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Covert Narcissist Mother: An Adult Daughter's Guide How To Recover After A Lifetime Of Covert Abuse And Keep Your Children Safe From Their Toxic Grandmother ... For Daughters Of Narcissistic Mothers)
Do you find it practically impossible to regulate your emotions when you communicate with your mother, even though you’re an adult and usually can handle conflict with other people fairly well?
Does your mother undermine your authority in front of your children, feels entitled to them, and causes chaos in your family?
Do you sometimes wonder, or are you almost sure, that your mother may be a “hidden” narcissist, because a normal mother would never cause so much damage to her daughter and not accept any responsibility for it?
Do you often wish you could do something to have a more peaceful and happier life, free from your mother’s toxicity?
If you answered yes to any of these questions, maybe it’s time you trusted your gut and realized something is indeed wrong with your mother, and the impact of her insidious abuse still remains, holding you back.
For many victims the moment of epiphany happens when they have their own children. For the first time in their lives, they’re able to see their narcissistic mothers for who they truly are.
You were prepped to accept covert abuse since your childhood. It’s only natural now that you started seeing through this abuse, that you feel pure anger towards your mother. This anger can be all-consuming and detrimental to your mental health and your relationships with other people. Now, you are at the point of realizing that healing is absolutely necessary.
In this book, you will learn how to overcome the trauma you experienced and form a life for yourself that is safer, calmer, happier, and healthier. In this book, you will signs and traits covert narcissist mothers have.The numerous ways maternal covert narcissistic abuse can impact your mental health and development and what you can do to reverse the situation.Stages of recovery from a covert narcissist mother, including radical emotional detachment and letting go.What hidden dangers a covert narcissist grandmother poses to your relationship with your own children.How a covert narcissist grandmother can jeopardize your family by making false claims to the Child Protective Services and by trying to gain grandparent’s visitation rights or even full custody of your child, and what steps you need to take now to make her attacks futile and ineffective.How to protect your children and yourself from the incessant wrath of your mother once you’ve decided to limit her access to your children.How being raised by a covert narcissist mother makes you an easy target for other covert narcissists and why you tend to be drawn to them yourself.Various healing exercises and methods that will help you manage your emotions in a healthier way and will be integral to your journey to a calmer life.Journaling and letter writing exercises to heal the mother wound.How to regain the self-trust and ultimately the trust in other people while rediscovering yourself, reconnecting with yourself and others, and forming healthy relationships.And much more!
Ella Lansville is a scapegoat daughter of a covert narcissist mother who was able to recover after a lifetime of hidden abuse and ultimately get her life back from her mother’s clutches. She knows how painful and traumatizing it is to be the daughter of a covert narcissist mother, and she supports you unconditionally despite any situation you may find yourself in.
Does your mother undermine your authority in front of your children, feels entitled to them, and causes chaos in your family?
Do you sometimes wonder, or are you almost sure, that your mother may be a “hidden” narcissist, because a normal mother would never cause so much damage to her daughter and not accept any responsibility for it?
Do you often wish you could do something to have a more peaceful and happier life, free from your mother’s toxicity?
If you answered yes to any of these questions, maybe it’s time you trusted your gut and realized something is indeed wrong with your mother, and the impact of her insidious abuse still remains, holding you back.
For many victims the moment of epiphany happens when they have their own children. For the first time in their lives, they’re able to see their narcissistic mothers for who they truly are.
You were prepped to accept covert abuse since your childhood. It’s only natural now that you started seeing through this abuse, that you feel pure anger towards your mother. This anger can be all-consuming and detrimental to your mental health and your relationships with other people. Now, you are at the point of realizing that healing is absolutely necessary.
In this book, you will learn how to overcome the trauma you experienced and form a life for yourself that is safer, calmer, happier, and healthier. In this book, you will signs and traits covert narcissist mothers have.The numerous ways maternal covert narcissistic abuse can impact your mental health and development and what you can do to reverse the situation.Stages of recovery from a covert narcissist mother, including radical emotional detachment and letting go.What hidden dangers a covert narcissist grandmother poses to your relationship with your own children.How a covert narcissist grandmother can jeopardize your family by making false claims to the Child Protective Services and by trying to gain grandparent’s visitation rights or even full custody of your child, and what steps you need to take now to make her attacks futile and ineffective.How to protect your children and yourself from the incessant wrath of your mother once you’ve decided to limit her access to your children.How being raised by a covert narcissist mother makes you an easy target for other covert narcissists and why you tend to be drawn to them yourself.Various healing exercises and methods that will help you manage your emotions in a healthier way and will be integral to your journey to a calmer life.Journaling and letter writing exercises to heal the mother wound.How to regain the self-trust and ultimately the trust in other people while rediscovering yourself, reconnecting with yourself and others, and forming healthy relationships.And much more!
Ella Lansville is a scapegoat daughter of a covert narcissist mother who was able to recover after a lifetime of hidden abuse and ultimately get her life back from her mother’s clutches. She knows how painful and traumatizing it is to be the daughter of a covert narcissist mother, and she supports you unconditionally despite any situation you may find yourself in.
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222 pages, Kindle Edition
Published September 12, 2022
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March 21, 2023
This was good because it explored the grandmother-granddaughter dynamic which is what I have dealt with, but I read the rest because you can never have too much knowledge about this if you have someone like this in the family and it's smart to learn how to set boundaries. An injury in the family has brought this to the surface and it's been difficult to deal with. This is definitely a good resource.
October 11, 2023
Very specific topic and narcissist role analysed.
The covert narcissist mother is different and often less detectable than the more grandiose, overt one.
The writing is easy to follow and guidance is very practical, in a way that can truly help. The gaslighting manipulation analysis is clear and well articulated. The letter templates read a bit unrealistic (e.g the one for a friend signed as “the friend you lost”) but I suppose they can guide who wouldn’t know how to start, and of course they are not meant to be read by anyone but who writes them.
The author is a life coach, hence the simplified writing style, and had experienced herself the challenges of dealing with a covert narcissist mother, reporting some of her personal battles that may be too specific to relate to.
However she’s honest, suggests therapy and acknowledges that every case is unique, quoting Tolstoj who said that “all happy families are alike, each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way”.
The intro is quite bold, intentionally, most likely to encourage the readers (as the daughters of narcissist mothers) to take care of themselves and stop feeling guilty.
It’s not groundbreaking but definitely a useful read for those who need reassurance and are navigating through the ups and downs of their healing journey.
The covert narcissist mother is different and often less detectable than the more grandiose, overt one.
The writing is easy to follow and guidance is very practical, in a way that can truly help. The gaslighting manipulation analysis is clear and well articulated. The letter templates read a bit unrealistic (e.g the one for a friend signed as “the friend you lost”) but I suppose they can guide who wouldn’t know how to start, and of course they are not meant to be read by anyone but who writes them.
The author is a life coach, hence the simplified writing style, and had experienced herself the challenges of dealing with a covert narcissist mother, reporting some of her personal battles that may be too specific to relate to.
However she’s honest, suggests therapy and acknowledges that every case is unique, quoting Tolstoj who said that “all happy families are alike, each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way”.
The intro is quite bold, intentionally, most likely to encourage the readers (as the daughters of narcissist mothers) to take care of themselves and stop feeling guilty.
It’s not groundbreaking but definitely a useful read for those who need reassurance and are navigating through the ups and downs of their healing journey.
December 28, 2024
While the author did a good enough job describing the maternal narcissist and their abuse, her advice was shallow and hopeless. With themes like "the abusive mother can never change" and "It's okay if you never forgive your abuser." What sadness. We are to forgive as the Lord has forgiven us, and if we don't, our hurt and anger will manifest as lifelong bitterness. There is hope for all through Christ, even the narcissist abuser.
January 11, 2024
Decent read for one who has just started their healing journey
Easy read without a lot of buzz words or medical jargon; however, I was annoyed with the constant references to covert narcissism in romantic relationships.
I appreciate that she used her relationship with her first husband to illustrate how damaging a covert narcissist mother can be, but I didn’t need as much information on it because I was interested in the narcissist mother-daughter dynamic (hence the reason for buying the book).
Finally, this book could have been significantly shorter had the author not repeatedly used the same sentence/phrases repeatedly usually in the same chapter.
Easy read without a lot of buzz words or medical jargon; however, I was annoyed with the constant references to covert narcissism in romantic relationships.
I appreciate that she used her relationship with her first husband to illustrate how damaging a covert narcissist mother can be, but I didn’t need as much information on it because I was interested in the narcissist mother-daughter dynamic (hence the reason for buying the book).
Finally, this book could have been significantly shorter had the author not repeatedly used the same sentence/phrases repeatedly usually in the same chapter.
June 29, 2024
i felt like this was a decent and concise introduction to the topic and lent some helpful advice for what to do after you’ve cut said person out of your life - though as someone who is kind of just coming around to the idea that i might have this type of person in my life it felt really intense to read some of it as it all felt so final. i’m a triple water sign so i’m a huge baby and it takes me time to come around to things so this is probably (definitely) a me problem and not a book problem. a worth while read if you are wondering whether or not you may have someone like this in your life - or if you want to learn what to watch out for so you don’t get scooped up by a covert narcissist.
October 28, 2024
While there were very practical advice strategies for dealing with all narcissists (not just moms), this book seemed to have a lot of worst case scenario situations that made me feel like “wow…I certainly don’t have to deal with that extreme”.
March 2, 2023
I wish I'd have come across this book earlier because at 40 I feel like most of my life had been stolen from me. This book was a real breakthrough as it explained that nothing ever was my fault. I cry and wish more scapegoat children would read this book. It is liberating and gives tons of coping methods as well as sound advice how to go about protecting your children from the covert narcissist grandmother.
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