Boiling Point: Understanding Men and Anger

by Stephen F. Arterburn, David Stoop

Being a man in the twenty-first century isn't easy. In fact, trying to live up to a masculine ideal that may be nothing more than myth has left many men frustrated and angry. Often unable to express their emotions, these men appear buttoned-up until a seemingly minor setback unleashes a torrent of rage that can destroy personal and professional relationships. Does this sound familiar? Suppressed anger, when it finally boils over, scalds everyone involved-including loved ones, co-workers, and even strangers. Christian counselors David Stoop and Stephen Arterburn offer solutions in this trade paper version of The Angry Man . They show what happens when men's deep-rooted anger starts to ruin relationships, jobs, and health, and they help sufferers find their way back from the brink. Men will find the help they need to reimagine a positive image of their masculinity; their loved ones will find advice on reaching a man at his boiling point.

211 pages, Paperback

First published July 29, 2005

About the author

Stephen Arterburn is the founder and chairman of New Life Ministries—the nation's largest faith-based broadcast, counseling, and treatment ministry—and is the host of the nationally syndicated New Life Live! daily radio program aired on over 180 radio stations nationwide, Sirius XM radio, and on television. Steve is also the founder of the Women of Faith conferences, attended by over 4 million women, and of HisMatchforMe.com.
Steve is a nationally known public speaker and has been featured in national media venues such as Oprah, Inside Edition, Good Morning America, CNN Live, the New York Times, USA Today, and US News & World Report.
In August 2000, Steve was inducted into the National Speakers Association's Hall of Fame. A bestselling author, Steve has written more than one hundred books, including the popular Every Man's series and his most recent book, Healing Is a Choice. He is a Gold Medallion–winning author and has been nominated for numerous other writing awards.
Steve has degrees from Baylor University and the University of North Texas as well as two honorary doctorate degrees. Steve is a teaching pastor at Northview Church in suburban Indianapolis and resides with his family in Indiana.

Reviews

[Brent Soderstrum · Rating 3 out of 5]

I am a big Arterburn fan. His books have helped me develop my faith over the years-especially when it comes to men's issues. That is why I was somewhat confused by this book. Nowhere on the book does it say that this book is written for women who deal with men with anger problem. When I read this book, it covered how women can help men, and their relationships, when men face anger issues. Don't get me wrong, a man can read this book and find ways to deal with anger and what causes it within him. Yet that is not who it is written for.

Anger is a problem with men. I face it. Every man faces it. I tend to cover it up and let it boil inside of me. I have learned how to share my feelings over the years with my wife, but it isn't easy. I really don't have "Daddy" issues. I have a great father who did work away from the home but who was there when I needed him. So many of the examples Arterburn uses are of men who lost their father either through death or leaving the family.

There also isn't enough God in this book. This is more of a psychiatry/self-help book. More God please.

[Tim · Rating 3 out of 5]

Overall this was just an OK book, but it had a few great reminders about the importance of placing family over work.

Does your job define you?

Or do you give the proper time to your wife and kids?

Lots of father-son stuff in here, too.

[Andrea · Rating 3 out of 5]

Good points to remember being a wife. There scripts were not at all like real life (which they stated they wouldn't be) but they still felt too "easy" not with a bit of resistance which had me scoffing at them.

[Charles Thornton · Rating 4 out of 5]

A great book giving insight as to why so many men have anger issues.