This is a book that will stay with me for a while. It's shattering, both due to the heavy subject matter and the perspective, so there's no way to respond objectively to the story. I chose this book both for its familiarity (I lived in Atlanta for four years) and for the challenge (my white suburban upbringing differed drastically from the childhoods of the main characters).
Tayari Jones has crafted a story that is both easily accessible and starkly honest, which she does brilliantly by inhabiting the mind of a child (three, actually). The children in her story experience the joy of new clothes, the comfort of maternal embraces, the thrill of rule-breaking, peer pressure, the devastation of bullying, and the shame of being different. These are experiences that all people can relate to, even those whose socioeconomic context was very different from children in 1980 Southside Atlanta. Even more inviting is the way that Jones writes the sensory experience of childhood: the smells, textures, temperatures, sights, sounds, and other physical sensations of everyday life are described in vivid detail, drawing the reader into the setting until it feels surprisingly familiar.
Woven into this world, however, are the truths that are likely less familiar and less comfortable for white readers like myself: the pervasive (and justified) distrust of white people, especially authority figures. The depressed economic circumstances that cause characters to sort themselves into social strata based on tiny differences: on which side of the same street they live, how clean their clothes are, who can be trusted at the corner store or skating rink. The explosive trend of absent fathers. Interestingly, each of the children in this story has a father who is involved in their lives in some way (to varying degrees), but consequences of this trend affect them deeply, adding strain and complexity to their parental relationships that those outside their community could not possibly understand. Lest the reader imagine these circumstances are exaggerated, Jones wisely has her adult characters provide historical context by telling tales of their own childhoods, so it becomes clear how the prejudices of decades past continue to have repercussions on successive generations.
The whole story is set against the backdrop of the Atlanta child murders of 1979-81, which I'd actually never heard of before. I googled them early in my read of the book, and was shocked to learn the true story (what is known or suspected, anyway). It seems obvious that the case gets less attention than even those with a lower body count because of the racial element - the Wikipedia entry I read didn't even mention that the victims were predominantly (or all?) black. It was frankly horrifying, and imagining what the black families of Atlanta must have felt at the time is devastating and humbling. In fact, being a parent myself is what really intensified the impact of this book for me. I could relate to the fear the parents had for their children, but with the additional social pressures they faced, it seems that it must have been impossible to focus on raising their kids. It's heartrending when the children in the book suffer the flaws of their parents, because the humanity of both child and parent seems to condemn and redeem them all at once.
This is a gorgeous book and I absolutely recommend it.