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Contented Couples: Magic, Logic or Luck?
What is the secret of a long and contented marriage?
In Contented Couples, Anne Power interviews eighteen couples in the USA and the UK to discuss how they found each other and what made it work. A wide range of couples are featured – non-binary, homosexual, heterosexual – some brought together by family for arranged marriage, others by pure chance, and those set up by friends or by using dating agencies or the internet.
Power is trained in emotionally focused couple therapy (EFT) and she takes a rounded, constructive look at the different traditions couples form and live by. Power uses questions she puts to new couples in What does an argument look like? How has sex been across the years? Who has grown up the most over your time together? What has stopped you from becoming a divorce statistic? Throughout the book, she weaves expert, jargon-free explanations of how couples form a bond, how they fight, and how they repair. Each chapter ends with questions which invite us to reflect on our own relationships and to benefit personally from this chance to eavesdrop on contented couples. This empowers us to think about what constitutes the essence of a contented couple.
An ideal book for psychotherapists working with individuals, couples, and families, as well as the general reader looking for greater insight into what makes a successful, long-term relationship.
In Contented Couples, Anne Power interviews eighteen couples in the USA and the UK to discuss how they found each other and what made it work. A wide range of couples are featured – non-binary, homosexual, heterosexual – some brought together by family for arranged marriage, others by pure chance, and those set up by friends or by using dating agencies or the internet.
Power is trained in emotionally focused couple therapy (EFT) and she takes a rounded, constructive look at the different traditions couples form and live by. Power uses questions she puts to new couples in What does an argument look like? How has sex been across the years? Who has grown up the most over your time together? What has stopped you from becoming a divorce statistic? Throughout the book, she weaves expert, jargon-free explanations of how couples form a bond, how they fight, and how they repair. Each chapter ends with questions which invite us to reflect on our own relationships and to benefit personally from this chance to eavesdrop on contented couples. This empowers us to think about what constitutes the essence of a contented couple.
An ideal book for psychotherapists working with individuals, couples, and families, as well as the general reader looking for greater insight into what makes a successful, long-term relationship.
392 pages, Kindle Edition
Published June 14, 2022
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November 18, 2023
As a wedding coordinator who has seen hundreds of couples get married, but who is single myself, I was really curious about this book. I was familiar with a few of the concepts covered but had never really thought about them in this context. While the book was slightly more academic than I initially thought, it was a really interesting look into different marriages. I especially liked how the author uses real stories from real couples. I would definitely recommend to anyone who wants an honest portrayal of marriage!
June 16, 2024
I loved the real stories in this book. It’s so interesting to hear how two individuals meet, and despite what life throws at them, manage to commit and stay together as a contented couple. I believe that those who are either in, or have been in a long-term relationship, will relate strongly to the stories of the eighteen couples interviewed for, “Contented Couples”. The book allows us to contemplate what constitutes a secure, avoidant, preoccupied, disorganised and insecure attachment, as well as the attachment bond, attachment figure and injury.
The interviews feel real in that there are the characteristic pauses, reflections, back-tracking, emotional expressions, gesticulations and observed facial expressions that are normally present. After each chapter there is a short list of questions, which are challenging, but if answered, could be extremely helpful. There is also a Glossary, clarifying significant concepts such as the Familiar and Fascinating, Withdrawer and Pursuer and Good Enough, which bring attachment theory to life. I found it useful to keep a bookmark where the couples are originally introduced and given their appropriate monikers, this allowed me to refer back as further details of their relationships unfolded. This is a very well written and detailed book.
The interviews feel real in that there are the characteristic pauses, reflections, back-tracking, emotional expressions, gesticulations and observed facial expressions that are normally present. After each chapter there is a short list of questions, which are challenging, but if answered, could be extremely helpful. There is also a Glossary, clarifying significant concepts such as the Familiar and Fascinating, Withdrawer and Pursuer and Good Enough, which bring attachment theory to life. I found it useful to keep a bookmark where the couples are originally introduced and given their appropriate monikers, this allowed me to refer back as further details of their relationships unfolded. This is a very well written and detailed book.
July 17, 2023
This book is beautifully written, exploring different couples’ relationships and breaking down different aspects of the relationship through a digestible, professional, therapeutic lens. Anne Powers takes the time to explain where certain theories come from and then incorporates this information into explain couples and their behaviours. Eighteen couples are interviewed through out the book, which gives the reader a real sense of presence and being in a relatable environment. It’s a wonderful book for anyone who is looking to grow their relationship.
March 5, 2025
Wow what a great book. This book is filled with knowledge and kindness, and is a shining light among all the books about love. Here challenges are accepted and appreciated, and the mechanics of a Good Enough couple is reflected around and explained, with great examples from couples who you come to know and love.
December 13, 2023
One of the most insightful books about relationships for anyone seeking to understand how we bond with others on the basis of attachment theory and maintain positive, healthy long-term connections throughout our lives.
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I have not been able to find it in large print.
If anyone I know reads this book, I would love to have them tell me about it.
I watched the TED talk of Anne power and wanted to know more
March 9, 2024
This is a great resource for couples who haven't had examples of healthy relationships.
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