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Maigā miega grāmata
Pirmie pieci gadi bērna audzināšanā mēdz būt satraukuma un raižu pilni, bet lielākajai daļai vecāku neviena cita problēma nešķiet tik nozīmīga kā miega trūkums. Nereti vecākiem, cenšoties balansēt starp vēlmi izgulēties, sabiedrības gaidām un bērna vajadzībām, miega jautājums pārvēršas par cīņu, kurā diemžēl kāds vienmēr paliek zaudētājos. Taču tam tā nevajadzētu būt.
“Maigā miega grāmata” piedāvā uzticamus, pierādījumos balstītus padomus, kā iejūtīgi risināt izplatītas miega problēmas, tostarp biežu mošanos, nakts šausmas un čurāšanu gultā, kā arī praktiskus ieteikumus, kas pielāgoti katram bērna attīstības posmam.
Sāra Okvela-Smita ir četru bērnu mamma un augsti novērtēta bērnu audzināšanas grāmatu autore no Lielbritānijas. Savos darbos viņa īpaši pievēršas psiholoģijai, iejūtīgām bērnu audzināšanas praksēm un piesaistes teorijai, padziļināti interesējoties par bērnu miegu. Viņas sarakstītās bērnu audzināšanas grāmatas ir tulkotas vairāk nekā 30 valodās.
“Maigā miega grāmata” piedāvā uzticamus, pierādījumos balstītus padomus, kā iejūtīgi risināt izplatītas miega problēmas, tostarp biežu mošanos, nakts šausmas un čurāšanu gultā, kā arī praktiskus ieteikumus, kas pielāgoti katram bērna attīstības posmam.
Sāra Okvela-Smita ir četru bērnu mamma un augsti novērtēta bērnu audzināšanas grāmatu autore no Lielbritānijas. Savos darbos viņa īpaši pievēršas psiholoģijai, iejūtīgām bērnu audzināšanas praksēm un piesaistes teorijai, padziļināti interesējoties par bērnu miegu. Viņas sarakstītās bērnu audzināšanas grāmatas ir tulkotas vairāk nekā 30 valodās.
272 pages, Paperback
First published March 5, 2015
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About the author
Sarah Ockwell-Smith
84 books228 followersBorn in Bedfordshire, England in 1976, Sarah Ockwell-Smith is a mother of four school aged children, three boys and one girl.
After graduating with an honors degree in Psychology, specialising in child development, she embarked on a five year career in Pharmaceutical Research and Development, working with clinical trial data, until she became pregnant with her first child in 2001. After the birth of her firstborn Sarah retrained as an Antenatal Teacher, hypnotherapist/Psychotherapist, Infant Massage Instructor and Birth and Postnatal Doula. Over the years Sarah has updated her knowledge with various study days and courses including paediatric first aid, paediatric safeguarding, perinatal psychology and birth trauma.
Sarah now works as a parenting author, writer and coach. With a particular interest in child sleep.
After graduating with an honors degree in Psychology, specialising in child development, she embarked on a five year career in Pharmaceutical Research and Development, working with clinical trial data, until she became pregnant with her first child in 2001. After the birth of her firstborn Sarah retrained as an Antenatal Teacher, hypnotherapist/Psychotherapist, Infant Massage Instructor and Birth and Postnatal Doula. Over the years Sarah has updated her knowledge with various study days and courses including paediatric first aid, paediatric safeguarding, perinatal psychology and birth trauma.
Sarah now works as a parenting author, writer and coach. With a particular interest in child sleep.
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March 25, 2018
I picked this book up as it was only £3 on Amazon (!) and because I really enjoyed Toddlercalm (my son is only 9 months old, but I thought I’d read some toddler books to be prepared to the transition from babyhood to toddlerhood and to scope out some different parenting techniques to use with toddlers).
Anyway, I thought that the approach in Toddlercalm was great, as it highlights a lot of misconceptions about why toddlers behave the say they do, and tries to get you to see the works from their perspective, which helps explain why conventional parenting methods like time-out, naught step and reward stickers can backfire in the long term.
Therefore I was expecting the same kind of revelations in this book, but I was a bit disappointed.
Upsides:
1. I completely agree with letting babies sleep on you from 0-3 months as it is natural for babies to want to be in an environment that replicates the womb (warm, snuggly, being held, hearing a heartbeat, etc.).
2. Completely agree that a consistent bedtime routine really helps getting babies to sleep better. We have followed the sans routine since our son was about 1 month old and I think this has really helped him sleep through the night earlier than some other babies and also he is happy to go to sleep even when we are not at home (eg on holiday or sleeping over at grandparents’).
3. Definitely agree that parents need to take some time out to take care of themselves and recharge. Babies who do not sleep are exhausting! I don’t think enough parenting books emphasise this.
4. This book does a great job at explaining certain things like why sleep regressions happen, that there is really no such thing as colic(babies just cry sometimes as there is a lot going on in their little world), why parents may want to consider cranial osteopathy if they have had an assisted or difficult birth, and how babies physiological and brain development impacts on sleep.
Downsides:
1. This book is a big advocate of co-sleeping both in terms of bed sharing and sharing a room. While the author cites several studies that support co-sleeping for babies (as they settle quicker and fall asleep faster than if sleeping on their own) I don’t think that it is such a good idea to continue past about 4 months. This is my opinion but every mother I have talked to who ended up co-sleeping (usually by accident) has struggled to get out of it (as that what the baby has become used to) and the baby was also waking a lot at night (e.g. when the parents came to bed and then had trouble going back to sleep or would only fall asleep nursing). We actually had to move our son into his own room at 4 months because even though he was sleeping in a Moses basket next to our bed, at that age we were waking him up when we came to bed even though we tried to be super quiet and he also happened to outgrow his Moses basket at the same time. I agree that not all babies are easy to move to their room so early and I think he was ready for the move (as it did not affect his sleep at all), so I think readers need to keep in mind that the book really advocates co-sleeping as a solution for better sleep, it may not be appropriate for all families (e.g. we have a fairly narrow bed which we already share with our large-ish dog so bed sharing was a no go from that point of view) and it is not the only solution to help by babies sleep better.
2. I generally agree that you should not force babies and small children to do stuff before they are ready. However, babies and children do respond to steering I.e. gently guiding them towards a behaviour through small changes over a period of time. For example it took about 2 months for my son to learn to go sleep on his own snuggling his bunny, during which time I gradually decreased the amount of stimulation he go from me (I started off holding him until he fell asleep, then holding his hand, then stroking his head, then sitting with him until he fell asleep until I could just put him into bed after a cuddle, and leave the room and he would generally fall asleep within 15 mins). However, I don’t think that this book really advocates such an approach, which is a shame because this means that the book comes across a bit as saying ‘there is not a whole lot you can do if your child sleeps badly and while you can make small changes, you kind of need to wait till they outgrow it’. While kids are not always ready for changes when you want them to be, as parents, you cannot just be a spectator - you need to make parenting decisions about what does or does not work for you as a family (so if co-sleeping is preventing you getting enough sleep to be able to function at work during the day, then you may need to make a change, even if your child may want to sleep in the same bed with you until they are 5 years old).
3. I think it’s a bit incorrect to say that because children in the real world sleep less than what experts say children should sleep for, then the experts must be wrong about how long children need to sleep for. Many parents complain about children sleep badly so could it be that children are actually sleeping less than they need to because they have e.g. inconsistent bedtime routines, are being kept up too late and are overtired, or have other issues impacting on sleep? Also, you need to teach your child about sleep as once they are past the 3-4 month mark they become super interested in the world and would rather play all day than sleep, even when they are blatantly tired. So bedtimes can cause tears, but this does not mean that we are ignoring or overriding the needs of the child and being harsh parents.
Overall, do not expect to pick this book up and get a quick-fix to your baby’s sleep issues. Ideally this book should be read during pregnancy so that parents can implement those suggestions that they think could work for them at the outset, rather than trying to fix problems once they develop.
Anyway, I thought that the approach in Toddlercalm was great, as it highlights a lot of misconceptions about why toddlers behave the say they do, and tries to get you to see the works from their perspective, which helps explain why conventional parenting methods like time-out, naught step and reward stickers can backfire in the long term.
Therefore I was expecting the same kind of revelations in this book, but I was a bit disappointed.
Upsides:
1. I completely agree with letting babies sleep on you from 0-3 months as it is natural for babies to want to be in an environment that replicates the womb (warm, snuggly, being held, hearing a heartbeat, etc.).
2. Completely agree that a consistent bedtime routine really helps getting babies to sleep better. We have followed the sans routine since our son was about 1 month old and I think this has really helped him sleep through the night earlier than some other babies and also he is happy to go to sleep even when we are not at home (eg on holiday or sleeping over at grandparents’).
3. Definitely agree that parents need to take some time out to take care of themselves and recharge. Babies who do not sleep are exhausting! I don’t think enough parenting books emphasise this.
4. This book does a great job at explaining certain things like why sleep regressions happen, that there is really no such thing as colic(babies just cry sometimes as there is a lot going on in their little world), why parents may want to consider cranial osteopathy if they have had an assisted or difficult birth, and how babies physiological and brain development impacts on sleep.
Downsides:
1. This book is a big advocate of co-sleeping both in terms of bed sharing and sharing a room. While the author cites several studies that support co-sleeping for babies (as they settle quicker and fall asleep faster than if sleeping on their own) I don’t think that it is such a good idea to continue past about 4 months. This is my opinion but every mother I have talked to who ended up co-sleeping (usually by accident) has struggled to get out of it (as that what the baby has become used to) and the baby was also waking a lot at night (e.g. when the parents came to bed and then had trouble going back to sleep or would only fall asleep nursing). We actually had to move our son into his own room at 4 months because even though he was sleeping in a Moses basket next to our bed, at that age we were waking him up when we came to bed even though we tried to be super quiet and he also happened to outgrow his Moses basket at the same time. I agree that not all babies are easy to move to their room so early and I think he was ready for the move (as it did not affect his sleep at all), so I think readers need to keep in mind that the book really advocates co-sleeping as a solution for better sleep, it may not be appropriate for all families (e.g. we have a fairly narrow bed which we already share with our large-ish dog so bed sharing was a no go from that point of view) and it is not the only solution to help by babies sleep better.
2. I generally agree that you should not force babies and small children to do stuff before they are ready. However, babies and children do respond to steering I.e. gently guiding them towards a behaviour through small changes over a period of time. For example it took about 2 months for my son to learn to go sleep on his own snuggling his bunny, during which time I gradually decreased the amount of stimulation he go from me (I started off holding him until he fell asleep, then holding his hand, then stroking his head, then sitting with him until he fell asleep until I could just put him into bed after a cuddle, and leave the room and he would generally fall asleep within 15 mins). However, I don’t think that this book really advocates such an approach, which is a shame because this means that the book comes across a bit as saying ‘there is not a whole lot you can do if your child sleeps badly and while you can make small changes, you kind of need to wait till they outgrow it’. While kids are not always ready for changes when you want them to be, as parents, you cannot just be a spectator - you need to make parenting decisions about what does or does not work for you as a family (so if co-sleeping is preventing you getting enough sleep to be able to function at work during the day, then you may need to make a change, even if your child may want to sleep in the same bed with you until they are 5 years old).
3. I think it’s a bit incorrect to say that because children in the real world sleep less than what experts say children should sleep for, then the experts must be wrong about how long children need to sleep for. Many parents complain about children sleep badly so could it be that children are actually sleeping less than they need to because they have e.g. inconsistent bedtime routines, are being kept up too late and are overtired, or have other issues impacting on sleep? Also, you need to teach your child about sleep as once they are past the 3-4 month mark they become super interested in the world and would rather play all day than sleep, even when they are blatantly tired. So bedtimes can cause tears, but this does not mean that we are ignoring or overriding the needs of the child and being harsh parents.
Overall, do not expect to pick this book up and get a quick-fix to your baby’s sleep issues. Ideally this book should be read during pregnancy so that parents can implement those suggestions that they think could work for them at the outset, rather than trying to fix problems once they develop.
December 29, 2017
I loved the first half of this book, which helps reframe the issue of sleep so that parents don't feel quite so inadequate or "broken" when it comes to their own frustrations with their inability to get their child successfully sleeping. It's reassuring both to know that poor sleep is normal for babies and small children, and it's also helpful to realize that the way our culture expects sleep to unfold in the modern era is not necessarily "natural" or the "way it's always been."
I also really liked the book's examination of "Cry It Out" and other sleep-training methods, and probably my main "takeaway" was an affirmation of my decision not to do any sort of sleep-training that feels harsh or otherwise "wrong." After reading this book, I am better able to articulate why those methods won't work for me as a parent.
Unfortunately, the book comes up VERY short on actual advice for sleep-deprived parents, so it's main benefit is in helping them reframe the problem. But the actionable steps are pretty generic -- reduce blue light/stimulation before bedtime, give your kid something to eat before bed, etc. She includes a bunch of case studies of parents she has consulted with, which are totally unnecessary because she pretty much gives the same advice to everyone. I think it's funny that some of the email testimonies from clients who have tried her methods are fairly lukewarm and she still included them. The methods she suggests take so long to work that it seems possible that at least some of the time the babies might have just "outgrown" their current sleep problem, since babies change so fast on a month-to-month basis. I know the extreme sleep frustrations/deprivation that led me to this book six weeks ago have mostly resolved themselves now (or I've found new ways to cope with them), which is about how long she says her methods take to take effect. Also, there are places where her advice borders on "woo-woo," such as her insistence that mothers working through any "trauma" they have related to their child's birth story will magically result in better sleep for the baby.
My advice for people who are not hardcore "finishers" like I am would be to read the first six chapters of the book to help adjust your mindset, then turn to Elizabeth Pantley's "No-Cry Sleep Solution" for some actual actionable ideas.
I also really liked the book's examination of "Cry It Out" and other sleep-training methods, and probably my main "takeaway" was an affirmation of my decision not to do any sort of sleep-training that feels harsh or otherwise "wrong." After reading this book, I am better able to articulate why those methods won't work for me as a parent.
Unfortunately, the book comes up VERY short on actual advice for sleep-deprived parents, so it's main benefit is in helping them reframe the problem. But the actionable steps are pretty generic -- reduce blue light/stimulation before bedtime, give your kid something to eat before bed, etc. She includes a bunch of case studies of parents she has consulted with, which are totally unnecessary because she pretty much gives the same advice to everyone. I think it's funny that some of the email testimonies from clients who have tried her methods are fairly lukewarm and she still included them. The methods she suggests take so long to work that it seems possible that at least some of the time the babies might have just "outgrown" their current sleep problem, since babies change so fast on a month-to-month basis. I know the extreme sleep frustrations/deprivation that led me to this book six weeks ago have mostly resolved themselves now (or I've found new ways to cope with them), which is about how long she says her methods take to take effect. Also, there are places where her advice borders on "woo-woo," such as her insistence that mothers working through any "trauma" they have related to their child's birth story will magically result in better sleep for the baby.
My advice for people who are not hardcore "finishers" like I am would be to read the first six chapters of the book to help adjust your mindset, then turn to Elizabeth Pantley's "No-Cry Sleep Solution" for some actual actionable ideas.
June 18, 2023
Visą knygą būtų galima sutalpinti į vieną paskutinį nedidelį skyrių. Didžioji dalis informacijos vis pasikartoja. Labai super patarimų nėra - prigesintos šviesos, rami vakaro aplinka be ekranų, levandų eterinis aliejus, ta pati vakaro rutina ir dar keli patarimai. Man pačiai buvo įdomu apie kūdikių būdravimo laiką ir jų trumpus miego ciklus. Autorė palaiko mažylių miegojimą kartu su mama. Yra patarimų dėl miego, kai namie auga pametinukai. Taip pat kaip reaguoti, kai vaikas sapnuoja košmarus.
Pateikiami keli mamų laiškai su vaikų miegojimo problemomis, įdomu pažvelgti į šeimų auginančių mažamečius gyvenimą.
🖋 Palengvėja, kai moteris atsisveikina su senuoju gyvenimu ir prisitaiko prie naujojo.
🖋 Privalote būti savo vaiko gynėjai ir sergėtojai, saugoti jį naktį - šiuo tamsiu ir gąsdinančiu paros metu jis tik jus ir teturi.
🖋 ..neturėtume bijoti auginti prieraišų ir priklausomą nuo mūsų vaiką ir tenkinti jo poreikius - tai geriausias būdas užauginti savimi pasitikinčią ir nepriklausomą asmenybę.
🖋 Glauskite tuos mažučius, tegu jie miega jums ant rankų, kol galima, - tai praeinančios vaikystės akimirkos
Pateikiami keli mamų laiškai su vaikų miegojimo problemomis, įdomu pažvelgti į šeimų auginančių mažamečius gyvenimą.
🖋 Palengvėja, kai moteris atsisveikina su senuoju gyvenimu ir prisitaiko prie naujojo.
🖋 Privalote būti savo vaiko gynėjai ir sergėtojai, saugoti jį naktį - šiuo tamsiu ir gąsdinančiu paros metu jis tik jus ir teturi.
🖋 ..neturėtume bijoti auginti prieraišų ir priklausomą nuo mūsų vaiką ir tenkinti jo poreikius - tai geriausias būdas užauginti savimi pasitikinčią ir nepriklausomą asmenybę.
🖋 Glauskite tuos mažučius, tegu jie miega jums ant rankų, kol galima, - tai praeinančios vaikystės akimirkos
August 30, 2019
Sarah OS uses lots of quotes from research studies and then forms her own opinions which differ wildly from that of the researcher or the NHS. She cites a study which says a bath as part of a routine helps sleep but then says don't do the bath because she doesn't like it. She takes the conclusion from a study into controlled crying where the researchers state no long term harm and somehow that means long term damage to her. She uses a completely unrelated study to advocate sling wear. Most disgustingly, she uses a study where severely neglected orphans were starved of attention and uses it to shame parents into convincing them to co sleep. Throughout the book she peppers research quotations with opinion and makes it seem like fact. Her advocation of co sleeping is not supported by evidence and a recent rise of SIDs caused by co sleeping is obviously not as important as having an easy life.
She vilifies mothers for using GRO clocks with no evidence. She is downright rude about formula feeding mums (I breastfeed but you'd think FF mums were commiting child abuse from the way she goes on.
Finally, she spends the first few chapters moaning about how there isn't any real research or knowledge in many of the sleep methods followed and then proceeds to give her own unresearched advice which basically boils down to: it's hard work to get a baby to sleep properly because of society so don't bother. Just let your child stay up late, don't send them to nursery (big no no if you have to work apparently), put them in your bed and don't worry if they're still wearing nappies at 7 (actual advice). Never mind the fact that your sleep deprived baby or toddler is constantly stressed and grumpy and don't expect to have any time to yourselves in the evening as your child must completely dominate your every waking moment until they're 7, when she suggests they might be ready to move into their own room.
Try reading Your BAby l, a guide to the first 6 months, the Good Sleep Guide or French children don't throw food for some more accurate advice.
She vilifies mothers for using GRO clocks with no evidence. She is downright rude about formula feeding mums (I breastfeed but you'd think FF mums were commiting child abuse from the way she goes on.
Finally, she spends the first few chapters moaning about how there isn't any real research or knowledge in many of the sleep methods followed and then proceeds to give her own unresearched advice which basically boils down to: it's hard work to get a baby to sleep properly because of society so don't bother. Just let your child stay up late, don't send them to nursery (big no no if you have to work apparently), put them in your bed and don't worry if they're still wearing nappies at 7 (actual advice). Never mind the fact that your sleep deprived baby or toddler is constantly stressed and grumpy and don't expect to have any time to yourselves in the evening as your child must completely dominate your every waking moment until they're 7, when she suggests they might be ready to move into their own room.
Try reading Your BAby l, a guide to the first 6 months, the Good Sleep Guide or French children don't throw food for some more accurate advice.
May 26, 2015
Loved this book - great background on infant sleep and setting realistic expectations for sleep for you and your baby. Then some strategies and ideas for gently changing your baby's sleep habits. I will be consulting this book at each new age range Sarah goes over!
February 6, 2018
A few points I agree with, a few I did not, but in essence just another self-righteous book to tell mothers they are doing all the wrong things and will cause irreversible damage to their children.
April 5, 2024
Knyga, prie kurios dar grįšiu ir grįšiu 😌 Autorė pateikia daug informacijos apie naujagimių, kūdikių ir vyresnių vaikų miegą, taip pat pasidalija praktiniais patarimais bei realiomis kitų šeimų situacijomis ir savo rekomendacijomis.
Ši knyga tikrai įneša į namus ramybės bei padeda peržvelgti esamą situaciją ir ją pagerinti. Vienintelis minusas, kad visos strategijos rezultatus žada tik po 4-6 savaičių - greitų rezultatų tikėtis neverta, viskam reikia laiko, o jau kurį laiką nuolat neišsimiegant norėtųsi viską išspręsti greitai greitai 😅
Ši knyga tikrai įneša į namus ramybės bei padeda peržvelgti esamą situaciją ir ją pagerinti. Vienintelis minusas, kad visos strategijos rezultatus žada tik po 4-6 savaičių - greitų rezultatų tikėtis neverta, viskam reikia laiko, o jau kurį laiką nuolat neišsimiegant norėtųsi viską išspręsti greitai greitai 😅
September 6, 2023
Man šī grāmata ļoti patika. It īpaši bija noderīgi lasīt grāmatas pirmo daļu par miega teoriju, jo tas izskaidroja daudzas lietas, ko jau biju novērojusi savā mazulī. Jauki arī apzināties, kāds miegs ir "norma" katrā vecumā un ko sagaidīt. Arī grāmatā dotie miega "problēmu" piemēri un to risinājumi bija noderīgi, vienīgi traucēja tas, ka daudzi autores ieteikumi atkārtojās (ieviest mīļmantiņu, sarkanās gaismas spektra naktslapmiņu utt). Kopumā ņemot - iesaku izlasīt.
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July 2, 2022Vairāk paredzēta vecākiem, kuri gaida ka viņu zīdaiņi nogulēs visu nakti bez mošanās…
June 30, 2020
A bit preachy, and not all that helpful. Whilst there is a lot in the book that I agree with, as someone who is very much anti-sleep training, I appreciated the reassurance that I'm doing the right things for my child psychologically.
Co-sleeping is not appropriate for us, since my son was very premature, and I feel like the solution that was given to me was basically to suck it up and put up with it.... I've got a few tips that might help to an extent, but most of it we're already doing, and since our issue is rarely related to getting him to sleep, more to do with keeping him asleep, I feel like we're at a loss. Maybe I'm asking too much, but I was hoping for more
Co-sleeping is not appropriate for us, since my son was very premature, and I feel like the solution that was given to me was basically to suck it up and put up with it.... I've got a few tips that might help to an extent, but most of it we're already doing, and since our issue is rarely related to getting him to sleep, more to do with keeping him asleep, I feel like we're at a loss. Maybe I'm asking too much, but I was hoping for more
December 31, 2017
My child hates sleep. I once went 5 days on just 4 hours sleep so I had to do something! This book gave me lots of tips to help and also reminded me that I'm not alone.
Whilst nothing in this book 100% worked, a mixture of different systems and patience paid off and my sleep hating daughter now sleeps through the night 1 or 2 nights a week. The other days, she will wake 1 or 2 times but will be a lot easier to settle.
I will always recommend this book to parents suffering from a bad sleeper!
Whilst nothing in this book 100% worked, a mixture of different systems and patience paid off and my sleep hating daughter now sleeps through the night 1 or 2 nights a week. The other days, she will wake 1 or 2 times but will be a lot easier to settle.
I will always recommend this book to parents suffering from a bad sleeper!
March 5, 2018
There are some useful tips and pieces of information in this book that could have been communicated much more concisely. I really appreciated the author’s intentions (to calm the parents in particular) but her writing style wasn’t my favourite and I would have appreciated a shorter version of the book. Her responses to parent letters seemed very repetitive.
November 23, 2018
Mixed feelings about this book. Has a lot of good tips but it can be a bit forceful of some points eg. Pushes a guilt trip about the "cry it out" method. It gets very repetitive towards the second half. Has a lot of good points and shares alot of experiences from other parents but i just felt it was a bit too judgemental
August 5, 2023
Pros: Sebagai ibu yang pernah agak tertekan karena anak tak kunjung bisa "sleep through the night", buku ini cukup menenangkan dan membuat saya bisa menyesuaikan ekspektasi terkait tidur anak. Bu Sarah menawarkan metode yang diringkas dalam BEDTIME: (Bedsharing/co-sleeping), Expectation, Diet, Transitional object, Imitating you, Methodical sleep timing, Environment. Metode tersebut tidak untuk semuanya dilakukan, tetapi bisa dicoba dan dipilih berdasarkan mana yang paling efektif. Bu Sarah juga memberikan tips-tips bermanfaat untuk setiap jenjang usia, misalnya tips ketika anak akan berpindah ke kamarnya sendiri.
Cons: Meskipun merupakan penganut bedsharing, saya kurang nyaman dengan cara Bu Sarah mengkritisi teknik sleep training modern di bab 5. Beliau menyertakan studi pendukung yang menjelaskan bahwa metode sleep training yang sekarang populer tidak baik untuk perkembangan anak. Namun untuk hal ini sepertinya saya perlu membaca beberapa sumber lain, karena bukan sekali dua kali saya mendengar DSA menyatakan bahwa metode-metode tersebut sangat aman.
Overal, 3 bintang karena bermanfaat dan menenangkan tetapi beberapa tips terdengar kurang praktikal. Pada akhirnya saya merasa gentle sleep book meyakinkan kita untuk terus mendampingi anak sampai akhirnya anak siap tidur sendiri. Setengah saya setuju tapi saya kira anak juga bisa diarahkan untuk belajar?
Cons: Meskipun merupakan penganut bedsharing, saya kurang nyaman dengan cara Bu Sarah mengkritisi teknik sleep training modern di bab 5. Beliau menyertakan studi pendukung yang menjelaskan bahwa metode sleep training yang sekarang populer tidak baik untuk perkembangan anak. Namun untuk hal ini sepertinya saya perlu membaca beberapa sumber lain, karena bukan sekali dua kali saya mendengar DSA menyatakan bahwa metode-metode tersebut sangat aman.
Overal, 3 bintang karena bermanfaat dan menenangkan tetapi beberapa tips terdengar kurang praktikal. Pada akhirnya saya merasa gentle sleep book meyakinkan kita untuk terus mendampingi anak sampai akhirnya anak siap tidur sendiri. Setengah saya setuju tapi saya kira anak juga bisa diarahkan untuk belajar?
February 1, 2018
Puiki, aiški, informatyvi, vertinga knyga. Joje pateikiama daug naudingų žinių, pagrįstų tyrimais - apie vaikų miego ypatumus pagal amžių, apie švelnius miego gerinimo būdus (tiek bendrus patarimus, tiek pritaikytus pagal amžių) ir papildyta pavyzdžiais - tėvų laiškais su problemomis ir autorės atsakymais į juos. Ją perskaičius tapo aiškiau, kad daugumai vaikų yra normalu miegoti ne taip "gerai", kaip tikimasi, nes aptariami vaikų miegą gaubinatys mitai. Taip pat paliečiami ir grubesni migdymo metodai, jų trumpalaikis ir ilgalaikis poveikis. Man asmeniškai autorės požiūris į vaikų miegą ir migdymo būdus atrodo pagrįstas ir priimtinas.
January 10, 2021
Skaičiau knygą dėl iškilusios problemos ir neradau atsakymo į savo klausimą, dėl to vertinimas tik vidutinis. Manau, kad knyga bus naudingiausia pirmakarčiams nepatyrusiems tėvams. Dauguma patarimų gan paprasti ir savaime aiškūs, kita vertus, atradau ir naujų. Susidūrus su miego problemomis, manau kiekvienas atrastų bent vieną naują problemos sprendimo būdą, kuris tikėtina nebus veiksmingas, nes kūdikiams tiesiog būdinga prastai miegoti.
May 13, 2019
I find the book useful because it sets the right expectations with regards to baby sleep. It also has a chapter with practical advice on how to encourage good sleep. It also explains how a gentle attitude towards sleep helps a baby longterm. I really liked how the author described what she wanted from the relationship with their kids and I realized I want the same things.
November 16, 2020
Lots of great tips and very reassuring.
June 2, 2021
very much enjoyed being reassured that my instincts are worth following, rather than the usual hectoring typical to parenting books
December 4, 2021
Is my baby sleeping better? No, I don’t think that’s going to happen until she has her own mortgage now. But do I feel less bad about it? Yes. 🤷♀️ Do with that what you will.
June 30, 2021
Yra geru patarimu, bet labai daug informacijos kartojasi. Viska buvo galima isdestyti trecdalyje knygos (vertinu su avansu).
December 10, 2024
Foarte utilă, cu informații din surse sigure și sfaturi practice.
February 11, 2025
(I have the revised and updated edition.)
I really enjoyed this, there were some interesting points and information about sleep.
I've been lucky that my son has always been a good sleeper, and if there were wakings the cause was easy enough found.
However as he gets older, that could likely change so there were some great tips in here for sleep, mostly staying consistent which makes sense.
I'm really loving making my way through all of Sarah's books, I love her writing and I'm very onboard with her parenting style.
I really enjoyed this, there were some interesting points and information about sleep.
I've been lucky that my son has always been a good sleeper, and if there were wakings the cause was easy enough found.
However as he gets older, that could likely change so there were some great tips in here for sleep, mostly staying consistent which makes sense.
I'm really loving making my way through all of Sarah's books, I love her writing and I'm very onboard with her parenting style.
December 31, 2024
Kaip šviežiai iškeptai mamai, knyga patiko ir buvo naudinga. Supratau, kad yra visiškai normalu jog kūdikiai ir maži vaikai yra prasti miegotojai. Knygoje siūlomi patarimai atitinka prieraišiosios tėvystės principus.
Minusai: Keli klausimai, kuriuos turėjau prieš pradedant skaityti knygą, taip ir liko neatsakyti. Taip pat antroje knygos dalyje pateikti atsakymai į tėvų laiškus labai kartojasi, buvo galima juos sutrumpinti.
Minusai: Keli klausimai, kuriuos turėjau prieš pradedant skaityti knygą, taip ir liko neatsakyti. Taip pat antroje knygos dalyje pateikti atsakymai į tėvų laiškus labai kartojasi, buvo galima juos sutrumpinti.
August 26, 2018
As I searched for the hailed yet elusive No-Cry Sleep Solution on the library shelf, The Gentle Sleep Book caught my eye. I was purposefully seeking out a book on baby sleep as I’ve been grappling with a very specific issue (bedsharing with my baby until now, and wanting to transition him into his cot). I’ll say outright that this book wasn’t any help with that, though probably through no fault of its own.
The Gentle Sleep Book comprises two halves: the first a background to baby sleep and the latter a set of practical solutions. It was the first half that piqued my interest, with evidence-based theories dispelling what we think we know (and are told constantly by healthcare professionals and the media) about babies’ sleep. Ockwell-Smith takes us across history and around the world to analyse sleep behaviours and challenge what we in West now think of as ‘normal’.
Like all parenting books this one has an agenda: the gentle approach. I was enthralled by both the concepts and the conviction. I found myself nodding fervently, and even fist pumped on one occasion. But this was a classic case of preaching to the choir. As an advocate of breastfeeding, bed-sharing, co-sleeping, baby wearing and responsive parenting, I was already on Ockwell-Smith’s team, and was always going to approve.
Despite this, I somehow got the mum guilts from reading this book. It was the “The Problems with Modern Sleep-Training Techniques” chapter that did it. There were listed some of the methods I’ve been reading up on (and I fear some from The No-Cry Sleep Solution), branded cruel and damaging. How could I have even considered using such techniques? My poor baby! Evil mummy! (It seems you get on board with Ockwell-Smith or you go home).
The second half with practical suggestions tells nothing new (swaddling, lullabies, avoiding screens, no caffeine etc) but does handily separate the advice into age-specific sections that you can cross-reference with any baby development book/app you may have. There are also case studies from parents’ perspectives for the personal touch. And you’ll never forget that BEDTIME acronym (cringe!)
As for the “Moving your Baby out of your Bed” section, well, it’s a page long, and basically says that they’ll grow out of it. Even in the knowledge that this wasn’t the focus of the book, and even though it was a longshot, I can’t lie... I was disappointed. Back to the drawing board it is (Dare I No-Cry?)
On the whole, Ockwell-Smith’s parenting approach is very much in harmony with what I believe in, so I look forward to reading Babycalm and Toddlercalm, and to approaching these from a more generalist perspective.
The Gentle Sleep Book comprises two halves: the first a background to baby sleep and the latter a set of practical solutions. It was the first half that piqued my interest, with evidence-based theories dispelling what we think we know (and are told constantly by healthcare professionals and the media) about babies’ sleep. Ockwell-Smith takes us across history and around the world to analyse sleep behaviours and challenge what we in West now think of as ‘normal’.
Like all parenting books this one has an agenda: the gentle approach. I was enthralled by both the concepts and the conviction. I found myself nodding fervently, and even fist pumped on one occasion. But this was a classic case of preaching to the choir. As an advocate of breastfeeding, bed-sharing, co-sleeping, baby wearing and responsive parenting, I was already on Ockwell-Smith’s team, and was always going to approve.
Despite this, I somehow got the mum guilts from reading this book. It was the “The Problems with Modern Sleep-Training Techniques” chapter that did it. There were listed some of the methods I’ve been reading up on (and I fear some from The No-Cry Sleep Solution), branded cruel and damaging. How could I have even considered using such techniques? My poor baby! Evil mummy! (It seems you get on board with Ockwell-Smith or you go home).
The second half with practical suggestions tells nothing new (swaddling, lullabies, avoiding screens, no caffeine etc) but does handily separate the advice into age-specific sections that you can cross-reference with any baby development book/app you may have. There are also case studies from parents’ perspectives for the personal touch. And you’ll never forget that BEDTIME acronym (cringe!)
As for the “Moving your Baby out of your Bed” section, well, it’s a page long, and basically says that they’ll grow out of it. Even in the knowledge that this wasn’t the focus of the book, and even though it was a longshot, I can’t lie... I was disappointed. Back to the drawing board it is (Dare I No-Cry?)
On the whole, Ockwell-Smith’s parenting approach is very much in harmony with what I believe in, so I look forward to reading Babycalm and Toddlercalm, and to approaching these from a more generalist perspective.
December 7, 2023
nomierina vecākus un iedod praktiskas, viegli īstenojamas darbības.
May 22, 2016
I'd found the content of one of Ockwell-Smith's earlier books,
ToddlerCalm
, to be useful, even if I was somewhat annoyed by the writing style. When I heard that she had a newer book on baby and toddler sleep, I was intrigued.
Overall, this book was rather meh. I'll start with the good. Ockwell-Smith presents the BEDTIME framework for helping debug sleep issues. BEDTIME is: Bedsharing and co-sleeping; Expectations (setting and having the right ones); Diet; Transitional objects; IT and screen time; Me time; Environment. If your child is having sleep issues, Ockwell-Smith recommends that you go through these different factors and think about how could be changed to improve sleep. Then make some changes and be sure to try them for at least 6 weeks before giving up on them. She has some specific tips she gives for each category. Overall, this framework is similar to that in other books on baby sleep, but listing the factors is a useful addition.
As for what is annoying, the same tendency she'd shown in ToddlerCalm to be a bit critical of certain parenting choices was somewhat annoying. Also, while the background on infant and toddler sleep was interesting, you could tell that the studies she chose to emphasize were highly cherry picked to support her particular beliefs. Some of her comments about diet and chiropractic treatment for babies and toddlers (ack!) veered near if not into the woo category.
The other thing that annoyed me is that Ockwell-Smith heavily encouraged bed sharing and co-sleeping (yay!) but her discussion of transitioning the child to their own bed/room was decidedly brief. Most of the second part of the book is case studies for different age groups and not a single case study discussed transitioning. This is a huge gap.
Overall, this book was rather meh. I'll start with the good. Ockwell-Smith presents the BEDTIME framework for helping debug sleep issues. BEDTIME is: Bedsharing and co-sleeping; Expectations (setting and having the right ones); Diet; Transitional objects; IT and screen time; Me time; Environment. If your child is having sleep issues, Ockwell-Smith recommends that you go through these different factors and think about how could be changed to improve sleep. Then make some changes and be sure to try them for at least 6 weeks before giving up on them. She has some specific tips she gives for each category. Overall, this framework is similar to that in other books on baby sleep, but listing the factors is a useful addition.
As for what is annoying, the same tendency she'd shown in ToddlerCalm to be a bit critical of certain parenting choices was somewhat annoying. Also, while the background on infant and toddler sleep was interesting, you could tell that the studies she chose to emphasize were highly cherry picked to support her particular beliefs. Some of her comments about diet and chiropractic treatment for babies and toddlers (ack!) veered near if not into the woo category.
The other thing that annoyed me is that Ockwell-Smith heavily encouraged bed sharing and co-sleeping (yay!) but her discussion of transitioning the child to their own bed/room was decidedly brief. Most of the second part of the book is case studies for different age groups and not a single case study discussed transitioning. This is a huge gap.
December 23, 2020
Neturėjau daug lūkesčių šiai knygai, o ir miego problemų mano sūnus neturi, tačiau labai džiaugiuosi ją perskaičiusi.
Visų pirma todėl jog autorė sudėliojo kūdikio/vaiko miego ABC. Sudėliojo ir tėvų lūkesčius tam miegui. Puikiai nuteikė, jog tai kas veikia su vienais vaikais, nebūtinai veiks su kitais. Ir tai, kad dėrėtų pamiršti sąvoką "normalu" auginant vaiką. Kiekvienas atvejis - individualus.
Be to, knygos struktūra labai patogi ir aiški. Pradžioje autorė suteikia bendras žinias apie miegą, o tik vėliau papildo praktiniais patarimais pagal amžių (!). O tai beprotiškai patogu.
Ir galų gale, šitoj knygoj nebuvo jokio šūdmaliavimo ir tuščiažodžiavimo, ką neretai pastebiu skaitant literatūrą apie vaikų auginimą. Mintys buvo konkrečios, aiškios ir orientuotos į rezultatą, aka geresnį kūdikio/vaiko miegą.
Taigi reziume, labai rekomenduoju perskaityti. Ir palaikyti šią knygą lentynoje. Nes tikrai ne vieną kartą dar ją atsiverskite ieškodami patarimų.
Visų pirma todėl jog autorė sudėliojo kūdikio/vaiko miego ABC. Sudėliojo ir tėvų lūkesčius tam miegui. Puikiai nuteikė, jog tai kas veikia su vienais vaikais, nebūtinai veiks su kitais. Ir tai, kad dėrėtų pamiršti sąvoką "normalu" auginant vaiką. Kiekvienas atvejis - individualus.
Be to, knygos struktūra labai patogi ir aiški. Pradžioje autorė suteikia bendras žinias apie miegą, o tik vėliau papildo praktiniais patarimais pagal amžių (!). O tai beprotiškai patogu.
Ir galų gale, šitoj knygoj nebuvo jokio šūdmaliavimo ir tuščiažodžiavimo, ką neretai pastebiu skaitant literatūrą apie vaikų auginimą. Mintys buvo konkrečios, aiškios ir orientuotos į rezultatą, aka geresnį kūdikio/vaiko miegą.
Taigi reziume, labai rekomenduoju perskaityti. Ir palaikyti šią knygą lentynoje. Nes tikrai ne vieną kartą dar ją atsiverskite ieškodami patarimų.
January 10, 2017
Well, this book is much better than others about baby sleep problems! But once you read something like -" avoid using dummy once baby is 5-7 month" (right when you actually need it to comfort them from teething pain) or "don't travel to far, especially If you need to change time zone"! It does give you good advice of doing what it is right for you and baby! But other 100 pages is just as usual unreal advice!
August 11, 2015
I didn't find this book very helpful on a practical level although the background information on sleeping was interesting.. It has been said there there are two options when it comes to baby sleep habits - "cry it out" or "live with it".. I think this book definitely fits into the live with it category.
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