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320 pages, Paperback
First published April 5, 2022


"This doesn't feel like a gift. It feels like a dirty secret, and this huge responsibility all at once. I just want to be normal."
"There's no such thing as normal!" Joanie threw up her hands, exasperated. "everyone thinks they're not normal. Newsflashnormal is in the eye of the beholder. — Lorelai and Joanie (p.161)
I adored With This Kiss, I did find it to be a reasonably simple read and devoured it in two sittings. I appreciated the lore in play, the lore governing Lorelai's curse/power/gift, it is effective and easy enough to remember but hard for the characters to articulate, and difficult to accept in a real-world context (ie the characters push back against it). A couple of warnings With This Kiss contains sexual assault, unwanted intimate contact and death (? look that's the whole premise but you know). Some of the deaths are brutal. All of the warnings are for events that make at least some sense in context.
With This Kiss is Lorelai Sanderson's story. Lorelai happily works in a theatre that specialises in showing classic films, her free time is spent writing adaptations of books for the screen, she is also a woman with a secret. She has a curse/power/gift, when she kisses someone she sees how they will die. The story follows her trying to figure out if and how she can safely pursue a relationship with the charming and endearing Grayson Brady. A family-orientated, theatre worker with broadly similar interests to her, who at one point turns up in full Merry cosplay. Just because it makes his younger brother Aden happy and it makes for good family time. The relationship between Lorelai and Grayson was done well. You could feel Lorelai's growth and fear, Grayson's frustration and confusion, and both of them knowing that could be special. Lorelai's first vision of Grayson's death is more than a little distressing but the lasting vision from Grayson's kiss is beautiful and heartwarming. Unlike Sylvie, she won't have to fight for a long marriage.
It is a well-written book that relies on heavily on female characters to drive it. Lorelai is the sort of protagonist you either like or not. She is trying the best she can in her difficult situation but isn't necessarily letting her curse stop her from living her life. But she is all heart. Though it is sometimes hard to see behind her armour. There are times when that armour slips, often around her best friend Joanie, against her will around Grayson and when she kisses someone, especially if that person is going to die young. If she wasn't all heart the deaths she has seen wouldn't haunt her nightmares and she wouldn't eventually work to protect the men she sees die. In some ways, the character that shines is the character the book is dedicated to Joanie, Lorelai's best friend. Even though Joanie and Lorelai are opposites their relationship just works. Joanie is a brilliant creation even if she does have one seriously questionable moment. It is done with Lorelai's best interests at heart. I love Joanie. Everyone needs a Joanie in their corner supportive and willing to give you a push when you need it. Her acceptance of Lorelai's secret is just so perfect. Her asking to have the realities of the curse explained to her so she can as much as possible understand so she can share that load. It is a true friendship that borders on sisterhood.
There is a scene where Lorelai goes out kissing strange men in a club to test a theory. One of those men is Darren, a friend of Joanie's and a legitimately nice guy. The vision of Darren's death and Lorelai's response to it was a smart inclusion. That need to help give his life happiness, the impact of emotion on Lorelai. We do love seeing women supporting women and the changes that meeting Grayson caused in Lorelai, the confidence and determination he unknowing gave her. There is something to be said about the variety and dichotomy of the deaths of the men that Lorelai chooses to kiss. The one that looks like he's living life in the most carefree way is the one with the longest life.
This is quite LGBTQ+ positive. Bestie Joanie is gay and is given the exact same relationship as any heterosexual woman. We also meet transwoman Joy as part of the Page to Screen book club. Other than as a convenient way to introduce Grayson and Lorelai I'm not sure why the Page to Screen book club was included. It's a super cute idea that only appears in one chapter towards the start and one at the end. I hope that maybe Carrie Hope Fletcher comes back to this group and lets us see more of the club maybe using one of the four twenty-something friends (Nadia, Shanice, Sue or Meera) as a protagonist if she doesn't want to use Joanie.
Some random quotes and comments
• With this Kiss is divided up into three parts. Part One: The Bad Beginning (pp.11-110), Part Two: The Messy Middle (pp.113-224), Part Three: The Happy End (pp. 227-317). It uses alternate formatting in about every third chapter. It is a simple way to indicate to the reader that events are not contemporary to the main plot. Sometimes those events happened years ago, sometimes weeks. It is intuitive in the moment.
• The epilogue and prologue are rightfully the old and new of Lorelai. Though both raise good points in their own ways.
• "I guess that when I meet intelligent, open-minded people like you, it restores my faith in humanity so it's easy to forget how ignorant people can be." — This feels like one of the greatest compliments a girl can receive. Nothing on the physical, all on the things that don't change. (Grayson, p.29)
• Meeting a beautiful stranger with a love of fantasy would be the ideal scenario for most people. A meet-cute. Something that only happened in books and movies. But Lorelai was not most people and Grayson would run a mile if he knew her secret. — (Lorelai, p.32)
• I kinda wish more had been done with Grayson's younger brother Aden. It feels like he was introduced with the sole reason of showing the difference between Grayson's family and Lorelai's.
• "What the fuck, Riggs?!" Lorelai shrieked. Men
Riggs stepped back and surveyed the result of his toxic masculinity masquerading as a defence of Lorelai's honour. His mouth flapped open and closed in an attempt to catch an explanation, an excuse, anything to make sense of what he'd just done, but he clearly came up short. — Riggs has an odd role in the story. He seems to exist just to create drama, drive the plot and present a couple of prime moments of toxic masculinity. His apology doesn't redeem him, though it is a start. (Lorelai, p.85)
• "Death is part of life and we all have to deal with people we love dying. It's inevitable. If there's one thing we can all be certain of, it's that we're all going to die one day and you can't stop that from happening." — 1. There are no lies here. 2. Mother Death (aka Caitlin Doughty) would be so pleased with this level of death positivity. I am aware this book deals with death so this had to be addressed but this is a great way to do it. (Joanie, p.161)
• "Hear me out! It's so when you both order burgers with gherkins, one gets the satisfaction of handing over their gherkins and making the other happy and the other takes away the thing that makes the other unhappy." — This is Grayson's theory on a key to relationship success. And I really like this idea, that idea of it relating to happiness rather than the food itself. Lorelai follows up a couple of pages later with "The demon cucumbers are yours". (Grayson, p.175)
• Lila put the back of her hand against her head as if she were a damsel in distress, Lorelai saw her for what she really was: the strongest women [sic] she knew. Her grandmother, too. — As a woman from a Welsh family (though we live in Australia) strong, fierce women are our whole deal. I love this quote because of that, so few people forget how strong the women closest to them are. (Lorelai, p.262)
• "No, listen to me, darling. Power or no power no man deserves you at your best if he can't handle you at your worst. regardless of what your worst may be. If you two were meant to be together, he would have stopped you from leaving and would never have let you go, It's his loss and his loss alone. There is someone out there who would help you bury bodies if he had to and would feel lucky about it, too!" — Is this tropey af? Yes. do I love it anyway? Yes. Do I think everyone male, female or enby needs to hear this? Absolutely. (Lila, p.297)
• The acknowledgment's last lines and the dedication are both fantastic. One recognises the import of friendship and the support of best friends, the other loyal readers and fans.
• With this Kiss feels quite different from the other Carrie Hope Fletcher I've read, On the Other Side. Both have magical elements their women Lorelai and Evie are so different. Also, Grayson feels slightly more active in the relationship's success than Vincent. Evie feels a bit like what might have become of Lorelai of her and Grayson didn't work out.
"Shall I get you a drink?"
"Don't worry, I'll get these ones." Lorelai stood, her legs shaking. "See if I can find anyone drunk enough to kiss me right off the bat."
"Go forth fair maiden into the night, fair maiden, and return with a porn star martini and less lipstick than you originally applied!" — Joanie and Lorelai (p.145)
Read for QBD Reading Challenge 2022. Filling the prompt: "A Book with a Blue Cover" 📘
This is a really pretty blue cover with gold stars that actually comes from a wonderful place in the story. "Lila leaned over the crib and saw that little Lorelai was wide awake. She was staring at the mobile of stars and clouds that dangled above her, and in the inky darkness of that night, Lila finally looked in her daughter's eyes.". The cover essentially represents the moment a mother recognises her love for her child.
A representative gif: