Čtyři tisíce týdnů: Time management pro smrtelníky

by Oliver Burkeman, Líba Mohelská (Translator), Ondřej Novák (Narrator)

„Čím produktivnější zvládnete být, tím hůř pro vás! Udělejte všechno, co po vás ostatní chtějí, a budou toho po vás chtít o to víc! Život ale naštěstí nemusí vypadat jako nekonečné čekání na vytoužený klid..“
Na světě pobudeme sotva čtyři tisíce týdnů. Musíme toho v nich stihnout spoustu a všechno naráz: Vyřešit další pohromu v práci. Najít si lepší práci. Užít si krátký čas s dětmi, a přitom toho kolem nich tolik obstarat. Pravidelně sportovat. Hodně číst. Chodit brzo spát... Říkáte si, že to prostě nejde zkombinovat? Máte pravdu!

Oliver Burkeman vás odnaučí vyhlížet vysněný dostatek času a ukáže vám, jak zažívat radost i ve dnech, kdy se na vás všechno sype. Jeho kniha je plná originálních postřehů z klasické literatury i psychologických výzkumů. A především ji napsal s pochopením pro smrtelníky, kteří se snaží smířit s tím, že nemůžou stihnout všechno.

V této audioknize se mimo jiné dozvíte:

Proč je zhoubné přemýšlet o čase jako o zdroji, který musíme využít naplno.
Že snaha o co nejvyšší efektivitu je zdrojem úzkostí, ne jejich řešením.
Jak a kdy pohnout s životními sny a plány, které kvůli povinnostem dokola odkládáte.
Které koníčky vám přinesou skutečný odpočinek a které jen další stresující seznamy úkolů.
Že není ostuda přiznat si porážku a některé věci prostě vzdát.
Jak někdy nedělat nic – a netrápit se kvůli tomu.

Audiokniha, 7 hodin 21 minut

Genres: Nonfiction, Self Help, Productivity, Philosophy, Audiobook, Psychology, Personal Development

Audiobook

First published August 10, 2021

Reviews

[Misha · Rating 5 out of 5]

A lovely and short book that I listened to the author read as an audiobook.

The last chapter and appendix contained some tips that I wanted to remember, so I wrote them down here. Some of it are quotations from other authors, but that wasn't as clear when listening. Sorry other authors!

5 Questions:

1. Choose uncomfortable enlargement over comfortable diminishment.

2. Are you holding yourself to or judging yourself by impossible standards? Drop them.

3. In what ways have you yet failed to accept the fact that you're who you are and not the person you think you ought to be? No one really cares what we're doing with our life. There's no need to justify your life.

4. In which areas of life are you still holding back until you feel like you know what you're doing? Everyone's just winging it, you might as well get on with it.

5. How would you spend your days differently if you didn't care so much about seeing your action reach fruition?

"One lives as one can. ... The individual path is the way you make for yourself, which is never prescribed, which you do not know in advance and which simply comes into being itself when you put one foot in front of the other. ... Quietly do the next and most necessary thing." - Carl Jung

Ten tools for embracing your finitude:

1. Adopt a fixed-volume approach to productivity. e.g. Keep two to-do lists one that contains everything you want to do, and a second which contains things you're actively working on, which should be limited to a small number of items (at most ten). Or, establish time limits for your daily work.

2. Serialize! Focus on one big project at a time and see it to completion before moving on.

3. Decide in advance what to fail at. Accept that you'll do a poor job at things which you aren't currently focusing on, and that should diminish the shame of failing.

4. Focus on what you've already completed, not just on what's left to complete. Celebrate your daily achievements, since you'll never finish everything that's left. Keep a "done" list of what you've completed in the day.

5. Consolidate your caring. There are lots of problems in the world, but you only have a finite amount of attention. Pick a few causes and work towards them.

6. Embrace boring and single-purpose technology. Make your devices as boring as possible: delete social-media apps and switch your devices to grayscale. Read on a kindle instead of your phone.

7. Seek out novelty in the mundane. Avoid routines when possible, walk a new way, etc. Experience each moment in greater detail, pay more attention.

8. Be a researcher in relationships. Adopt an attitude of curiosity in which your goal isn't to achieve any particular outcome or successfully explain your position, but "to figure out who this human being is." Curiosity is satisfied regardless of the outcome. Choose wonder over worry whenever you can.

9. Cultivate instantaneous generosity. Whenever a generous impulse arises in your mind, act on it right away. Don't wait until later when you can "do a better job."

10. Practice doing nothing. Stop trying to evade how reality feels, calm down and make better choices with your time.

[Ryan Boissonneault · Rating 5 out of 5]

First of all, this is probably not the book you think it is, and that’s a good thing. Rather than offering cheap “time hacks” to get more of the same bullshit done, this more philosophical work is based on two important but uncomfortable truths: (1) In the short 4,000 or so weeks you have to live, you will never be able to accomplish all the things you would like, and (2) even if you could, it wouldn’t matter in the end because, in the words of John Maynard Keynes, “In the long run we are all dead.”

This is not the most uplifting message you will ever read, but it is liberating and possibly even life-changing. When you stop trying to get an impossible amount of work done in pursuit of accomplishments that won’t really matter once you’re gone, you can start spending the short amount of time you do have pursuing things you enjoy for their own sake in the present moment.

However you decide to spend your life—and regardless of whatever fame or fortune (or not) it brings—it should be spent on things that have intrinsic value to you and not for the sake of some destination or outcome that you think will eventually make you happy. If you can’t find a way to be happy now, at this moment, you probably never will be, no matter how many to-do items you cross off your list.

One obvious criticism of this somewhat apathetic approach to time management is that, if nothing really matters in the end, there’s no longer any motivation to pursue worthwhile social initiatives. I think this could be a real challenge to Burkeman’s philosophy. Where would the civil rights movement be, for example, if someone like Martin Luther King Jr. said, “In the long run we are all dead”? Certainly it is the case that some people derive more joy and life satisfaction from pursuing projects that they do feel are worthwhile and that the outcome justifies the massive amount of work and unpleasantness required for its actualization. In situations like this, I’m not sure how well the ideas in this book will resonate.

There’s also a bit of repetition throughout the book as Burkeman repeats the main ideas I’ve described above, although he does also cover a lot of interesting philosophical ground. Overall, the book won’t be for everyone, especially for those who remain under the illusion that they will accomplish everything they want to if only they had better “time management skills.” But for those who get the main message—the idea that we should pursue the activities we intrinsically enjoy while accepting our finitude and committing to what’s most important (i.e., not material wealth or fame)—this may be one of the most enjoyable and potentially life-altering books they will read this year.

[David Pulliam · Rating 2 out of 5]

1. Could have been condensed into an article
2. Just read Ecclesiastes or a stoic and you’ll get the point
3. Had one good point: embrace what you’re doing and acknowledge that you won’t be able to do anything else in that moment.

[Liong · Rating 3 out of 5]

I like the title of this book, "Four Thousand Weeks". I learned a few things.

I realize that we probably have 4,000 weeks to leave in our life if we can live until age 80.

We must plan to live life to the fullest and enjoy each day.

Figure out how to spend balanced time with family, friends, at the office, and personally.

Nothing is perfect, but efficiency.

😍 Try not absent in the present. 😍

Sometimes, we practice doing nothing like meditation.

[SK · Rating 2 out of 5]

I identified with this author's addiction to productivity and appreciate his attempts to cultivate a more stoic attitude toward time. He wisely encourages us to embrace our finitude and to relinquish the complete control we think we have over our existence—and our to-do lists. All to the good. But I also found something deeply sad about this book, and I think it's that Burkeman can't seem to decide whether life is completely devoid of meaning or beautifully meaning-rich. Are the minutes, hours, and days of our lives totally pointless, or of the utmost importance? I think the answer to this question has huge implications for how we use our time, and yet this tension, which runs like a current throughout the entire book, is never really resolved.

Big takeaway point: We humans are pretty much destined to have a tricky relationship with time. I'm not sure this book makes that relationship any less tricky.

[Bella · Rating 5 out of 5]

"Live the questions now. Perhaps then, someday far in the future, you will gradually, without even noticing it, live your way into the answer".

[Lisa O · Rating 2 out of 5]

When I opened this book to begin reading, I wondered to myself, “Do I really need to read another book about time management?” I’ve already consumed vast amounts of information on the topic and there’s only so many ways you can manage a calendar. Turns out I didn’t have to answer this question, because this book isn’t really a book about time management advice in a traditional sense.

The overall premise is that life is finite and we’re never going to have enough time to do all the things we want to do. The author came to this realization while sitting on a park bench near his home in 2014, and it made him feel better and more in control. It appears that the idea really took hold of him, and this book seems to be his personal journey of processing this concept. The book is very much written from the author’s perspective and focuses on his relationship with the pressures of time. If you don’t share a similar background as a productivity geek or you’ve never felt much anxiety related to the passage of time, you might have a tough time with this book. Here’s a quick gauge to figure out where you land. The author points out in the first paragraph that the average human only has four thousand weeks on Earth. Therefore, only four thousand weeks of time to do anything. If hearing this immediately shakes you to your core or makes you feel queasy, you’re going to really relate to what the author is saying. If not, I suspect a lot of the examples and anecdotes are going to be lost on you.

Regardless of where I fall on the time anxiety spectrum, the fact that my enjoyment of this book seems to be really dependent on whether or not I think like the author makes this just an ok read for me based on my reading criteria. But my enjoyment was whittled away further because the book is kind of a mess. The whole book is written as a stream of consciousness that felt a bit like an existential crisis, with alternations between (a) life is too short so we just need to settle to have any chance of happiness, and (b) the world is full of hope and time can’t stand in our way. Not to mention it was just really really repetitive. You can really feel the author’s struggle with trying to make sense of his relationship with time, and the book made me feel like I was reading a personal journaling exercise at times. And in the end, it doesn’t seem like the author actually came up with a satisfactory solution to the dilemma of never having enough time, for himself or for the reader.


Next Big Idea Club Reading Selection - January 2022

[Janssen · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book literally blew my mind. I think I highlighted every single page.

[carol. · Rating 5 out of 5]

The premise is simple and straightforward: our lives are short--an average of four thousand weeks--and we need to understand we are always making choices, whether conscious or not. In the digital age, we have virtually expanded out of sync with our physical, mental and spiritual capabilities. We have to choose, and own our choices if we want to be satisfied with our lives. We cannot hack our way through managing our time.

"Our days are spent trying to 'get through' tasks, in order to get them 'out of the way,' with the result that we live mentally in the future, waiting for when we’ll finally get around to what really matters."

I'm terribly guilty of this sentiment, as well as the hack of getting rid of your 'easy' to-dos to build the feeling of success and gear one up towards managing the 'majors.' Alas; Burkeman catches me out; I rarely step toward the task of my major goals.

He has one interesting theory that the capitalistic-industrialist conceptualization of time is partially to blame. Time became an object to be used—and it’s this shift that serves as the precondition for all the uniquely modern ways in which we struggle with time today.

"Soon, your sense of self-worth gets completely bound up with how you’re using time: it stops being merely the water in which you swim and turns into something you feel you need to dominate or control, if you’re to avoid feeling guilty, panicked, or overwhelmed... the belief that if I could only find the right time management system, build the right habits, and apply sufficient self-discipline, I might actually be able to win the struggle with time, once and for all. "

He takes this a step further and notes a connection to identity in how we manage time:

"Moreover, most of us seek a specifically individualistic kind of mastery over time—our culture’s ideal is that you alone should control your schedule, doing whatever you prefer, whenever you want—because it’s scary to confront the truth that almost everything worth doing, from marriage and parenting to business or politics, depends on cooperating with others, and therefore on exposing yourself to the emotional uncertainties of relationships."

That's a big thought, with a lot of meat. I don't know about everything but certainly a lot depends on interaction and connection. I can only check off my task list in a satisfying way if they are tasks that don't require coordinating with others. And maybe that's why the 'big' tasks are big and take so long to get to--I have to rely others to be in the mood, or be available, or bring the resources, or whatever. It transitions from my to our task.

I am also very guilty--along with countless of my peers of the 'time management trick' of keeping my options open. In our effort to not limit choices, we commit to nothing. He has a few choice notes on this strategy I need to pay attention to, particularly when planning vacations:

"It also means resisting the seductive temptation to “keep your options open”—which is really just another way of trying to feel in control—in favor of deliberately making big, daunting, irreversible commitments, which you can’t know in advance will turn out for the best, but which reliably prove more fulfilling in the end.


The Efficiency Trap

The general principle in operation is one you might call the “efficiency trap.” Rendering yourself more efficient--either by implementing various productivity techniques or by driving yourself harder—won’t generally result in the feeling of having “enough time,” because, all else being equal, the demands will increase to offset any benefits.

You begin to grasp that when there’s too much to do, and there always will be, the only route to psychological freedom is to let go of the limit-denying fantasy of getting it all done and instead to focus on doing a few things that count.


I read this at the same time as Severance. I tell you, there's nothing more inspiring for a job search than that!

[Chrissy · Rating 3 out of 5]

Thought provoking perspective of time management, with a few nuggets of wisdom, surrounded by waffle. Pretty much the opposite of "get more done" and more about accepting you won't get to do everything. We all know 4000 weeks isn't long and time passes faster the older we get, so make your choices and embrace living in the moment.

[Lois Bujold · Rating 4 out of 5]

Well, hm. Possibly should get one more star, it will depend on the reader and their position in the timeline of their life at the moment.

Anyone who thinks very much or deeply about the exact nature of time will find a lot of their certainties coming unmoored, an effect that goes back at least to St. Augustine and doubtless longer. Burkeman explores this, discursively and amusingly. A lot of what he discovers are things I've figured out for myself, by age 73, including the value of learning how to say no and finding the off-switch, but there were still quite a few things, people, and quotes I hadn't encountered previously. An excellent antidote for folks who have read too many time-management books, or are otherwise being driven nuts by the insane demands of modernity, as Burkeman shares.

Someone I once knew asserted that the verb "is" is a pernicious lie; we, and the world and people around us, are never static, but always moving, changing, and flowing with time, so only gerunds accurately describe reality; only being never are. Burkeman finds this from another angle, as travelers from many directions will always find the same mountain.

Ta, L.

[Renata · Rating 1 out of 5]

I started this book and I was so motivated, the first..20 pages(?) were so good and I enjoyed them a lot. But after it…honestly it was like listening to men talk about why you should invest into crypto over and over again. Too many studies, too many stories, too many issues that I was thinking if this is a time management book then why do I feel like I’m wasting all my time??
Maybe it’s because I’m also on my exam weeks and I needed something more chill but this literally exhausted me.

[Andre · Rating 2 out of 5]

Some interesting thoughts, but the author repeats his main point over and over and over again which becomes tiring very fast.

[Thomas · Rating 4 out of 5]

Solid four-star book that applies acceptance and mindfulness principles to time management. I liked how Oliver Burkeman confronts death and mortality and asks us to reckon with how little time we actually have on this earth. There’s helpful practical advice within this philosophical framework of acknowledging our limited time for what it is. Even though I consider myself someone with pretty great time management and as someone who already uses several of these strategies (e.g., making a to-do list and recognizing from the start what may or may not be able to get done, honoring what one has been able to do), I still gained some useful tidbits from reading this book (e.g., allowing yourself to anticipate failure in a domain or two to alleviate perfectionism/anticipatory stress).

A couple of critiques that almost made me rate this book lower than four stars. One, I felt that Burkeman draws heavily on mindfulness principles with origins from Eastern spiritual practices but doesn’t give credit to those practices/ideas. Second, there were times where he would try to apply some of his advice to areas that I didn’t think he had the expertise to comment on. Like he started writing about marriage and did so in a super monogamy-oriented/heteronormative way, and his analysis of “settling” in relationships lacked any nuance related to gender dynamics and socialization, how patriarchy shapes engagement in relationships, etc. I’ll still give this book four stars based on the quality parts though it could have been streamlined and more incisive.

[David · Rating 4 out of 5]

Abandon hope all ye who enter here.

Hope is a curse. It's putting your faith in something outside yourself, beyond the current moment. It's that future state where your inbox is empty, your tasks well and tightly under control and your time, at last, your own to fully direct towards what gives you joy.

For the productivity minded among us, we live in a perpetual state of hope, inhabiting an imagined future where our lives are well and truly ordered and organized. We need to give up hope and simply do the work. The Germans have a word for it, Eigenzeit, the time integral to a process itself. If a thing's worth doing, it takes as long as it takes.

Aside from the Appendix at the end of the book that includes a list of 10 tools for "embracing your finitude" - tacked on as if to meet some self-help, productivity book criteria, this is more an entertaining philosophical treatise than time management system.

"Work expands so as to fill the time available for its completion." Becoming more efficient only brings about more work. Your immediate email responses in the hopes of reaching inbox zero only invite further emails. Your FOMO is forgetting that your entire life consists of things you are choosing to neglect. The real measure of any time management technique, according to Burkeman, is whether or not it helps you neglect the right things.

So embrace the limits of your life. Choose to fail at things. Limit technology in favour of savouring the mundane and get good at doing nothing.

[Toby · Rating 1 out of 5]

Repetitive and banal self-help content. “Our time is limited, accept that” is the repeated refrain. This should have been a blog post. I finished the book with hope that it would turn around, but ultimately did it so my review would be fair. My strong recommendation is to avoid this book completely and read some classics instead: Epictetus, Marcus Aurelius, etc.

The voice is like a generic TedX talk. The author sets up exaggerated straw men to make points seem more punchy. For example, he claims people see time like a resource but it isn’t actually a resource like money, because time isn’t really yours. It could be taken if your boss calls you in for an urgent meeting, or you die. Well, your money could be stolen or lost in a bad investment. How is time as a resource really different from money as a resource if nothing is certain?

If you plan too much, you’re wrong because planning doesn’t create certainty. (Who actually thinks plans convey complete certainty? They help define you a path, and often they work. Sometimes they don’t.) Then in the next breath, if you don’t plan you’re also wrong. It feels like the “gate keeping” subreddit. Perhaps saying “find some balance between planning for the future and appreciating the present” is not edgy enough to sell a book?

Cynical take that Richard Brandon has a kite surfing hobby because it helps his brand as a daredevil. What if the guy just likes kitesurfing? It’s a fun sport!

It feels like the author wrote this to work through some personal issues, and maybe that will help people in a similar place. To experience the northern lights so impressive that the locals commented on it, and to only feel “looks like a screensaver” is so deeply sad.

This book really did not land for me.

[Matthew · Rating 5 out of 5]

Thanks to Farrar, Straus and Giroux and NetGalley for an advance copy of this book. I loved it so much I have bought a copy, and plan to give more as gifts!

I’ve been a fan of Burkeman’s since his first book, The Antidote, which is a long-time favorite of mine. I loved the way Burkeman reviewed positive psychology through a skeptical lens, and somehow came out with perhaps the most useful, meaningful self-help book I’ve read yet. (I genuinely still think about that book, almost a decade later). When I learned that he had written a book about productivity, I could not wait to read it, and was so delighted to receive an early copy.

Well, it’s simply the best nonfiction book I’ve read in years. It’s provocative, entertaining, and genuinely useful. The ideas in this book will improve your life, and even if you read a fair amount of self-help and productivity, I doubt you’ve heard them before.

There are a lot of mind-expanding insights here, but the key one is that to be a productivity nerd is to feel existential anxiety. The premise of the productivity genre is that if we can just get our lives ever-more optimized, we need never face the reality that we can’t, in fact, do everything that we care about. Burkeman says we have to start by admitting defeat: our time is limited, and the future we imagine when we’ve become our most self-actualized, accomplished selves, with inboxes empty and goals achieved, is a fun-house mirror that keeps us separate from our real lives.

I don’t want to spoil too much of this book in advance, because it’s an absolute joy to read: Burkeman’s writing crackles, he has such big and original ideas, he illustrates those ideas with lively and unfamiliar examples (did you know that the Soviets experimented for decades with their own work week?! Do you know why it failed??), and he’s just so damned humane. He balances his counterintuitive ideas with practical, actionable advice, which, I can say with confidence, have already improved my productivity and mental health way more than a pomodoro timer ever did.

If you’re interested but not ready to commit, (or if like me you’re a devoted fan of Burkeman’s already!), I highly recommend Burkeman’s twice-a-month newsletter, the Imperfectionist, which you can find on his website oliverburkeman.com.

[Caroline · Rating 5 out of 5]

Conventional time-management books and articles tend to offer the same clichéd, minimally helpful tips. The cover design and subtitle seriously mis-market Four Thousand Weeks, making it look like one of those conventional sources when it’s a far cry from them. Oliver Burkeman didn’t merely write on this topic; he investigated it by drilling down to the core. During his extensive exploration he hit upon valuable answers to perplexing “why” questions: Why do we procrastinate? Why do we feel we never have enough time? Why do we expect everything to happen as quickly and as conveniently as possible? Why do we get cranky when unpredictable life upends our expectations and careful planning? This is a thinker book, as Burkeman accessibly integrated concepts from different areas of study and thought, such as psychology and philosophy.

The book’s title is meant to startle: If you’re lucky enough to live to age eighty, you’ll be four thousand weeks old. Calculating age in weeks may make us feel a little ill, but it also offers instant perspective. It’s the book’s first of many necessary perspective shifts.

The psychological connection between complicated feelings about our own mortality and our determination to bend time to our will is a running theme of Four Thousand Weeks, and Burkeman helpfully centered his own relationship with time management. He’s an ordinary man with plenty of mundane struggles, and that personalization allows readers to see exactly how they can apply the book’s lessons to their own mundane lives. He also shared his mistakes and stubbornness with a humility that makes him instantly likable. Early on he says he wrote Four Thousand Weeks as much for himself as he did for others. When he slips into previous stressful ways of thinking about the passage of time, he has to remind himself of the answers to the big “why” questions.

Four Thousand Weeks imparts peace. Getting to inner peace, though, requires surrendering a need to control our time and a belief that, if we simply organize our lives for peak efficiency, we’ll achieve all we want to achieve. Richard Carlson touches upon a similar calming point in his under-read Don't Sweat the Small Stuff ... and It's All Small Stuff: Simple Ways to Keep the Little Things From Taking Over Your Life: One of that book’s chapters asks readers to accept that their “inbox will never be empty.” Interestingly, embracing that truth leads not to anxiety or sadness but immediate inner peace.

Four Thousand Weeks flips conventional time-management advice on its head to be an eye-opening read. As for those “clichéd tips” (including the [always only aspirational] advice to “live in the present”), the book’s dismantling of them makes clear that they’re only bandage solutions, which is why they don’t work in the long-term, or even, for many people, in the short-term. It really is the “last book you’ll ever need” on this topic, because the others approach the idea of time management from a fundamentally flawed angle: that we can whip into obedience this thing that is by its nature unable to be whipped into obedience.

What’s strange is that the truths Burkeman wrote about are equally enlightening and obvious. He makes sense immediately because deep inside we do know these things; it’s just that we’ve suppressed the knowledge for various reasons. Four Thousand Weeks jostles readers awake.

[not my high · Rating 5 out of 5]

Potrzebowałam tej książki. Żałuję, że nie mam własnego egzemplarza do zaznaczania cytatów.

[Alicia Bayer · Rating 5 out of 5]

I am one of those people who constantly tries to manage my time better. I love lists, apps, charts and books that promise to help me become the kind of person who accomplishes far more. I constantly beat myself up for not doing more of the stuff other people get done. My house is never tidy, I have never stuck to any kind of exercise routine, our homeschooling has always been one part magic and two parts mayhem, our living room wall has been half painted for years, and I am quite likely to be found in the bathtub reading in the middle of the day instead of finally catching up on the piles of laundry for our large family. Right now I should be finishing the rough draft for a book I got a grant to write and instead I am here on Goodreads. So this book was right up my alley.

It turns out I'm doing a lot more right than I ever realized and I don't really want to change anymore. I've learned that there is not enough time for a fraction of the stuff I could ever do and that's okay. I've come to realize that I really like my life and I am getting done all the things that really matter to me (time with my family, foraging, canning, cooking, teaching my kids, writing books, reading books, helping people, playing, spending time with awesome people, putting out a free monthly nature magazine for kids, starting a community arts center in a 120-year-old church we bought...). It's okay that the house is probably always going to be messy and that I will probably always exercise, homeschool, clean, garden and live in great bursts and long pauses. I don't need lists or apps or ways to squeeze productivity out of every minute of my day.

Don't worry - the book does still offer some really good advice about "time management" and how to work with the time you've got. It may not be what you're expecting, but it's all really good stuff. Each chapter expands on another really insightful concept about time and the ridiculous notion of managing it, in addition to the stuff that really doesn't work like multi-tasking. It offers really good suggestions and insights, and it's just plain good reading.

I read over 300 books in an average year and there are always just a handful that are my favorites. This is definitely one of my favorites for 2021. I loved, loved, loved it.

I read a digital ARC of this book via NetGalley.

[Bkwmlee · Rating 3 out of 5]

3.5 stars

I’m picky when it comes to reading “self-help” books, mainly because I feel that, implicit in most books in this category, the main goal is to tell the reader what to do (or not do to) with their lives. Of course, in and of itself, there’s nothing wrong with this, but for me, it’s all about the tone and approach — I hate the feeling of something being crammed down my throat (I don’t care if it’s something good or bad for me), which is why I can’t stand books that are “overly preachy” in any way. This is also why I’m extremely wary when it comes to reading nonfiction books (that aren’t biographies or memoirs), as the tone and approach can very easily derail an otherwise good reading experience for me.

I say all this because my initial expectation going into Oliver Burkeman’s time management book Four Thousand Weeks was that it would presumably fall into the above-mentioned category, mainly because most books on time management that I’ve read over the years are written from a business angle and usually promote the idea of being “as productive and efficient” as possible at work. To my great surprise however, this book actually went the completely opposite direction — instead of encouraging people to “make more time in order to get more done” (the message I hear over and over again in most business books), this book embraces the concept that time is finite, humans are only on this earth for a certain amount of time (Burkeman uses “four thousand weeks” as a gauge) and because of that, we should face the fact that it’s realistically impossible to get everything we want to do done. Expanding on this idea, instead of obsessing over how much time it will take to do something or worrying about not having enough time to accomplish what you set out to accomplish (whether it’s a small task at work or a life goal), Burkeman advocates making the conscious (and often difficult) decision to do what matters most in that moment and accept the consequences of that decision, whether good or bad.

Many of the examples Burkeman gave were relevant to what I often struggle with, which I definitely appreciated. One personal example that especially resonated with me: I’ve always referred to myself as an “aspiring author” because my dream is to write and publish a book at some point, but given my chaotic and busy work + family life, I’ve been putting off starting that book I’ve always wanted to write until a “more opportune time” when work is less busy and family life is less chaotic (which to me, pretty much means when I reach retirement at work and my family is self-sufficient enough where I don’t have to worry about making sure their lives are comfortable). This book posits the idea that the “most opportune time” might never come, which is something I honestly never thought about until now. It makes sense though — for me, work will always be busy (especially in my field of work — which I will loosely define as “trade and commerce”…unless the world suddenly comes to a halt and stops functioning, which we of course know will never happen, I will always have an infinite amount of things to do at work) and when it comes to family life, the reality is that it will always be filled with one crisis or another (since that’s how life works) — so why not accept the fact that work and life will occur the way it does and instead of trying to “control” time (by assuming that work and family will fall into place to the point that the “most opportune time” will come for me to start my book project), just make the decision to start writing a little bit each day and go from there.

Much of Burkeman’s advice in this book actually runs counter to traditional time management advice (which focuses a lot on productivity and efficiency) that we often find in most business books. Not only that, I like how his book doesn’t just focus on work — much of what he writes about can be applied to personal life as well, which also makes it stand out from said books.

With that said, structure-wise, there were actually quite a few flaws in this book, which is what prevented me from being able to rate it higher than I did, despite finding some of the concepts personally resonant. At times, I felt like Burkeman was all over the place with his ideas, and there were moments where he seemed to contradict himself — or perhaps these moments were just him, as a former “productivity guru”, trying to work out his own changed philosophy toward time management on the page. And I also agree with what a few other reviewers pointed out — that there is a fair amount of repetition in the book, which made the reading a bit tedious at times.

Overall, despite not being perfect by any means, this was a good book with quite a bit of food for thought as well as many examples that I felt could be applicable to my life. While I didn’t necessarily agree with every concept presented in this book — and admittedly, there were moments where I felt that Burkeman got a bit too philosophical, almost to the point of losing me in the process — I did appreciate the different angle to time management that he explored.

This book will mean different things to different people, which is reflected in the wide spectrum of ratings for it on Goodreads (I saw one star to five stars and everything in between). I decided to go the “happy medium” route, which I feel is most appropriate for my experience with this book. If you choose to read this one, know that your experience may be vastly different from mine and that’s perfectly okay — if you are able to glean at least one resonant concept from this book like I did, then it will be time well-spent reading it.

[Cindy Pham]

listened to the audiobook to pass the time. wanted to be more productive but it ended up being more philosophical and historical than helpful.

[lexi (aka newlynova) · Rating 4 out of 5]

there’s a line in this book about the millennial generation (and, it implies, gen z)—that we are a group raised more than any generation past to achieve, succeed, and use our time well to maximize our impact on the world.

i’m a junior in college, juggling a laundry list of typical achievements for an intelligent student my age. i recently confided to one of my professors that i felt i was missing out on “the college experience” due to my never-ending workload. i told her i was constantly anxious that i wouldn’t make anything out of my future, scared that all that i’d done to this point would be for nothing, and angry with myself for wasting time. i felt like this wasn’t what life should be about at 21. she recommended i read this book.

this isn’t, surprisingly, a self-help book. instead, it’s a pretty exhaustive defense of mindfulness, doing less, and accepting the limitations of a life that, at best, only gives you four thousand weeks. hustle culture is real, and it’s easy to feel bad for the hour it takes to cook an actual meal with real vegetables, or for the three hours of mindless reality TV you use to reset your brain, or for a long walk you take having forgotten headphones, with no way to make better use of your time than being present, looking around, and exploring.

oliver burkeman says to live life intentionally, relish these moments, and acknowledge their importance beyond our never-ending list of Things to Do—and he’s right. i knew he was right before reading this, and surely i will forget again. but the case he makes is unique enough to be memorable and important; it cites religion and philosophy and modern writers and thinkers, and it’s written by somebody funny and clever who has been here, with you, in this toxic, productive, stressful space.

we only have so much time. it’s true: there is no reason to spend it doing anything but what matters most to us and the people we care about. this was a unique take on this familiar idea. recommended if you’re like me, or like me but with kids (terrifying), or like me but younger and having wasted fewer of your four thousand weeks on things that aren’t really meaningful.

4 stars.

[Rachel Grey · Rating 5 out of 5]

I read this last week and have already given it as a gift once, it's that good. I very much enjoyed the notion that since there are more A-list, important, meaningful, top-rated things that we might like to do than we ever can -- since our problem is not finding the needle in a haystack but of having a haystack's worth of needles -- we will simply never do everything worthwhile, and might as well give up on FOMO and focus on what we can do.

For those who'd rather skip the philosophy and get to the practical suggestions at the back of the book, here they are:

1. Adopt a "fixed volume" approach to productivity by keeping two to-do lists, one open-ended/infinite and one limited to a fixed number of entries, ten at most. (I do this. I use six.) You can't add a new task to the fixed list until one is completed. A complementary strategy is to establish predetermined time boundaries for your daily work.
2. Serialize. Focus on one big project at a time or, at most, one work project and one nonwork project.
3. Decide in advance what to fail at. Strategic underachievement is okay on a cyclical basis, like if you decide to do the bare minimum at work for the next month in order to focus on a temporary crisis. This replaces the constant pressure to find "balance" with a conscious, managed imbalance that may be more sustainable.
4. Focus on what you've already completed, not just what is left to complete. Keep a "to-done list".
5. Consolidate your caring. Consciously pick your battles in charity, activism and politics. Lots of things may matter but, to make a difference, you must focus your finite capacity for care.
6. Embrace boring, single-purpose technology (like e-ink readers for reading) to help resist distraction. Also switch your phone from color to grayscale to reduce distraction and attention-grabbiness.
7. Seek out novelty in the mundane. Pay more attention to every moment, rather than constantly seeking out novelty and adventure, to make life richer and form more memories without existential overwhelm.
8. Be a "researcher" in relationships. Stay curious. "Curiosity is a stance well-suited to the inherent unpredictability of life with others, because it can be satisfied by their behaving in ways you like or dislike"... true enough!
9. Cultivate instantaneous generosity. If a generous impulse arises in your mind, act on it right away instead of waiting to try to make it perfect. (This one is from meditation teacher Joseph Goldstein.)
10. Practice doing nothing. Meditate. Try to resist the pressure to constantly do things.

[Fin Moorhouse · Rating 3 out of 5]

Some sections were 5 stars, others 2. There is at the heart of the book a terrible and important point: that you don't have so long to live, that you will only achieve a small fraction of the things you want to achieve, that you are likely living as if this isn't true. And the rest of the book is studded with similarly big and uncomfortable truths.

The mess we're in, Burkeman tells us, stems from things like commodification and late capitalism. It's the same somewhat fuzzy complex that absorbs blame for so many other problems of the day. Some of this diagnosing our mistakes in terms of big narratives about capitalism etc. strayed into 'not even wrong' territory for me — trite, unilluminating, though not obviously false.

The prescription is surprising, and it's not clear to me that it follows from the big point about finitude at the start of the book. It's a kind of resignation: if we're not going to achieve everything on out bucket lists, why rush at all? Settle down, embrace your limits, and go on lots of long walks instead of charging through your interminable todo list. And don't worry about how much you manage to achieve in your life in some absolute sense, since it's all washed away anyway in the fullness of time anyway.

Some of this was welcome, but the big finitude thing makes me think something very different. For Burkeman, work is either an unfortunate necessity, or at best a way to move up in the world. He doesn't take seriously how work can achieve things, and some of those things can be extraordinarily worthwhile for other people too. If you are lucky enough to be doing this kind of work, then why not figure out how to get more done?

With this perspective, the finitude thing made me think something like: clearly lots of things are very important, but I only have a few thousand weeks to do anything about them. If I focused on only a few things, I could help make a large and worthwhile difference — but only if I ruthlessly prioritise (i) which things are most important to do, and (ii) how I can spend my time on them. And then, every now and then, it might be appropriate to feel a sense of quite profound urgency about achieving the most important or wothwhile things I can achieve, before the clock runs out. Since you can't do everything, Burkeman tells us to chill out. But why not the opposite?

[E · Rating 4 out of 5]

"The average human lifespan is absurdly, insultingly brief. Assuming you live to be eighty, you have just over four thousand weeks. "

This book was quite an eye opener. How much time do we waste? How many silly distractions? How much time wasted worrying about things that do not happen?

It made me remember a line from a song Freddie Mercury sang called "Who wants to live forever."
The line was:

"This world has only one sweet moment set aside for us."

The book has humor, good advice, and a push for some self reflection.

A good read for me.

[Настасія Євдокимова · Rating 5 out of 5]

Прослухала аудіокнижку і відчуваю, що зробила важливу справу для себе у цей гіперперевантажений періаод. І водночас відчуваю вагу величезної брили суму, яку ця книжка поклала мені на плечі. Маю численні виписані тези, про які хочеться міркувати та які хочеться обговорювати з іншими. Ця книжка мала б заспокоїти: ми живемо лише 4000 тижнів (у середньому, але не завжди і не всі), ми не встигнемо все, бо це неможливо, ми маленькі піщинки у буревії планети. Але насправді остання думка мене страшенно засмутила, бо ми ж дійсно неважливі, за чим ми тоді женемося і чому перенапружуємося? Автор каже, що коли усвідомлюєш свою незначущість (у масштабах часу/історіі/всесвіту), то стає легше, а мені навпаки стало невимовно сумно. 



Кілька тез, які хочу забрати з собою: 

— дух нашої епохи — безрадісна метушня;


— спроби опанувати час марні, бо закінчуються тим, що час опановує нас; 


— «ви намагаєтеся поглинути запропонований досвід, щоб відчувати себе живим, але його меню нескінченно довге», тому ми постійно мусимо робити вибір (безкінечну кількість виборів: що їсти, що слухати, що дивитися або читати, ми не можемо зробити все й пізнати все, мусимо обирати); наприклад, я багато міркую про читацьку стратегію, адже ми не можемо читати все й прочитати все, а тому, якщо знаємо, які теми/автори/ жанри нам цікаві, у які світи однозначно хотіли б зануритися, то нам зрозуміліше як обирати й що читати, тому оця можливість «зробити вибір» — надає нашим рішенням більшої ваги;

— у Стівена й Шона Кові є суперхіт про звички високоефективних людей (я навіть колись проходила кількаденний тренінг, де ми опановували його «методику», тож розбудіть мене серед ночі й я покажу вам, як заточувати власну пилку) й одна із звичок про те, що спершу варто робити першочергове, а саме, щоб заповнити банку великими каменюками, маленькими камінчиками й піском, треба вкладати їх у певній послідовності, так, найбільші камені — перші. Й Олівер Беркмен ставить запитання: а що робити коли майже все здається важливим? І віразу дає відповідь: памʼятати, що все, що ми робимо, вірогідно, робимо востаннє. Тобто ми не маємо гарантій і не знаємо напевне, коли закінчиться наше життя чи коли щось справді відбудеться востаннє, а тому потрібно цінувати кожну мить і розставляти пріоритети;

— «життя так часто нагадує завал, який треба розгребти», а час — це той інструмент, який допомагає із розгрібанням;
— нам потрібні обмеження, щоб примусити себе відпочивати (ха-ха);
— я знаю про себе таку річ: я неймовірно вимоглива і до себе, і до інших, зі мною дуже складно, я завжди не задоволена, бо завжди знаю, де і як можна зробити більше й краще; автор книжки запитує про те, коли ми вистаннє відповідали власним стандартам і чи досягали колись цих стандартів?

— не ставитися до життя як до генеральної репетиції чогось, що от-от настане, бо воно уже настало (сум сумний);

— автор запитує: як би змінилося ваше життя, якби ви не дбали стільки про те, щоб воно давало плоди? І я знаю напевне, що для мене, наприклад, такої відповіді не існує, бо я продукто орієнтована людина, мені важливий результат, початок і завершення, зрозуміла дистанція;


— одна із націнніших прикінцевих порад: визначте заздалегідь, де зазнаєте невдачі, адже неможливо бути і шевцем, і жнецем, і на дуді гравцем, якісь сфери страждатимуть, якісь кахлі залишатимуться не вимитими, а книжки не прочитаними, головне — вчасно зрозуміти, що ви не тягнете й не намагатись це тягнути.

[Mayar Mahdy · Rating 3 out of 5]

Existentialism with a dash of self-help.

It didn't work. I'm not inclined at all to do anything after someone tells me: "Your life is meaningless, there's no actual need to do anything"

I know it is. We all know it is. Doing something = not doing anything. That's why we do stuff.

I can't stuff meaningful experiences into my life because their meaninglessness comes from the fact that they'll be meaningful one time -not the first time specifically but only once.

I think we should try to cram as much as we can of life in our time. Doing 70% of something is better than not doing anything because our lives are essentially meaningless and nothing really matters.

They are meaningless and nothing really matters, but why not do anything? What difference does it make?

[Ayda · Rating 5 out of 5]

کتاب چهارهزار هفته
نوشته‌ی الیور برکمن
ترجمه‌ی کیمیا فضایی
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کتاب چهارهزار هفته با یک تیتر همراه شده:
مدیریت زمان برای میراها
با این‌‌تفاوت که این کتاب درباره‌ی مدیریت زمان نیست!
کتاب بر اساس گفته‌ی هایدگر آغاز می‌شود که "شما خود زمان هستید" و طبق یک حساب سرانگشتی به طور میانگین چهارهزار هفته برای زندگی کردن داریم. کتاب بیان می‌کند که احتمال رسیدگی به تمامی کارهایی که می‌خواهیم انجام دهیم، مسلما وجود ندارد و این تصور _که کتاب‌های انگیزشس در ما ایجاد می‌کنند_ که با برنامه‌ریزی می‌شود کارهای مختلف بسیاری انجام داد و در نهایت روزی به یک زندگی ایده‌آل و بی‌نقص برسیم، اساسا لغو شده است.
و این ایده‌های کمال‌گرایانه نشات گرفته از تصور این است که ما می‌توانیم زمان را کنترل کنیم و زمان را چیزی مجزا از خود می‌پنداریم در حالی که...ما خود زمان هستیم و این زمان، زمان حال است. محدود است و نهایتا ما نیز انسان‌های محدودی هستیم.
کتاب اشاره می‌کند که بعد از انقلاب صنعتی، نگاه ما به زمان تا چه میزان ابزاری شده و به تفصیل به کمال‌گرایی‌ای می‌پردازه که نگاه ابزاری به زمان برای ما ایجاد می‌کند.
و در اواخر، نویسنده راهی باز می‌کند برای اینکه زمان ابزاری شده‌ی ما که صرفا هدف گراست، دارای عمق بیشتری شود و در کنار ایده‌ی رایج زندگی برای کار کردن و هدف‌گرایی، ایده‌ی دیگری مطرح می‌کند به نام زندگی و کار برای تفریح و بیان می‌کند که اگر ما از تمامی بخش‌های زندگی انتظار نتیجه‌بخشی داشته باشیم، در نهایت از زندگی لذت نخواهیم برد چراکه نتایج در آینده هستند و شاید هیچ‌گاه به آن‌ها دست پیدا نکنیم.
برای همین، مهم است که کنار کار و پروژه و هدف‌گذاری‌های رایج، فعالیت‌هایی برای بدون نتیجه بودن باید وجود داشته باشند که این حس واقعی بودن و حضور در زمان حال را به فرد القا کرده و به زمان عمق دهند. مانند یک پیاده‌روی ساده‌ی بدون هدف.
کتاب به مباحث و مشکلات انسان در خصوص زمان و تلاش بی‌نتیجه‌اش برای مدیریت آن می‌پردازد و خواندنش میان تمام این محتوای انگیزشی‌ و تصور باطل تسلط بر زمان که از رسانه‌های مختلف به ما القا می‌شود، پنجره‌ی جدیدی را باز می‌کند به روی واقعیت‌های موجود.

[Diane (I'm moving! And behind! BRB ASAP) · Rating 4 out of 5]

So I finished this book 15 days ago and haven't managed to make the time to write the review until now. As a matter of fact, the entire month of January flew by and I fell behind in everything from housecleaning to reading. Those facts make me second guess the effectiveness of this time management book I just rated 4 stars and am about to review. Reading this book hardly had a practical or positive effect on the way I managed my time so far this year. So, why the 4 stars?

It's hard to explain but I'm going to give it a whirl. For me, the biggest takeaway from "Four Thousand Weeks" is the understanding that I am going to die and many things I want to do will be left undone. I don't mean to imply I thought myself an immortal before reading this book- I mean that for all intents and purposes I was living my life like I have all the time in the world. For example I want to spend more time outdoors. But not *now*. Maybe in the spring... or better yet, summer. If not, then definitely in the autumn. And this book really made me get it- that I don't have forever. And once we understand we really don't have time for everything, prioritizing needs to begin (and that, for me, carried with it the fun bonus of existential crisis. Who am I? Who do I want to be? What is most important to me? What will I regret not doing if I run out of time?)

I was always a "save the best for last" kind of person. I *LOVE* the feeling of anticipation. As a kid, Christmas Eve and the thrill of possibilities was always better than the reality of Christmas. The coconut or strawberry filled candy is my favorite and so it's the last one out of a box of chocolates that I eat. This is the exact opposite of what Burkeman advises. According to him, I'm "spending too much time on all the wrong things" and he is absolutely right. I am also a major procrastinator- bigger projects get pushed down the road- and unfortunately some of the things that are most important to me fit into that category and are set aside for another day/ month/ year when "things calm down" and I can focus on them. Which never happens.

He also had good advice regarding making conscious choices. He pointed out that making choices about how we spend our time is so hard because when we choose to do one thing, we are also choosing NOT to do something else. This seems obvious, but wasn't something I really thought about. For example: Choosing to spend 2 hours a day reading means that I am choosing *not* to spend those 2 hours of my day learning yoga. Or mountain climbing. Or painting. Or working overtime. Or playing with a grandchild. Every moment we allocate for one activity is taken away from a different activity. He advocates making these choices intentionally and deliberately so that the way we spend our time reflects the person we are and want to be. The more you need this sort of direction and the more open you are to really engaging with these ideas, the more useful this book will be for you.

The book had more advice than that of course and I took lots of notes. However, those were the things that stayed with me in a way that I don't need to look at my notes. The things that resonated with me so much that they became part of how I'm shaping my days and spending my limited time. In the short term, this has meant I am getting less accomplished as I find new ways to structure my day and rethink some of my most ingrained habits (I hadn't realized how much time I lost on FB and Reddit!). YMMV, but I think this book will be most useful to anyone who wrestles with distractions and procrastination as well as anyone who wants to explore conscious/ intentional living and decision making.