I always approach any parenting book with the mindset that every parent and every child is different; what works for one family may not work for ours.
There were strategies and ideas that I agreed with, and some I didn’t, and that’s okay. One strategy that I agree with is the five-second rule: if your child is not in danger, slowly count to five before you react to the situation. I also agree with the self-care section. As a parent, you need to make sure that you are taking care of yourself. Your children deserve the best version of you, and if you are neglecting yourself, it's not possible.
One thing in particular that I didn't agree with was how to approach bossiness. I don't think it is enough to just say hey, when you are being bossy it hurts other, so stop. If your child is being excessively bossy, there is a bigger reason and if the child is showing leadership skills, I would want them to channel it in a positive way. For myself, I would create activities for my daughter to lead so that I can help channel those traits in a friendly and polite way and correct her when necessary.
While I did find a few helpful strategies, I felt like I read more about why it isn't okay to be an angry parent and less ways to fix it. I would have preferred more of a balance between the two topics.
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