Quick Confidence: Be Authentic, Boost Connections, and Make Bold Bets on Yourself

by Selena Rezvani

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Hands-on, bite-sized strategies for improving your confidence In Quick Be Authentic, Create Connections and Make Bold Bets On Yourself , best-selling author and renowned leadership speaker Selena Rezvani delivers an effective and eye-opening new approach to building confidence and presence for professionals. In the book, the author walks you through―and helps you leap over―the 9 most common obstacles that stand in the way of building authentic confidence. She offers digestible actions, behaviors, and exercises you can use to change the way you think and the way you present yourself to others. Relying on sound, scientifically validated data, the book helps you zero in on one actionable method at a time, from making a memorable entrance to stoking confidence in those around you. You’ll also A hands-on playbook for professionals at all stages looking for effective confidence-building advice that goes beyond “fake it ‘til you make it,” Quick Confidence is a fun and rewarding journey to a renewed self-image and enhanced well-being.

Genres: Self Help, Psychology, Nonfiction, Business

256 pages, Hardcover

Published May 9, 2023

About the author

Named by Forbes as “the premier expert on self-advocacy at work,” Selena Rezvani is on a mission to promote power-positive leadership—helping leaders use their influence to elevate, empower, and inspire others. She is the author of the bestselling books Quick Leadership and Quick Confidence, born out of a viral newsletter she started on LinkedIn. She also wrote the award-winning Pushback and The Next Generation of Women Leaders. Each year, Selena speaks to thousands of professionals and has been featured by TEDx, Harvard Business Review, Inc., TODAY.com, and NPR. She is currently a columnist for NBC News Know Your Value. Selena lives in Philadelphia with her husband, Geoff, and their 13-year-old boy-girl twins.

Reviews

[Janet · Rating 2 out of 5]

Calling people in (versus calling people out):
-I'm curious. What was your intention when you said . . .?
-It sounded like you said___. Is that what you meant to say?
-I wonder how others might interpret your words/actions?
-I don't find that funny. Please explain how that's funny to you. (page 55)

Avoid apologizing:
-I just want to share ** skip the "just"
-I may be wrong, but. . . **Here's what I know as of now.
-Sorry to bother you. **When you have a moment, can we talk/do, etc?
-I hope that's okay. **Thanks for considering . . . (page 64)

Dealing with invasive questions:
-What makes you ask that?
-I'm surprised your comfortable asking that question (can be done with a laugh to ease the tension)
-Be direct--I'm not okay answering/talking about that.
-Ask them the same question. Just b/c they answer doesn't mean you have to ("Oh how nice for you" and then change the topic.) (page 68)

Both of our times are valuable:
-I'm glad we could find a time to meet (versus thanks so much for making time in your hectic schedule)
-Don't hurry --(I called this meeting so we can review these 3 items)
-Don't apologize--(I'd like to look at one more point together before we wrap up)
-Accept that you are already an expert (pgs. 76-77)

Just enoughness--"every good thing, including rest, does not need to be earned (page 84)."


You don't Owe anyone an Over-explanation:
"Sit with the discomfort of others. You might feel crummy telling someone no, but you can't live your life w/o ever disappointing folks (page 87)"

If there's one thing overthinkers have in common, it's a tendency to overlook or ignore the physical cues coming from our bodies. Research has shown that overthinking can exacerbate depression, increase negative thinking, and impair problem solving (page 87)


Put things in their right compartment:
"Research shows that part of the negative victim experience is pervasiveness. Victims assume that failure in one area of life equates to failure in life overall. [But compartmentalize that "failure" instead.] page 90


LARA:
Listen, affirm, Respond, and Ask Questions


Exercise Silence:
(check out 2021 Rezvani Youtube video on silence)

When to use silence in negotiation 1) Right after you make a request and 2) Right after your counterpart answers you. Count to 7 and keep a neutral expression (page 114).



Defy Time Pressure:
Delay answers on “exploding offers.” Tell them I need to look at my calendar and get back to you before I can answer or I need to think about it or I want to talk with So & So first.

-You never have to agree to a time limit, simply because one is thrown at you.
-Don’t apologize for things you haven’t done wrong. “I checked my schedule and unfortunately, I won’t be able to help this time.” (pages 122-123)

Regarding money/salary:
-Lean on what you can justify. Your opening number should be the most aggressive figure you *can rationally defend.* Bring data, research, another job offer you can point to as evidence for you strong opening number. “Based on my research of position x, I’m looking in the neighborhood of $96,000.”

-Make it the highest number you can say without laughing out loud. Would the offer thrill and delight you if you were to get it? “I’d like to be at the $96,000 mark.”

Experiments conducted at Univ. of Idaho (Todd Thorsteinson) showed that study participants were more likely to offer a subject $5,000 more in salary if she asked for implausibly high salary compared to asking for a lower salary. Bravery literally pays (pages 124-125).

-The point is no is not always the end of the story. Be tenacious (keep applying/asking, etc.) (page 126)


***Don’t wait until you feel ready. Do it afraid. Security is an illusion anyway. Imagine walking through life knowing you can do scary hard things. What would you do if you weren’t afraid? (page 132)**


When put on the spot:
Ask yourself-- What-So What-Now What?
-What matters? Why is that important? What actions make sense going forward (page140)

[Bianca · Rating 4 out of 5]

“If your compassion doesn’t include yourself, it’s incomplete”

I found it more relatable than some of the other self-help “girl boss” books I’ve read. It gets more into the nitty-gritty of guilt-motivated work and how to break out of the spiral of self-sabotaging by burning yourself out then feeling guilty about lacking motivation and trying to just push through your emotions.

Definitely gonna look back at my highlights and notes.

[Good Trouble · Rating 5 out of 5]

4.40

[John Johnson · Rating 5 out of 5]

"I enjoyed reading “Quick Confidence: Be Authentic, Boost Connections, and Make Bold Bets on Yourself" by Selena Rezvani who in my opinion is a highly intelligent and exceptionally talented writer who has written a clear, concise, and direct self-help book about gaining more confidence. The title is apropos since the author gives “Quick” bullets of information and strongly encourages self-awareness to act confidently in situations where you may have lacked obvious and logical assertiveness in the past.

I particularly enjoyed her writing style and found this book easy to read since it goes directly to the subject and provides excellent and practical information for personal development that produces real results.

Throughout the book, this dynamic author provides examples and exercises for the reader and I enjoyed her energy and expressiveness to encourage the reader to simply get up and do things to build self-esteem and create a good sense of well-being.

For example, she discusses a new simple, useful, and intriguing confidence-building method that she calls the “Dog Code” which I found highly feasible. Here is a brief excerpt from her book to show you what I mean,

“Have you ever noticed how dogs greet us humans? If they’re anything like my Newfoundland pup Midnight, they don’t hesitate. They don’t overthink it. They don’t talk it over with their friends before making a move.

“A dog’s nature is to be the first to make a connection. To come right up to you and greet you. And I think there’s an important confidence insight we can take from that…

“So how about it? Why not be the first to:

• Say hi and introduce yourself in a group?

• Invite your new colleague to a networking or learning

session you’re attending.

• Notice someone who’s isolated and might appreciate an

invitation to join you?...

“As you adopt “dog code,” you may need to be courageous. Sometimes it feels vulnerable to be the first. If you’re more introverted or reserved, it might feel challenging to “go right up” to perfect strangers and start speaking. But you can still do it. You might also need courage to challenge the culture of your organization or team—especially if being friendly or “being the first” is not the norm. It takes nerve to buck the status quo! But when you proactively welcome others, you show humility, curiosity, bravery, and a collaborative mindset. These are some of the best traits of true leaders.”


I happened to be reading this while I was waiting for my car repair to be done in a crowded waiting room. The author’s enthusiasm made me pause, get up from my seat and begin talking with a person standing near me. I introduced myself - and that is something I rarely do.

To my surprise, it turned into an interesting long conversation. The stranger was an electrician and gave me good advice on correcting something in my home that had been problematic -- nothing had worked to correct before. It turned out that the electrician felt very proud he could help with his advice while I felt happy and more self-assured knowing I used the "dog code" for the first time, and it worked well. I plan to do so in the future keeping in mind this original concept created by this author.

James Clear wrote, “Self-improvement is the improvement of one's knowledge, status, or character by one's own efforts. It's the quest to make ourselves better in any and every facet of life.”

I certainly agree with that definition and in my opinion, sometimes changing old ways while being in the lifelong pursuit of bettering yourself can be very difficult. However, this author's enthusiasm and original ideas worked for me even though in the past I was, at times, very critical and disappointed with self-help books. It was certainly a breath of fresh air to read this excellent book.

In my view, this is the type of book you want to read several times and carry with you. Life can knock you back and down in the pits. Turning to the thoughts in this book helps you get on your way again with perhaps even more vigor, in my view.

All in all, I felt this book was very well done and will help many people. Highly recommended!

It was my pleasure to receive a free copy of this book but that does not in any way affect my opinions in this review of this exceptional book.

[Lilly · Rating 5 out of 5]

Author Selena Rezvani introduces a fresh and efficient approach to cultivating genuine confidence and presence within the professional sphere. Rezvani adeptly identifies and addresses nine common barriers that hinder authentic confidence, offering concrete and actionable strategies for sustainable transformation. Underpinned by scientifically validated data, the book furnishes readers with practical techniques to reshape their thought patterns and self-presentation. From mastering the art of impactful entrances to leveraging the power of silence for enhanced credibility, Quick Confidence equips readers with a comprehensive toolkit of mental, physical, and interpersonal routines. This invaluable resource empowers professionals to elevate their credibility, conquer feelings of intimidation, and nurture authentic confidence, resulting in a revitalized self-image and improved overall well-being.

Quick Confidence is a captivating guide that redefines the conventional approach to confidence-building. Selena Rezvani's methodology is refreshingly authentic and firmly grounded in robust research, offering a clear roadmap towards enduring self-assurance. The book's easily digestible strategies make it an indispensable asset for those looking to genuinely transform their self-perception, moving beyond the adage of "faking it 'til you make it." Rezvani's unwavering focus on authenticity proves to be a game-changer. The book delves into common obstacles and provides actionable steps to surmount them. It places a strong emphasis on fostering genuine connections and communication strategies, including the strategic use of silence and the avoidance of overexplanation, underscoring the author's profound grasp of human dynamics. By addressing the challenges posed by powerful individuals, the book empowers readers to navigate intricate professional interactions with newfound confidence. The incorporation of mental, physical, and interpersonal routines offers a holistic approach to achieving lasting change. These techniques not only bolster confidence but also contribute to overall well-being. As a reader, I found myself fully engaged and motivated by the author's encouraging tone and hands-on exercises.

In a world where authentic confidence is increasingly vital, Quick Confidence provides readers with the tools to venture on a transformative journey, unlocking the door to a renewed self-image and a more empowered professional life. This book is a must-read for anyone in pursuit of tangible, science-backed strategies to fortify their confidence and instigate lasting, positive changes in both their personal and professional interactions.

[ZebraDebra · Rating 5 out of 5]

In the captivating and inspiring pages of Quick Confidence: Be Authentic, Boost Connections, and Make Bold Bets On Yourself, a transformative work that emerged from the immensely popular newsletter born during the Covid pandemic, author Selena Rezvani gifts readers with a treasure trove of invaluable insights for unlocking our full potential and cultivating unyielding confidence. With a wealth of expertise, Rezvani delves into three fundamental pillars: mindset, embodiment, and interpersonal skills, providing a comprehensive framework for personal and professional growth.

Early on, the author introduces the captivating concept of the "dog code," a notion that resonates deeply. By embracing the unwavering and fearless approach of our canine companions, we are encouraged to shed hesitation and overthinking, thus empowering us to confidently forge connections. This refreshing perspective inspires us to extend a friendly greeting, introduce ourselves boldly, and offer companionship, following the fearless example of our four-legged friends.

Within the rich tapestry of wisdom found within the book, a particular chapter, aptly titled "Release Overdoing, Overthinking, and Overexplaining," resonated profoundly with me. Here, the author astutely exposes the detrimental effects of incessant striving and performance-centric mindsets, both in our professional and personal lives. By embracing the concept of "just enoughness," Rezvani offers a powerful antidote—a philosophy that encourages functional performance while preserving our energy and dignity. Striving for "just enough" becomes the compass by which we navigate, ensuring we conserve our vital reserves and honor our intrinsic worth.

Another helpful lesson gleaned from this literary masterpiece is the imperative of becoming our own staunchest advocate. The author highlights the unparalleled role we play in articulating our needs and desires. Indeed, there is no better advocate for our aspirations than ourselves. Empowered by this realization, we are emboldened to claim our space, express our authentic selves, and assertively pursue what we truly deserve.

Cover to cover, Quick Confidence serves as an invaluable guide, accelerating the journey towards unwavering confidence. Its transformative impact on my life is immeasurable, and its wisdom is truly priceless.

[Daniel Moreno · Rating 5 out of 5]

A key strength of this book lies in its unwavering emphasis on authenticity. Rezvani masterfully guides readers toward embracing their true selves, urging them to confidently express their unique perspectives and talents. By providing insightful exercises and techniques, she enables readers to identify their strengths, values, and passions, empowering them to authentically present themselves in any given situation.

Another remarkable facet of Quick Confidence is its focus on the power of connections. Recognizing the profound impact of relationships, Rezvani offers actionable advice on networking, relationship-building, and effective communication. By encouraging readers to step outside their comfort zones, engage in meaningful conversations, and foster a robust support system, she equips them with the tools necessary to enhance their confidence and unlock new opportunities.

Rezvani serves as a catalyst, inspiring readers to take calculated risks, pursue their passions, and embrace opportunities for personal and professional growth. Addressing the fear of failure head-on, she provides expert guidance on overcoming self-doubt, empowering readers to transcend their limitations and unleash their full potential.

Rezvani's writing style is engaging, relatable, and accessible, seamlessly interweaving research-based insights with personal stories. This approach ensures that the content resonates with readers, enabling them to apply the knowledge to their own lives. Each chapter is replete with practical tips, thought-provoking questions, and actionable steps, affording readers the immediate opportunity to implement newfound strategies.

Quick Confidence transcends the realm of a mere book; it is a comprehensive guide, equipping readers with the tools and mindset necessary for the development of enduring confidence. This transformative resource is indispensable for individuals seeking to enhance their self-esteem, forge meaningful connections, and boldly embark on their path to success.

This exceptional book that offers a wealth of knowledge and practical advice for cultivating authentic confidence. Selena Rezvani's unparalleled expertise, coupled with her engaging writing style, renders this book an invaluable resource for anyone seeking to boost their self-assurance and achieve success in all facets of life.

[Ashley Mitchell · Rating 5 out of 5]

Throughout my personal and professional journey, I have often wrestled with the notion of inadequacy, repeatedly telling myself that I am not enough in various situations. Consequently, I deeply appreciated the sections of Rezvani's guide that reinforce the idea that one is indeed enough, emphasizing the importance of self-assurance when expressing needs to others. The allure of this book lies in its promise to teach the art of setting boundaries and expectations, thereby establishing one's own value. However, it is equally vital to recognize, as Rezvani astutely discusses, that confidence levels can be influenced by external factors, such as navigating negative, intimidating, or toxic individuals. This insightful perspective proved to be a captivating and thought-provoking addition to the book's contents.

Among the plethora of valuable tips presented in this guide, a few have resonated with me in particular. The concept of achieving greatness through subtraction, by letting go of overdoing, overthinking, and overanalysing, struck a chord. Additionally, the importance of projecting a strong sense of belonging when entering any gathering, emphasizing one's presence and value, was a valuable takeaway. Lastly, the notion of advocating for others and fostering a strong team dynamic was an unexpected yet highly intriguing topic that expanded my perspective.

Quick Confidence is a concise, informative, and well-researched read. It goes beyond improving self-worth and the image projected to others; it also holds the potential to become a staple resource for team training. The actionable topics discussed in the book provide excellent material for job coaching and fruitful discussions between supervisors and employees. The advice to wholeheartedly embrace one's essence has the power to cultivate engaging team dynamics and bolster productivity.

I highly recommend Quick Confidence: Be Authentic, Boost Connections, and Make Bold Bets on Yourself as a valuable resource for personal development and professional growth. Its insightful guidance, practical exercises, and well-crafted content make it a compelling read for individuals seeking to enhance their confidence and foster a more fulfilling and successful journey.

[Susel · Rating 5 out of 5]

Over the course of my professional journey, I have come to recognize the paramount importance of confidence and presence in various fields. As a real estate agent, I am acutely aware that exuding confidence in my abilities establishes my professional credibility, engendering trust and respect from colleagues, clients, and superiors alike.

I firmly believe that our presence holds the power to leave a lasting impression, opening doors to expand our professional networks, foster collaboration, and seize new opportunities. It is precisely for this reason that I found Quick Confidence: Be Authentic, Create Connections and Make Bold Bets On Yourself by Selena Rezvani, a best-selling author and renowned leadership speaker, to be an invaluable resource. Within the pages of this remarkable book, Rezvani offers profound insights into building authentic confidence, drawing upon her expertise and presenting her knowledge in a friendly and relatable tone. As I immersed myself in the book, it felt as though I was engaged in a heartfelt conversation with a trusted confidant, guided by someone who genuinely desired the best for me and offered the most sage advice.Among the nine captivating chapters, I found chapter four, "Release Overdoing, Overthinking, and Overexplaining," to be particularly resonant. This chapter struck a chord within me, as I tend to take on more than I can handle. The author's inclusion of compelling examples and practical advice on breaking bad habits and navigating challenging situations was truly invaluable.It is worth noting that authentic confidence and presence must be balanced with humility and self-awareness. The essence of this extraordinary book lies in Rezvani's emphasis on competence, self-assurance, and genuine connection with others. It serves as a powerful reminder that true confidence is not rooted in empty bravado but rather in the ability to authentically connect with others while recognizing our own strengths and limitations.

This incredible book offers profound insights and actionable strategies that can catalyze personal growth and professional success. Embrace the wisdom within these pages and embark on a journey of self-discovery and empowerment.

[CarlitasFox · Rating 5 out of 5]

An inspirational book
In a world where human connections are paramount, this guide emphasizes the importance of building meaningful relationships and creating a fulfilling life. The book offers well-explained techniques and insightful anecdotes that provide a comprehensive understanding of its core principles. It recognizes that life can be challenging and unfair at times, but it encourages readers to approach these obstacles with resilience and a growth-oriented mindset.
The book adeptly explores various transformative concepts that shed light on the path to personal development. For instance, the notion of "Overdoing" is examined, highlighting the adverse effects of excessive striving and the importance of finding balance and relaxation. Additionally, the book emphasizes the significance of recognizing one's expertise in both professional and personal realms, instilling readers with the belief that they have the capability to accomplish anything they set their minds to. This realization can serve as a catalyst for transformative change and drive readers toward the pursuit of their goals.
Throughout its pages, Quick Confidence delves into the complexities of individuals' strengths, weaknesses, and potential stumbling blocks that may arise along their journey. What truly sets this book apart is its incorporation of practical exercises that readers can engage in during or after reading. This hands-on approach facilitates a deeper understanding of the concepts discussed and encourages readers to actively apply the insights to their own lives.
This book is an open-minded and inspirational read that provides valuable guidance for personal growth and empowerment. Its accessible and thought-provoking content invites readers to reflect on their own experiences and take proactive steps toward self-improvement. Whether readers are seeking to enhance their confidence, strengthen their relationships, or navigate life's challenges with resilience, this book is a must-read resource. By implementing the wisdom found within these pages, readers can embark on a transformative journey toward a more fulfilling and empowered life.

[S Tyty · Rating 5 out of 5]

With a wealth of expertise, Rezvani adeptly navigates readers through nine common obstacles that hinder the development of genuine confidence, equipping them with practical actions, behaviors, and exercises that pave the way for transformative thinking and personal presentation. Drawing upon scientifically validated data, this book provides readers with a systematic roadmap for personal growth, enabling them to focus on actionable methods that yield long-term, lasting changes. From making a memorable entrance to fostering confidence in others, the author's guidance is supported by routines, techniques, and strategies that empower readers to unlock their full potential.
A standout feature of Quick Confidence lies in its emphasis on self-reflection and self-awareness. Rezvani adeptly guides readers to delve deeply into their strengths, weaknesses, and personal values, recognizing that this knowledge forms the bedrock of success. Through thought-provoking exercises and introspective questions, the book facilitates clarity in ambition and alignment of actions with true aspirations.
Noteworthy is the book's impeccable writing style, which seamlessly blends clarity, conciseness, and engagement. The carefully chosen font type, user-friendly structure, and natural flow of the narrative make it effortlessly accessible and highly enjoyable. Rezvani's relatable language eschews jargon, ensuring that readers from all walks of life can readily grasp the content. The inclusion of exercises and reflection prompts fosters active reader participation, transforming the reading experience into an immersive and transformative self-improvement journey. This book has undeniably earned its place among my favorites, leaving a lasting impression on me.
Quick Confidence stands as a testament to Selena Rezvani's expertise and prowess as a writer. It offers an invaluable resource for individuals seeking to unlock their confidence and professional potential. With its engaging style, actionable insights, and emphasis on self-reflection, this book proves to be an exceptional and cherished addition to one's personal development library.

[Deborah Schneider · Rating 5 out of 5]

Quick Confidence by Selena Rezvani is the ultimate guide for anyone who needs that boost to take that next big step in life. Written from the personal perspective and experiences of the author, the reader gets an in-depth, comprehensive idea of how the simple, powerful changes you make every day can transform your life. From the beginning, Rezvani navigates through her personal life and challenges, which provide a solid platform for how to apply important behavioral changes, perspectives, and actions that directly improve confidence and the ability to take control - and how to do it quickly!

From the start, I like how the author frames becoming confident as something you do for yourself rather than expecting it to happen. Seeking out inspiration, reading success stories, and making a strong impression when you introduce yourself are prime examples of tools that can mobilize you to greater heights in your career and personal life. The book gives you simple, impactful techniques to boost your presence and self-esteem and move forward toward your goal. I found the book’s step-by-step approach to be practical, easy to digest, and to apply in real life without any lengthy, complicated explanations.

Each chapter focuses on a skill or technique that you develop to establish and strengthen your confidence. The guide-like format and personal anecdotes create an interesting read while educating readers on how they can take control of their lives and prepare for success. It’s a fantastic way to build a toolbox of self-esteem-building exercises, from the words and phrases you use in conversations to making your presence more visible and impactful during a significant interaction.

Quick Confidence by Selena Rezvani is a refreshingly insightful and enjoyable read. Not only will you get the tools you need to build the life you want, but you’ll also gain the confidence to work towards what you want so you can move past self-doubt and related obstacles. It’s a terrific guide for anyone who needs a quick solution to building confidence in the form of practical exercises and a positive mindset for greatness. I highly recommend reading it!

[Maria Paula Castellanos Monroy · Rating 5 out of 5]

The bible to be yourself again.

Dedicated to those who have grappled with feelings of inadequacy, suppressed their true desires, and hesitated to take that first step, this book offers a profound journey toward authenticity, self-reflection, and embracing one's values, beliefs, and strengths. If you are seeking a transformative experience that fosters personal growth, this is the perfect literary companion.

Within these pages, you will find solace as you delve into topics such as overthinking, overexplaining, and the liberation that comes with releasing the need to overdo. Additionally, you will discover invaluable insights on making strong first impressions, rebalancing power dynamics, and negotiating your path to success. However, the overarching lesson that permeates this book is the acceptance of imperfections, both within yourself and in others. It unveils the profound truth that nobody is perfect, and that acceptance of this reality leads to personal growth and the cultivation of meaningful connections.

Through my reading experience, I came to understand the necessity of accepting and refraining from judgment, not only toward myself but also toward others. This book emphasizes the importance of embracing diversity, appreciating different perspectives, and demonstrating respect for individuality. By doing so, one can experience a profound sense of acceptance and value, while reciprocating the same to others.The true essence of this book lies in the revelation that living a life true to one's own values, desires, and aspirations breeds fulfillment, self-acceptance, and genuine connections with others. Embracing authenticity is an empowering path that leads to a more genuine and gratifying existence.

Remember, building authentic connections requires time and effort. Patience and consistent practice of the principles outlined in this book are essential. By remaining true to yourself and valuing genuine connections, you can foster deeper and more meaningful relationships with others.

[Almiria · Rating 5 out of 5]

Selena Rezvani's book, Quick Confidence, emerged from her popular newsletters, which offered invaluable insights into rapidly attaining self-assurance. With her personal journey of overcoming uncertainty and her current role as a renowned coach for highly successful individuals in prominent organizations, Rezvani has established herself as an authentic expert in the field. It is worth noting that her experiences as a woman of color in the United States have presented additional challenges, further enhancing her resilience. From her college years, where she fearlessly advocated for additional funding and work opportunities to complete her studies, Rezvani's path has been characterized by steady progression and occasional obstacles.

One aspect that I genuinely admire about this book is the deliberate and logical structure employed by Selena Rezvani. The book is divided into three distinct categories: the first focuses on mindset and ways of thinking, the second centers on physical responses and body language, while the third addresses interpersonal dynamics and effective communication practices. This well-organized layout facilitates a more accessible learning experience, enabling readers to easily grasp and implement the recommended steps. Moreover, the book's language is highly approachable, contributing to its overall accessibility. Of particular interest to me was the section that delves into body language and posture. Rezvani adeptly explains the power of confident impressions derived from expansive behaviors, such as maintaining an upright posture, exhibiting steady and engaged eye contact, and speaking audibly. These behaviors not only shape how others perceive our confidence but also significantly bolster our belief in ourselves.

Whether one seeks to build self-belief from the ground up or simply desires a confidence boost, this book offers indispensable wisdom and practical techniques to achieve those goals. With Selena Rezvani as a trusted guide, readers can embark on a transformative journey toward enhanced self-assurance.

[Dani Savante · Rating 5 out of 5]

Rezvani's expertise shines through as she unravels the secrets to improving confidence and building a strong personal identity. Through insightful exploration, she guides readers on a transformative journey towards living, loving, and leading authentically, ultimately unlocking their full potential. The book offers practical and concise strategies encompassing mental, physical, and interpersonal routines that can be readily implemented in daily life.
Evident from its status as a Wall Street Journal bestseller, this book captivates readers with its valuable content, grounded in scientifically validated data. Rezvani's exceptional writing style immediately captivates from the very first page, effortlessly engaging readers in her narrative.
The book addresses the influence of external opinions and internal self-perceptions, illuminating the significance of conscious evaluation and self-awareness in understanding our reality. Rezvani expertly provides readers with a sensible guide, replete with actionable advice, to unlock their ability to navigate life with heightened self-confidence and self-awareness. This, in turn, facilitates personal growth, leading to a more fulfilling and joyful existence.
I particularly appreciated the book's brevity and conciseness, which beckons readers to immerse themselves in its pages and enjoy it within the span of an afternoon. The meticulous development of concepts, backed by substantiated facts and Rezvani's extensive knowledge, lends further credibility to the content.
The clarity and simplicity of the writing style make the ideas accessible and easy to comprehend. Regardless of age or personal goals, this book is a valuable resource for anyone seeking to enhance their lifestyle and overall well-being. I wholeheartedly recommend immersing oneself in the wisdom found within the pages of Quick Confidence.
Don't miss the opportunity to benefit from this exceptional work. Embrace the opportunity to read, learn, and grow, as you embark on a transformative journey towards personal empowerment.

[Chico's Mom · Rating 5 out of 5]

Author Selena Rezvani offers practical and easily implementable strategies to enhance self-confidence. By addressing nine common obstacles that impede the development of genuine confidence, the book provides clear steps, behaviors, and exercises to transform one's mindset and presentation.



Backed by scientific evidence, the book presents proven practices and exercises that effectively boost confidence and improve self-worth. The combination of behavioral and mindset changes serves as a powerful tool for personal growth. Additionally, the book equips readers with techniques to overcome intimidation and harness the power of strategic silence.



What sets this book apart is its ability to make the content easily understandable and enjoyable to follow. The engaging exercises add an element of fun, making the journey toward building confidence both enlightening and enjoyable. This makes it an ideal resource for sales managers to impart to their staff, fostering a more confident and successful team.



One of the most valuable lessons in the book revolves around managing invasive questions. These questions can arise from employers, coworkers, or even well-meaning relatives who may unknowingly overstep boundaries. The techniques presented in the book not only provide practical solutions to navigate such situations but also do so with tact and grace. By responding politely, readers can comfortably extricate themselves from uncomfortable situations without resorting to rudeness or evasion. This valuable skill allows individuals to preserve their confidence while maintaining harmonious relationships.


Quick Confidence is an invaluable resource for building confidence in introverts and individuals from all walks of life. It sheds light on the consequences of excessive politeness, where individuals may unknowingly sacrifice their own confidence to avoid stepping on others' toes. I recommend this book, and it has a prominent place in my personal library.

[Haisam Syyed · Rating 5 out of 5]

Rezvani's approach transcends the conventional focus on self-assurance; it encompasses authenticity, meaningful connections, and daring action-taking, setting it apart in the expansive landscape of self-help literature. Rezvani's unwavering emphasis on authenticity contends that genuine confidence is firmly rooted in authenticity and the unwavering commitment to being one's true self. In a world that often pressures individuals to conform, her message to embrace and celebrate one's authentic self is a breath of fresh air. The book is not merely a source of inspiration but also a practical guide, offering advice and exercises to assist readers in tapping into their genuine selves and utilizing that authenticity as a foundational cornerstone for building confidence.



The section dedicated to enhancing connections is another highlight of the book. Rezvani delves into the profound importance of nurturing strong, meaningful relationships and illustrates how they can significantly bolster our confidence. Her insights into effective communication and networking are invaluable for readers seeking to improve their social skills, regardless of whether they are introverts or extroverts. Perhaps the most empowering aspect of Rezvani's work is her encouraging readers to make bold bets on themselves. She inspires individuals to step out of their comfort zones, embrace risk, and recognize that confidence is not merely about feeling good but also about taking proactive action. Her personal anecdotes and success stories from various individuals serve as motivating examples for those seeking transformative changes in their lives.



However, it's worth noting that some readers might find the book's pace a tad slow due to Rezvani's thorough exploration of each concept. The abundance of exercises and self-assessment tools could potentially overwhelm those seeking a quick confidence boost without extensive self-reflection but this does not take away from the effectiveness of this book.

[Liz · Rating 5 out of 5]

Self-assurance and self-confidence encompass a deep sense of belief in one's abilities and talents, without veering into arrogance but rather embracing a realistic perspective. Genuine self-assurance does not entail feelings of superiority over others; rather, it embodies an internal, serene knowledge of one's capabilities.

The power of self-confidence lies in its ability to equip us with the readiness to confront life's experiences. When we possess confidence in ourselves, we are naturally drawn toward people and opportunities, seeking to engage with them rather than shying away. Moreover, self-confidence grants us the resilience to persevere and try again when faced with setbacks. However, lacking self-confidence has the opposite effect, hindering personal growth and creating barriers to progress.

Author Selena Rezvani offers invaluable guidance on overcoming the most common obstacles that impede the development of authentic confidence. Through easily digestible actions, behaviors, and exercises, Rezvani empowers readers to transform their mindset and enhance their self-presentation.

Having immersed myself in the book and traversed its pages, I can confidently say that I have undergone a remarkable personal transformation—an essential hallmark of a truly impactful literary work.

While acknowledging that personal growth remains an ongoing journey, the author's guidance has proven instrumental in bolstering my self-assurance. Rezvani's book stands as a beacon of hope and guidance for individuals grappling with confidence issues, offering practical tools and actions presented in a concise and clear manner.

This inspiring book receives my utmost commendation for its invaluable insights, concise delivery, and abundance of valuable information. Its transformative power makes it an indispensable resource for those on the quest for authentic self-confidence.

[Mariela Semprini · Rating 5 out of 5]

From the outset, the author addresses a universal concern that resonates with readers across diverse backgrounds, cultures, and circumstances: the fear that despite our achievements, success could unravel in an instant. Selena Rezvani skillfully addresses this fear by outlining nine compelling and practical steps to cultivate self-confidence, enabling individuals to excel in all aspects of life.

Each chapter of the book delves into a specific topic, commencing with a thought-provoking question that compels readers to reflect on their own experiences. The author's ideas are conveyed in a clear and accessible manner, supported by a wealth of studies and research to substantiate her assertions. Moreover, Rezvani provides readers with valuable exercises that facilitate a quicker and more profound development of self-confidence. Throughout the book, the author captivates readers by posing stimulating questions that encourage introspection and engagement with everyday challenges. The resulting emotional journey evokes a compelling sense of connection, leaving readers eager to continue reading.

Quick Confidence functions as an indispensable guide, offering a comprehensive roadmap to success and self-appreciation in every facet of life, including work, family, relationships, and home. Of particular note is the author's thought-provoking suggestion to embrace "the dog code," which emphasizes the importance of fostering social connections, particularly in the wake of the pandemic. This guidebook is a testament to the author's astute understanding of the human experience and provides readers with practical strategies to navigate and triumph over adversity.

This is a book that merits a prominent place on every individual's nightstand, ready to provide solace and invaluable guidance during moments of doubt or when seeking sage advice. I recommend this book to anyone who desires to harness their self-confidence and achieve personal fulfillment.

[Aaron · Rating 5 out of 5]

Quick Confidence by Selena Rezvani serves as a practical guide to help individuals overcome common barriers that hinder the development of genuine self-confidence. It offers clear and easily actionable steps, behaviors, and exercises designed to reshape thought patterns and enhance one's outward presence. Rezvani's expertise as both an author and a respected figure in the realm of inspiration shines through the pages of this exceptional book.

Within its pages, readers will encounter a symphony of mental, physical, and interpersonal rituals meticulously crafted to serve as transformative anchors. These rituals are not mere routines but rather powerful tools that connect you to a newfound sense of confidence, propelling you toward lasting personal growth. The book unveils ingenious strategies, such as harnessing the power of silence to amplify your credibility and project an irresistible aura. It also provides a wealth of insights to help dismantle the formidable barriers often encountered when interacting with influential individuals, enabling you to navigate such situations gracefully and confidently.

Rezvani's approach is both evidence-based and methodical, as she takes the time to provide scientific support for her material and addresses each concept patiently and thoroughly. Her writing style strikes a harmonious balance between being approachable and authoritative, ensuring that readers feel encouraged and validated. Practicality is at the forefront, with clear and concise instructions offered where necessary.

Quick Confidence is not your typical self-help guide, evolving into a hands-on 'bible' tailored for professionals at all stages of their personal and career journey. It embarks on an invigorating expedition aimed at redefining your self-concept and enhancing your overall well-being. Prepare for a rewarding journey into the realm of self-discovery and empowerment, where a revitalized self-image awaits.

[Saya Jacaranda · Rating 4 out of 5]

Quick Confidence: Be Authentic, Boost Connections, and Make Bold Bets on Yourself by Selena Rezvani is an intriguing and captivating guide that delves into the intricacies of confidence and offers actionable steps to attain it. Divided into nine meticulously crafted chapters, each addressing a distinct facet of confidence, this book takes readers on a transformative journey from making a lasting first impression to scaling their confidence.

The seamless structure of the book ensures a smooth reading experience, with each chapter being equally indispensable and captivating. While it is challenging to single out a favorite among them, chapter four, titled "Release Overdoing, Overthinking, and Overexplaining," left an indelible impact on me. With its accurate portrayal of behaviors I personally identify with, I found myself both challenged and inspired to confront my tendencies toward overthinking and overdoing. One commendable aspect of the book is the author's adept use of clear and relatable examples to illustrate the issues at hand. This thoughtful approach enhances understanding and facilitates the application of the techniques discussed. By embracing the practical techniques offered within its pages, readers can embark on a transformative journey toward becoming more self-assured individuals. From personal experience, I can attest to the profound impact this book can have when approached with sincerity and treated as a guiding light.

Selena Rezvani's masterful work empowers readers with reachable techniques, allowing them to evolve into more confident and accomplished individuals. Embrace this invaluable resource and embark on a remarkable path toward personal growth—let the author and her book illuminate your journey toward a more fulfilling and confident life.

[Juan · Rating 5 out of 5]

Drawing on her wealth of experience, Rezvani skillfully addresses the common barriers that hinder genuine confidence, providing readers with effective strategies to overcome them. With a clear and structured approach, the book delves into the nine major obstacles individuals face when striving to cultivate true confidence. Through insightful analysis and practical solutions, Rezvani empowers readers to conquer self-doubt and project themselves with renewed confidence. The book's digestible actions, behaviors, and exercises allow readers to immediately put their newfound knowledge into practice, promoting an incremental and methodical path towards lasting self-assurance.
For those seeking to maximize their potential and leave a lasting impact in both personal and professional spheres, Quick Confidence is an indispensable resource. It’s pragmatic guidance and practical insights provide readers with the tools to effect meaningful change and challenge their own self-perceptions. Rezvani's engaging writing style ensures that the book is accessible to readers of all backgrounds, whether seasoned professionals or individuals embarking on their career journeys. While the content of the book is exceptional, the cover design falls short of capturing its true essence. The vibrant and distracting colors do not align with the seriousness and formality of the valuable insights within. Nevertheless, this minor drawback does not diminish the book's significance and its invaluable contribution to developing genuine confidence.
Quick Confidence is an engaging exploration of an important topic, offering practical guidance and actionable advice. It deserves a resounding five-star recommendation. I have no doubt that I will revisit its pages whenever I need to reinforce key principles or seek further inspiration on my journey towards lasting confidence.

[Margarita Garcia · Rating 5 out of 5]

Within the pages of this inspiring book author Rezvani guides readers on a profound exploration of belief systems, attitudes, dispositions, and cognitive patterns. Furthermore, she delves into the realm of non-verbal communication, dissecting the significance of body language, tangible expressions, mannerisms, movements, and physical responses. Lastly, the book delves into the intricacies of relationship behaviors, social interaction, communication practices, and person-to-person exchanges. These invaluable lessons and practical tips enable readers to identify and modify attitudes and behaviors, ultimately fostering personal growth and the development of a resolute sense of self.

Quick Confidence empowers readers to fearlessly explore their inner selves, celebrating their uniqueness and unveiling the means to manifest this authenticity in their environment. The book skillfully captures the author's experiences and vast knowledge, honed through years of public speaking engagements. Its well-crafted narrative imparts essential information and offers insightful examples, ensuring a comprehensive understanding for readers. Personally, I found this book to be immensely helpful and practical. It addresses the common reality of lacking confidence and provides valuable guidance on navigating challenging situations. By unraveling the complexities of various life scenarios, readers are equipped with practical advice that can be applied across all aspects of their lives.

Quick Confidence: Be Authentic, Boost Connections, and Make Bold Bets on Yourself serves as an invaluable resource for individuals seeking to unlock their potential and navigate life's challenges with unwavering self-assurance. Embrace the wisdom within these pages and embark on a remarkable journey of personal growth and empowerment.

[Conscientious · Rating 5 out of 5]

Drawing upon her extensive experience and expertise, the author has meticulously crafted this guide, offering exclusive insights and practical strategies for reshaping one's life with confidence and professionalism.

Rezvani adeptly addresses the common obstacles that hinder personal and professional growth, providing readers with a wealth of invaluable advice that is easily applicable to daily life. The information presented is not only engaging but also grounded in scientific research, ensuring a memorable and evidence-based learning experience.

The book is skillfully organized, presenting topics in a systematic manner that allows for a seamless transition between chapters. Each chapter explores critical aspects of confidence-building, establishing a strong connection and continuity throughout the book. Of particular interest to me was the chapter on "Rebalance Power Dynamics," which shed light on the importance of asserting oneself even in diminished circumstances. The author offers practical tips and guidance to foster healthy communication habits and overcome the tendency to apologize excessively. This chapter, along with others, provided valuable insights into the ways I have dealt with confidence-challenging situations.

Rezvani's techniques are undeniably powerful, particularly when navigating intimidating encounters with influential individuals. The book emphasizes the uniqueness of confidence and offers advice that promotes overall well-being and self-alignment. Additionally, the inclusion of various scripts for different circumstances enhances the book's practicality and usefulness.

I am grateful to have discovered this confidence booster, and I truly recommend it. The author's elegant narration and profound insights make for a truly exceptional reading experience.

[Huda · Rating 5 out of 5]

This exceptional book charts the journey of individuals striving to overcome nine common obstacles that hinder the development of authentic confidence. With a wealth of practical actions, exercises, and behaviors, Rezvani empowers readers to transform their mindset and enhance their presentation to others. Furthermore, the book is grounded in scientific research, offering a systematic approach to addressing each obstacle methodically, from making a memorable entrance to skillfully navigating interactions with influential individuals.



Rezvani's writing style is not only engaging but also remarkably accessible, ensuring a seamless reading experience. The strategies and methods presented are succinct and actionable, facilitating easy implementation of the concepts discussed. A notable strength lies in the book's holistic approach, incorporating mental, physical, and interpersonal routines to foster lasting confidence. The unwavering focus on authenticity distinguishes this book from others in its genre, fostering genuine growth and self-improvement rather than superficial displays of confidence.



One standout feature of "Quick Confidence" is its emphasis on creating connections and nurturing confidence in others. Rezvani acknowledges the profound impact of interpersonal relationships on building one's own confidence and provides practical tips for achieving this. The inclusion of real-life examples and relatable anecdotes adds depth and resonance to the strategies presented, further enriching the reader's experience.



Selena Rezvani's expertise as a renowned leadership speaker shines through in her insightful guidance and practical approach. Whether you are a seasoned professional or just embarking on your career, Quick Confidence promises an engaging and rewarding journey toward becoming your most confident and authentic self.

[Yolanda Gomez · Rating 4 out of 5]

I derived immense satisfaction from reading Quick Confidence: Be Authentic, Boost Connections, and Make Bold Bets on Yourself by Selena Rezvani. In my estimation, Rezvani's prowess as a writer shines through as she deftly crafts a self-help book that strikes a perfect balance between conciseness and efficacy when it comes to building confidence. The book's title aptly encapsulates its contents, as the author dispenses quick yet actionable insights, while placing significant emphasis on the pivotal role of self-awareness in navigating assertively through situations that may have previously posed challenges.

One notable aspect that deserves acclaim is Rezvani's writing style, which renders the book highly accessible and engaging. The author delves straight into the heart of the matter, offering practical advice for personal development that yields palpable results. Throughout the book, Rezvani reinforces her points with relatable examples and incorporates exercises that readers can readily apply to their own lives. Her infectious enthusiasm and ability to inspire readers to take decisive action in cultivating self-esteem and enhancing overall well-being are truly remarkable.

A particularly captivating facet of the book is the introduction of the "Dog Code," a simple yet thought-provoking method for fostering confidence. Rezvani draws insightful parallels between observing dogs and their unwavering approach to human interaction, offering invaluable lessons that we can glean from them. Selena Rezvani's dynamic writing style, coupled with her vibrant approach and relatable examples, make Quick Confidence a genuinely pleasurable read. I wholeheartedly recommend immersing oneself in the pages of this book for those seeking to elevate their self-esteem and embrace a greater sense of empowerment.

[Mary Maciejewski · Rating 5 out of 5]

Quick Confidence: Be Authentic, Boost Connections, and Make Bold Bets on Yourself, by Selena Rezvani, is a thought-provoking and realistic book about escalating your self-assurance and raising the personal impact of your life. Any person striving to improve their leadership ability and self-confidence would gain from this book. No matter where you are in your career, Rezvani gives sensible and approachable tips to help. It doesn’t matter if you need guidance for dealing with bossy co-workers or setting limits, Rezvani has the topic covered. The author’s strategies are helpful, lasting and confidence gaining. Rezvani uses a humorous writing style, and shares her own life experiences, which are relevant to the reader’s life.

I found Rezvani’s book empowering, motivating and an essential tool for anyone’s life, and mine as well. I have finally found, through this book, the courage to move on past simply being content, to being satisfied. I love her humorous writing style. Her words made me feel comfortable in my skin, and as though I am just as important to my job as any other employee.

When is comes to overcoming fears in our leadership roles, Rezvani’s use of clear and direct prose is an added plus. Her action-packed game plan, understanding, wisdom and humor honestly work. I look forward to continuing to use her techniques in my life. The sample scripts are extremely helpful and stimulating. I am more confident than I have ever been.

I would whole heartedly give, Quick Confidence: Be Authentic, Boost Connections, and Make Bold Bets on Yourself, by Selena Rezvani, a bold five-star review. Rezvani is in it to win it and she’s not in it alone. She takes her readers with her and subconsciously holds their hand, and assures us we too can overcome any doubts and become one of the confident prospering employees.

[Nela · Rating 5 out of 5]

Selena Rezvani's Quick Confidence is a genuine and highly effective guide tailored specifically for professionals seeking to bolster their self-assurance.
I must admit, I find myself in the target audience for this book, and I resonate deeply with the idea of cultivating authentic self-confidence rather than resorting to the often-cited "fake it till you make it" approach prevalent in many self-help books. I firmly believe that the key to overcoming feelings of insecurity lies in the sincere and robust construction of genuine confidence and self-worth. Each chapter distinctly focuses on a specific target, akin to taking one step at a time towards the ultimate goal. This deliberate sequencing serves as a robust foundation for achieving any objective. Furthermore, the chapters are concise and conclude neatly, effectively motivating the reader to proceed to the next chapter in anticipation of more valuable insights. In terms of content, the book not only identifies the common obstacles hindering the development of authentic confidence but also provides actionable steps to build it. Selena offers an array of personal and social routines, practical techniques, common behaviors, and hands-on exercises to empower individuals on their journey to self-confidence. She provides readers with an impeccable strategy for immediate, practical application with swift and tangible results. Another noteworthy aspect of this book is its reader-friendly writing style, which fosters a sense of connection and engagement. This approach greatly aids in comprehension and encourages readers to implement the advice effectively. Language plays a pivotal role in the author's overarching theory, and Selena masterfully exemplifies this through her own prose.
Quick Confidence is an enlightening, informative, and thought-provoking read that undoubtedly fulfills its promise

[Claudia A · Rating 5 out of 5]

"Quick Confidence" might seem like just another self-help book, the sort that dangles grand promises but often delivers little more than tired platitudes. However, once you peel back the cover, you'll find it’s something altogether different—a genuine guide for those wrestling with power dynamics, seeking to build true confidence and navigate toxic waters.

Rezvani hits the nail on the head by urging readers to cast aside overthinking and lean into their strengths. Her practical approach to negotiation, overcoming setbacks, and steadily boosting self-assurance covers the physical, mental, and social realms of empowerment. That mantra, “I 400% belong here,” serves as a rallying cry for the uncertain, while her advice on maintaining a neutral resting face (NRF) is a clever way to level the playing field in fraught situations.

The LARA framework—Listening, Affirming, Responding, Asking—shines as a powerful tool for true engagement. And though some strategies, like visualization, might feel familiar to old hands, Rezvani digs deeper, providing insights that linger long after reading.

As I read, I found myself absorbing invaluable lessons, such as the perils of over-apologizing and its tendency to drain our strength. Her methods for managing negative emotions—like using physical gestures and stream-of-consciousness writing—are practical tools for navigating inner turmoil and maintaining focus.

In the end, "Quick Confidence" is a well-researched self-help book that exceeds expectations. I’d recommend it to anyone eager to boost their self-esteem and navigate tricky situations, particularly those facing power dynamics in their lives. It offers sound strategies for managing emotions and enhancing communication, making it a worthy read for both newcomers and seasoned self-help veterans alike.

[Taylor Oser-Lakins · Rating 5 out of 5]

Quick Confidence: Be Authentic, Boost Connections, and Make Bold Bets On Yourself by Selena Rezvani is a comprehensive guide written to help readers build self-assurance and presence. The book addresses nine common obstacles to confidence and offers strategies to overcome them. Rezvani blends personal stories, scientific research, and exercises to provide readers with tools to boost their confidence in professional and individual settings. The book emphasizes authenticity, effective communication, and the importance of making a solid first impression.
This book is a refreshing take on the genre of confidence-building literature. What sets this book apart is Rezvani's engaging blend of humor, relatability, and actionable advice. She delivers wisdom with a light touch, making the reader feel supported and understood throughout the journey. The book’s strength lies in its practicality and exercises, which are easy to integrate into daily routines. These strategies, rooted in scientific research, lend credibility and ensure that the advice is inspirational and practical. The personal stories throughout the book make it accessible and relatable, breaking down complex psychological concepts into easy-to-follow insights. Readers will appreciate the focus on overcoming intimidation, especially in high-stakes interactions with influential individuals. Some strategies may feel familiar to seasoned readers of self-help and leadership books, which might reduce the novelty for some.
Quick Confidence stands out for its sincerity and thoughtful approach. Rezvani’s ability to infuse humor and vulnerability into her writing makes the book a guide and a companion in the quest for self-assurance. This book is a must-read for those looking to boost their confidence and leadership skills.