"What would you say in five hundred words to capture a core principle that guides your life? Can you name a belief that underlies your actions? In the discovered truths of your experience, what abides?"
"Advice, after all is cheap. These essays are more like prayers than sermons. They do not contain counsel for others, as such. They hold, instead, the wrestling and reckoning of individuals wanting to make things clear to themselves. Some essayists tell us, "I didn't know what I wanted to say until I began to write."
"I have faith that time makes changes in all of us we cannot avoid or ignore."
"This is not the life I would have expected for myself thirty years ago and it isn't one I would recommend to others, but it is my life. At fifty I have come to the conclusion it is not the life I have that defines me, it is the way I choose to live this life. I choose to live it being faithful. This brings me peace, this allows me to have joy."
"Try to be happy within the context of the life we're actually living. Happiness is not a situation to be longed for, or a convergence of lucky happenstance. Through the power of our minds, we can help ourselves."
"I believe that grief, fully expressed, will change over time into something less overpowering, even granting us a new understanding, a kind of double vision that comprehends both the beauty and fragility of life at the same time. When I grieve, when I stand by others as they grieve, even in the midst of seemingly unbearable sorrow, grief becomes a way to honor life-a way to cling to every fleeting, precious moment of joy."
"I believe how we treat the people we dislike the most and understand the least...says a lot about the freedoms we value in America: religion, speech, and personal liberty."
"If you join the dancing, you will feel foolish. If you do not, you will also feel foolish. So, why not dance? ...If you do not dance, we will know you are a fool. But if you dance, we will think well of you for trying."
"I fear the shrinking of life that goes with aging. I fear the boredom that comes with not learning and not taking chances. I fear the dying that goes on inside you when you leave the game of life to wait in the final checkout line. I seek the sharp, scary pleasure that comes from beginning something new-that calls on all my resources and challenges my mind, my body, and my spirit, all at once."
"Being present isn't easy. On a good day, I'd say I'm conscious 1 to 2 percent of the time. The rest of the time I'm reacting. Usually those reactions are not particularly thoughtful. They're just responses, old patterns, or the repetition of what I did yesterday. Now I try to ask questions, not give answers. This isn't easy for me to do. I'm someone with a lot of answers. I have to restrain myself. Not reacting takes a lot of work, but the more I'm able to do it, the more I feel like I'm being the person I aspire to be. I see that my own mind can be my greatest limitation (and on bad days, it always is), or the gateway to what matters most to me...if we don't believe in our own ability to make them happen, they never will."
"Kindness is like a breath. It can be squeezed out, or drawn in. To solicit a gift from a stranger takes a certain state of openness."
"Mending something is different from fixing it. Fixing it suggests that evidence of the problem will disappear. I see mending as a preservation of history and a proclamation of hope. When we mend broken relationships we realize that we're better together than apart, and perhaps even stronger for the rip and the repair."
"Many of us have lost a sense of neighborhood and community, and we really crave that."
"I believe that God loves honesty more than conformity. And so I decided to go where the spirit moved me, even if that was away from the spiritual home of my ancestors."
"I was taught to respect my body, but to remember that it was only a vehicle that carried the important things: my brain and soul."
"a friend reminded me that you only have to talk about what you do for 5 mins at parties, but you have to live what you do every day of your life, so better to do what you love, and forget about how it looks."
"Strings of unexpected encounters mark my life. I believe that change has guided me-jolted me sometimes-onto paths I wouldn't have chosen but needed to follow whether I knew it or not. Chance encounters have led me across continents and into unanticipated worlds."
"The more alone I am with the Alone, the more I surrender to ambivalence, to happy contradictions and seeming inconsistencies in myself and almost everything else, including God. Paradoxes don't scare me anymore."
"Einstein once observed that Westerners have a feeling the individual loses his freedom if he joins, say a union or any group. Precisely the opposite's the case. The individual discovers his strength as an individual because he has, along the way, discovered others share his feelings-he is not alone, and thus a community is formed."
"I believe that whatever we receive we must share. When we endure an experience, the experience cannot stay with me alone. It must be opened. It must become an offering. It must be deepened and given and shared. And of course I am afraid that memories suppressed could come back with a fury, which is dangerous to all human beings, not only to those who directly were participants but to people everywhere, to the world. for everyone. And so, therefore, those memories that are discarded, shamed, somehow they may come back in different ways, disguised. Perhaps seeking another outlet.
Granted, our task is to inform. But information must be transformed into knowledge, knowledge into sensitivity, and sensitivity into commitment.
How can we therefore speak, unless we believe that our words have meaning, that our words will help others to prevent my past from becoming another person's-another people's-future. Yes, our stories are essential. Essential to memory. I believe that the witnesses, especially the survivors, have the most important role. They can simply say, in the words of the prophet, I was there. What is a witness if not someone who has a talk to tell and lives only with one haunting desire-to tell it. Without memory, there is no culture. Without memory, there would be no civilization. No society, no future.
After all God is God because He remembers." -Elie Wiesel