As a white female who grew up in Montana, I didn't think I would be able to relate much to this author of color, growing up in Dallas, in a much different family and social environment. I was wrong, and was so humbled by the parallels in this I was able to draw in my own life. I think trauma has a weird way of connecting people, raising a mirror to the bleakest parts of ourselves, and exposing the things we try to leave in the darkest recesses of our minds, while also humanizing our experiences and allowing us to justify and validate the way we harbor our trauma, especially when others don't feel our trauma responses are justified. This book did an amazing job of addressing painful topics of sexual assault, familial trauma, depression, anxiety, love, and loss of self. It gives a realistic look into the experiences children face that leave them in a perpetually turbulent state, constantly trying to find footing in a world where they feel isolated and as though they must bear these weights alone. It accurately depicts how trauma blurs your memories into one incomprehensible timeline of hurt, and chaos, and did this even happen?. It shows the blame that victims often place on themselves, and the generational pressure felt to conceal and deal with issues on one’s own. It shows the accrued weight of trying to carry burdens over years, and how the accumulation of all of those experiences are carried into adulthood - each contribution forming the people we are - the trust we’ve lost, the dependency on independence we form, the fear overshadowing hope, the haze we find ourselves in trying to survive in a never-ending state of fight, flight, or freeze. Amazing memoir, with an alarming, haunting, honest voice. Highly recommend. Kendra, if you happen to read this, thank you for being brave enough to share your story. You are an inspiration, you are resilient, you are worthy, and so strong. I truly hope you find the peace and happiness you deserve.