From People Pleaser to Soul Pleaser: Six Steps to Being Who You are Meant to Be

by Tracy Secombe

What if you could create a life that you love? Better yet, what if you could learn to do this by tuning into your soul for guidance, instead of looking outside of yourself for approval? Your life is not your own if you always care what others think.

When you truly know to your core that you are here to be your highest version of you and that you are the one who gets to define what that is, the pressure is off. Life is completely up to you. It’s your game. You get to choose. You are free.

Inside From People Pleaser to Soul Pleaser–6 Steps to Being Who You are Meant to Be, you’ll discover:

How to help others without sacrificing your own wellbeing
Your natural ability to share what’s true for you without offending others
What you really love and want to do with your life and the confidence to pursue it
How to finally love yourself no matter what and set that example for your children
And much, much more!
Tracy Secombe has helped thousands of people pleasers to become Soul Pleasers after experiencing chronic burnout from chasing recognition her entire life. By following her six simply explained steps, you will remember your true essence of joy and be who you want to be so you can relish in wonderful relationships, health, abundance, and fulfillment.

Unlock who you are meant to be today!

Genres: Self Help, Nonfiction, Audiobook, Mental Health

343 pages, Kindle Edition

Published July 8, 2022

Reviews

[Angela Bradfield]

AMAZING!!

Would highly recommend this book to everyone I know. It’s very eye opening on the habits we create but never realized we did before. Since finishing this, I’ve felt this huge switch within myself. I’m more loving what I have, the people in my life, and so on. Instead of taking things for granted and wishing more. It’s great to have goals in life, yes of course. You must enjoy what u have now, if not. You will never enjoy the moment u reached ur goal. You’ll just continue to want more and more. Very great book!

[Heat]

More memoir than self help book. An attempt rewritting eastern religions and philosphies into an individualistic and thoroughly neoliberal package. At times this leans into a victim-blaming model that goes so far as to blame people for their own cancer. The author brings little expertise or citation to reinforce the few claims she makes in the book. Very few practical tips for how to make changes in your daily life despite being sold as a simple 6 step process. An appropriation and repackaging of classic self help info.

[Robyn]

I loved this book

I actually felt like this book was written for me. There was so much that resonated with me and realizing that it is possible to move from being a people pleaser to a soul pleaser has been incredibly liberating and life changing. I highly recommend this book to anybody who has grown up to feel they are and have been people pleasers. I think this book is especially pertinent to those of us who grew up in the 80's and 90's who were brought up to be people pleasers.

[Alannah Clarke]

From People Pleaser to Soul Pleaser by Tracy Secombe is a warm, encouraging guide for anyone who has ever felt exhausted by constantly putting others first.

Secombe writes with honesty and clarity, and what I appreciated most was how practical the book felt. The six steps are easy to follow and rooted in real-life experience rather than abstract theory. It doesn’t promise a dramatic overnight transformation; instead, it gently challenges you to look at your patterns, your boundaries, and the stories you’ve been telling yourself about who you “should” be.

As someone who is naturally conscientious and tends to take on responsibility (sometimes a little too eagerly), I found the sections on boundaries and self-worth particularly powerful. The message that pleasing others at the expense of yourself isn’t kindness, but self-abandonment, really resonated.

That said, some ideas will likely feel familiar if you read a lot of personal development. The strength of this book isn’t necessarily in groundbreaking concepts, but in its compassionate tone and structured approach. It feels like having a calm, supportive coach walking you through uncomfortable but necessary reflections.

Overall, this is a thoughtful, accessible read that offers gentle accountability and practical steps toward living more authentically. A solid four-star self-development book that many recovering people-pleasers will find reassuring and motivating.

[Ellen]

recommended by my therapist because “it just reminded me so much of you” 🤡🤡🤡

[Deb]

Needs more than one pass I think....lots to think about and remember!

[EsteBanana Kabana]

Loved this book. So many insights and thought provoking exercises to challenge and ponder. I have already started rereading some of the 30 or so chapters. Some of the points still resonating with me include, ‘this moment is all there is!”, “our soul loves without conditions” and….”you are love!” Going to step out into my blue sky day and see what I attract on my higher frequency? I never really thought of myself as a people pleaser as I can be a rule breaking adventurer but whilst reading this book I realised that in some ways I was and that by pleasing my “soul” instead I can contribute so much more.

I feel privileged to have met and had many memorable moments with Tracy many years ago. I am going to channel the great energy she brings to this piece of work to co-create and further my amazing and abundant life.

[Nichola Hall]

I found the first half a bit slow and boring in places. But the second half got better. It’s a good reminder not to slip into the habit of people pleasing in order to gain acceptance. It’s quite heavily God based towards the end although you can redefine this if you’re not happy with it to the universe working it’s magic etc It was a bit repetitive too, but towards the end when summarising this was useful to help bring all the ideas together. Overall we live in a society with huge expectations on us and it was good to take a step back and think what do I want, where am I now and to find happiness with this x

[natalie]

Will be reading it again soon with now book and pen at the ready

I have taken so much from this book. I initially liked it simply because I get told in the biggest people Pleaser around. I had no idea how much I actually needed a book like this on my book shelf!! Beautifully written. Practical tips that can be put into place straightaway. And made me feel like being a people Pleaser isn't all bed, it just needs to be controlled behaviour to protect myself too

[Harbinder Mathadu]

Just what I needed to read

This book came at the right time in my journey on earth. I am so grateful to have come across it and have enjoyed reading it immensely! I read it on kindle and will be buying a copy to refer back to. I also want to gift it to some other people whom I love and think could benefit from it. Thank you 😊

[Mrs L C Stafford]

one of the most important books I have read

This book took me on a journey, I read it in a week and this week felt like a lifetime in terms of the level of change I experienced within myself. I also finished it, knowing that with this connection with knowing the journey will continue.

[Becky C]

I gave 3 stars because this book has nuggets of helpful information. And I could have given it fewer stars because as a conservative Christian, I had trouble with some of the concepts in the book.

Overall the book was decent. While there were no new ideas, the author did a nice job of reframing old ideas with new constructs.

[Francesca]

highly recommend

So well written … and I didn’t find a single typo which 1. Is a rarity and 2. speaks, for me, volumes about the passion, commitment and love the author has for her book and it’s message. I’m glad I read it, really glad she wrote it. Two thumbs up for sure.

[Kayla Anne]

This book was very spiritual on the basis of frequency vibrations. Complex to rework everything I have been taught my whole life but definitely open to learning more about this line of thinking. It makes sense.

[Andrea]

I listened to this on audiobook.
This would be better if you did all chapter slowly. Lots of manifesting changing your thoughts.
When you listen to yourself you actually pleasing others. Beucase your true energy is coming out.

[Sherry Piper]

An awesome book that is leading to a better understanding of myself and the possibility of living a life of joy and peace. The strategies are well thought out and worth implementing. I did lots of highlighting in this book, there are so many things to go back and re-read again and again.

[Olivia Welsh]

I liked how it started out— a considerate self-help book, but about halfway through it became repetitive, more self-focused and memoir like.

Not a bad book, just one that felt difficult to get through towards the end.

[4.5/10]

[Kelly]

This book is a joy! What a grace-giving voice and breath of fresh air! I think everyone can benefit from reading this book, not just people-pleasers!

[Christy Howley]

I wanted to like this, but the tone didn’t hit me right / I got distracted (negatively) when limiting beliefs were mentioned.

[Mark Lada]

Helpful-ish, repetitive, overly-religious.

[Lynn]

Beautiful

[Carrie]

Great inspiration, you ask yourself some very challenging questions and she gives you tips to address some of your challenges.

[Charles Reed]

50%

This book helps me to understand people pleaser is better, which I am not, so it basically meant nothing to me.

[Poetstar]

My favorite book this year. I absolutely loved everything about it. The concepts were easy to understand and I thought it was well written and read.

[Martha Miles]

great book

This excellent book really puts people pleasing in perspective. . I much prefer to be a soul pleaser and Love!

[Judy dusold]

Recommended reading

[Olivia B]

Meh 😬

[Danielle]

My mom sent me this book because it resonated with her. In exchange I'm going to recommend the Pixar movie Soul.

[Georgina Roberts]

Started off ok then just got weird half way through. Not for me. Didnt finish

[Dara S. Speegle]

one of the best books ever

This book is life changing . I highly recommend it for people who have always been people -pleasing , suffer from depression , etc . It’s amazing !!