Finding Your Person: Even If It's You: Relationship Advice from TikTok's Big Sister

by Anne @annnexmp

Enjoy vital and honest advice on dating and romance with this one-of-a-kind guide to relationships from TikTok’s favorite big sister, @annnexmp. Everyone is looking for true connection in their day-to-day lives, whether to friends, romantic partners, or to themselves. In a world where dating customs are updating faster than dating apps, sound advice on matters of the heart has never been more necessary... or hard to find. That is, until @annnexmp volunteered herself as TikTok's big sister -- as a fellow journeywoman, a no-bullshit sounding board, and a shoulder to lean on for everyone else trying to make sense of it all, covering topics Part practical advice, part meditation on change and growth,  Finding Your Even If It’s You  is the perfect pick-me-up when you need a dose of perspective on life and whether you're dealing with losing someone that wasn’t really yours in the first place, growing apart from someone you grew up with, sensing when someone is going to break up with you and dealing with the aftermath, or determining whether friends are there to stay. Like a hug from a supportive older sister in book form, Anne's empathetic wisdom helps make the tough times a little easier and your connections a little stronger...with your loved ones and with yourself.  

192 pages, Hardcover

Published July 25, 2023

Reviews

[Britt F · Rating 3 out of 5]

I had never heard of @annnexmp before reading this book. I checked out her tiktok and it is pretty similar. Lots of relationship advice that is based on social trends and social cues and not really grounded in an actual understanding of relationships. Some of her advice for losing a friend and some of her quotes about falling in love are relatable, but this reads very emotionally immature. I gather it's for a younger audience. If you have never been in a relationship before, this guide might be an okay start for you to start thinking about relationships and the red/green flags to look for. She talks about good things like setting boundaries, but there isn't a lot of emphasis on relationship longevity. It very much reads as a "how to know when someone has a crush on you" guide, less than a "finding your person" guide--at least where long-term relationships are concerned. I am good with the friendship and self-love part. I like the focus being on multiple types of relationships, I just don't think it's that well-written or well-executed.

[Denali · Rating 3 out of 5]

Lowkey (high key) a hot mess.
Definitely meant for a teenage audience (written from an "older sister" perspective).

Some fun squiggles/drawings.

Why was the color scheme white, black, and green? And EVERY time a page talked about "red flags" the ENTIRE page was green.

I only read it because I got it for $1.50 at Dollar Tree. Wish I had left it there. But I finished reading the book, so there's that.

[Michaella · Rating 1 out of 5]

Once I got past the terrible writing and looked at it like a teenagers angsty poetry, I could at least finish it. From a therapist point of view, her advice is not great. But I did like the squiggly doodles.

[Cierra · Rating 3 out of 5]

Not back but was not was I was expecting.

[666malou · Rating 2 out of 5]

Un bon livre pour débuter dans le développement perso mais ne m’a pas appris grand choses de ce que je connaissais déjà.

[Prima Donna · Rating 4 out of 5]

More so for a younger audience. Teenagers and even younger. Cute read.