Deceived: Facing Sexual Betrayal Lies and Secrets

by Claudia Black

Pornography, cybersex, prostitutes, voyeurism, multiple affairs. No matter their "drug" of choice, men who act out sexually leave their partners reeling in fear, rage, incredible shame, and isolation.

But there is hope.

In Deceived, bestselling author Claudia Black offers women in relationships plagued by sexual betrayal the care and guidance to create a new path of clarity, direction, and confidence. Black uses stories of real women who have been through a wide variety of experiences to help readers develop the understanding and skills

248 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 2009

About the author

Claudia Black, M.S.W., Ph.D. is a renowned addiction and trauma expert, author, and trainer internationally recognized for her pioneering and contemporary work with family systems and addictive disorders. Dr. Black's passion to help young adults overcome obstacles and strengthen families built the foundation of the Claudia Black Young Adult Center at The Meadows treatment center in Arizona. Not only is Dr. Black the clinical architect of this innovative treatment program, she is also a Senior Fellow at The Meadows. She is the author of sixteen books, most recently Unspoken Legacy and Intimate Treason.

Reviews

[Lainie · Rating 3 out of 5]

Especially pertinent if you are a co-dependent partner in a relationship with a sex addict, this book defines what that looks like and offers concrete advice for recognizing your own co-dependency, healing yourself, and repairing or ending the relationship with the addict. Highly recommended for those who tend to buy into the addict's blame-shame-charm game and need help identifying options for recovery -- for one or both partners. Although the author has worked for decades in the 12-step world, she provides loads of useful resources --12-step and otherwise -- for anyone looking to change the patterns. One thing I have never liked about self-help books is the over-use of anecdotes. You know the kind: "Linda M is an actuary, divorced at 35. When she found out her husband was ...." This book is full of great insight and advice but does include a lot of these stories. If you can tolerate that, this book may be helpful to you. Recommended.

[Rachel · Rating 2 out of 5]

The book is well written and gives good, constructive advice. I think I didn't relate to it because it didn't seem to describe me or my husband all that well... a little bit of each of us... and maybe that could be us in a few years if we don't change things now... but not enough of a picture that I could really relate to it as is.

[Judy · Rating 5 out of 5]

Best book I have found for women dealing with issues in their relationship. By far the best book - gives
concrete help - doesn't just talk about it -- addresses the myriad of feelings experienced.

[mike hatcher · Rating 4 out of 5]

risky reading ... tough emotions to face.

loaned the book to a friend a month ago and haven't seen it back yet. He says it's great, but tough.