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Stand Up For Yourself, Set Boundaries, & Stop Pleasing Others
Expressing what you want isn’t selfish, it’s prioritizing yourself. Do you have that habit?
You don’t have to be “nice” to everyone if it means being mean to yourself. Learn to prioritize yourself and finally do only what you want to do.
The need to please is powerful, but it causes anxiety, stress, and resentment. Time to change your patterns.
Stand Up For Yourself is direct and no-nonsense. That’s because the way you prioritize others and let them stomp all over your boundaries isn’t working, so you need a change. This book teaches you how to reverse these mini-decisions, and internalize the belief that you are worth it, you are valuable, and you deserve it. Because you are, and you do.
Understand the psychology of people pleasing and how to stop it with actionable techniques.
Patrick King is an internationally bestselling author and social skills coach. His writing draws of a variety of sources, from scientific research, academic experience, coaching, and real life experience.
Reprogram your beliefs and learn how to set boundaries that others can’t ignore.
Find your voice, stand up for yourself, and put yourself first. It’s your life, so live it for yourself!
You don’t have to be “nice” to everyone if it means being mean to yourself. Learn to prioritize yourself and finally do only what you want to do.
The need to please is powerful, but it causes anxiety, stress, and resentment. Time to change your patterns.
Stand Up For Yourself is direct and no-nonsense. That’s because the way you prioritize others and let them stomp all over your boundaries isn’t working, so you need a change. This book teaches you how to reverse these mini-decisions, and internalize the belief that you are worth it, you are valuable, and you deserve it. Because you are, and you do.
Understand the psychology of people pleasing and how to stop it with actionable techniques.
Patrick King is an internationally bestselling author and social skills coach. His writing draws of a variety of sources, from scientific research, academic experience, coaching, and real life experience.
Reprogram your beliefs and learn how to set boundaries that others can’t ignore.
Find your voice, stand up for yourself, and put yourself first. It’s your life, so live it for yourself!
- GenresSelf Help
128 pages, Kindle Edition
Published July 25, 2022
66 people are currently reading
122 people want to read
About the author
Patrick King
189 books319 followersPatrick King is a Social Interaction Specialist, in other words, a dating, online dating, image, and communication and social skills coach based in San Francisco, California, and has been featured on numerous national publications such as Inc.com. He’s also a #1 Amazon best-selling dating and relationships author with the most popular online dating book on the market, and writes frequently on dating, love, sex, and relationships.
He focuses on using his emotional intelligence and understanding of human interaction to break down emotional barriers, instill confidence, and equip people with the tools they need for success. No pickup artistry and no gimmicks, simply a thorough mastery of human psychology delivered with a dose of real talk, perfected and honed through three years of law school.
He focuses on using his emotional intelligence and understanding of human interaction to break down emotional barriers, instill confidence, and equip people with the tools they need for success. No pickup artistry and no gimmicks, simply a thorough mastery of human psychology delivered with a dose of real talk, perfected and honed through three years of law school.
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December 5, 2022
Such a great and easy read with actionable strategies and advice that make sense and are achievable. I really enjoyed reading this book and King wrote in a way that not only made me feel heard but supported and understood and not alone. Will definitely be having a look at his other books in this series.
January 7, 2024
“A person saying I don’t like you is not a problem to solve, a mistake, a crisis or an insult.”
“A healthy mindset assures us that our self-worth does not come from the (fleeting, potentially flawed) opinions and tastes of others.”
“You don’t know what others are thinking and feeling, why they act, or what they want. You don’t always have complete information about any situation and your role in it. So, that means you’re off the hook and don’t need to torture yourself with guesses and interpretations for other people’s behaviors.”
“Chronic people-pleasers tend to take on everyone else’s tasks. We make it our problem to ensure people like us. We take it upon ourselves to make sure everyone is happy, that there is no conflict, or that we are in their good books. And then we’re anxious!”
“Today’s dysfunction was yesterday’s coping mechanism.”
“When you erect a boundary, it’s to keep away things you don’t want in your life. You are not punishing anyone or pushing away something that is good for you.”
“No emotion is right or wrong. But how you express that emotion matters!”
“We need to avoid blaming people for our emotions. Nobody can ever make us feel a certain way. If we are disappointed, for example, then that is our feeling.”
“Over-apologizing comes from a complicated mix of low self-esteem, the desire to please others, awkwardness and discomfort, conflict avoidance, anxiety, and sometimes a big helping of perfectionism thrown in, too.”
“For the people-pleaser, love is something you earn.”
“A healthy mindset assures us that our self-worth does not come from the (fleeting, potentially flawed) opinions and tastes of others.”
“You don’t know what others are thinking and feeling, why they act, or what they want. You don’t always have complete information about any situation and your role in it. So, that means you’re off the hook and don’t need to torture yourself with guesses and interpretations for other people’s behaviors.”
“Chronic people-pleasers tend to take on everyone else’s tasks. We make it our problem to ensure people like us. We take it upon ourselves to make sure everyone is happy, that there is no conflict, or that we are in their good books. And then we’re anxious!”
“Today’s dysfunction was yesterday’s coping mechanism.”
“When you erect a boundary, it’s to keep away things you don’t want in your life. You are not punishing anyone or pushing away something that is good for you.”
“No emotion is right or wrong. But how you express that emotion matters!”
“We need to avoid blaming people for our emotions. Nobody can ever make us feel a certain way. If we are disappointed, for example, then that is our feeling.”
“Over-apologizing comes from a complicated mix of low self-esteem, the desire to please others, awkwardness and discomfort, conflict avoidance, anxiety, and sometimes a big helping of perfectionism thrown in, too.”
“For the people-pleaser, love is something you earn.”
July 26, 2025
Super quick and easy read with very helpful advice! Some typos and not the best formatted printed book, probably intended for e-reading, but really good content that was easy to digest and eye opening.
March 23, 2023
Wish I read it as a teenager! This was a very good book giving simple solutions on how to improve your assertiveness!
July 4, 2023
This book had some really helpful info on setting boundaries in plain language - if folks are really well versed in boundary setting some info may seem repetitive. I took away a lot of useful info :)
September 22, 2024
This book made me feel seen , heard and validated.
April 3, 2025
I personally liked this book. It had good ideas and practices for someone who has no boundaries.
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