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Angry Kids, Angry Parents: Understanding and Working With Anger in Your Family
Psychologists Anne Hilde Vassbø Hagen and Joanne Dolhanty explain everything you need to know about your child’s anger and how to manage it.
Anger can be normal and healthy when it enables us to stand up for ourselves and defend against injustice. However, it can also lead to aggression—even violence—while also hiding other, more vulnerable emotions. For instance, an angry child may be hiding embarrassment, shame, disappointment, sadness, loneliness, or fear. As a parent, it is your job to help your child understand their anger, express it in an appropriate way, and address the underlying need.
In Angry Kids, Angry Parents you will learn how to respond to your child’s anger in a sensitive and productive way that validates their feelings, addresses their needs, and teaches them to manage their own anger. It can be nerve-wracking to watch your child explode in rage. This book will teach you how to stay calm and protect your boundaries.
Supported by years of psychological research and therapeutic practice, the strategies in this practical, compassionate book will help any parent who struggles with their child’s anger.
Anger can be normal and healthy when it enables us to stand up for ourselves and defend against injustice. However, it can also lead to aggression—even violence—while also hiding other, more vulnerable emotions. For instance, an angry child may be hiding embarrassment, shame, disappointment, sadness, loneliness, or fear. As a parent, it is your job to help your child understand their anger, express it in an appropriate way, and address the underlying need.
In Angry Kids, Angry Parents you will learn how to respond to your child’s anger in a sensitive and productive way that validates their feelings, addresses their needs, and teaches them to manage their own anger. It can be nerve-wracking to watch your child explode in rage. This book will teach you how to stay calm and protect your boundaries.
Supported by years of psychological research and therapeutic practice, the strategies in this practical, compassionate book will help any parent who struggles with their child’s anger.
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314 pages, Paperback
Published July 11, 2023
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May 6, 2025
Un lucru pe care l-am învățat din cărțile de parenting pe care le-am citit de-a lungul timpului este că sunt, mai degrabă, despre noi părinții și despre emoțiile noastre, despre lucrurile pe care le ducem cu noi și pe care le proiectăm asupra copiilor noștri. Cred că a fi părinte este despre adaptare, învățare continuă, acceptare și iubire necondiționată. Dar suntem oameni și uneori greșim, iar a știi cum să repari este o artă.
Una dintre cele mai puternice emoții cu care se confruntă copiii este furia, iar gestionarea și înțelegerea ei sunt pași importanți în evoluția copiilor. Furia este normală, nu este un motiv de rușine sau izolare, iar, de multe ori, ascunde alte emoții pe care copiii nu știu cum să le exprime, dar pe care le camuflează sub masca furiei: teamă, rușine, vină, tristețe.
"Copii furioși, părinți furioși" este un mijloc de învățare pentru părinți, cu multiple exemple și exerciții care ne arată că furiei nu trebuie să îi răspundem cu furie, cu duritate sau pedepse, ci cu iubire, înțelegere, acceptare, compasiune și stabilind și aplicând limite sănătoase.
Una dintre cele mai puternice emoții cu care se confruntă copiii este furia, iar gestionarea și înțelegerea ei sunt pași importanți în evoluția copiilor. Furia este normală, nu este un motiv de rușine sau izolare, iar, de multe ori, ascunde alte emoții pe care copiii nu știu cum să le exprime, dar pe care le camuflează sub masca furiei: teamă, rușine, vină, tristețe.
"Copii furioși, părinți furioși" este un mijloc de învățare pentru părinți, cu multiple exemple și exerciții care ne arată că furiei nu trebuie să îi răspundem cu furie, cu duritate sau pedepse, ci cu iubire, înțelegere, acceptare, compasiune și stabilind și aplicând limite sănătoase.
May 31, 2023
No. Unfortunately it was a boring read. Well written. But for professionals who like dry research. The images don’t relate to the content and there are no headings to block topics. It’s like one giant run on sentence.
September 23, 2023
Excellent book with incredible tools and wisdom for helping families navigate and work with the emotion of anger. It addresses the topic with clarity and easy to understand language. The most helpful part of of the book is the last two chapters that address consequences, punishments, and limits.
This is quite a long book, and goes into great depth - which may be more than the typical parent is ready to read. I would recommend this book to a parenting group, or some other support group - which would give readers a space in which to process it, as well as provide additional support for comprehension of the material. I fear that the people that most need this information may be intimidated to take on such a lengthy reading selection.
This is quite a long book, and goes into great depth - which may be more than the typical parent is ready to read. I would recommend this book to a parenting group, or some other support group - which would give readers a space in which to process it, as well as provide additional support for comprehension of the material. I fear that the people that most need this information may be intimidated to take on such a lengthy reading selection.
July 27, 2023
I found this book to be insightful. There were multiple times where I found myself nodding my head with understanding. Anger is not always exactly what it appears to be. Often times it is actually masking a much deeper issue. It is our responsibility as adults to try and figure out what the deeper issue is and help resolve it. This is not an easy task, it is not supposed to be easy! Adults don't have all the answers even when they think they do.
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October 21, 2024
impossible advice even they cannot do
never say "but"
but then every example they give has a but in in.
hard pass no
never say "but"
but then every example they give has a but in in.
hard pass no
April 22, 2025
This ties together concepts in many great parenting books - The Whole Brain Child, The Explosive Child, Siblings Without Rivalry.
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