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We Love Love: An Unfiltered A to Z of Modern Romance and Self-Love, from the creators of the Life Uncut podcast
True love. Crushing failure. Hot dates. Wild ambition. Motherhood. Sisterhood.
Brittany Hockley and Laura Byrne, former Bachelor finalists and hosts of the number-one podcast Life Uncut, have fumbled their way through it all. And they’re here to make you feel a little less alone in the chaos.
Through interviewing the experts, dispensing advice and tackling questions about love and life – both big and small – on Life Uncut, Laura and Britt have created a community of open-hearted and supportive women. Now they’ve distilled their most trusted and true advice into a book that’s as much about romance as it is about loving ourselves. WE LOVE LOVE is an encyclopaedia of life as Britt and Laura have lived it, full of hard-won wisdom, hilarious anecdotes, serious challenges and refreshing honesty.
From attachment styles to ghosting, pregnancy loss to impostor syndrome, long-distance relationships to sexual kinks, and with some unfiltered stories from listeners thrown in along the way, Laura and Britt give their take on pretty much everything from, well, A to Z with their signature wit and authenticity.
Life can be a hot mess at times, but with friends like these, you’ll never be short of love.
Brittany Hockley and Laura Byrne, former Bachelor finalists and hosts of the number-one podcast Life Uncut, have fumbled their way through it all. And they’re here to make you feel a little less alone in the chaos.
Through interviewing the experts, dispensing advice and tackling questions about love and life – both big and small – on Life Uncut, Laura and Britt have created a community of open-hearted and supportive women. Now they’ve distilled their most trusted and true advice into a book that’s as much about romance as it is about loving ourselves. WE LOVE LOVE is an encyclopaedia of life as Britt and Laura have lived it, full of hard-won wisdom, hilarious anecdotes, serious challenges and refreshing honesty.
From attachment styles to ghosting, pregnancy loss to impostor syndrome, long-distance relationships to sexual kinks, and with some unfiltered stories from listeners thrown in along the way, Laura and Britt give their take on pretty much everything from, well, A to Z with their signature wit and authenticity.
Life can be a hot mess at times, but with friends like these, you’ll never be short of love.
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355 pages, Kindle Edition
Published October 5, 2022
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December 10, 2022
I wanted to like this book, as I love their podcast. I listen every week. Unfortunately, reading the book was like reading a transcript of their podcast. There was hardly any new content. It wasn’t written eloquently or thoughtfully. And it felt rushed. I think the publishers and editors really let the authors down in getting their personalities portrayed in writing. I’m the same age as the authors, but it felt like the target audience was for 18-24 year olds. Like a sister wrote a self-help book to their younger sister based only on their own experiences. It’s a shame I was so disappointed, but I continue to enjoy their podcast.
March 27, 2024
stop letting influencers write books
October 25, 2022
I love the podcast but the book just didn't do it for me. There wasn't a lot of new content and what was new had been mostly spoken about in their promo episodes for the book almost word for word in some cases. It felt very surface level on most topics touched on especially compared to their podcast episodes I had already listened to on those topics. It felt like they had researched to write a book, not written a book because they had something to say. Which makes sense since that's what it is, but it just felt like a series of Google searches filled in with anecdotes. Most of it was harmlessly shallow but I particularly didn't enjoy their discussions on fertility (a sensitive topic where I imagine their experience is a bit different to most readers who have experienced infertility) and their accidentally unfiltered stories in the kink section. INVOLVING. NON CONSENSUAL. PEOPLE. IS. NOT. A. JOKE especially children in the story about the teachers. Yuck. It also felt off starting the segment laughing at people's kinks and then trying to say kinks are okay and not shameful. Only 'normal' kinks are okay but anything too unusual we can shame and laugh at? I finished the book hoping it would get better and because I enjoyed a lot of Laura's chapters but I just sadly didnt love it.
August 25, 2023
Love the podcast and this was very similar hence taking a while to read.
November 2, 2023
HIGHLY RECOMMEND !! This book was a page turner, sucked me right in and very relatable, funny, reflective, encouraging and all round, entertaining. Definitely pick this book up if you’re feeling a lil doom and gloom about relationships, friendships, the easy trap of comparing yourself with others, the progress of your life trajectory and just if you feel like a pick me up. It was well laid out, you can honestly skip to key sections if you’re after particular advice and I found so much of it to be really well written. Easy to escape into and somehow, mutually switch off from your life yet also be encouraging to think reflectively about your own choices and go a little easier on yourself about a lot of stuff <3 Left it with a friend while travelling (who was going thru a very tricky breakup) and she also loved it!
June 28, 2023
DNF halfway through. I’m so sorry but I just couldn’t get into this, reading it was a chore. I’m sure if you’ve not listened to the podcast you’d find the topics interesting but I’d heard it all before (I listened to every ep of Life Uncut in lockdown) and I the charm of the podcast did not translate to written form in my opinion. Life’s too short to try and finish a boring book so I’m leaving this one alone for now.
March 16, 2023
No new ground covered in the book that hasn’t already been discussed on their podcast.. and all the topics in the book felt very rushed because they’re trying to get through A-Z! I struggled to finish it but I hate to DNF so pushed through lol.
October 30, 2022
Translation from podcast to paper was not as successful as I hoped. Love the podcast but this just didn’t hit the mark for me.
January 15, 2024
*Audiobook
December 27, 2025
We Love Love is een soort van encyclopedie over de liefde. Het is makkelijk weg te lezen, geschreven door twee Australische podcastmakers. Toen ik in Australie een boekwinkel in ging kwam ik het tegen. Het behandeld onderwerpen zoals: red flags, situationships, fertility, etc.
Favoriete Quotes:
A soulmate is someone who sees you for you, who is imperfectly perfect and who sees, hears and loves every part of you, annoying little flaws and all.
The heart wants what the heart wants, but that doesn’t mean the heart knows what’s good for it.
Just because you love someone and they love you doesn’t mean that you’re good for each other, nor does it mean that you belong together.
We have the ability to love different people throughout our lifetime: we can love people who we are compatible with, and we can love people who are terrible for us - and anyone in between.
Ask yourself, what exactly do you want in a partner? What do they look like? What do they enjoy doing? What are their goals? Are they funny? Adventurous? Family oriented?
Is a long-distance relationship going to be easy? No. Most definitely not. Will it be worth it? Only you can decide. But if this person is the love of your life, then yes, some short-term hard work is definitely worth it.
Three questions for anyone unsure if their partner is the one:
1. If they left you tomorrow, would you be okey?
2. Can you imagine what it would be like waiting at the altar for them, or walking down the aisle towards them? Does it make you happy, anxious or scared?
3. Can someone else love them better?
When you’re deep in the pain and fear of losing something that you love, you can’t see what is waiting for you beyond the loss. What would I be left with after it was over? Who would I be without them?
Don’t forget: like attracts like. Be the energy you want to receive.
Closure can come from recognizing red flags that you didn’t want to see at the time. When you look at things with the beauty of hindsight you can often see where things started to come undone.
Red flags can also indicate that the person in question might not be capable of a healthy relationship and if you continue down that path, you’ll potentially end up in an emotional hazard zone.
Regardless of the catalyst for your feelings, you’re in control of how you react to and act upon them.
If your person becomes unnecessarily angry, flies into a rage, scares you when they are mad, has frequent explosive outbursts or switches moods quickly, this shows an inability to regulate emotions. This is unpleasant and even frightening to be around, and ultimately is going to make a healthy relationship challenging.
Don’t settle for less than you know you deserve and don’t settle for things you know you aren’t okey with. A lifetime is a long time to live alongside someone who isn’t in alignment with you. And remember: the beginning of a relationship should be the honeymoon phase; the best, most exciting and loved-up time in your relationship. If it is tumultuous at the start, where do you have to go? Certainly not up.
Our expectations around love. They have instilled in us a belief that, if you love someone hard enough, fiercely enough, in the end it simply has to work out, even if everything else indicates otherwise.
Ask yourself this: have you ever stayed in a relationship long past its expiration date simply because you were in love?
So we’ve already established that it’s important to learn from the past. The flip side to that is that we also have to let it go. But how do we do both?
I didn’t want to recreate them with anyone else. I had created so many beautiful memories with him, so many little personal jokes and moments that if anyone else saw them they would think were ridiculous, and I didn’t want to let those go. Those little things were my favorite parts.
Favoriete Quotes:
A soulmate is someone who sees you for you, who is imperfectly perfect and who sees, hears and loves every part of you, annoying little flaws and all.
The heart wants what the heart wants, but that doesn’t mean the heart knows what’s good for it.
Just because you love someone and they love you doesn’t mean that you’re good for each other, nor does it mean that you belong together.
We have the ability to love different people throughout our lifetime: we can love people who we are compatible with, and we can love people who are terrible for us - and anyone in between.
Ask yourself, what exactly do you want in a partner? What do they look like? What do they enjoy doing? What are their goals? Are they funny? Adventurous? Family oriented?
Is a long-distance relationship going to be easy? No. Most definitely not. Will it be worth it? Only you can decide. But if this person is the love of your life, then yes, some short-term hard work is definitely worth it.
Three questions for anyone unsure if their partner is the one:
1. If they left you tomorrow, would you be okey?
2. Can you imagine what it would be like waiting at the altar for them, or walking down the aisle towards them? Does it make you happy, anxious or scared?
3. Can someone else love them better?
When you’re deep in the pain and fear of losing something that you love, you can’t see what is waiting for you beyond the loss. What would I be left with after it was over? Who would I be without them?
Don’t forget: like attracts like. Be the energy you want to receive.
Closure can come from recognizing red flags that you didn’t want to see at the time. When you look at things with the beauty of hindsight you can often see where things started to come undone.
Red flags can also indicate that the person in question might not be capable of a healthy relationship and if you continue down that path, you’ll potentially end up in an emotional hazard zone.
Regardless of the catalyst for your feelings, you’re in control of how you react to and act upon them.
If your person becomes unnecessarily angry, flies into a rage, scares you when they are mad, has frequent explosive outbursts or switches moods quickly, this shows an inability to regulate emotions. This is unpleasant and even frightening to be around, and ultimately is going to make a healthy relationship challenging.
Don’t settle for less than you know you deserve and don’t settle for things you know you aren’t okey with. A lifetime is a long time to live alongside someone who isn’t in alignment with you. And remember: the beginning of a relationship should be the honeymoon phase; the best, most exciting and loved-up time in your relationship. If it is tumultuous at the start, where do you have to go? Certainly not up.
Our expectations around love. They have instilled in us a belief that, if you love someone hard enough, fiercely enough, in the end it simply has to work out, even if everything else indicates otherwise.
Ask yourself this: have you ever stayed in a relationship long past its expiration date simply because you were in love?
So we’ve already established that it’s important to learn from the past. The flip side to that is that we also have to let it go. But how do we do both?
I didn’t want to recreate them with anyone else. I had created so many beautiful memories with him, so many little personal jokes and moments that if anyone else saw them they would think were ridiculous, and I didn’t want to let those go. Those little things were my favorite parts.
August 17, 2024
I didn't go into this book with high expectations, but wanted something like a podcast to listen to, so reached for the audiobook with the promise from Laura and Brit that there would indeed be things in this book not spoken about on the podcast.
There was maybe a total of 5 minutes worth of content not ever covered on the Pod?
The rest was rinse and repeat Life Uncut, but even more shallow.
I remember Zara McDonald from Shameless once saying "Go a cm wide and km deep".
This book does the exact opposite.
It tries to cover many different topics with close o no research leaving the finished product feeling a km wide and about a mm deep.
Most chapters (especially Brit's) are just lists.
They're not even useful nor insightful, just a list of thoughts with about as much wisdom as a 13 year old has already acquired.
For example:
“Be yourself”
“Save your spice for Mexican food, not communication with your partner”.
I found myself listening at 1.5x speed and still feeling bored. At least Laura was occasionally capable of writing full paragraphs... Brit only seemed capable of doing so when she had direct lived experience. For someone with a science degree (as she proudly pointed out in one chapter), she appeared to have done zero research for her topics.
I knew this book wasn't going to be a standout book of the year... but this far exceeded my expectations of horrendous. I know the girls aren't really writers... but listening to nearly 10 hours of lists? C'mon now...
There was maybe a total of 5 minutes worth of content not ever covered on the Pod?
The rest was rinse and repeat Life Uncut, but even more shallow.
I remember Zara McDonald from Shameless once saying "Go a cm wide and km deep".
This book does the exact opposite.
It tries to cover many different topics with close o no research leaving the finished product feeling a km wide and about a mm deep.
Most chapters (especially Brit's) are just lists.
They're not even useful nor insightful, just a list of thoughts with about as much wisdom as a 13 year old has already acquired.
For example:
“Be yourself”
“Save your spice for Mexican food, not communication with your partner”.
I found myself listening at 1.5x speed and still feeling bored. At least Laura was occasionally capable of writing full paragraphs... Brit only seemed capable of doing so when she had direct lived experience. For someone with a science degree (as she proudly pointed out in one chapter), she appeared to have done zero research for her topics.
I knew this book wasn't going to be a standout book of the year... but this far exceeded my expectations of horrendous. I know the girls aren't really writers... but listening to nearly 10 hours of lists? C'mon now...
October 15, 2022
We Love Love is an unfiltered A to Z of modern romance and self-love by the creators of the Life Uncut Podcast Laura Byrne and Brittney Hockey.
I'm a listener of the Life Uncut podcast so I was always going to pick up this book. I'd heard that the content of the book had never been discussed previously on the podcast so I was keen to give it a try. New content was sparce and the format of the alphabet seemed quite restrictive, only small chunks discussed more surface-level as the text didn't really allow for more than that. There was an element that seemed rushed - the chapter under X was xpectation but with no joke attached, seemed sloppy. I know there are hardly any words you could use for X (Britt could have used X-ray and spoken about career as she is a radiographer) but you can't expect me to just ignore that! I did enjoy my time reading it, I flicked through it with ease mainly in one afternoon but it will not dwell long on my brain.
I'm a listener of the Life Uncut podcast so I was always going to pick up this book. I'd heard that the content of the book had never been discussed previously on the podcast so I was keen to give it a try. New content was sparce and the format of the alphabet seemed quite restrictive, only small chunks discussed more surface-level as the text didn't really allow for more than that. There was an element that seemed rushed - the chapter under X was xpectation but with no joke attached, seemed sloppy. I know there are hardly any words you could use for X (Britt could have used X-ray and spoken about career as she is a radiographer) but you can't expect me to just ignore that! I did enjoy my time reading it, I flicked through it with ease mainly in one afternoon but it will not dwell long on my brain.
February 22, 2023
I really wanted to like this book because I like Britt & Laura and love Life Uncut, but sadly I just didn’t. Each chapter being its own entity meant things were repeated multiple times (even used the exact same TS Elliot quote twice). There was a glaring typo near the start (who this women is), stats cited as *source unknown, sentences like “having the resolve to walk away takes a lot of resolve,” and the dialogue style made me feel like I’d rather just listen to the podcast. Also some done to death topics like Gaslighting, Ghosting, and Love Languages. I’d also already heard the Accidentally Unfiltered stories on the podcast…
That being said, I did enjoy the candid chapters on Fertility, Kinks, and Pregnancy Loss. I’m sure there are people (much younger, newly learning how to navigate life, kind of people) who would enjoy and appreciate this book
That being said, I did enjoy the candid chapters on Fertility, Kinks, and Pregnancy Loss. I’m sure there are people (much younger, newly learning how to navigate life, kind of people) who would enjoy and appreciate this book
December 27, 2024
I listen to these girls DAILY, and yet I couldn’t stick this out.
Seems completely unnecessary, and covers nothing that the girls don’t speak about on a deeper level in their podcast.
The girls sound awkward and fake on the audio recording (especially Britt) and I feel like this was purely a cash grab from their management team.
Please just listen to the podcast and support them that way, and save time and money by skipping this book. I hope they don’t make another and keep putting their time and effort into the podcast I love so much!
So disappointing.
Seems completely unnecessary, and covers nothing that the girls don’t speak about on a deeper level in their podcast.
The girls sound awkward and fake on the audio recording (especially Britt) and I feel like this was purely a cash grab from their management team.
Please just listen to the podcast and support them that way, and save time and money by skipping this book. I hope they don’t make another and keep putting their time and effort into the podcast I love so much!
So disappointing.
January 19, 2025
This book was a hug from big sisters I never had, and one I didn’t know I needed!
Reading this has been a beautiful perspective on all things A-Z love. I’ve been in a relationship for 5 years (anniversary today!) and felt like I knew all things love, but it was so powerful reading this and reflecting on my own relationship, previous relationships, and the relationships of others.
I love how genuine, realistic and practical this book was! I’m not a listener of the pod, but I definitely think I might become one!
Reading this has been a beautiful perspective on all things A-Z love. I’ve been in a relationship for 5 years (anniversary today!) and felt like I knew all things love, but it was so powerful reading this and reflecting on my own relationship, previous relationships, and the relationships of others.
I love how genuine, realistic and practical this book was! I’m not a listener of the pod, but I definitely think I might become one!
November 13, 2022
I love these two women, I listen to them nearly every day before and after work (sometimes during 😅) so I was buzzing when I heard a book was coming out - let alone it being called "we love love" (one of their iconic catchphrases). This book was a warm hug from the two women who inspire me daily. I got to re-live so many moments from the podcast I've heard over the last three years and read a few untold stories. What a joy! 💕 I love love!
January 3, 2023
Having never listened to a single podcast and following Laura on Instagram, I’d heard about this book and wanted to read it.
I’m glad I did, but wish I could have read it 30 years ago, as it has taught me a lot that would’ve probably made me think twice about the direction my life went in!
I am now going to start the Life Uncut podcasts.
I’m glad I did, but wish I could have read it 30 years ago, as it has taught me a lot that would’ve probably made me think twice about the direction my life went in!
I am now going to start the Life Uncut podcasts.
January 4, 2023
The structure of the book was easy to read, the tone was lighthearted yet personal, and of course, Britt & Laura’s personalities shone through. The only reason I didn’t rate it higher was because it’s basically just a recap of all advice they’ve given on their podcast…which you could just listen to instead, so it was a bit redundant.
January 13, 2023
If you are an avid listener of the podcast, like myself, most of what is included in the book has been covered in episodes. However, if you are looking for a love and self-help type book that isn’t too overwhelming to read - I would recommend this as it also teaches you a lot about how you show up to all types of relationships in your life.
October 30, 2022
I’ve been a listener of Life Uncut since the very beginning and a fan of the girls since their Bachelor days so reading this book was an absolute must. I’ve always enjoyed and appreciated Laura and Britt’s advice and anecdotes and We Love Love was no different. This book is a comprehensive, wonderful, hilarious guidebook on love, life, loss and everything in between.
If you’ve listened to the podcast then a lot of the lessons and stories are familiar. However, it never felt like they were simply regurgitating the same information. It just reaffirmed and consolidated a lot of the things they are passionate about and believe in. I heard new stories from both of them that allowed me to form an even deeper connection with these women who’s journeys I’ve followed for years. I admire their openness to talk about deeply personal topics in order for other people to feel seen and understood. They covered their own personal experiences and musings but made sure they went a step further to include relevant statistics and information from experts to back up their words.
I have a few favourite lessons from We Love Love that I’ll truly hold onto and try to live by.
Firstly, get rid of the unrealistic idea that there is only one person (soulmate) out there in the whole world for you and that when you meet them it has to be instant fireworks. Life doesn’t always work like that and a penguin (a partner that you love and respect) might be forever or for only a time in your life and that’s okay.
Secondly, you can be alone without being lonely. Whether that means you’re single, you live alone or you’re just in your own company, solitude can be a really restorative, empowering and lovely state of being. It’s a powerful thing to truly get to know and love yourself.
Thirdly, don’t listen to society’s or other peoples expectations of you. Do what makes you happy and what gives your life purpose no matter how untraditional it may be.
We Love Love is a funny, insightful book that covers the vulnerable to the lighthearted. It is well and truly worth picking up if you need a little guidance to help you navigate the roller coaster we call life.
If you’ve listened to the podcast then a lot of the lessons and stories are familiar. However, it never felt like they were simply regurgitating the same information. It just reaffirmed and consolidated a lot of the things they are passionate about and believe in. I heard new stories from both of them that allowed me to form an even deeper connection with these women who’s journeys I’ve followed for years. I admire their openness to talk about deeply personal topics in order for other people to feel seen and understood. They covered their own personal experiences and musings but made sure they went a step further to include relevant statistics and information from experts to back up their words.
I have a few favourite lessons from We Love Love that I’ll truly hold onto and try to live by.
Firstly, get rid of the unrealistic idea that there is only one person (soulmate) out there in the whole world for you and that when you meet them it has to be instant fireworks. Life doesn’t always work like that and a penguin (a partner that you love and respect) might be forever or for only a time in your life and that’s okay.
Secondly, you can be alone without being lonely. Whether that means you’re single, you live alone or you’re just in your own company, solitude can be a really restorative, empowering and lovely state of being. It’s a powerful thing to truly get to know and love yourself.
Thirdly, don’t listen to society’s or other peoples expectations of you. Do what makes you happy and what gives your life purpose no matter how untraditional it may be.
We Love Love is a funny, insightful book that covers the vulnerable to the lighthearted. It is well and truly worth picking up if you need a little guidance to help you navigate the roller coaster we call life.
November 13, 2022
“Things may not have run to the original plan, but that is life and sometimes you have to hit the reset button in order to move forward. Not living up to your expectations doesn't have to be a failure. It's a sidestep, and sometimes in life it pays to take the scenic route.”
January 9, 2023
I didn't get a lot from this book unfortunately, and didn't love the writing style - the 'new' parts were previously discussed in a podcast promoting the book. Perhaps those new to these authors and unfamiliar with Life Uncut will take away more from this.
June 30, 2023
What a great read. Written perfectly. As if you' re taking to your bestie or big sister. The book has some great advice to help you navigate the rollercoaster that is life. It is a comprehensive, wonderful, hilarious guidebook on love, life, loss and everything in between. Highly recommend.
September 10, 2024
It was a moderately interesting read, but at times the language was so explicit or gross, that it put me off and I considered leaving it halfway. Give it a try, but do not read while eating or drinking anything.
November 11, 2022
Easy read, good perspective of life from two podcasters I love to listen to
November 17, 2022
As an early fan of the podcast, I quite enjoyed this read which was a good summary of the key bits of the podcast that I liked. Very easy read, don't psychoanalyse the writing style too much.
November 20, 2022
Incredible
December 19, 2022
My first audio book, which really felt like a super long podcast series. It was neat how each chapter is its own entity and could be listened to in any order of preference.
January 5, 2023
This was what I expected! Wish the writing was a bit better, but an easy enjoyable read
January 12, 2023
Liked it as an audiobook
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