I didn't realize this book was published this year and I'm likely the first person who checked it out from the library. It seemed a little basic for its audience, but being a novice about autism, it made sense to me and offered some decent info. It seems like if someone wanted to read it for anything more in-depth, they might be disappointed, like, "Well, I already knew that. What else can you tell me?" That type of thing.
Also, this edition could benefit with some additional editing to remove typos (extra words, incorrect suffixes, incorrect tenses, small things like that).
I watched the Temple Grandin movie with Claire Danes while I was reading this. Definitely helped me get a better sense of what autism can look like for someone.
Book coincidences:
- I’m reading this book to get a better understanding and insight into autism because a certain person is in my life. I saw that this book was published exactly on his 40th birthday. And there is also a reference to an example vignette that uses his name and relates to computers (pg. 6), so him. I can see why he self-diagnosed as potentially being on the spectrum, as some of the autism characteristics relate, but likely only mildly. I think he's definitely an HSP though.
“We all experience states—temporary moods, reactions, and mindsets. We usually don’t emphasize or dwell on the temporary states of people, but when someone has a label, we’re more likely to attribute their temporary state to that label, even if it is unrelated. We don’t realize we do this; it is an unconscious, automatic reaction.” pg. 4
“Imagine changes to the electrical functioning in your home. Sudden power surges can damage or render appliances inoperable. Too much voltage overheats the system and it seizes up. Loss of electrical connection, on the other hand, can cause spotty, inconsistent operations. One minute your printer works, and the next you get error messages or it stops completely. You wouldn’t want to live in a house without consistent, appropriate levels of electrical connection. Your world would feel undependable, unpredictable, and unsafe. This is how it can feel for a person with autism.” pg. 34
“The brain’s ability to process incoming stimuli depends on how well it can filter out unimportant incoming sensory information while at the same time intensifying what is important. When an infant or child brain cannot process incoming sensory information normally, their ability to self-regulate is diminished, and they may not be able to maintain an appropriate level of awareness to meet environmental demands.” pg. 36
“Don’t get too caught up in basing chores on whether a child is likely to live independently. Often, that can’t reliably be predicted when a child is young. If they are able to understand and physically carry out a household task, have them learn it. Even if they end up living in a group home or other facility that doesn’t require they handle all the tasks they learned, they still benefit. They learned not only the specific task, but also all the executive skills and cognitive steps needed to carry it out, such as initiating, sequencing, planning, and following through. Emotionally, they gained self-efficacy, pride in their accomplishment, and the feeling of being a valued member of their family.” pg. 168-169
“Any branch of therapy can be used in a strength- or deficit-based format. The focus on building positive outcome versus reducing problems and purposefully incorporating a child’s interests and skills into therapeutic tasks is what distinguishes a strength-based approach, not the choice of theoretical orientation.
Note that the goals are different. The strength-based goal entails building a skill. The deficit-based goal entails eliminating a behavior. The tools used in the deficit model are standard positive and negative reinforcers. There is nothing inherently problematic about using these, but they often mean little to autistic children. Plus, there are other reinforcers that are much more powerful to many children with autism. These reinforcers are items or activities directly related to their unique interests and abilities.” pg. 227
“No matter how good transition planning is, each child also needs a network of adults who are available for support and guidance. This network, similar to transition planning in general, needs to be built ahead of time. You can’t wait until a child graduates from high school to suddenly look around for a support team. A good network is built over time, because it takes time to build trust and to get comfortable sharing problems and fears with another person.
Just as when they were younger, adults on the spectrum benefit from having a circle of acquaintances with similar interests. This gives them people to actually do things with—not just talk about them in theory, but to go and try them out—to walk through the real steps of activities. For example, they might learn to navigate a city bus systems by riding with another person who also wants to go to the planetarium or join a group of coders on the other side of town. Or they might learn to purchase and pay for movie tickets by going to the theater with a peer who also loves science fiction films. Preparing for transitions ahead of time and building networks in advance help prevent a young adult from being overwhelmed when faced with these changes. It’s easy to get overloaded by all the new experiences a teen encounters after high school.
Proactive preparation reduces the number of times the individual will encounter a brand-new situation. Facing and figuring out unknown circumstances is exhausting for everyone, but especially for those with autism. No one can prepare another person for every eventuality, but when educators, therapists, and parents join together, they can eliminate many surprises.” pg. 285-286
“‘I have seven rules for successful adulthood:
Follow your passion and learn everything you can about it.
Live life.
Be yourself, but you have to fit in a little. [my favorite]
Develop your talents.
Perfect is not possible.
Work hard.
Never stop learning.’ - Temple” pg. 317
Book: borrowed from SSF Main Library.