Thanks to Netgalley and the publisher for this eARC.
I had to return to rewrite my earlier review of this novel, because it just bothers me that this book was even published. Young women in today's society have a hard enough time developing healthy self-esteem, do we really need books which contribute to the lie that if they pick handsome egocentric jerks for their spouses, that if they only give him enough love and trust he will magically become a "good" person?
This story is a lukewarm domestic thriller about a woman who marries a guy who she initially felt (or hoped) was honest and open, despite the abusive garden of manipulation and abuse in which he grew up in (and learned from) and the evidence that she regularly finds to the contrary.
Unfortunately, the woman's new husband in this story learned the art of manipulation, blaming others, physical abuse and addiction all too well.
We begin life basically as a blank slate with a sprinkle of uniqueness and personality (if we are lucky).
However, as studies have repeatedly proven, and people (historically women) repeatedly REFUSE to believe - kids grow into adults who typically mirror the dramas and the crappy relationships that they had daily front row seats to as children. Where else would they learn how to treat their spouse as an adult? It isn't as though most people spend years in "relationship school" after all.
People who chronically prove themselves to be untrustworthy, nasty people really ARE untrustworthy, nasty people, thoroughly and completely. Why would a reasonable person expect (or try to convince themselves) otherwise?
Garbage in /garbage out, as we say in the technical industry...
I will never forget a class I took on Domestic Violence, when I was studying Criminal Justice, and a specialist gave a lecture stating she had attempted to change hundreds of abusers and addicts throughout her career and they NEVER CHANGED, period!
In this story, the lying addict of a husband had been engaged to no less than THREE previous times, to women who saw hints to their future spouse's personality (and they had the self-esteem to dump the fool as soon as he started showing his "true colors"). However, this guy finally convinced a woman (with no poor judgement skills) to marry him, and, as can be expected, he repeats the patterns of manipulation, use, mistrust and abuse that his father taught him to emulate - and he does so on a daily basis...
SURPRISE! We all have to learn how to treat others from SOMEONE, and treating a mate with either respect or as an enemy is learned by parental example.
The mystery is, what will the woman do when she discovers her husband is just another manipulative LOSER who is incapable of mature and honest spousal interactions?
Unfortunately, the tale told within the pages of this book is one that is frequently replayed in our society.
Until next time, consider, dear readers, if you want your daughter to read this book and perhaps agree with the author's conclusion that "we all have problems", and end up settling in real life for a spouse who repeatedly and shamelessly manipulates her, lies to her, threatens to kill her, and steals money time and time again from the family coffers only to throw every penny he ever touches on gambling, hand her a copy of this sad novel.
Surely there are books with better lessons than this for publishers to promote (for example, stories where women are empowered to recognize that they are worth so much more than tying their futures to lying theiving jerks).
Until next time, dear readers, populate your lives with people who are worthy of being in them, because if you don't, your bad choices are VERY likely to be repeated in your future children's lives...