You probably think you know a lot about emotions. You experience them directly on a daily basis, you can name most of them, and you see them expressed in others. You’ve likely been taught that emotions are discrete, universal, and that you’re better off suppressing them or otherwise overcoming them with reason. This is the conventional view of emotion, and it has been handed down to you through millennia of intellectual history. It’s also entirely misguided.
In Emotional: How Feelings Shape Our Thinking, theoretical physicist and science popularizer Leonard Mlodinow shows us why the traditional view of emotion fails to hold up to scientific scrutiny—in particular to the latest findings of affective neuroscience—and how a new picture is emerging of emotion as a core component of cognition—integrated with and complementary to reason.
To understand what emotions are, it’s useful to start with what they’re not, and unfortunately that requires unlearning centuries of false notions and oversimplifications.
The confusion stems from a model of the brain known as the “triune brain.” Originally formulated by the neuroscientist Paul MacLean, this model describes the brain as being composed of three discrete parts: (1) the reptilian cortex (lizard brain), responsible for our most basic instinctual behaviors; (2) the limbic system, responsible for the higher emotions found in mammals, primates, and humans; and (3) the neocortex, responsible for complex planning, abstract thinking, and language. These structures, the theory goes, were sequentially added to the mammalian brain over the course of evolution.
Except that the theory is wrong, or at best a major oversimplification. The latest science tells us that the three proposed structures of the triune brain are neither anatomically nor physiologically distinct, at least not entirely. All three structures send signals back and forth between themselves with significant anatomical overlap. The brain evolved—not by adding sequential layers on top of the basic lizard brain—but in a more integrated and complex manner with all three layers evolving simultaneously. Additionally, it is now known that emotions are not localized to specific areas of the brain within the limbic system, but are instead more widely distributed.
And it goes even deeper than that. Research also tells us that our emotions and logical reasoning are impacted, often subconsciously, by the information we receive from our sensory organs (capturing information about our environment) and from our internal sensors (capturing information about things like blood pressure, heart rate, ect.). All of this information is sent to the brain, impacting what is called our “core affect,” a term for how good or bad we feel overall in a particular situation. Because much of this happens at a subconscious level, we are often unaware of why we feel a particular way and are blind to the impact this has on our decision making.
Mlodinow offers two compelling examples to drive home the point. First, he shows how our gastrointestinal system (sometimes referred to as our “second brain” due to the complexity and magnitude of its neural activity) communicates bidirectionally with the brain and how this can have major impacts on our emotions and thinking. Studies have even demonstrated links between gut bacteria and the state of our mental health.
Second, Mlodinow shows how our decision-making process is colored by our emotions even when we’re completely unaware of it. In an incredible study that instantly became a classic, it was found that parole officers were significantly more likely to deny parole—not based on the facts of the case—but based strictly on the time of day the case was heard. In cases heard directly before lunch, parole was almost never granted, whereas the first cases heard at the start of the day were granted 60 percent of the time. Similar research has shown that this affects other professions as well, for example when doctors overprescribe antibiotics later in the day (as a result of fatigue).
The simple fact that the hearing officers were hungry or that doctors were tired was enough to drastically sway decision making. This shows that our brains are not neatly divided into a rational part and an emotional part, of which reason has complete control over; rather, cognition is an integrated mix of reason and emotion and can be impacted by factors we are not even aware of, including hunger, stress, and poor health more generally.
But emotions do not always lead to poor outcomes, and, in fact, often facilitate better decision making by providing our rational faculties with critical information. Mlodinow discusses several examples throughout the book, including the story of Stanislav Petrov, the lieutenant colonel of the Soviet Air Defense Force who used emotion to override a rational thought process that would have otherwise triggered a nuclear war.
So while it’s true that sometimes emotion leads you in the wrong direction (eating too much junk food or consuming too much alcohol), other times it leads you in the right direction (sacrificing your well-being for the sake of your child). Rather than labeling emotion as good or bad, then, it’s probably best to think of emotion as a source of valuable information to use in your decision making processes.
But here’s the key takeaway: Even when emotion gets in the way of your goals, you counteract it, not solely via the use of reason, but with other countervailing emotions. If you want to resist the impulse to eat an entire carton of ice cream, for example, you’ll likely have to employ other emotions, such as the desire for better health, the aspiration for a leaner body, or the pride associated with self-control. Reason alone will never help you overcome a desire in the absence of some other accompanying motivating force.
As Mlodinow repeatedly reminds us, even when you’re behaving according to strict rules of logic, you cannot have goals or evaluate evidence without giving either some kind of emotional weight. Without emotions, we would have no desire to do or think about anything at all. The trick then, is not to oppose or suppress emotions, but to learn how to manage them effectively to align with your goals.
Here’s how to do that, according to the latest science.
How to Manage Emotions
As a quick recap, the traditional theory of emotions, as Mlodinow describes it below, is largely incorrect:
“The fundamental tenets of the traditional theory were that there are a handful of basic emotions shared by all humans; that those emotions have fixed triggers and cause specific behaviors; and that each arises in some dedicated structure within the brain.”
Instead, what affective neuroscience tells us is that there are many more emotions than we previously thought, that each emotion is complex and varied (e.g., different forms of fear), that different people can experience emotion differently, that emotion can be influenced by culture and context, that emotion is not localized to specific areas of the brain, and that emotion is used in tandem with reason when we think about anything. Emotion is better thought of as a functional state that drives us towards certain behaviors.
But most importantly, affective neuroscience shows us that emotion can be managed and manipulated for our own benefit. Here’s what the latest research suggests.
Let’s start with the positive emotions (happiness, joy, contentment, etc.). Obviously, we all desire positive emotional states but cannot simply wish them into existence. Emotions are often automatic, arising from a particular context, event, or thought pattern. I can’t just say to myself “be happy” and expect anything to change. But here’s what I can do, according to the research on the subject.
In general, the best thing I can do is something that shouldn’t be too surprising: exercise and eat healthy, nutritious foods. In the first part of the book, Mlodinow explored all the various ways in which the body’s “core affect” can influence emotion and decision making. A sedentary lifestyle with a poor diet creates a general negative feeling that is shown to amplify negative emotions. The act of exercising, eating well, and even meditating produces a positive core affect that will materialize in a greater overall mood. And so taking care of your body is the single best thing you can do—not only for your physical health—but for your mental health as well.
Other behaviors recommended by researchers in the field to enhance happiness include:
-Spending time with family and friends and generally prioritizing experiences over material possessions
-Expressing gratitude for everything you have
-Engaging in acts of kindness towards others
-Cultivating optimism and positivity
-Living in the present moment and savoring life’s simple pleasures
-Dedicating yourself to a lifelong goal or project
This is all good advice when things are going according to plan, but what do we do about life’s inevitable hardships and the associated emotions of fear, anxiety, sadness, depression, anger, envy, shame, guilt, etc.? Life is full of challenges, missed opportunities, disappointments, and pain. How do we deal with this without getting overwhelmed?
It’s useful to start with the general recognition that negative emotions, while unpleasant, ultimately evolved to help us recognize suboptimal conditions and to make the appropriate changes. Without negative emotions, you’d have little desire to change anything at all, so we can begin with a sense of gratitude for the emotional states that allow us to alter our behavior for the better.
Problems occur, however, when we let our negative emotions spin out of control, negatively impacting our lives or causing us to make poor decisions. Since we can’t avoid negative emotions, we shouldn’t try to fight, avoid, suppress, or dwell on them. Instead, we can use a few strategies to help us manage these negative emotions and even turn them into something positive. Mlodinow discusses three such strategies: acceptance, reappraisal, and expression.
Those familiar with Stoicism and Buddhism will recognize the first strategy—acceptance. Rather than fighting against our emotions, we simply accept them and the circumstances that produce them, while finding alternative emotions to combat them and to give us the motivation to persevere. By focusing only on what we can control—and accepting that which we can’t—we can direct our energy to dealing with any difficult situation we encounter.
This is how James Stockdale was able to endure more than seven years as a prisoner of war. In 1965, his plane was shot down over Vietnam, leading to his imprisonment and years of torture and solitary confinement. After Stockdale was released and returned to the US, he wrote a series of books and lectured on how Stoicism, particularly the philosophy of Epictetus, helped him to endure the horrors of imprisonment in a hostile, foreign country. Ultimately, Stockdale embraced the strategy of acceptance. In a 1993 speech, Stockdale described his thoughts after his plane was hit:
“After ejection … I whispered to myself: I’m leaving the world of technology and entering the world of Epictetus … as I ejected from that airplane was the understanding that a Stoic always kept separate files in his mind for (A) those things that are “up to him” and (B) those things that are “not up to him.” Another way of saying it is (A) those things that are “within his power” and (B) those things that are “beyond his power.” Still another way of saying it is (A) those things that are within the grasp of “his Will, his Free Will” and (B) those things that are beyond it. All in category B are “external,” beyond my control, ultimately dooming me to fear and anxiety if I covet them. All in category A are up to me, within my power, within my will, and properly subjects for my total concern and involvement. They include my opinions, my aims, my aversions, my own grief, my own joy, my judgments, my attitude about what is going on, my own good, and my own evil.”
Stockdale, like all practicing Stoics, learned to replace one emotion (desire for external things outside one’s control) with another (desire to work on one’s own character and virtue regardless of circumstances). In this view, Stoics do not suppress emotions—as is commonly perceived—but rather reappraise/substitute them. Stoics do not lack desire, they just channel desire inward.
Practicing acceptance does not mean that we’ll never experience pain; it only means that when we do, we can focus on reappraising it as a challenge to overcome, an opportunity to build character, or as a necessary path toward something better.
And this brings us to the second strategy discussed by Mlodinow—reappraisal. As mentioned previously, the best way to counteract a negative emotion is with a countervailing emotion. In the case of Stockdale, rather than succumbing to fear, anxiety, and depression, Stockdale used his study of Stoicism to reframe the situation as an opportunity to apply his training and develop his character in the context of a situation he had no control over.
If this can work for Stockdale in the context of years of torture and imprisonment, it can work for the rest of us, who, while facing our own unique hardships, will probably never have to endure such brutal conditions.
Reappraisal also works in a variety of situations. For example, we can take emotions like the fear of public speaking and reappraise them, converting the negative energy we feel into positive motivation to deliver an effective speech or presentation. We can’t help but feel the fear, but we can use it in a constructive way.
Over time, and as we face and conquer our negative emotions, we develop confidence and skill in our ability to do so, setting off a virtuous cycle. This can be aided by Mlodinow’s third strategy—expression. Essentially, this is positive self-talk and the cultivation of optimism. While it sounds a little far-fetched, there is actually plenty of research supporting the idea that confidence and the phenomenon of the self-fulfilling prophecy enhances performance. Positive expression is just one means towards greater confidence in your ability to handle adversity.
Overall, we can see that it is almost never advantageous to suppress emotions or to try to reason yourself out of negative ones. You either have to reappraise negative emotions into something constructive or else override one emotion with another. Stoicism is particularly attuned to this strategy, which accounts for its widespread appeal and revival in recent years. But you don’t have to be a Stoic to take advantage of this general advice.
A Better View of Emotions
Affective neuroscience, by giving us a more complete picture of our emotion as fully integrated with our cognition, shows us that emotion is not our enemy to be overcome by our rational faculties. Emotions are functional states, sources of information the brain needs to make decisions, guiding our behavior in the right direction. But that requires that we understand where our emotions come from, how they impact us, and how we can leverage them for our own benefit. In this regard, Mlodinow’s latest book gives us all the tools we need for one of the most critical life skills one can develop: emotional intelligence.