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Stop F*cking Nodding: and Other Things 16 Years Olds Say in Therapy
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February 7, 2024
An excellent book and one that I would recommend to anyone studying the psychology of children in difficulty; in fact it would also be very relevant to teachers who must have a lot of challenges when communicating with this age group.
The book consists of a series of chapters which are based on composite characters, made up of all sorts of teenagers who she has treated in therapy. By mixing up their stories she can ensure that none of her clients can be identified. The stories are great, but tragic as there is a lot of abuse going on among this cohort. It's a rare opportunity to see behind the secrecy that almost always hides such abuse from public scrutiny. It gives us, the readers, a rare insight and hopefully some understanding/empathy when dealing with young people.
But each chapter is also replete with quotes and references to the psychologists and writers who have written the standard texts about this demographic. So, if you are studying psychology, or teaching, you can get the names of a wide range of experts, and their books, through this short and easy-to-read volume. It's very well done. It's not just a bibliography, the experts are presented in context so the reader can work out which one is worth further research. I suppose you could call this "A Primer" of child psychology? I think it should be on every reading list wherever they teach psychology or teaching, or even policing.
I hope that in the future the author will do a similar book like this which is aimed at the general public, and people looking after teenagers in particular; even the teenagers themselves. It gave me an appetite for their stories and when you get "invested" in a character you want to know as much as possible. This future edition wouldn't need all the academic references.
The title is a stroke of genius and it hits home with me. I have some experience working with BBC Radio and I was always told that you mustn't make a noise when interviewing someone, as we tend to make all sorts of affirmative-type noises to show that we're listening and are interested. But when you play back the tape you realise that these noises, and grunts, often ruin the recording. The answer is to just nod. I didn't know that psychologists use the same tactic, and it's funny to think that one of her clients, a 16 year old girl, told her to stop it.
I would like to read her other books.
The book consists of a series of chapters which are based on composite characters, made up of all sorts of teenagers who she has treated in therapy. By mixing up their stories she can ensure that none of her clients can be identified. The stories are great, but tragic as there is a lot of abuse going on among this cohort. It's a rare opportunity to see behind the secrecy that almost always hides such abuse from public scrutiny. It gives us, the readers, a rare insight and hopefully some understanding/empathy when dealing with young people.
But each chapter is also replete with quotes and references to the psychologists and writers who have written the standard texts about this demographic. So, if you are studying psychology, or teaching, you can get the names of a wide range of experts, and their books, through this short and easy-to-read volume. It's very well done. It's not just a bibliography, the experts are presented in context so the reader can work out which one is worth further research. I suppose you could call this "A Primer" of child psychology? I think it should be on every reading list wherever they teach psychology or teaching, or even policing.
I hope that in the future the author will do a similar book like this which is aimed at the general public, and people looking after teenagers in particular; even the teenagers themselves. It gave me an appetite for their stories and when you get "invested" in a character you want to know as much as possible. This future edition wouldn't need all the academic references.
The title is a stroke of genius and it hits home with me. I have some experience working with BBC Radio and I was always told that you mustn't make a noise when interviewing someone, as we tend to make all sorts of affirmative-type noises to show that we're listening and are interested. But when you play back the tape you realise that these noises, and grunts, often ruin the recording. The answer is to just nod. I didn't know that psychologists use the same tactic, and it's funny to think that one of her clients, a 16 year old girl, told her to stop it.
I would like to read her other books.
June 12, 2022
Quite interesting to read about therapy and their interactions with 16 year olds, not that I've had therapy but I think I'd have the same reaction as them with the nodding.
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