could have a chance of dating.
* This theme continues in high school; while Ryousuke now has a big network of both male and female friends, he's not out to any of them, and he falls in love with another straight friend, who jokes that they could date if Ryousuke had been a girl. This is where one of the major narrative gaps happens - Ryousuke is so vibrant and confident and outgoing and popular at this point, despite being closeted. It's a really jarring transition between chapters, with no indication of how his social network expanded so much. (From this point on, Ryousuke has tons of friends, all of whom are actually pretty great and open-minded.)
* Hase, this second unrequited love, lives with Ryousuke for a while even after Ryousuke relocates to Tokyo to try to move on with his life and connect with other gay people. They share a one bedroom flat and a bed. If this hadn't been a true story, Hase would honestly have felt like the primary romantic interest, because he gets the majority of the emotional scenes. It's clear how much Ryousuke loves him, and how devastated he is by Hase's oblivious straightness. Ryousuke also has a tendency to get really angry and jealous about his crushes' girlfriends, which Hase & Crush 1 seem to just roll with, even when he's calling the girls names and accusing them of being cheaters. (From the narrative, it's unclear if that's true or if it's just part of Ryousuke's jealous attempts to break them up.) Another abrupt transition here where Hase moves out (it'd only been a temporary arrangement while he found his own place in Tokyo) and I guess the friendship ends, too? He disappears from the story from there.
* (Note: Before Hase moves in, new college student Ryousuke has sex for the first time with a much older gay man (intentionally shown to be very plain and kind of schlubby) he met on a dating site, who teaches him how things work - when Ryousuke was initially just hoping to meet another gay person to talk and to figure out if there's a way to stop being gay. This scene was also kind of glossed over.)
* Ryousuke does meet enough gay people by this point to understand that the community is a lot bigger than he'd assumed as a lonely kid, and to accept that he is definitely gay, and that's never going to change. In the wake of his heartbreak over Hase, he also comes out to his (female) friends, who wholeheartedly accept him (one of them eventually starts up an LGBTQA+ wedding business with him). He starts to fully live his life as a gay man, although it takes a while for him to start up a real relationship - with a guy named Takuma, with whom he has a non-official wedding ceremony after they've been together for two years.
* Unfortunately, Takuma is very insecure - constantly afraid Ryousuke will cheat on him or leave him, like his dad did when he was a kid - and is very deeply closeted. Their "wedding" only included Ryousuke's friends, and when Takuma's friends find out that he has a boyfriend, things don't go nearly as well as they did for Ryousuke. Takuma's story is honestly so awful, and I can't help thinking about how devastating it would be for him to see himself on the page...did Ryousuke ask him? Does anyone in his life accept him now, or is he continuing to live a closeted life with a wife he doesn't love, and possibly even kids?
* A few years pass, during which Ryousuke meets his future husband (in a one night grindr-style hookup), and then eventually reconnects with him and begins dating, after they break up with their respective not-great other boyfriends (not really described, mostly left off the page). Ryousuke 2 points out to Ryousuke 1 that he shouldn't just be Trying To Get Married, when he's not really into the guy he's with; he should fall in love with someone first, and decide he wants to spend the rest of their lives together. Then a few pages later, Ryousuke 2 is that person for him, and they're in a relationship and engaged and then married. (Religiously, with an official legal partnership that differs from the marriage license they weren't able to receive at that time.)
This was another disappointing area, because...there's very little relationship development between the two Ryousukes. We see a few cute glimpses, but it's all kind of idealized (he's the best sex I've ever had! the only man who ever supported my dreams and my business! a perfect organized human being who can fix all the mess in my house and my life!). Maybe that's all true, and I'm very happy to see real life heartache result in a real life happy ending. But I just didn't get as 5-star overwhelmed as the rest of the people leaving reviews. Everything felt really thin and rushed.
There's a bonus chapter with Ryousuke coming out to his mother, which didn't go so well...she didn't understand him, asked if it was something that could be "cured," and told him to never tell his father, who'd disown him. Ironically, when Ryousuke gets married 7 years later, his father just laughs and doesn't seem to care at all. Did he change over the years, or was his mother the less tolerant one all along?
This could've hooked in with that beautifully sad Christmas story from the beginning, forming an incredibly powerful overarching narrative about Ryousuke's search for acceptance - both internal and external - but everything's pretty fragmented, and the reader has to do pretty much all of the heavy lifting. I do wonder if that's different in the novel, which presumably goes into more detail in a lot of the areas that were skimmed over here.
Ryousuke notes, at the end, that he was satisfied with this manga adaptation, though.
Until now, I don't think the lived experiences of gay people and those who seek out the world of BL have lined up. That might be because both parties are seeking different things. But as someone who resides in both worlds, I feel that the team of myself - a gay man - and the BL artist Yoshi Tsukizuki has yielded a truly groundbreaking work.
I have a lot of thoughts on this, too. It's definitely true that the vast majority of BL lives in a rosier sort of alternate society, where struggles with sexuality and internalized & societal homophobia aren't as prevalent or as gritty and traumatizing. There are exceptions, of course - I always point to the Our Dreams at Dusk: Shimanami Tasogare, Vol. 1 series as one of the most beautifully told realistic depictions of queer society in manga - including characters who cover many areas of the LGBTQA+ spectrum. That's not technically BL, I guess, since it doesn't have an endgame romance, but Asumiko Nakamura has some pretty fantastic manga in that vein, too. (Thinking particularly of the Classmates series and Maiden Railways.)
It also makes me think about an article I read just this morning, by the creator of I Think Our Son Is Gay, Vol. 1. Okura, who came out to his own mother over the course of writing and publishing that intensely adorable and hugely uplifting manga, said: "I hope to capture the fun, bright side of gay people, not just their hard, dark struggles. My message is that being gay doesn’t mean endless days of gloom and doom."
Those sweet, rosy stories are important, too. And collapsing all of BL as separate from actual gay people's experience is just...false. It's erasing the creators who are LGBTQA+ themselves - which is probably a lot more common than people think - as well as all the queer readers who need these kinds of normalizing stories in their lives. True stories are a very, very important way to discover that you're not alone, and that there is light at the end of very dark days. But fiction does that, too, and both paths are valid and so incredibly important.
I can see this story being incredibly important and meaningful for a lot of people, and I'm glad it's published in Japan and available in English, too. I hope I'll enjoy the novel a bit more than the manga.
October 5, 2023
Romanzo: ⭐⭐⭐⭐½
Manga: ⭐⭐⭐
Recupero obbligatorio per quantə celebrano il pride tutti i mesi e/o fanno parte della comunità queer e soprattutto necessitano di una storia -vera!- a lieto fine.
Gli orientali hanno veramente un dono nella scrittura, ne leggo pochi a dire il vero ma ogni volta che me ne capita uno per le mani a lettura terminata sono sempre grata per la delicatezza del loro modo di raccontare. Anche le parti più crude e dolorose, conoscono la strada del cuore e la percorrono con un'eleganza di cui noi difettiamo. La vita di Nanapi è stata sì un calvario ma al tempo stesso fortunata in amicizia in particolare, per essersi circondato di persone positive che l'hanno sempre sostenuto e amato. Al contrario di noialtri magari, beato lui! Invece i pensieri velati di depressione sono autentici e pienamente condivisibili forse soltanto da quella fetta di pubblico che ha subito bullismo negli anni scolastici e si è reso conto di essere diverso da che ha memoria. Il tutto però spruzzato dal principio alla fine di ottimismo, conscio l'autore di aver ottenuto ciò che più desiderava ma comunque umile nella narrazione. Non cinque stelle perché in alcuni risibili passaggi fa una sorta di autocelebrazione richiedendo di visitare il suo sito internet e spiegando in cosa consistono i progetti da lui fondati. Tolti questi, è un ottimo libro-coccola immancabile sullo scaffale.
Il manga segue fedelmente la vita di Ryousuke escluse un paio di imprecisioni ed episodi fondamentali ma assenti (come la relazione con Hiroki), ma molto carina anch'essa se non altro come base se ci si è appena imbattuti nella sua storia. Splendide le tavole e parecchi dialoghi identici al romanzo (del resto il traduttore italiano è il medesimo per entrambe le opere), non mi è piaciuto che si sia preferito censurare un membro maschile per mantenere intatte le parolacce. E anche come giunga a conoscere il suo futuro marito è stato un po' malgestito, quasi con impazienza di ultimare il lavoro. I pensieri di Nanapi sono onnipresenti, ma non vanno a segno alla stessa maniera del libro. Per tutta questa serie di motivi consiglierei di affrontare il romanzo per primo. Se invece si è optato per il manga allora non dimenticatelo! È comunque impossibile attuare questa procedura in quanto arricchisce e infonde speranza, illustrando più che il coming out cosa si prova ad essere una persona queer anche a chi non lo è. Da leggere!
Manga: ⭐⭐⭐
Recupero obbligatorio per quantə celebrano il pride tutti i mesi e/o fanno parte della comunità queer e soprattutto necessitano di una storia -vera!- a lieto fine.
Gli orientali hanno veramente un dono nella scrittura, ne leggo pochi a dire il vero ma ogni volta che me ne capita uno per le mani a lettura terminata sono sempre grata per la delicatezza del loro modo di raccontare. Anche le parti più crude e dolorose, conoscono la strada del cuore e la percorrono con un'eleganza di cui noi difettiamo. La vita di Nanapi è stata sì un calvario ma al tempo stesso fortunata in amicizia in particolare, per essersi circondato di persone positive che l'hanno sempre sostenuto e amato. Al contrario di noialtri magari, beato lui! Invece i pensieri velati di depressione sono autentici e pienamente condivisibili forse soltanto da quella fetta di pubblico che ha subito bullismo negli anni scolastici e si è reso conto di essere diverso da che ha memoria. Il tutto però spruzzato dal principio alla fine di ottimismo, conscio l'autore di aver ottenuto ciò che più desiderava ma comunque umile nella narrazione. Non cinque stelle perché in alcuni risibili passaggi fa una sorta di autocelebrazione richiedendo di visitare il suo sito internet e spiegando in cosa consistono i progetti da lui fondati. Tolti questi, è un ottimo libro-coccola immancabile sullo scaffale.
Il manga segue fedelmente la vita di Ryousuke escluse un paio di imprecisioni ed episodi fondamentali ma assenti (come la relazione con Hiroki), ma molto carina anch'essa se non altro come base se ci si è appena imbattuti nella sua storia. Splendide le tavole e parecchi dialoghi identici al romanzo (del resto il traduttore italiano è il medesimo per entrambe le opere), non mi è piaciuto che si sia preferito censurare un membro maschile per mantenere intatte le parolacce. E anche come giunga a conoscere il suo futuro marito è stato un po' malgestito, quasi con impazienza di ultimare il lavoro. I pensieri di Nanapi sono onnipresenti, ma non vanno a segno alla stessa maniera del libro. Per tutta questa serie di motivi consiglierei di affrontare il romanzo per primo. Se invece si è optato per il manga allora non dimenticatelo! È comunque impossibile attuare questa procedura in quanto arricchisce e infonde speranza, illustrando più che il coming out cosa si prova ad essere una persona queer anche a chi non lo è. Da leggere!
May 14, 2023
Heartbreaking but wonderful. I liked the hopeful note with which this ends. The art is stunning, don't judge it by its cover, which is good, but inside is much better.
I hope Japan will move on marriage equality soon.
I hope Japan will move on marriage equality soon.
September 13, 2024
Voy a ser honesta, perdí la cuenta de cuantas veces llore mientras leía este manga y es que es una historia muy bonita, dolorosa y real.
September 16, 2021
Based on a famous essay by a Japanese gay activist, this manga tells the story of his life leading from his childhood up to his marriage to his husband.
This was a rollercoaster of emotions. Idk how I'm feeling right now. On one hand, im so happy that Nanasaki finally found his own happiness and is being accepted, but also f**k everyone who made a LITERAL CHILD feel that way. The way Nanasaki came in terms with his sexuality at a time where anything/anyone different is considered "disgusting" is just heartbreaking and at the same time, so beautiful. Everyone deserves to be loved and cared for. The mangaka did a beautiful job in portraying Nanasaki's emotions through their art. This gives me hope. I hope someday young children feel confident and safe enough to not worry about such things and live in world where they aren't judged for who they love or what they wear. The world needs more compassion and kindness and IF YOU CAN'T BE KIND JUST STFU :)
This was a rollercoaster of emotions. Idk how I'm feeling right now. On one hand, im so happy that Nanasaki finally found his own happiness and is being accepted, but also f**k everyone who made a LITERAL CHILD feel that way. The way Nanasaki came in terms with his sexuality at a time where anything/anyone different is considered "disgusting" is just heartbreaking and at the same time, so beautiful. Everyone deserves to be loved and cared for. The mangaka did a beautiful job in portraying Nanasaki's emotions through their art. This gives me hope. I hope someday young children feel confident and safe enough to not worry about such things and live in world where they aren't judged for who they love or what they wear. The world needs more compassion and kindness and IF YOU CAN'T BE KIND JUST STFU :)
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May 31, 2022
~*See below for review in English*~
Was für ein schönes Werk. Der Manga beruht auf den echten Erfahrungen und Erlebnissen von Nanasaki Ryousuke und der Manga bringt diese wunderbar rüber. Probleme, Gedankengänge und Gefühle sind toll dargestellt und gut nachvollziehbar. Ryousuke ist ein sympatischer Erzähler und seine Geschichte bietet einen verständlichen und bewegenden Einblick in seine Welt als schwuler Junge/Mann in Japan.
"Zu schön, um wahr zu sein", der ebenfalls auf einer wahren Geschichte beruht, hat sich recht BL-esque angefühlt und ich habe mich schwer damit getan ihn zu bewerten, auch weil mir die Geschichte recht zusammengestaucht schien. (Ich hatte ihn 2019 gelesen... vielleicht lese ich ihn in Kürze noch einmal um meine Erinnerung aufzufrischen.) Das Problem habe ich hier nicht. Ich gehe sehr stark davon aus, dass auch in "Bis wir uns fanden" sehr viel gekürzt und zusammengefasst wurde - dennoch fühlte sich die Geschichte sehr viel organischer an. Ryousuke sagt, er wollte mit dem Manga eine Brücke zwischen dem realen Leben und BL-Manga schlagen, und ich denke, dass ist ihm in Zusammenarbeit mit dem Zeichner des Mangas, Tsukizuki Yoshi, wunderbar gelungen.
Ich lese eigentlich ungern Romane auf deutsch, weil ich aber gerne noch mehr und tiefere Einblicke in Ryousukes Leben und Erfahrungen gehabt hätte, bin ich tatsächlich am Überleben, ob ich mir die Romanvorlage zu dem Manga kaufen soll.
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What a beautiful manga. It is based on the real experiences of Ryousuke Nanasaki and the manga portrays them very well. The problems, his thoughts and feelings are wonderfully illustrated and can be felt clearly. Ryousuke is a likable narrator and his story offers an accessible and moving insight into his world as a gay boy/man in Japan.
"Zu schön, um wahr zu sein", which is also based on a true story, felt quite BL-esque and I struggled to rate it, partly because the story seemed quite condensed to me. (I read it in 2019... I may re-read it again shortly to refresh my memory). I don't have the same problem with this work here. I very much assume that a lot was cut and condensed in Until I meet my Husband too - yet the story felt much more organic. Ryousuke says he wanted the manga to bridge the gap between real life and BL manga, and I think he did that very well in collaboration with the manga's illustrator, Yoshi Tsukizuki.
I don't really like reading novels in German, but because I would have liked to have had more and deeper insights into Ryousuke's life and experiences, I am actually considering buying the novel.
Was für ein schönes Werk. Der Manga beruht auf den echten Erfahrungen und Erlebnissen von Nanasaki Ryousuke und der Manga bringt diese wunderbar rüber. Probleme, Gedankengänge und Gefühle sind toll dargestellt und gut nachvollziehbar. Ryousuke ist ein sympatischer Erzähler und seine Geschichte bietet einen verständlichen und bewegenden Einblick in seine Welt als schwuler Junge/Mann in Japan.
"Zu schön, um wahr zu sein", der ebenfalls auf einer wahren Geschichte beruht, hat sich recht BL-esque angefühlt und ich habe mich schwer damit getan ihn zu bewerten, auch weil mir die Geschichte recht zusammengestaucht schien. (Ich hatte ihn 2019 gelesen... vielleicht lese ich ihn in Kürze noch einmal um meine Erinnerung aufzufrischen.) Das Problem habe ich hier nicht. Ich gehe sehr stark davon aus, dass auch in "Bis wir uns fanden" sehr viel gekürzt und zusammengefasst wurde - dennoch fühlte sich die Geschichte sehr viel organischer an. Ryousuke sagt, er wollte mit dem Manga eine Brücke zwischen dem realen Leben und BL-Manga schlagen, und ich denke, dass ist ihm in Zusammenarbeit mit dem Zeichner des Mangas, Tsukizuki Yoshi, wunderbar gelungen.
Ich lese eigentlich ungern Romane auf deutsch, weil ich aber gerne noch mehr und tiefere Einblicke in Ryousukes Leben und Erfahrungen gehabt hätte, bin ich tatsächlich am Überleben, ob ich mir die Romanvorlage zu dem Manga kaufen soll.
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What a beautiful manga. It is based on the real experiences of Ryousuke Nanasaki and the manga portrays them very well. The problems, his thoughts and feelings are wonderfully illustrated and can be felt clearly. Ryousuke is a likable narrator and his story offers an accessible and moving insight into his world as a gay boy/man in Japan.
"Zu schön, um wahr zu sein", which is also based on a true story, felt quite BL-esque and I struggled to rate it, partly because the story seemed quite condensed to me. (I read it in 2019... I may re-read it again shortly to refresh my memory). I don't have the same problem with this work here. I very much assume that a lot was cut and condensed in Until I meet my Husband too - yet the story felt much more organic. Ryousuke says he wanted the manga to bridge the gap between real life and BL manga, and I think he did that very well in collaboration with the manga's illustrator, Yoshi Tsukizuki.
I don't really like reading novels in German, but because I would have liked to have had more and deeper insights into Ryousuke's life and experiences, I am actually considering buying the novel.
January 1, 2026
Uffff, empezamos el año bien. Qué emoción (a lagrimones a ratos y tener que parar otros para tomar un poco de aire y perderme en mis propios recuerdos) durante toda la historia. Según leía pensaba que este señor tenía que tener mi edad o poco menos y, efectivamente, nacimos en el 87 los dos. Es curioso cómo a dos mundos de distancia se puede establecer un paralelismo tan claro. La de no saber que eres queer en un mundo que te rodea y lo sabe perfectamente durante tu infancia (peor, lo supone y te hace daño con ello, da igual que lo seas o no), donde tienes que ir descubriéndolo a las malas, pasar miedo y hacer cosas que no están bien porque, sencillamente, no sabes que puede haber otra manera.
Me parece muy interesante que, además, reflexiona sobre ello. Sobre su comportamiento, sobre la inflexión que le hizo cambiar y lo que necesitó para ese cambio. Sobre lo importante del feminismo (no lo dice así, pero está presente) a la hora de arropar a sus compañeros queer mientras los hombres para los que el feminismo ha llegado demasiado lejos rompen lazos y golpean emocionalmente con violencia. Lo necesario que es el reconocimiento del matrimonio igualitario como hito a alcanzar en una sociedad igualitaria, aunque no sea la meta. Sobre lo doloroso de un proceso que no debiera serlo sólo por no ser hetero.
A lagrimones, ya digo.
Me parece muy interesante que, además, reflexiona sobre ello. Sobre su comportamiento, sobre la inflexión que le hizo cambiar y lo que necesitó para ese cambio. Sobre lo importante del feminismo (no lo dice así, pero está presente) a la hora de arropar a sus compañeros queer mientras los hombres para los que el feminismo ha llegado demasiado lejos rompen lazos y golpean emocionalmente con violencia. Lo necesario que es el reconocimiento del matrimonio igualitario como hito a alcanzar en una sociedad igualitaria, aunque no sea la meta. Sobre lo doloroso de un proceso que no debiera serlo sólo por no ser hetero.
A lagrimones, ya digo.
May 15, 2023
No tengo palabras para describir la miríada de emociones que he sentido, lo identificada en muchas cosas, la empatía, la tristeza... Hacen falta muchas historias contadas por personas del colectivo que muestren vivencias y que den esperanza y luz para que sirvan de ayuda a otras personas igual de perdidas. La lucha en Japón por parte del colectivo LGBTIQ tiene todavía mucho por hacer allí y espero que pronto legalicen los matrimonios homosexuales y se dé ese avance que las personas necesitan. Todo mi amor por las personas del colectivo de Japón y ojalá llegue el día que nadie deba esconder quién es.
Podéis leer mi reseña sobre la obra aquí: https://unabibliotecaentremundos.blog...
Podéis leer mi reseña sobre la obra aquí: https://unabibliotecaentremundos.blog...
August 29, 2022
Ho apprezzato molto la lettura di questo manga autobiografico. Tra queste pagine troviamo dolore, amore, accettazione di sé e tanta tanta speranza.
E i disegni sono meravigliosi.
Consigliatissimo.
E i disegni sono meravigliosi.
Consigliatissimo.
January 24, 2023
"even if no one else understands you... you have to be your own ally."
to say i loved everything about this story is an understatement. <3
to say i loved everything about this story is an understatement. <3
August 15, 2023
kochaaam 🥰
August 7, 2023
i just want to give ryousuke the biggest hug in the world. thank you for sharing your story and i’m so happy you have a partner who shows you what true love is. you deserve it. i cried so much. little by little, the world will continue to acknowledge that love is love no matter what labels we put on ourselves ❤️
September 11, 2022
So many feelings
October 6, 2025
piantino time giornaliero fatto grazie a questa storia super soft e adorabile ma che al contempo racconta senza troppi mezzi termini la discriminazione e la chiusura mentale della società giapponese nei confronti della comunità lgbt. i disegni sono meravigliosi e adoro il modo in cui la disegnatrice ha reso le espressioni facciali dei diversi personaggi. sicuramente recupererò anche il memoir dal quale è stato tratto questo volume!!
5⭐️
5⭐️
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