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Dump 'Em: How to Break Up with Anyone from Your Best Friend to Your Hairdresser – An Honest and Empathetic Roadmap to Peaceful and Permanent Endings
Everybody has that special someone in their life that they can't wait to get rid of. Whether it's a housekeeper, a therapist, or a personal trainer, the time comes when you have to pull the plug on the relationship. Featuring personal stories, useful scripts, and interviews with experts such as Bob Harper from The Biggest Loser , funnyman Adam Carolla, and Michael Jackson's attorney, Thomas Mesereau, Dump 'Em is a practical guide for giving any bad relationship the boot. Jodyne L. Speyer provides a roadmap to finding your own way of saying "thanks, but no thanks." Written with honesty, empathy, and ruthless wit, Dump 'Em will teach you to conquer your fear of confrontation and master the art of the peaceful and permanent breakup. So what are you waiting for? Dump 'em!
284 pages, Paperback
First published March 11, 2009
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January 23, 2010
Funny and practical, this book has lots of good advice for setting boundaries and ending - in healthy constructive ways - a variety of relationships that no longer work.
November 7, 2010
Simple read that is fun! She has recommendations and funny stories for many types of relationships.
June 12, 2009
Jodyne Speyer’s book called Dump’em - How to Break Up with ANYONE from Your BEST FRIEND to your HAIRDRESSER is a comical review with her own experiences, and some actually quite good advice (and some hysterically advice) on how to move on from awkward relationships that you really don’t want to have.
So many books on the mainstream market are about dumping with romantic notions, it was nice to find some actual useful info about dumping people like your hairdresser when you just don’t know how to do it!
She gives you 22 (well 23) different groups to dump! Some of the groups are hairdressers, therapists, houseguests, friends of your children, carpoolers, family, housekeepers, and even your doctor.
favorite part:
This book had me laughing within 2 pages of reading it over subjects I’ve experienced is great! Mr. C was giving me weird looks because I was laughing so hard a few times all by myself, than he was alarmed by the books titled until I explained what “Dump’em” was about…
I love that Jodyne is a regular gal. She really tells experiences that we’ve ALL been through at one point or another. It really makes me think about some of my past situations and whether I handled them with enough finesse or not! I like the fact she gives you the -what I’d like to call the wish list of excuses we COULD use, but really gives some good solid points in how to deal with others.
The comedy relief in this book is well needed, and helps us know that we’re not alone dealing with some of these situations! She calls herself a “recovering avoidant”, and honestly… ya… i’m still in the avoidant stage! lol
She even has a chapter on how to dump your author! LOL. It’s quite funny.
part I could have done w/o:
The only part that was a turn off for me in this book was that it contained, a tiny bit of adult words in here. While I know they are not offensive to some, for myself it would have been just as great without them, and the same message would have came across.
So many books on the mainstream market are about dumping with romantic notions, it was nice to find some actual useful info about dumping people like your hairdresser when you just don’t know how to do it!
She gives you 22 (well 23) different groups to dump! Some of the groups are hairdressers, therapists, houseguests, friends of your children, carpoolers, family, housekeepers, and even your doctor.
favorite part:
This book had me laughing within 2 pages of reading it over subjects I’ve experienced is great! Mr. C was giving me weird looks because I was laughing so hard a few times all by myself, than he was alarmed by the books titled until I explained what “Dump’em” was about…
I love that Jodyne is a regular gal. She really tells experiences that we’ve ALL been through at one point or another. It really makes me think about some of my past situations and whether I handled them with enough finesse or not! I like the fact she gives you the -what I’d like to call the wish list of excuses we COULD use, but really gives some good solid points in how to deal with others.
The comedy relief in this book is well needed, and helps us know that we’re not alone dealing with some of these situations! She calls herself a “recovering avoidant”, and honestly… ya… i’m still in the avoidant stage! lol
She even has a chapter on how to dump your author! LOL. It’s quite funny.
part I could have done w/o:
The only part that was a turn off for me in this book was that it contained, a tiny bit of adult words in here. While I know they are not offensive to some, for myself it would have been just as great without them, and the same message would have came across.
December 25, 2011
I don't know why people label this as a "chic-book." Jodyne L Speyer does a great job by detailed the many relationships we are forced to maintain on a daily basis... for men and women.... and the daily baggage associated with the "non-romantic" relationships that take more then they give. Great work.
May 25, 2009
cute. A fast read and you can read about only what applies to your life.
February 11, 2012
Very good work, the advice given there is good for both men and women.
May 21, 2020
Just not my type of humour. As for practicality, it seems to boil down to "sit down and have a calm conversation with them, while being empathetic and polite, but firm." There, no need to read the whole thing. And I'm sure most of us figured it out a long time ago already - this book adds nothing new to what we already know.
I really did not like this book at all, but I DO have an enormous soft spot for Tom Mesereau, and I enjoyed his interview in this book very much, so yeah - an extra star just for interviewing Tom Mesereau.
I really did not like this book at all, but I DO have an enormous soft spot for Tom Mesereau, and I enjoyed his interview in this book very much, so yeah - an extra star just for interviewing Tom Mesereau.
October 29, 2009
Ehh. Enjoyable, as far as it went, but I couldn't find it quite funny enough to be comic or practical enough to actually be a self-help, either. Her advice seems to generally boil down to: sit down and have a talk where you remain firm but polite in your desire to move on. It's perfectly valid advice, but it gets a bit old when it's repeated so many times, and the comic bits were limited to a few stories and an interview with Adam Carrola--the opening examples to every situation just made me wince.
May 27, 2009
I picked this up from the library because it seemed kind of cute, and had an endorsement from Sarah Silverman, who I have a love-hate relationship with. Alas, Sarah Silverman is the writer's sister, and the style of the book, while originally clever, grows so irritating that towards the end I just gave up.
October 2, 2012
A very thoughtful - well laid out - expo of relationships and the elements that can make them toxic or terrific. I was turned onto this book via a mutual friend of the authors. Glad it livd up to the initial recommendation.
June 18, 2014
An easy and informative read. I struggle with how to end relationships, and this book lays it all out for you in simple steps. I could have used this 20 years ago! Highly recommended.
July 3, 2009
Light, easy read. Towards the end though, her personal examples were getting annoying. I find it hard to believe she's had THAT many bad experiences with THAT many people.
December 26, 2009
Very funny. Author is Sara Silverman's sister.
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February 17, 2010I don't know, it was at the library and just looked entertaining.
April 17, 2012
Great book. Loved it!!
March 11, 2016
Skip this one ...
March 30, 2016
Very repetitive
February 3, 2022
A proper and useful way to dump someone explained with funny stories. It's interesting to know that we can use relegion as an excuse to dump most of the people around us. Most of us always tend to avoid someone when we dump them which makes it hard for them and us too.
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