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The C Word (Confidence): Make friends with fear and build confidence from the ground up
Confidence is a skillset, not something you are born with. Learn how to build confidence in every aspect of your life by resident confidence coach of smash hit series Married At First Sight Australia and UK.
Confidence is a skillset. It can be learned.
If you think you weren't born with confidence, it's time for a reframe. Step beyond imposter syndrome, a crisis of self-belief or a deficit of bravery with this empowering and practical guide to making friends with your fear and building the skills of confidence in every aspect of your life.
Human behaviour and performance specialist Mel Schilling walks you step by step through taking control of your relationships, career and life, demonstrating that confidence, resilience and self-esteem are skillsets to be learned and are essential to helping you thrive. Building on the work she does to coach celebrities, world leaders and game changers, now anyone can learn the tools and skills to expand their comfort zone, to take calculated risks and to develop emotional bravery and fluid competence.
So if you're ready to move from barely functioning to absolutely flourishing, it's time to embrace The C Word.
Confidence is a skillset. It can be learned.
If you think you weren't born with confidence, it's time for a reframe. Step beyond imposter syndrome, a crisis of self-belief or a deficit of bravery with this empowering and practical guide to making friends with your fear and building the skills of confidence in every aspect of your life.
Human behaviour and performance specialist Mel Schilling walks you step by step through taking control of your relationships, career and life, demonstrating that confidence, resilience and self-esteem are skillsets to be learned and are essential to helping you thrive. Building on the work she does to coach celebrities, world leaders and game changers, now anyone can learn the tools and skills to expand their comfort zone, to take calculated risks and to develop emotional bravery and fluid competence.
So if you're ready to move from barely functioning to absolutely flourishing, it's time to embrace The C Word.
277 pages, Kindle Edition
Published August 30, 2022
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September 14, 2022
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I read The C-Word as part of a blog tour. To be honest, when the time came to pick up the book, I really wasn’t looking forward to it. I just felt I’d read too much non-fiction lately and my head just wasn’t in the right space for it. In the end, I very much ended up enjoying The C-Word.
Despite being adverse to the book at the start, I ended up taking a lot away from it. There were so many great journal prompts I’ve now written down to start working on. I especially enjoyed the focus on overcoming fear. It clicked with me right away. I didn’t realise that overcoming fear of change was a big blocker for me right now but as soon as the author laid it out, I knew what I had to do next.
Of course, with any self-help book, there will be some information you have heard before. However, the author does put her own slant on things as well and I found some of the new perspectives great. I’ll certainly be referring back to a lot of what she said in my coaching.
I read The C-Word as part of a blog tour. To be honest, when the time came to pick up the book, I really wasn’t looking forward to it. I just felt I’d read too much non-fiction lately and my head just wasn’t in the right space for it. In the end, I very much ended up enjoying The C-Word.
Despite being adverse to the book at the start, I ended up taking a lot away from it. There were so many great journal prompts I’ve now written down to start working on. I especially enjoyed the focus on overcoming fear. It clicked with me right away. I didn’t realise that overcoming fear of change was a big blocker for me right now but as soon as the author laid it out, I knew what I had to do next.
Of course, with any self-help book, there will be some information you have heard before. However, the author does put her own slant on things as well and I found some of the new perspectives great. I’ll certainly be referring back to a lot of what she said in my coaching.
September 1, 2022
The C Word (confidence) is a wonderful read. Broken down in ways that are easy to absorb and oh so relatable. You’ll see glimpses of yourself in the stories and examples, followed by inspired ideas of how to think slightly differently and allow yourself to grow.
I loved keeping the journal as I read. There are quick exercises within the chapter and taking part in them really opened up my mind to the ideas Mel was getting across.
Mel looks at fear, courage, confidence and competence. This is not one of those condescending self help books, it feels like a friendly chat with a friend.
I loved keeping the journal as I read. There are quick exercises within the chapter and taking part in them really opened up my mind to the ideas Mel was getting across.
Mel looks at fear, courage, confidence and competence. This is not one of those condescending self help books, it feels like a friendly chat with a friend.
September 29, 2022
I am always interested in books about gaining confidence and jumped at the chance to read this book.
It is divided into four section: Fear, Courage, Confidence and Competence. I really enjoyed the way that each chapter had a journaling opportunity.
This is a practical book that is easy to dip in and out of. It covers areas such as addressing fears, imposter syndrome and has an excellent chapter on ways to build confidence.
I personally found this a really helpful book and feel like I have learnt from it. My confidence has gone up and down over time. I have certainly improved in areas where I used to have fears, but there are other areas I would like to address. For example, I used to really dislike driving by myself whereas now I don’t think about it at all but it took me a long time to get that way.
It is divided into four section: Fear, Courage, Confidence and Competence. I really enjoyed the way that each chapter had a journaling opportunity.
This is a practical book that is easy to dip in and out of. It covers areas such as addressing fears, imposter syndrome and has an excellent chapter on ways to build confidence.
I personally found this a really helpful book and feel like I have learnt from it. My confidence has gone up and down over time. I have certainly improved in areas where I used to have fears, but there are other areas I would like to address. For example, I used to really dislike driving by myself whereas now I don’t think about it at all but it took me a long time to get that way.
October 1, 2022
This is such a fantastic book. I felt that being in the same age bracket as the author made it so much more relatable.
She’s funny, inspirational and insightful. She advises early on to grab a journal and she’s right. It helps to work your way through the book alongside journaling on exercises and thoughts as you go deeper into this book.
I’d highly recommend this to any woman who feels that their confidence has been and gone, or maybe not even been! There’s no harshness to her words, but there’s a reality and a feeling of having a friend next to you almost nudging you along. I know that I will also dip back into this book periodically.
With thanks to Anne Cater, the publisher and the author for the advanced reading copy of this book
She’s funny, inspirational and insightful. She advises early on to grab a journal and she’s right. It helps to work your way through the book alongside journaling on exercises and thoughts as you go deeper into this book.
I’d highly recommend this to any woman who feels that their confidence has been and gone, or maybe not even been! There’s no harshness to her words, but there’s a reality and a feeling of having a friend next to you almost nudging you along. I know that I will also dip back into this book periodically.
With thanks to Anne Cater, the publisher and the author for the advanced reading copy of this book
August 13, 2022
This book has a lot of tips, tricks and journal ideas to help conquer fear and things that put you off becoming a more confident YOU. This book feels personal to me as I have always had low self esteem and confidence and this book has helped me start to change how I think and feel about myself. Don't put myself down, I am good enough, I can do it, I am powerful enough. Affirmations are important just as much as not letting your fears control you, you need to control them. It will take a while to recondition my way of thinking but will be keeping this book to hand when the moments arise.
January 25, 2023
I first came across Mel in MAFS. She speaks a lot of sense and not scared to have an opinion. I had high hopes for this book.
Having taken time to take this book in it has taught me a lot. The book left me feeling really positive. I loved all the examples, relatable stories. It’s ok to say no to people and the talk about female cycles was so interesting.
Having taken time to take this book in it has taught me a lot. The book left me feeling really positive. I loved all the examples, relatable stories. It’s ok to say no to people and the talk about female cycles was so interesting.
December 11, 2024
3.5 stars.
Enjoyable and informative but took me a while to get through and not necessarily memorable. It’s a good book, just not an amazing one.
I’d recommend it to an avid self help reader who is adept at powering through
Enjoyable and informative but took me a while to get through and not necessarily memorable. It’s a good book, just not an amazing one.
I’d recommend it to an avid self help reader who is adept at powering through
August 7, 2022
I loved this, I thought it was a very helpful book to help build my confidence.
Thank you NetGalley for my complimentary copy in return for my honest review.
Thank you NetGalley for my complimentary copy in return for my honest review.
May 10, 2023
I've never watched MAFS or know of Mel. But having read through the book, it's clear Mel has gone on a real journey of self reflection and growth and knows what she is talking about when it comes to the age old issue that strikes many women across the world. Broken or lack of, confidence.
Broken down into manageable chapters and parts, starting with Fear Mastery. Leading on to Deep Confidence and ending with Fluid Competence. Mel goes into great detail about each subject. Providing her readers with quotes. Plenty of interactive and reflective exercises, and humanised the bulk of psychology involved in the book with personal insights and stories. Something I liked and resonated with.
It's a great book to dip in and out of when you need an all important rethink or boost, and the potential for self-reflection and growth is there if you're looking to make an all important change in your life.
A perfect book to grab a cuppa, snack, journal and pen and enjoy that all important thing we don't practice enough. Self care and "Me time".
Broken down into manageable chapters and parts, starting with Fear Mastery. Leading on to Deep Confidence and ending with Fluid Competence. Mel goes into great detail about each subject. Providing her readers with quotes. Plenty of interactive and reflective exercises, and humanised the bulk of psychology involved in the book with personal insights and stories. Something I liked and resonated with.
It's a great book to dip in and out of when you need an all important rethink or boost, and the potential for self-reflection and growth is there if you're looking to make an all important change in your life.
A perfect book to grab a cuppa, snack, journal and pen and enjoy that all important thing we don't practice enough. Self care and "Me time".
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