Essentialism starts with giving yourself permission (or forcing yourself) to stop trying to do it all. Only then can you make your highest contribution to the things that really matter.
I think a lot of us intuitively get the principle of focus makes for better results; the hard work, in my mind, is deciding what to focus on and being disciplined enough to say no to other things.
"Dieter Rams was the lead designer at Braun for many years. He is driven by the idea that almost everything is noise." His design criteria can be distilled to just three words: Weniger, aber besser -- Less, but better.
"The way of the essentialist is the relentless pursuit of less, but better." It is about pausing constantly to ask ourselves "Am I investing in the right activities?" There are many good, and many very good options, but "most are trivial and few are vital." Essentialism is a systematic approach to determining where our highest point of contribution lies.
"If you don't prioritize your life, someone else will."
Something that resonated with me was the notion of trying to "learn it all and do it all". Fining "a new obsession every day, sometimes every hour, making a millimeter of progress in a million directions." Although this is a fair critique, I think there is a time for this, since we are not born knowing precisely what we are good at, what we love to do, or what the landscape around us facilitates us doing. A valid argument could be made that at 25 I should have isolated my focus area...
Interesting bit about a nurse who recorded the thoughts of those in the last 12 weeks of their lives. At the top of the list: "I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me."
"As poet Mary Oliver wrote, 'Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?' I challenge you to pause more to ask yourself that question... Is it at all likely you will wake up one day and say, 'I wish I'd been less true to myself and done all the nonessential things others expected of me'?"
William James wrote 'my first act of free shall be to believe in free will.'
Without great solitude no serious work is possible - Pablo Picasso
Bill gates regularly takes a week off from his duties to think and read ( a "think week") twice a week. He reads articles and books and thinks about the bigger picture. Ways to put a little "think week" in your life every day: read something from classic literature for the first 20 minutes of the day. It centers your day and reminds you of themes central enough to stand the test of time - he recommends Zen, The Wisdom of Confucius, Walden, The Essential Gandhi, As a Man Thinketh, The Book of Mormon, The Upanishads, Quran, Holy Bible, etc. (something that seems timeless).
A system to assess new opportunities that come your way:
1. Write down the opportunity
2. List of 3 minimum criteria in order to be considered (should pass all of these)
3. List of 3 ideal or extreme criteria in order to be considered (should pass 2/3 of these)
Getting clear about your purpose:
If you could be truly excellent at one thing, what would it be?
(Think Dieter Rams, Jiro, Miyazaki, Kazuo Oga)
You've got to get over FOMO. Running a "reverse pilot" (remove an activity and see what the consequences are).
"Anyone can talk about the importance of focusing on the things that matter most, but to see people who dare to live it is rare." It takes courage.
Greg gives his children tokens they can use for screen time and then they can cash out at the end of the week. They can get more tokens by reading books.
Routines: Routines are good because they give you momentum. Think Michael Phelps before a race. He goes through the same process so that by the time he dives into the water he's already successfully 3/4 of the way through his process.
In work, do what you enjoy. In family life, be completely present. - Lao Zi