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Come Home to Yourself
This book is a catalyst for transformation, a guide to letting go, surrenduring to solitude, and discovering one's authenticity and purpose. By doing so, Déjà Rae shows that the love we are all looking for has always been inside of us, patiently waiting for us to come home.
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December 6, 2022
2.5 stars. I found Rae’s writing through social media and some of the posts resonated with me, so I thought I’d give this a try. Sadly, it fell flat for me.
I genuinely wanted to like this, and there were some pages that did hit close to home, but there were many more parts that felt kind of repetitive and disorganized. Each page was fine on its own, but I felt like it could have flowed better as a whole.
I could honestly write an essay about all the thoughts I had while reading this, but I’ll stop. I can see why people would like this book so I wouldn’t necessarily dissuade anyone from reading it—it’s not inherently bad, it just didn’t work for me.
I genuinely wanted to like this, and there were some pages that did hit close to home, but there were many more parts that felt kind of repetitive and disorganized. Each page was fine on its own, but I felt like it could have flowed better as a whole.
I could honestly write an essay about all the thoughts I had while reading this, but I’ll stop. I can see why people would like this book so I wouldn’t necessarily dissuade anyone from reading it—it’s not inherently bad, it just didn’t work for me.
January 7, 2024
Absolutely loved it, start to finish.
I hesitated with starting this since I had other poetry books on my TBR I was more interested in. I let my dog choose, he chose this one, and I’m glad he did.
The universe works in ways that we cannot comprehend at times, and this read came right when I needed it. It aligned with my healing journey and my worldview - like I had a conversation with Deja about my experiences while she wrote this.
I hesitated with starting this since I had other poetry books on my TBR I was more interested in. I let my dog choose, he chose this one, and I’m glad he did.
The universe works in ways that we cannot comprehend at times, and this read came right when I needed it. It aligned with my healing journey and my worldview - like I had a conversation with Deja about my experiences while she wrote this.
July 4, 2024
Definitely one of my favourite books!
March 9, 2023
The reassurance I needed to hear.
December 5, 2024
Everyone should read this book. Such good words to hear
December 30, 2022
Beautiful affirmations
“Grant yourself graduality”
“Grant yourself graduality”
February 5, 2024
Stand alone, each page was ok with a few decent pages sprinkled in. The Book was split into three parts but the pages within each part the parts as a whole lacked cohesion. It felt like snippets of internet therapy speak sprinkled with reassurances and a dashes of self-confidence boosting quips .
January 10, 2023
The universe shows up for you once you show up for yourself. ✨
May 30, 2024
really could’ve used this book a year ago but happy it found me now🤍
November 6, 2024
It was "nice" until she decided to throw God into the mix, as if He would solve all my problems through faith...meh
—Rupi Kaur coded
—Rupi Kaur coded
November 24, 2024
the perfect wellness book to read bits and pieces of at a time
November 26, 2025
tenho de parar de querer livros destes só por terem capas fofinhas e, em minha defesa, eu achava que era poesia... foi só mais um livro de frases tiradas do pinterest e do tiktok
November 15, 2025
I think Deja Rae personally went into my prefrontal cortex and used a wooden fork to scratch the itch in my brain that has persisted for 7553 days (the day I came out of the womb).
Poetry usually leaves a strange taste in my mouth, either because I think it’s poorly written (I’m no poet, I have 0 credentials) or I don’t have the creativity and depth to understand it (probably the latter). I have never highlighted so much of a book and copy and pasted passages into my notes the way I was with Come home to yourself. I read this on my kindle and became a ‘scan, copy, paste’ demon. I think this book spoke to me because the message is something I needed to hear a year ago. Now that I’m at the current stage of my life, this book obviously still pertains to me (there is always room to grow!), but it also helped me realize the seasons of growth I’ve gone through in a way.
Attached below are passages I think really encapsulate the kind of book this is and why you need to read it at your earliest convenience (Dharshaan I’m lookin at you). I don’t mean to read it because it’s something you necessarily need to hear but it’s almost reassuring to read all phases of the book and sit back and realize you now vs you a year ago are on very different pages and seasons. It brings a kind of warmth to my heart while also teaching me mindfulness beyond the knowledge I have.
Ok now get a load of this:
People can only love you to the extent they love themselves.
People can only see you as clearly as they see themselves.
People can only understand you to the depth that they understand themselves.
Do not be disheartened by the people who can't love you, who can't see you, who can't understand you.
Their perception of you is merely a reflection of themselves.
My friend, your happiness must come from within. There is not a person, not an experience, not an opportunity in this world, that will ever give you the joy that you can simply give to yourself.
All of life's troubles that are happening today are never going to go away. So rather than basing your happiness on what's happening, you must create it from your core.
Love is both beautiful and painful. It is miraculous and monstrous. If you wish to experience it at its greatest capacity, you must accept its duality.
Poetry usually leaves a strange taste in my mouth, either because I think it’s poorly written (I’m no poet, I have 0 credentials) or I don’t have the creativity and depth to understand it (probably the latter). I have never highlighted so much of a book and copy and pasted passages into my notes the way I was with Come home to yourself. I read this on my kindle and became a ‘scan, copy, paste’ demon. I think this book spoke to me because the message is something I needed to hear a year ago. Now that I’m at the current stage of my life, this book obviously still pertains to me (there is always room to grow!), but it also helped me realize the seasons of growth I’ve gone through in a way.
Attached below are passages I think really encapsulate the kind of book this is and why you need to read it at your earliest convenience (Dharshaan I’m lookin at you). I don’t mean to read it because it’s something you necessarily need to hear but it’s almost reassuring to read all phases of the book and sit back and realize you now vs you a year ago are on very different pages and seasons. It brings a kind of warmth to my heart while also teaching me mindfulness beyond the knowledge I have.
Ok now get a load of this:
People can only love you to the extent they love themselves.
People can only see you as clearly as they see themselves.
People can only understand you to the depth that they understand themselves.
Do not be disheartened by the people who can't love you, who can't see you, who can't understand you.
Their perception of you is merely a reflection of themselves.
My friend, your happiness must come from within. There is not a person, not an experience, not an opportunity in this world, that will ever give you the joy that you can simply give to yourself.
All of life's troubles that are happening today are never going to go away. So rather than basing your happiness on what's happening, you must create it from your core.
Love is both beautiful and painful. It is miraculous and monstrous. If you wish to experience it at its greatest capacity, you must accept its duality.
December 7, 2024
a collection of nice reminders
nothing new for me but surprisingly pleasant to go through anyway!
nothing new for me but surprisingly pleasant to go through anyway!
June 8, 2024
Did you ever think your partner as your home or your parents or friends as your home? Did you try so hard to cling to although things were falling down and you were treated like you're just another stranger or another character in the drama? Holding on to decisions that we make is a great things. Holding on to the things is the only thing that makes everything happen. But what if you're hanging from a cliff and holding the hand of a falling one? You eventually fall. You lose everything. Certain peoples make us feel like we're everything to them and then they leave us all on a sudden? Yeah, it happens. It's nothing personal.
People can only love you to the extent they love themselves. People can only see you as clearly as they see themselves. People can only understand you to the depth that they understand themselves.
Once you finally let go and surrender to the depths of loneliness, you will discover what’s been lingering inside of you. You will begin to see who you truly are—who you’ve always been. Life will become boundless and vibrant; you will start unpacking your desires and dreams. And you will begin to understand that the love you craved was never in the hands of another human—it was always inside of you, patiently waiting for you to come home.
You're your only home, your true home. Coming back to yourself, talking to your inner child, will keep you in peace. Everything will be just fine. It will keep hurting until it heals. And then, one day you will see the shining sun again. Until then, keeping coming back to your home, your only home, to you.
People can only love you to the extent they love themselves. People can only see you as clearly as they see themselves. People can only understand you to the depth that they understand themselves.
Once you finally let go and surrender to the depths of loneliness, you will discover what’s been lingering inside of you. You will begin to see who you truly are—who you’ve always been. Life will become boundless and vibrant; you will start unpacking your desires and dreams. And you will begin to understand that the love you craved was never in the hands of another human—it was always inside of you, patiently waiting for you to come home.
You're your only home, your true home. Coming back to yourself, talking to your inner child, will keep you in peace. Everything will be just fine. It will keep hurting until it heals. And then, one day you will see the shining sun again. Until then, keeping coming back to your home, your only home, to you.
June 23, 2024
I started this book when I was at a very different stage in my life. I was newly single, coming out of a 4 year relationship, and although very much knew my self worth and enjoying my singleness, was looking for something to ground me a bit.
My breakup experience was different from the average person. I shed very little tears after the initial breakup. I realized very quickly what I bring to the table and that I deserve someone who can love me with their full self. I often received a lot of “Are you sure you’re okay?”’s from friends. And when I responded “I’m better than okay” I wasn’t lying. I do think however these feelings of being great led me to question if being that okay was a good thing. The words in this book helped give me reassurance in my feelings. That feeling okay was how I should feel because I will be okay.
Now, finishing the book, I am currently in a happy relationship. I decided to complete it because I am not sure if the book will apply to me again. When reading, I realized there are takeaways that you don’t need to be single to empathize with. Being your own person is vital in any relationship and although I am no longer single, the love I need to have for myself is imperative in order to foster the relationship I currently have.
My breakup experience was different from the average person. I shed very little tears after the initial breakup. I realized very quickly what I bring to the table and that I deserve someone who can love me with their full self. I often received a lot of “Are you sure you’re okay?”’s from friends. And when I responded “I’m better than okay” I wasn’t lying. I do think however these feelings of being great led me to question if being that okay was a good thing. The words in this book helped give me reassurance in my feelings. That feeling okay was how I should feel because I will be okay.
Now, finishing the book, I am currently in a happy relationship. I decided to complete it because I am not sure if the book will apply to me again. When reading, I realized there are takeaways that you don’t need to be single to empathize with. Being your own person is vital in any relationship and although I am no longer single, the love I need to have for myself is imperative in order to foster the relationship I currently have.
October 21, 2024
I'm new to reading poetry. This collection came into my life at a time when I needed to be reminded of many life lessons, I folded and marked up many pages. I'm adding a few notes here for my own future reference.
"When the same relationship patterns appear, this is the universe communicating with you. There may be something you need to change, there may be a lesson that needs to be learned or there may be a temptation that you need to overcome"
"When you are fully consumed in another, you give up your own energy, your own agency, as a distinct individual in this world. You put all your power into the hands of another human. My friend, you were put in this world for a divine purpose. Go figure out what that purpose is"
"Instead of fixating on what you want to happen, be excited for what God is going to reveal to you. Everything that happens to you, the good stuff, the bad stuff, the monotonous stuff that gets you from day to day, God uses to mold you into the person you're meant to become. If someone walk out of your life, rather than clinging on, let go and ask God to show you the lesson in this departure. .... Everything that happens to you is there to help you in some way, all you must do is open your eyes to it."
"When the same relationship patterns appear, this is the universe communicating with you. There may be something you need to change, there may be a lesson that needs to be learned or there may be a temptation that you need to overcome"
"When you are fully consumed in another, you give up your own energy, your own agency, as a distinct individual in this world. You put all your power into the hands of another human. My friend, you were put in this world for a divine purpose. Go figure out what that purpose is"
"Instead of fixating on what you want to happen, be excited for what God is going to reveal to you. Everything that happens to you, the good stuff, the bad stuff, the monotonous stuff that gets you from day to day, God uses to mold you into the person you're meant to become. If someone walk out of your life, rather than clinging on, let go and ask God to show you the lesson in this departure. .... Everything that happens to you is there to help you in some way, all you must do is open your eyes to it."
April 2, 2025
Amazing read! I want to buy another one of Deja Rae’s books immediately! I was inspired, motivated, and enlightened. My imagination ran wild when reading each page. This book spoke to me when I came across a page of it on Tik Tok, and I am incredibly glad that I purchased this book. It is a matured-version of Rupi Kaur’s books to me. I read Kaur’s books in 2014 and this book made me feel like it’s a matured version of Kaur’s books, as Kaur’s books were intense, but this one was calm, and made me feel at ease.
Amazing writing! I was hooked since the first page. It made me feel so many emotions, from self-awareness, empowerment, and self-love and self-actualization. This book really resonated with me, as I always have been on a journey through enlightenment and self-discovery.
This book was so powerful and great that I want to read it again, and it might just be my favorite book I’ve read so far! Love loved it!
Amazing writing! I was hooked since the first page. It made me feel so many emotions, from self-awareness, empowerment, and self-love and self-actualization. This book really resonated with me, as I always have been on a journey through enlightenment and self-discovery.
This book was so powerful and great that I want to read it again, and it might just be my favorite book I’ve read so far! Love loved it!
January 11, 2024
Come Home to Yourself
Déjà Rae
In her second collection of published writing, Déjà Rae explores the highs and lows of letting go of past relationships and embracing loneliness as a means to discover oneself.
Throughout her work, she takes the reader on a journey through seasons of truth, pain, and abundance, showing that each subsequent season requires its predecessor. This book is a catalyst for transformation, a guide to letting go, surrendering to solitude, and discovering one’s authenticity and purpose. By doing so, Déjá Rae shows that the love we are all looking for has always been inside of us, patiently waiting for us to come home.
“Intimacy requires vulnerability, it requires us to open the door to our caged hearts and expose our most tender spaces. But many people have decided the possibility of pain overrides the ecstasy of love.”
Déjà Rae
In her second collection of published writing, Déjà Rae explores the highs and lows of letting go of past relationships and embracing loneliness as a means to discover oneself.
Throughout her work, she takes the reader on a journey through seasons of truth, pain, and abundance, showing that each subsequent season requires its predecessor. This book is a catalyst for transformation, a guide to letting go, surrendering to solitude, and discovering one’s authenticity and purpose. By doing so, Déjá Rae shows that the love we are all looking for has always been inside of us, patiently waiting for us to come home.
“Intimacy requires vulnerability, it requires us to open the door to our caged hearts and expose our most tender spaces. But many people have decided the possibility of pain overrides the ecstasy of love.”
June 18, 2024
Reading this book post-breakup is the biggest reason why I can give this book 5 stars. Had I not been through a breakup, I would not have resonated with a lot of the words Deja Rae was writing. I lost myself in my previous relationship, and I needed something to guide me back to who I am, and the person I am becoming.
Some could argue that this book was very “instagrammy”, but again, I needed all the words she was saying to me. I highly, highly recommend this book if post-breakup is a situation you are in, especially one where you have lost yourself in the process. I will be reading through my million annotations again, and my marked pages, when I need a reminder of all the beautiful reasons that I am important, and how love is actually all around :)
Some could argue that this book was very “instagrammy”, but again, I needed all the words she was saying to me. I highly, highly recommend this book if post-breakup is a situation you are in, especially one where you have lost yourself in the process. I will be reading through my million annotations again, and my marked pages, when I need a reminder of all the beautiful reasons that I am important, and how love is actually all around :)
May 22, 2023
Really great self discovery book. I loved it because it is very short, quick poems. But they are so powerful. I have learned through therapy self love is so important and also a lot of work. I would read 10 pages whenever I read this, and then journaled / processed. 10 was about all I could take to truly take in and think about what each poem meant. I feel like because of that I was really able to take in the information and truly apply it to my thinking / every day life. I think the reassurance and guidance, this left me with was so meaningful. She has another book that I can’t wait to read.
December 28, 2023
One quote that really sums up how I feel about this book:
"All the answers you need are inside of you. They are simply waiting for your attention. You don’t need to consult every friend, you don’t need advice from every book."
I quite enjoyed the beginning part of this book. But for the remaining just feels like the advice we already know. It's not bad (not at all) it just... "yeah, that's good point, then what?" (or it's just me being unmotivated 😂)
Overall, take what resonate with you.
"All the answers you need are inside of you. They are simply waiting for your attention. You don’t need to consult every friend, you don’t need advice from every book."
I quite enjoyed the beginning part of this book. But for the remaining just feels like the advice we already know. It's not bad (not at all) it just... "yeah, that's good point, then what?" (or it's just me being unmotivated 😂)
Overall, take what resonate with you.
February 4, 2024
My thoughts
This is a self-help book that encourages readers to embrace solitude and navigate to the art of letting go. I’ve been eyeing this book for a while because of its simple yet nice cover. But what made me decide to read this book is I saw some quotable quotes that I liked. Some advice resonated with me; some were not.
This is divided into 3 sections:
Section I: Truth
This part tackles about the art of letting go. When we cling onto things that feel good, it is because we fear that so good as the we’re experiencing won’t come around again. We fear that this person, this experience, everything, if it goes away, nothing of that same magnitude will ever happen again. That is why, we settle for less than what we truly deserve. That’s a hard pill to swallow, but it’s true. You will instinctively cull out anything and everyone who is not aligned with the degree of love you desire when you stop entertaining half-loves, inconsistencies, and minimum efforts. But if you continue to succumb to what you’re trying to overcome, your relationship patterns will never come undone. Never again will you convince others of your worth. Let them go. They were never yours to keep. Whatever is not meant for you will never be yours.
“You are afraid to leave because you are afraid to be alone.” Nowadays, people don’t want to be alone because we associate, or we have this misconception that being “alone” means you’re lonely. Being alone is a chance to understand what makes you happy. When you spend time with other people, you often have to make compromises. There’s always a chance that what you want may not coincide with others’ wishes. When you are alone, it’s only you who decides what to do.
Section II: Pain
This section, on the other hand, conversed that you are entitled to your pain. When you finally decided to break free – you will hit the ground hard. Your entire foundation will shake, and you will question yourself. You will wonder whether you made the right decision, and you will consider going back. You will think of all the reasons why you can’t move forward, and you will focus on everything that you lack. Also, people from your past will waltz back into your life not because they still want you, but rather, to see if you still want them. This book will teach you to not jeopardize your growth for your gain.
Feel your feelings subjectively, then reflect on them objectively. There will comes a time that it won’t hurt anymore.
Section III: Abundance
This last section encourages the readers to romanticize life and how to prioritize your peace. No matter what you do in life, people are going to have an opinion on it. People are going to perceive you, criticize you, and disagree with you. And there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. You don’t need to be admired by everyone. It is better to be judged for who you are than to linger inside a body that doesn’t feel like yours.
The verdict
5 stars. Oh boi, the reassurance I never knew I needed. I’m glad that I started my 2024 with this book.
Quotable quotes I liked:
“Are you yourself? Or are you a collection of pieces from other people?”
“Pain is inevitable, but suffering is a choice.”
“Good things don’t always last forever. And that’s okay. They’re not supposed to.”
“The thing about uncertainty is that it keeps us trapped. Trapped between what we don’t know and what we fear the most.”
This is a self-help book that encourages readers to embrace solitude and navigate to the art of letting go. I’ve been eyeing this book for a while because of its simple yet nice cover. But what made me decide to read this book is I saw some quotable quotes that I liked. Some advice resonated with me; some were not.
This is divided into 3 sections:
Section I: Truth
This part tackles about the art of letting go. When we cling onto things that feel good, it is because we fear that so good as the we’re experiencing won’t come around again. We fear that this person, this experience, everything, if it goes away, nothing of that same magnitude will ever happen again. That is why, we settle for less than what we truly deserve. That’s a hard pill to swallow, but it’s true. You will instinctively cull out anything and everyone who is not aligned with the degree of love you desire when you stop entertaining half-loves, inconsistencies, and minimum efforts. But if you continue to succumb to what you’re trying to overcome, your relationship patterns will never come undone. Never again will you convince others of your worth. Let them go. They were never yours to keep. Whatever is not meant for you will never be yours.
“You are afraid to leave because you are afraid to be alone.” Nowadays, people don’t want to be alone because we associate, or we have this misconception that being “alone” means you’re lonely. Being alone is a chance to understand what makes you happy. When you spend time with other people, you often have to make compromises. There’s always a chance that what you want may not coincide with others’ wishes. When you are alone, it’s only you who decides what to do.
Section II: Pain
This section, on the other hand, conversed that you are entitled to your pain. When you finally decided to break free – you will hit the ground hard. Your entire foundation will shake, and you will question yourself. You will wonder whether you made the right decision, and you will consider going back. You will think of all the reasons why you can’t move forward, and you will focus on everything that you lack. Also, people from your past will waltz back into your life not because they still want you, but rather, to see if you still want them. This book will teach you to not jeopardize your growth for your gain.
Feel your feelings subjectively, then reflect on them objectively. There will comes a time that it won’t hurt anymore.
Section III: Abundance
This last section encourages the readers to romanticize life and how to prioritize your peace. No matter what you do in life, people are going to have an opinion on it. People are going to perceive you, criticize you, and disagree with you. And there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. You don’t need to be admired by everyone. It is better to be judged for who you are than to linger inside a body that doesn’t feel like yours.
The verdict
5 stars. Oh boi, the reassurance I never knew I needed. I’m glad that I started my 2024 with this book.
Quotable quotes I liked:
“Are you yourself? Or are you a collection of pieces from other people?”
“Pain is inevitable, but suffering is a choice.”
“Good things don’t always last forever. And that’s okay. They’re not supposed to.”
“The thing about uncertainty is that it keeps us trapped. Trapped between what we don’t know and what we fear the most.”
January 26, 2024
This is the second book I read from the Thought Catalog and my favorite so far. I could quote at least 5 pages that resonated with me. This book is a gentle reminder of the affirmations you once promised yourself you’d never abandon: self love, self worth, acceptance and letting go.
“Let then go with love. They were never yours to keep”
“There is no braver endeavor than giving affection. There is no stronger pursuit than showing passion.
“The universe shows up for you once you show up for yourself”
“Let then go with love. They were never yours to keep”
“There is no braver endeavor than giving affection. There is no stronger pursuit than showing passion.
“The universe shows up for you once you show up for yourself”
February 25, 2024
bought this during a breakup but ended up reading it now even though i’m in a happy/ healthy relationship; still so applicable and can be seen from any relationship perspective, the exact language isn’t super inclusive the idea can be applied to anyone; I want my mom to read this, I want my boyfriend to read this, I want my best friends to read this
November 10, 2022
SUCH an insightful read. Really makes you feel empowered with things that we have both control and no control over. Taught me about balance and how to love myself through all different stages of life. Need more!!
July 2, 2023
This is a beautiful book.
I thought it be overall self help but its more intended to people going thru breakups, etc.
I still enjoyed the little motivational sentences and some advice that was nice.
I thought it be overall self help but its more intended to people going thru breakups, etc.
I still enjoyed the little motivational sentences and some advice that was nice.
November 26, 2023
I saw some quotes from this book I liked so I decided to read it. It almost seemed like a book to read when you’re going through a breakup, which I am not, so some parts didn’t feel as relevant to me. There were definitely some parts that felt insightful so overall I didn’t hate it!
July 12, 2024
Poetry books aren't usually the kind of genre I opt for, but I enjoyed this neverthless. There were some reslly poignant meanings behind the poems and offer great insight into self-discovery. Some poems really resonated with me, others I felt slightly difficult to interpret.
February 23, 2025
A very sweet quick read of friendly reminders of what it means to love, and to let go. You are a fully complete person without needing a partner to make you worthy of your wants and needs in this life.
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