Anger Management for Parents: The ultimate guide to understand your triggers, stop losing your temper, master your emotions, and raise confident children

by Vivian Foster

Are you scared that your anger is getting the better of you a little too often? Maybe you can even see it in your kid’s face when you try to discipline them? Or perhaps a friend, or even your partner, has said something about it to you and now you’re stuck wondering what the heck to do about it?

You are not alone! But blowing up on them is never the correct way of handling things. Whether it’s because you’ve had a bad day at work -- or because your child has actually done something catastrophic -- getting angry at the situation is not going to solve anything. Actually, it’s going to make everything a whole lot worse. Have you experienced this before? Something small somehow builds up and turns into a massive headache (and maybe even some tears) for the both of you… It doesn't have to be this way! Yes, getting frustrated is in many ways a natural part of being human… and yes, children will be children. However, you can navigate through the chaos of raising a child without letting it get you all worked up inside. You just need to better understand your own emotions and your own anger. When you can recognize your triggers before they happen (and develop the right techniques to navigate through your emotional storms), this explosion of anger onto your child will become much less frequent… and will eventually be gone altogether. In Anger Management for Parents , you’ll … and much more! These simple strategies could save your child’s future and make you both a whole lot happier in the process.

It’s up to you to raise your child to their highest potential. Ask Are you showing them how to do this properly, or is the example you’re setting something different than what you’d hope for them to become? At the end of the day, only you can make that difference.

Genres: Parenting, Self Help, Nonfiction, Audiobook

194 pages, Paperback

Published March 26, 2022

Reviews

[Khurram]

Child see, child does

A very good book. I like the idea of working on yourself to figure out where your anger comes from. Many times, it is the behaviour you have observed or experienced as a child. An important lesson is that if you are repeating your parents' mistakes, would your child not be repeating yours?

The other important lesson from this book is that I and anyone else wanting to control their anger needs to be put in the work. There or no easy answers, there will be bad days for you (which you can learn to control your reactions to), but bad days for those around (which again you have to learn to control your reaction to).

The only reason I could not give this book 5 stars is that in the talking down scenarios in this book seem too ideal. In my experience, yes, talking an angry child into calming down requires patience, but it is not done keeping a level tone of a few nice words. Trying to lead by example and allowing the child to self calm and then talk to them seem to be the most effective approach. Techniques that children can use for self calming are not covered so much in this book.

The mirror ananolg in this book is very powerful. This is a great book for anyone trying to better themselves.

[Anna Holt]

Drink every time you read “for instance.”

[Cecilia]

"Being able to feel, identify, and calm anger is also a powerful sign of emotional intelligence. Only those who are self-aware gain positive lessons from even the most painful of emotions."

[Jacob Tullos]

Information Rich, but Disjointed with Poor Writing

There isn't a lot to like about this book. It is well researched, with articles, books, and studies referenced on every page. But don't expect any deep insights or structured arguments based on this research. Much of the book reads like a report, a collection of references.

At first glance, this book seems well organized. But at the level of the writing itself, it's disjointed, all over the place. On top of that, the prose leave a lot to be desired. There is a lot of filler and repetition.

I give Anger Management for Parents 2 stars because, if you can stomach the writing style and lack of depth, there are quite a few gems in the extensive research this book showcases.

[Thomas Condon]

Spectacular read!

I loved this book! So many good tips and easy to read. The most helpful section to me was definitely on identifying my triggers. It’s so helpful to walk through these steps and realize that you actually can make a choice in the moment and decide how you are going to respond to a trigger.

[Michael Cook]

Well-researched, useful techniques for adult peer-to-peer interactions as well

KindleUnlimited review. This self-help book contains helpful tips, strategies, and techniques for parents to more effectively managing anger towards their children and other adults. I usually provide a quotation of the book to highlight what I enjoyed or learned from reading it. However, the author has a legal notice in the front matter stating I cannot without permission. Therefore, I suggest prospective readers utilize the Amazon “Look Inside” feature to get a flavor of the contents. There are seven chapters and nearly 130 references - most of them from peer reviewed scientific journals. I found the chapter about effective communication the most useful. If you have ever read about the topic before it will look familiar.

[Daryl Ainsworth]

A very factual, informative and well-cited book. A great accompaniment to enhance parenting skills!

Life throws all sorts at us and it’s very easy to take it out on those closet to you. This book gives a factual, but informative insight into the origins of anger, along with strategies to recognise it and manage it. It teaches how to avoid being controlled by your emotions, along with how to express them in a healthy way. I think any parent would be well advised to read this book - it may benefit both you and those around you, leading to a healthy family environment.

[Keila Bechtold]

Overall, a good read/listen if you're struggling with yelling too much. As a busy parent, I appreciate that this was short and to the point. That being said, I think the downside to this book is that it lacks depth when it comes to real-world applications. But I appreciated the strategies that were given and the research that was presented.

Biggest takeaways: Respond to your kids instead of reacting, learn your triggers and how to manage them, assume good intent, and validate emotions without validating poor behavior.

[Tony Lunt]

Overall a concise book with practical advice and strategies. I particularly appreciated the straightforward journaling prompts.

Some of the discipline advice seems a little questionable - writing a "contract" for your child and having them sign it feels like it builds the wrong dynamic and would just be a source of anxiety. Every family is different though, so maybe this would be helpful for some.

Also, a brief section at the end of the book refers to the 5 "Love Languages" as if they are grounded in science and they absolutely are not.

[Gideon]

Great book for all parents. Regardless of their emotional intellect levels

My favorite part about this book is that Vivian Foster cited many studies and gave examples to back up her writing. It was very valuable to the development of my emotional intelligence.

The only reason I gave it 4 Stars was due to the second half of the book being written more as “bullet points” of tips and suggestions rather than a “smooth flowing” read.

[Merilu Hill]

Not for me

While I don’t agree with some of this book or it’s tenants like this statement “Of the many jobs you have as a parent, however, arguably the most important one is managing your emotions and giving your children an excellent example to model themselves upon.” It is a well written and researched book. I just choose to disagree. Emotions are what make us human, we make mistakes and can own them and I just don’t think managing them is our “most important job”.

[Brett Comeau]

when you are a parent, it’s easy to not realize that your negativity is rubbing off

When your child is having a tough time dealing with their anger it is easy to focus on them and try to deal with their negative behavior but sometimes it is actually us that are the cause of the negative reaction, This book can help you deal with your negative issues so they don’t spill over onto your child

[Emily]

More than a book just for parents on how to manage their or their children’s anger - useful for everyone. Thoughtful and analytical dissection of the different anger types, how to pick up on them, and methods that might improve how we deal with anger in ourselves or loved ones and channel it more effectively. Cites specific research supporting various claims. After the first third, I found it to be a bit more skim-able given different techniques and methods may not be applicable for everyone.

[Alexis Johnson]

Good book for moms

I like book that gives advice on how to be patient with your child or children, but sometimes they don't that when they have attend to each one of them. I'm not a mother, but just watching my baby cousins was stressful. So I felt a mother's pain. It's a good read.

[Stephen]

Concise and helpful information, necessary for all parents.

Great breakdown of the child psyche in this book with excellent advice for parents too. I particularly found the importance of labelling children eye-opening as this is a trap we all fall into. The author makes great points here and details how incidents or events should not extend to reputation.

[Abby Ryan]

great info

This book it full of amazing information. I know I can learn a lot in terms of controlling my anger. I honestly didn’t know there were so many ways for anger to manifest. Nor did I know how much it effects my son. One thing I wish is that this book did was get to the “solution” to anger faster.

[T.M McGee]

Good information

I liked it. My child struggles with behavioral issues so it was helpful. However I don't think the average reader would be able to follow along with the scientific wordings and writing style. It felt like I was reading an academic report.

[Aleese Hughes]

Wonderful Guide

Not only did this book describe the importance of managing your anger as a parents, but it also gave some amazing advice! I think every parent, no matter how patient they are with their children, can benefit from this book.

[jay♫]

Saw his on KU and wanted to read it because I can be a bitch-mom at times. Is it life changing? I don’t think so. But, it’s good to read if you wanted to have a better understanding on how detrimental your temper can be on your little ones.

[Daniela Hernández]

Really good book

this book has really helped me understand my triggers and certain behaviors that can be hurting my kids . It has taught me to be more patient and be less explosive.

[Steven Joseph]

Most Important Book for a Parent

Great book with clear lessons. It is so well thought out that I want to read it all over after I finished reading. It is a great guide on how to be consistent, have clear empathic messages and most of all be present with your child.

[Kong Mick Foo]

straightforward but nothing new

If this your first book on the topic - I’d recommend it. If is not your first book then it’s probably going to stuff that you already know albeit pretty succinctly written without going in circles.

[Katrina Taylor]

insightful

This book helps me to understand there is more to what we feel and there are ways we can manage our emotions better than what we do. It teaches us how to deal with emotions and how to handle our children in a positive way and how to cope with ourselves too.

[Cara Bramlett]

Anger Management 101

Great book of evidence based information regarding anger management. A real eye opener of one’s current actions of triggers that impact children.

[Dana]

Very helpful

This was both encouraging and helpful as a parent with anger issues! I feel like I have better tools to make my home a more peaceful place.

[Holly Anderson]

I found this book helpful in providing strategies and providing some knowledgable insights. I also found it reassuring as to some things I am already doing right (or at least trying to ;)

[alejandra winchell]

A good way to take a look at yourself first.

[Jeff]

Obviously written by AI. Rarely on topic. Not even remotely useful. Save yourself the time. I had my copy refunded and immediately tossed it, lest some poor unsuspecting person waste their time

[Myrill Winne]

Some good advice, but this book reads like a giant check list. I could barely get through it.

[Matthew Chapman]

Very basic. Felt like a high school level text book. I was really hoping for something more. It was good for what it was.