In Sickness and in Health: A Story of Love in the Shadow of AIDS

by Shireen Perry, Gregg Lewis

Living with HIV/AIDS

199 pages, Hardcover

First published July 1, 1989

Reviews

[Skostal · Rating 4 out of 5]

This slim, sweet book is an account of the horror and fear of the early days of the AIDS crisis, as well as a very personal story of surrender and survival. Shireen met, fell in love, and married Mark Perry, who had recently "come out" of what was then called "the gay community" in the early 1980s. The book, written after Mark's death from AIDS and drawing on their mutual journals, recounts the difficulty of disclosing AIDS to both the general and Christian community that was so important to them both. Their young marriage was tested when Mark's illness devolved into a neuro-cognitive disorder associated with late-stage AIDS, rendering him suspicious, irritable, and highly volatile. Mark left Shireen, emptied their home, and completely perplexed his very distressed young wife. With otherworldly patience and strength, Shireen kept communications open and joyfully welcomed Mark back when his phobia abated.

The book then focuses on the incredible way the Perrys were embraced by their church, which stood by them steadfastly. Shireen's love and their Christian community's devotion allowed Mark to experience the most joyous death possible. Her account of their last weeks and his last hours are touching, and define "a good death."

Ultimately, this is an uplifting book, and a hopeful message of what's possible amid utter disaster.