Insecure Attachment: 3 Books in 1: Healing your Anxious, Dismissive or Fearful Attachment. Life-Changing Tools to Cultivate More Love and Defuse Conflicts

by Janis Bryans

Do you see the same behavior patterns emerge in your relationships from time to time? Are you constantly worried that everything will end in a heartbreak? Do you feel coldness and distance within your relationship that is difficult to explain? Does their hot & cold attitude confuse you , leaving you feeling that you can't communicate your needs? This collection 3 Books in 1 ◆ Anxious People who have developed an anxious attachment may have a hard time feeling secure in relationships. As young children, they may cling to caregivers or become inconsolable when a caregiver leaves. Every day people with this condition have to struggle with the fear of being abandoned, their anxiety suffocates the relationship and they are left behind. This creates in them a self-fulfilling prophecy. In adulthood, they may need constant reassurance and affection from their partner, strong fear of rejection or abandonment and clinginess in relationships. They may also have trouble being alone or single.
They live with the constant feeling of being unworthy at the same time as obsessively longing for love. ◆ Dismissive Avoidant the dismissive avoidant sees themselves as some sort of lone wolf. They feel that they don’t need anyone and that nobody needs them. They can drift in and out of everyone’s lives without causing any sort of emotional havoc and they like that lack of accountability or obligation. They may also shy away when you open up to them. Feeling close can feel like a danger zone and so they avoid it. People who suffer from dismissive avoidance, during their mental growth, have come to generate this type of internal "I'm good, but others are not really important to me. I'm fine as I am and I don't need anyone." ◆ Fearful Avoidant People who develop a fearful avoidant attachment style often desire closeness. They seek intimacy from partners. However, they may be unable to achieve the deep connection that they long for. The reason for this is because their attachment experiences have taught them to be fearful of intimacy. In some cases, their personality leads them to reject close bonds. This can spur a cycle of rocky relationships and extreme emotional highs and lows. A person with a fearful avoidant attachment lives in an ambivalent state of being, afraid of being both too close to or too distant from others. Understanding anxious, dismissive and fearful avoidant attachment can help you to understand why you react the way you do in relationships. If you believe that a loved one has this style of attachment, understanding where the instincts come from may also help you to respond to them. If you do not intervene immediately , those who have a relationship with an anxious, dismissive or fearful avoidant person will end up having to settle for a relationship made up of distances, misunderstandings and conflicts until the relationship is totally broken. Everything you have built together will have been in vain. The good news is that you can change the attachment style. It may take time, work and a great deal of understanding from people in life. However, i t is possible to build intimate, secure relationships that fulfil and help you to feel safe. Understanding and managing the wounds of attachment is the best gift that you can give to your relationship.

340 pages, Kindle Edition

Published October 6, 2021