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UNPLUGGED: THINGS OUR FATHERS DID NOT TEACH US
UNPLUGGED – What Our Fathers Did not Tell Us
Today, marriage rates are declining. Forty per cent of single black women in the US are single mothers who prioritize getting babies over getting in a stable long-term commitment, aka marriage. Why do many young girls today prefer becoming side chicks to high-value men rather than settling in marriage with an average man?
In 2019, the American Psychological Association labelled traditional masculinity as harmful. But if so, why are women striving to be like men? What is the impact of masculine females on relationships? Why are women being told to “act like a lady and think like a man” if masculinity is harmful?
What attracts women to men, and how can men maintain that attachment? In the age of social media, where women get free attention and validation from hundreds of men, how do men in long term relationships deal with partners who feel they have so many options?
Women file for divorce 70-80% of the time in the western world. How can men navigate marriage with modern women incentivized to divorce by divorce laws? Why did the Greeks equate the feminine with chaos, represented as the goddess Pandora? Why are most oracles in epics female, and why did God tell Adam that his first sin was listening to Eve?
On average, men’s handgrip strength, testosterone levels, and overall masculinity is declining, while women’s enrolment rates in universities have outstripped those of men. Among trans adults, the majority are men who say they were born female. Why? Why is masculinity on the decline?
In 2021, before a whole school assembly at Brauer College in Victoria, Australia, the male students were all told to stand up, turn to a girl in their class and say sorry. Yet they had done nothing wrong. Based on Census Bureau historical data and Morgan Stanley forecasts, 45% of prime working-age women (ages 25-44) will be single by 2030—the largest share in history—up from 41% in 2018.
This book traces the origin of the steady decline of the man’s role in the family. It also seeks to help men understand female nature, revitalize masculinity and build full-stack men who can navigate relationships while providing leadership in an increasingly gynocentric world that has largely silenced men.
This book will plug you from comforting lies to cold hard truths.
Today, marriage rates are declining. Forty per cent of single black women in the US are single mothers who prioritize getting babies over getting in a stable long-term commitment, aka marriage. Why do many young girls today prefer becoming side chicks to high-value men rather than settling in marriage with an average man?
In 2019, the American Psychological Association labelled traditional masculinity as harmful. But if so, why are women striving to be like men? What is the impact of masculine females on relationships? Why are women being told to “act like a lady and think like a man” if masculinity is harmful?
What attracts women to men, and how can men maintain that attachment? In the age of social media, where women get free attention and validation from hundreds of men, how do men in long term relationships deal with partners who feel they have so many options?
Women file for divorce 70-80% of the time in the western world. How can men navigate marriage with modern women incentivized to divorce by divorce laws? Why did the Greeks equate the feminine with chaos, represented as the goddess Pandora? Why are most oracles in epics female, and why did God tell Adam that his first sin was listening to Eve?
On average, men’s handgrip strength, testosterone levels, and overall masculinity is declining, while women’s enrolment rates in universities have outstripped those of men. Among trans adults, the majority are men who say they were born female. Why? Why is masculinity on the decline?
In 2021, before a whole school assembly at Brauer College in Victoria, Australia, the male students were all told to stand up, turn to a girl in their class and say sorry. Yet they had done nothing wrong. Based on Census Bureau historical data and Morgan Stanley forecasts, 45% of prime working-age women (ages 25-44) will be single by 2030—the largest share in history—up from 41% in 2018.
This book traces the origin of the steady decline of the man’s role in the family. It also seeks to help men understand female nature, revitalize masculinity and build full-stack men who can navigate relationships while providing leadership in an increasingly gynocentric world that has largely silenced men.
This book will plug you from comforting lies to cold hard truths.
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Published March 10, 2022
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October 18, 2024
Jacob has distilled the works of Rollo, Kevin Samuels, and others into a simple presentation that is easily understood.
I like the read.
I move to his next book, "Unplugged 2"
I like the read.
I move to his next book, "Unplugged 2"
November 12, 2024
After postponing reading the book, I finally got it from Nuria Bookstore, Courtesy of Bennet, the chief Marketer at the bookstore, on 12th October 2024.
I later met the author, Jacob Aliet, at the bookstore on 2nd November 2024. He signed the book for me as I commenced my unplugging journey. I promised to campaign to men to purchase the book and read it.
This book is a masterpiece of Jacob Aliet’s best work, yet.
When I finished Chapter 1, It was speaking to me. I had a lot of mixed reactions and feelings as I read each page. I first went to the village, Kahuho to see my grandfather as we discussed how modernization has challenged Marriage institutions in our time. I explained to him what I read from Chapter 1 as he shared how their time was.
The story of Denno was heartbreaking, but a reality that I have seen men going through in life. No one taught us how to handle each other in marriage, especially in the modern world. Marriage nowadays is trial and error. Young Men nowadays are refusing marriage because it has been weaponized against them. Many young men keep on telling me they don't want to get married, and their parents are worried.
Can we enjoy marriage like the way our African forefathers enjoyed it?
What attracts women to men, and how can men maintain that attachment?
In the age of social media, where women get free attention and validation from hundreds of men, how do men in long-term relationships deal with partners who feel they have so many options?
This book traces the origin of the steady decline of the man’s role in the family. It also seeks to help men understand female nature, revitalize masculinity, and build full-stack men who can navigate relationships while providing leadership in an increasingly gynocentric world that has largely silenced men.
This book will plug you from comforting lies to cold hard truths.
'𝐖𝐡𝐲 𝐝𝐨 𝐦𝐚𝐧𝐲 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐠 𝐟𝐞𝐦𝐚𝐥𝐞𝐬 𝐧𝐨𝐰𝐚𝐝𝐚𝐲𝐬 𝐩𝐫𝐞𝐟𝐞𝐫 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞 𝐬𝐢𝐝𝐞 𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐜𝐤𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐡𝐢𝐠𝐡-𝐯𝐚𝐥𝐮𝐞 𝐦𝐞𝐧 𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐧 𝐦𝐚𝐫𝐫𝐲 𝐚𝐧 𝐚𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐚𝐠𝐞 𝐦𝐚𝐧?'
'𝐇𝐨𝐰 '𝐝𝐨 𝐦𝐚𝐬𝐜𝐮𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐞' 𝐟𝐞𝐦𝐚𝐥𝐞𝐬 𝐚𝐟𝐟𝐞𝐜𝐭 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩𝐬?'
'𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐚𝐭𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐬 𝐰𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐧 𝐭𝐨 𝐦𝐞𝐧, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐦𝐞𝐧 𝐤𝐞𝐞𝐩 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐚𝐭𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧?'
These are three of the questions posed by author Jacob Aliet in this masterpiece book.
Aliet argues that we now live in a femicentric world, where popular media panders to women without regard to what is proper or beneficial to society.
The first part of the book then goes into common and factual anecdotal narratives, most of which happened during the past two years during the COVID-19 period, when domestic violence and divorce rates in Kenya shot up.
𝐉𝐚𝐜𝐨𝐛 𝐜𝐚𝐩𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐞𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐮𝐧𝐬𝐩𝐨𝐤𝐞𝐧 𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐭𝐡 𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐦𝐨𝐝𝐞𝐫𝐧 𝐰𝐨𝐦𝐚𝐧 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐮𝐧𝐩𝐚𝐜𝐤 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐢𝐧 𝐚 𝐰𝐚𝐲 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐢𝐬 𝐡𝐞𝐥𝐩𝐟𝐮𝐥 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐨𝐭𝐡 𝐦𝐞𝐧 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐰𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐧. 𝐇𝐲𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐠𝐚𝐦𝐲, 𝐅𝐞𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐢𝐬𝐦, 𝐌𝐚𝐬𝐜𝐮𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐢𝐭𝐲, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐦𝐚𝐧𝐲 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞.
To understand the dynamics of the present, Jacob takes us back many years into the past, exploring how various factors influenced changes over time. He draws connections between historical events and current situations, linking human nature to animal behavior and relating biblical references to modern times. His analogy weaves everything together seamlessly.
Anyone who genuinely wants to understand the dynamics of intersexual relationships should pick up a copy of this book. It's important not only to read it but to use it as a guide to evaluate oneself.
Aliet is correct when he points out that these are lessons fathers often do not teach.
𝐈 𝐠𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐛𝐨𝐨𝐤 𝐚 6-𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐫 𝐫𝐞𝐯𝐢𝐞𝐰.
Thank you to Nuria Bookstore, for the book; https://nuriakenya.com/product/unplug...
I later met the author, Jacob Aliet, at the bookstore on 2nd November 2024. He signed the book for me as I commenced my unplugging journey. I promised to campaign to men to purchase the book and read it.
This book is a masterpiece of Jacob Aliet’s best work, yet.
When I finished Chapter 1, It was speaking to me. I had a lot of mixed reactions and feelings as I read each page. I first went to the village, Kahuho to see my grandfather as we discussed how modernization has challenged Marriage institutions in our time. I explained to him what I read from Chapter 1 as he shared how their time was.
The story of Denno was heartbreaking, but a reality that I have seen men going through in life. No one taught us how to handle each other in marriage, especially in the modern world. Marriage nowadays is trial and error. Young Men nowadays are refusing marriage because it has been weaponized against them. Many young men keep on telling me they don't want to get married, and their parents are worried.
Can we enjoy marriage like the way our African forefathers enjoyed it?
What attracts women to men, and how can men maintain that attachment?
In the age of social media, where women get free attention and validation from hundreds of men, how do men in long-term relationships deal with partners who feel they have so many options?
This book traces the origin of the steady decline of the man’s role in the family. It also seeks to help men understand female nature, revitalize masculinity, and build full-stack men who can navigate relationships while providing leadership in an increasingly gynocentric world that has largely silenced men.
This book will plug you from comforting lies to cold hard truths.
'𝐖𝐡𝐲 𝐝𝐨 𝐦𝐚𝐧𝐲 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐠 𝐟𝐞𝐦𝐚𝐥𝐞𝐬 𝐧𝐨𝐰𝐚𝐝𝐚𝐲𝐬 𝐩𝐫𝐞𝐟𝐞𝐫 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞 𝐬𝐢𝐝𝐞 𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐜𝐤𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐡𝐢𝐠𝐡-𝐯𝐚𝐥𝐮𝐞 𝐦𝐞𝐧 𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐧 𝐦𝐚𝐫𝐫𝐲 𝐚𝐧 𝐚𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐚𝐠𝐞 𝐦𝐚𝐧?'
'𝐇𝐨𝐰 '𝐝𝐨 𝐦𝐚𝐬𝐜𝐮𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐞' 𝐟𝐞𝐦𝐚𝐥𝐞𝐬 𝐚𝐟𝐟𝐞𝐜𝐭 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩𝐬?'
'𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐚𝐭𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐬 𝐰𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐧 𝐭𝐨 𝐦𝐞𝐧, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐦𝐞𝐧 𝐤𝐞𝐞𝐩 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐚𝐭𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧?'
These are three of the questions posed by author Jacob Aliet in this masterpiece book.
Aliet argues that we now live in a femicentric world, where popular media panders to women without regard to what is proper or beneficial to society.
The first part of the book then goes into common and factual anecdotal narratives, most of which happened during the past two years during the COVID-19 period, when domestic violence and divorce rates in Kenya shot up.
𝐉𝐚𝐜𝐨𝐛 𝐜𝐚𝐩𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐞𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐮𝐧𝐬𝐩𝐨𝐤𝐞𝐧 𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐭𝐡 𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐦𝐨𝐝𝐞𝐫𝐧 𝐰𝐨𝐦𝐚𝐧 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐮𝐧𝐩𝐚𝐜𝐤 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐢𝐧 𝐚 𝐰𝐚𝐲 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐢𝐬 𝐡𝐞𝐥𝐩𝐟𝐮𝐥 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐨𝐭𝐡 𝐦𝐞𝐧 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐰𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐧. 𝐇𝐲𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐠𝐚𝐦𝐲, 𝐅𝐞𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐢𝐬𝐦, 𝐌𝐚𝐬𝐜𝐮𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐢𝐭𝐲, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐦𝐚𝐧𝐲 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞.
To understand the dynamics of the present, Jacob takes us back many years into the past, exploring how various factors influenced changes over time. He draws connections between historical events and current situations, linking human nature to animal behavior and relating biblical references to modern times. His analogy weaves everything together seamlessly.
Anyone who genuinely wants to understand the dynamics of intersexual relationships should pick up a copy of this book. It's important not only to read it but to use it as a guide to evaluate oneself.
Aliet is correct when he points out that these are lessons fathers often do not teach.
𝐈 𝐠𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐛𝐨𝐨𝐤 𝐚 6-𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐫 𝐫𝐞𝐯𝐢𝐞𝐰.
Thank you to Nuria Bookstore, for the book; https://nuriakenya.com/product/unplug...
August 10, 2025
Over simplified mansplaining
The book uses one-sided selected examples from a Kenyan context, then goes on to mansplain American history in a confirmation bias sequence (incongruent?). Additionally, over simplifying very complex multi-layered dynamics, which makes me concerned for younger readers, both girls are and boys. Lastly, some data is not fully accurate or verified/falsified by other sources and demographics. Simplistic and sensationalist. Nothing new to learn given it's simply putting data on the internet into a narrative that fits the author's random ideas. I regret the purchase as I feel that I have funded poor journalism.
The book uses one-sided selected examples from a Kenyan context, then goes on to mansplain American history in a confirmation bias sequence (incongruent?). Additionally, over simplifying very complex multi-layered dynamics, which makes me concerned for younger readers, both girls are and boys. Lastly, some data is not fully accurate or verified/falsified by other sources and demographics. Simplistic and sensationalist. Nothing new to learn given it's simply putting data on the internet into a narrative that fits the author's random ideas. I regret the purchase as I feel that I have funded poor journalism.
April 10, 2025
It was such an interesting read. Literally couldn't put the book away. Such relatable experiences of modern Nairobi relationship and marriage dynamics. However, I questioned a lot how Jacob views the modern day woman, her role in a marriage set up, her finances and general empowerment. In as much as it is empowering men, there's no point of being bias to women!
January 3, 2023
Insightful book though some examples are over repeated. It works well to show the nuances that should have been communicated as we grow up and that would have led to far less sorrow and anguish. Most recommended.
November 20, 2024
Jacob Aliet - Men should aspire to be HV. Acquire the following: 1. Get a group – personal and professional. Successful men travel with successful men. You ascend with a group. Stop being a lone wolf. Don’t be a Teslar: be an Eddison.
June 8, 2024
Excellent message to young adults
July 4, 2024
I love this book
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July 27, 2024
My opinion this book is based on real life experience,it's helping us to rediscover our destiny each time we read.
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August 19, 2024
Nice book
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December 16, 2024The best book so far
I like it
I like it
September 20, 2024
I got lost in the book. After chapter two, I felt like it was just dragging far too much for me.
August 22, 2025
I got interested in this book after realizing it's concern women
June 14, 2024
Informative book
July 20, 2024
A great read! I am proud of Jacob, I love to see my Kenyan writers thrive.
I highly recommend this book to both men and women who want to understand each other/and their partners better. It is very useful to anyone who is teachable.
It can get repetitive though. He used the same examples to emphasize his points which can get boring.
I highly recommend this book to both men and women who want to understand each other/and their partners better. It is very useful to anyone who is teachable.
It can get repetitive though. He used the same examples to emphasize his points which can get boring.
April 28, 2023
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