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Love Is a Choice: 28 Extraordinary Stories of the 5 Love Languages® in Action
Real life, encouraging stories embodying the bold, brave, beautiful choice to love.
“To last for the long haul and through the stresses and complexities of life, love has to be more than something we feel. It has to be something we do. We have to demonstrate it concretely in our marriages and families, among our friends and acquaintances, and, yes, even among our enemies. And that's what this book is about. In its pages, you'll see examples of people just like you—like all of us—who learned to take the obstacles, the lemons they face in life, and turn them into satisfying, emotional thirst-quenching nectar. These are the success stories that make you want to go out and discover the power of love.” Gary Chapman If you’re feeling weary or burdened by the call to love, you’ll find strength and hope in the pages of this book. Love is a Choice gives us stories of love in action, inspiring us to go deeper in our relationships. Each story is coupled with 5 Love Languages® insights and application points.
“To last for the long haul and through the stresses and complexities of life, love has to be more than something we feel. It has to be something we do. We have to demonstrate it concretely in our marriages and families, among our friends and acquaintances, and, yes, even among our enemies. And that's what this book is about. In its pages, you'll see examples of people just like you—like all of us—who learned to take the obstacles, the lemons they face in life, and turn them into satisfying, emotional thirst-quenching nectar. These are the success stories that make you want to go out and discover the power of love.” Gary Chapman If you’re feeling weary or burdened by the call to love, you’ll find strength and hope in the pages of this book. Love is a Choice gives us stories of love in action, inspiring us to go deeper in our relationships. Each story is coupled with 5 Love Languages® insights and application points.
240 pages, Paperback
Published February 7, 2023
About the author
Gary Chapman
635 books3,709 followersGary Chapman, Ph.D.—author, speaker, and counselor—has a passion for people, and for helping them form lasting relationships.
Chapman is a well-known marriage counselor and director of marriage seminars. The 5 Love Languages® is one of Chapman’s most popular titles, topping various bestseller charts for years, selling over twenty million copies and has been on the New York Times bestsellers list since 2007. Chapman has been directly involved in real-life family counseling since the beginning of his ministry years, and his nationally syndicated radio programs air on Moody Radio Network and over 400 affiliate stations.
Chapman is a well-known marriage counselor and director of marriage seminars. The 5 Love Languages® is one of Chapman’s most popular titles, topping various bestseller charts for years, selling over twenty million copies and has been on the New York Times bestsellers list since 2007. Chapman has been directly involved in real-life family counseling since the beginning of his ministry years, and his nationally syndicated radio programs air on Moody Radio Network and over 400 affiliate stations.
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August 9, 2024
Love is a choice, and it is a fulfilling and wonderful choice. But it isn't easy. The true life stories included within this book are very relatable, illustrative, educational, uplifting and several tug hard on your heart. Highly recommend the book to everyone, especially those who are committed to or desires to be committed to their marriage vows.
October 28, 2026
Love Is a Choice by Gary Chapman
Having finished Love Is a Choice, I found it to be a meaningful and thought-provoking read that explores love through the personal experiences and stories shared by the different writers in this anthology. Rather than presenting love merely as an emotion, the book highlights how love is expressed through our choices, actions, patience, forgiveness, and willingness to understand one another.
What I particularly appreciated was how the personal stories brought these lessons to life. They made the ideas relatable and demonstrated that love is not always easy or effortless; it often requires intentional effort, humility, understanding, and a conscious decision to remain loving even when circumstances become difficult.
The biblical references add another layer of depth to the book, grounding its message in Christian principles. They serve as reminders that love is more than a feeling, it is reflected in how we treat others, how we forgive, and how we practise patience and kindness. The message resonates with 1 Corinthians 13:4–7, which describes love as patient and kind, and 1 John 3:18, which reminds us to love not merely in words, but in actions and truth.
Overall, this book encourages readers to reflect on their own relationships and consider whether their understanding of love is rooted in fleeting emotions or intentional, Christ centred choices. It is a worthwhile read for anyone seeking a deeper understanding of love through real life experiences and biblical wisdom.
My takeaway: Love may begin with a feeling, but its true character is revealed in the choices we make every day.
Having finished Love Is a Choice, I found it to be a meaningful and thought-provoking read that explores love through the personal experiences and stories shared by the different writers in this anthology. Rather than presenting love merely as an emotion, the book highlights how love is expressed through our choices, actions, patience, forgiveness, and willingness to understand one another.
What I particularly appreciated was how the personal stories brought these lessons to life. They made the ideas relatable and demonstrated that love is not always easy or effortless; it often requires intentional effort, humility, understanding, and a conscious decision to remain loving even when circumstances become difficult.
The biblical references add another layer of depth to the book, grounding its message in Christian principles. They serve as reminders that love is more than a feeling, it is reflected in how we treat others, how we forgive, and how we practise patience and kindness. The message resonates with 1 Corinthians 13:4–7, which describes love as patient and kind, and 1 John 3:18, which reminds us to love not merely in words, but in actions and truth.
Overall, this book encourages readers to reflect on their own relationships and consider whether their understanding of love is rooted in fleeting emotions or intentional, Christ centred choices. It is a worthwhile read for anyone seeking a deeper understanding of love through real life experiences and biblical wisdom.
My takeaway: Love may begin with a feeling, but its true character is revealed in the choices we make every day.
September 13, 2023
What a wonderful read. The stories provide examples of the love languages in practice and the struggles in the relationships prior to implementing them. The stories recount relationships from parent/child, marriage to adults requiring care. What a wonderful tool to better understand the 5 Love Languages and how to put them to practice.
I recommend it!
I recommend it!
July 6, 2024
Thinking of marriage, are married and/or wanting a cool/interesting read: I really enjoyed this book and hope others do too! - Cool & unique stories which involve “the 5 love languages” (which is another book by Gary Chapman).
August 24, 2025
Great book
July 17, 2023
Good Read
Enjoyed each story. It allowed different scenarios to help one see how their own lives or situations can apply. Big help.
Enjoyed each story. It allowed different scenarios to help one see how their own lives or situations can apply. Big help.
July 22, 2023
I truly was disappointed to read that each of these contributing story lines were written by other Christian authors. My takeaway therefore is these became less “real-life”.
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