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The 10 Really Dumb Mistakes that Very Smart Couples Make: A Torah-Based Guide to a Successful Marriage
Finally!
The straight-talking marriage book that Klal Yisrael has been waiting for.
Every smart young couple starts their marriage with dreams, goals, and ideals. They’re one hundred percent sure that they will live in married bliss forever.
Until they aren’t.
Until the bickering, fighting, and loneliness become second nature and they’re left wondering where they went wrong. Unfortunately, building a happy marriage is not intuitive, and many couples make fatal errors when trying to build their Torah home. They’re not aware that seemingly minor infractions are ruining the most precious relationship of their life.
The Ten Really Dumb Mistakes That Very Smart Couples Make will give you a new level of understanding for what makes a marriage work. It will coach you on the practical techniques you need to increase the intimacy and love in your marriage.
Make sure that your marriage doesn’t succumb to the same mistakes that Rabbi Shafier has seen so many others make. Avoid these ten fundamental errors and build the most satisfying relationship imaginable.
The straight-talking marriage book that Klal Yisrael has been waiting for.
Every smart young couple starts their marriage with dreams, goals, and ideals. They’re one hundred percent sure that they will live in married bliss forever.
Until they aren’t.
Until the bickering, fighting, and loneliness become second nature and they’re left wondering where they went wrong. Unfortunately, building a happy marriage is not intuitive, and many couples make fatal errors when trying to build their Torah home. They’re not aware that seemingly minor infractions are ruining the most precious relationship of their life.
The Ten Really Dumb Mistakes That Very Smart Couples Make will give you a new level of understanding for what makes a marriage work. It will coach you on the practical techniques you need to increase the intimacy and love in your marriage.
Make sure that your marriage doesn’t succumb to the same mistakes that Rabbi Shafier has seen so many others make. Avoid these ten fundamental errors and build the most satisfying relationship imaginable.
417 pages, Kindle Edition
Published May 9, 2022
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About the author
Ben Tzion Shafier
16 books3 followersBorn and bred in Kew Gardens Hills, Rabbi Shafier joined the Choftez Chaim Yeshiva after High school. First learning in Forest Hills for two years, he then studied under Rabbi Davidowitz and Rabbi Harris when they were co-Rosh Yeshiva in Rochester. He then moved on to the Rosh Yeshiva's Blatt Shiur in Chofetz Chaim Queens where he learned for 3 years.
Shortly thereafter he got married and he and his new family moved to Rochester, where he was learning in Kollel and giving the 11th grade Shiur. He remained in Rochester for 12 years. He then moved to Monsey, NY, where he was a Rebbe in the new Chofetz Chaim branch there for 3 years. Upon the Rosh Yeshiva's request he stopped teaching to devote his time to running Tiferes Bnei Torah.
Rabbi Shafier, a happily married father of 6 children currently resides in Monsey, NY.
Shortly thereafter he got married and he and his new family moved to Rochester, where he was learning in Kollel and giving the 11th grade Shiur. He remained in Rochester for 12 years. He then moved to Monsey, NY, where he was a Rebbe in the new Chofetz Chaim branch there for 3 years. Upon the Rosh Yeshiva's request he stopped teaching to devote his time to running Tiferes Bnei Torah.
Rabbi Shafier, a happily married father of 6 children currently resides in Monsey, NY.
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December 14, 2024
A fascinating peek into the world of Orthodox Jewish marriage, with wisdom that can be applied to any relationship. While I didn’t agree with some of the author’s opinions, he still offered insight and will help me understand friends’ relationships. I loved hearing the author himself read; he was terrific.
September 3, 2023
It took me a while to finish it, but not because this book is boring! It is so good , that the points/ arguments given in this book are so thought provoking, I needed to take breaks in order to think and contemplate. Very often, I read passages or more to my husband.
Many parts of this well written guide were hilariously funny, most importantly the ones, that described the author‘s own marriage!
This book is really a gem for everyone, who is in a meaningful relationship and needs a Torah-based guidance.
Many parts of this well written guide were hilariously funny, most importantly the ones, that described the author‘s own marriage!
This book is really a gem for everyone, who is in a meaningful relationship and needs a Torah-based guidance.
October 16, 2025
Not bad. This book has 400 pages and could have been written in about 40 pages, seeing it's extremely repetitive.
The title of the book "very smart couples" is a nice way of luring people into reading it. It's probably made for average to below average intelligent couples. Also a bit exaggerated on the Bible quotes, I understand that it's made for a specific audience that are reading a book based on the religious recommendations instead of quality, but there is still some logical thinking when it comes to human behavior. You shouldn't be forced to reference every stupidity.
The title of the book "very smart couples" is a nice way of luring people into reading it. It's probably made for average to below average intelligent couples. Also a bit exaggerated on the Bible quotes, I understand that it's made for a specific audience that are reading a book based on the religious recommendations instead of quality, but there is still some logical thinking when it comes to human behavior. You shouldn't be forced to reference every stupidity.
December 18, 2025
It’s been really helpful, I like it a lot
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