The Ruby Rule: How More Listening and Less Labeling Brings More Healing and Less Hating

by Arthur F. Coombs III

Have you ever been afraid to say what you think because of how others may react?
Is it possible to have differing viewpoints and still be friends with someone?

If you’ve a disagreement with someone over politics, religion, or social issues turn into a heated argumentwanted to share your opinions without judgment . . .
. . . You need to apply the Ruby Rule —a new approach to elevating your communications with humility, humanity, and hope.

In this transformative book, best-selling author Arthur F. Coombs III shares the secrets of shifting your mindset from one focused on self to one focused on others. In seeing others through a Ruby lens, not only will you be able to effectively express your views and hold discussions without being controlled by your emotions, you will gain a deep appreciation for those who may challenge those views.

Being loud doesn’t mean being heard. If someone says or does something unkind or insulting, how do you respond? When you come to understand that each person is worthy of your respect and love, it’s a game-changer—for you and the other person.

With the Ruby Rule, you can heal from hard things.

Listen more, label less, and you will heal more and hate less. Revolutionize the way you interact with others by going ruby today.

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262 pages, Kindle Edition

Published August 17, 2022

Reviews

[Irina O'Hara · Rating 5 out of 5]

The Ruby Rule is an open and engaging conversation with a friend that covers the most controversial subjects of today. Coombs talks about importance of being civil and respecting opposing views, something our society lacks greatly. He strives to shift the focus from spewing hate speech to holding a constructive dialogue, importance of listening and finding a middle ground.

[Robin · Rating 5 out of 5]

How refreshing to read a book promoting learning over instant certainty, civil discourse over vitriol, love over hate. In our polemic world, where we are continually pressured to buy into any and every opinion the loudest contingent holds or be excoriated, cancelled, or even physically harmed, Coombs’ call for listening to understand, agreeing that it is OK to disagree, and seeking common ground upon which to build a foundation of humanity is so welcome and needed. As per usual, his points are well illustrated with research as well as personal anecdotes and engaging stories. I recommend this book – it has inspired me and given me tools to carry forth on that inspiration.

[Sabine · Rating 5 out of 5]

I love the idea of The Ruby Rule. There is so much discord and arguing in the world today. I’ll admit I may have to start at the platinum rule for some people, but if we all could take the insights this book offers and just apply them to small aspects of our lives we would see big changes. Well written, with relevant and entertaining stories, The Ruby Rule is very relevant and very needed.

[Shelbi · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book was a good read, it was different than what I’m used to reading. However, it discussed important topics such as respecting others opinions whether you agree with them or not. Overall, this book has taught me to communicate more effectively in my personal life and work life. I would recommend this book to others.